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fluffy_pylon
Profile Blog Joined November 2014
United States79 Posts
Last Edited: 2015-05-05 03:27:18
May 05 2015 03:01 GMT
#1
this is gonna be short and sweet.
so i am going to enter college from september 2015.
my parents just told me i can major in anything i want *except that* unless i major in what they want, they won't pay towards my tuition and i will have massive student loans / debt.
so it's not really my free choice after all, just an illusion of choice.

***
Chairman Ray
Profile Blog Joined December 2009
United States11903 Posts
May 05 2015 03:05 GMT
#2
what majors do you parents want, and what major do you want?
fluffy_pylon
Profile Blog Joined November 2014
United States79 Posts
May 05 2015 03:07 GMT
#3
what majors do you parents want,

computer science
and what major do you want?

something else
Cauld
Profile Joined February 2010
United States350 Posts
May 05 2015 03:10 GMT
#4
tell them you're majoring in computer science and take all your gen eds... then switch later
Chairman Ray
Profile Blog Joined December 2009
United States11903 Posts
May 05 2015 03:18 GMT
#5
Just computer science? Usually parents also include engineering, law, med, business, etc. Have you considered what major you want to be in? If it's something else that's good, I'm sure your parents will support you as well.
DarkPlasmaBall
Profile Blog Joined March 2010
United States45128 Posts
May 05 2015 03:20 GMT
#6
Have you considered asking them if you can minor in comp sci and major in your passion? It'll also be much easier to argue if you know what major you truly want to take, other than "Not what my parents want".

On May 05 2015 12:10 Cauld wrote:
tell them you're majoring in computer science and take all your gen eds... then switch later


Obviously, his parents can still pull funding for the remaining 3+ years of school. Also, most majors have classes that are prerequisites for other classes, and so often times you'll need to take at least one relevant class your freshman year to get the ball rolling on your major (rather than all general education requirement classes).
"There is nothing more satisfying than looking at a crowd of people and helping them get what I love." ~Day[9] Daily #100
fluffy_pylon
Profile Blog Joined November 2014
United States79 Posts
Last Edited: 2015-05-05 03:26:58
May 05 2015 03:25 GMT
#7
my dad is a programmer and he spends all day at his computer writing programs and he even spends all his free time at home thinking about programming.
he also criticizes me because i'm not *as good* at math as he was when he was in high school and college, and he constantly compares me to himself and tells me how much of a failure i am every day.
so according to his logic, i will suck at engineering because i suck at math, medicine is not okay because apparently everyone who studies medicine should be a doctor or else they're a coward and he took the MCATs once and didn't do well (which was when he switched to computer science) so he has even lower expectations for me, and business and law are "liberal arts" subjects.
therefore at least if i study programming he will "save me" from failing my ass.
micronesia
Profile Blog Joined July 2006
United States24744 Posts
May 05 2015 03:33 GMT
#8
If he thinks you should avoid engineering because you are bad at math but should be a programmer, then I question his programming... I mean, it's very mathematical in nature...

Anyway, letting them force you to take a major you don't want is going to be a big waste of everyone's time and money. As others have said, try to make a case for another quality major that you actually want. If that doesn't work, in my opinion, you are better off becoming independent than letting your parents pay for a major you don't want.

And compsci really isn't something you take unless you like it.
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Jerubaal
Profile Blog Joined June 2010
United States7684 Posts
May 05 2015 03:40 GMT
#9
Programming doesn't seem like a field that you just do 9-5. Seems like something that if you don't like to tinker with all the time, you won't be very good at it.
I'm not stupid, a marauder just shot my brain.
fluffy_pylon
Profile Blog Joined November 2014
United States79 Posts
May 05 2015 03:45 GMT
#10
On May 05 2015 12:33 micronesia wrote:
If he thinks you should avoid engineering because you are bad at math but should be a programmer, then I question his programming... I mean, it's very mathematical in nature....

the way he says it is that engineering is more math oriented while computer science is more logic oriented,, as in something like calculus isn't actually used in programming but is used in engineering.
Deathstar
Profile Blog Joined May 2010
9150 Posts
May 05 2015 03:49 GMT
#11
Yeah go with CS. Your dad is a programmer so he'll prob help you get a job if it comes to it.
rip passion
fluffy_pylon
Profile Blog Joined November 2014
United States79 Posts
May 05 2015 03:55 GMT
#12
On May 05 2015 12:49 Deathstar wrote:
Yeah go with CS. Your dad is a programmer so he'll prob help you get a job if it comes to it.

i don't think he'll actually help me get a job.
for example he's been working at the same company for 13 years and they offered him a management position and he declined, saying that he would rather do pure programming compared to having to manage other people.
this is his perfect opportunity to keep criticizing me and constantly reminding me that i will never reach his level of obsession with his work.
he just wants to watch me suffer.
icydergosu
Profile Blog Joined December 2009
528 Posts
Last Edited: 2015-05-05 05:02:32
May 05 2015 04:20 GMT
#13
I am pretty biased but in my opinion unless you are passionate about the other subject you should go with CS since that will most likely offer you better job opportunities as well as the unique ability to create stuff without pretty much any investments.

Although i don't know how much math your other subject might require i think your father is partially correct and speaks from experience, generally you don't need much math, after you got your degree that is, apart from counting up and down unless you want to create earth shattering algorithms.

If there is an even more hands on degree like Software Engineering and Business or something like that i would opt for that since the biggest challenge, at least for me, are in fact the math lectures but that will heavily depend on your current skill level and the university you opt for i guess.

Having a father with a CS degree who is willing to help you will make things much much easier. Have you already programmed something? What did you not like? Perhaps it should be said as well that during your education programming will only play a rather minor part. So who knows, you might like it more than you think and rise to be a great Software Engineer.
I am the Punishment of God. If you had not commited great sins, god would not have sent a punishment like me upon you.
Jerubaal
Profile Blog Joined June 2010
United States7684 Posts
May 05 2015 04:23 GMT
#14
What school are you going to? What level of help were your parents going to provide? My parents took on a little bit of debt for me and my siblings, but we still got the lion's share of the loans under our name. Do you have any other relatives that would be willing to cosign a student loan? Would your parents be willing to give you a bit of living expenses even if you don't major in CS? Otherwise, you can "pretend" to major in CS until you can get a part time job.
I'm not stupid, a marauder just shot my brain.
JimmyJRaynor
Profile Blog Joined April 2010
Canada17081 Posts
Last Edited: 2015-05-05 04:28:00
May 05 2015 04:25 GMT
#15
On May 05 2015 12:01 fluffy_pylon wrote:
this is gonna be short and sweet.
so i am going to enter college from september 2015.
my parents just told me i can major in anything i want *except that* unless i major in what they want, they won't pay towards my tuition and i will have massive student loans / debt.
so it's not really my free choice after all, just an illusion of choice.


find a co-op school if u can.
take whatever u want.. and pay ur own way.

the school i went to ..i only had to save for 8 full months of school 1 time..
every other time i only had to save for 4 months of school time.

i was free of parental bullshit a month after i turned 19.
it was tough at first.. but it was the best thing for all involved.
Ray Kassar To David Crane : "you're no more important to Atari than the factory workers assembling the cartridges"
Cambium
Profile Blog Joined June 2004
United States16368 Posts
May 05 2015 04:45 GMT
#16
just pay tuition yourself?
When you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it.
PhoenixVoid
Profile Blog Joined December 2011
Canada32743 Posts
May 05 2015 06:06 GMT
#17
By "anything else" what are you aiming for? Is it a liberal arts/social science or a business field? If computer science isn't something you want to do strongly argue for what you want to major in uni, you may as well try. As for your dad he doesn't have a great mindset or attitude to supporting your academic goals if he puts you down like that. It seems strange to pigeonhole you so hard to just computer science and then say you don't have the skills to enter engineering or a science field because the skills do overlap. As someone not doing a STEM or field that gets well paying jobs I can sympathize with how he is trying to help you find a good future but forcing your child into one field that they seem reluctant to do is a mistake to me. Talk it over with your parents and get them to see your viewpoint, computer science isn't the exclusive path to success. Hope things go well.
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FlaShFTW
Profile Blog Joined February 2010
United States10246 Posts
May 05 2015 06:35 GMT
#18
just take the money. better off taking no debt in college and do soemthing you might end up actually enjoying than getting like 200k debt on something you might not even have passion about later on. if you really have like, 100% commitment and passion for the major you want, then just go with CS. CS doesn't really require such a high gpa anyways and is more about your work experience when you enter the work force and look for a job. maybe during your time on campus, find a programming job of some sort which might get you more interested in the subject.
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ninazerg
Profile Blog Joined October 2009
United States7291 Posts
May 05 2015 07:31 GMT
#19
You should follow your dream of becoming a gynecologist.
"If two pregnant women get into a fist fight, it's like a mecha-battle between two unborn babies." - Fyodor Dostoevsky
domane
Profile Blog Joined September 2009
Canada1606 Posts
May 05 2015 07:51 GMT
#20
Is there a shorter option that can build into a bachelor's degree in comp science? Certificate(s) or diploma?

It could provide a good halfway point (you can decide what to do afterwards) + show your parents your effort.

It could lead to a entry-level position that could help pay tuition for a different area of study.
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