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Netherlands6175 Posts
On May 22 2014 01:55 ahswtini wrote:Show nested quote +On May 22 2014 01:44 dravernor wrote: I pm everyone I want to invite to find out if they can play before I invite. And then as an afterthought I go onto irc and announce my intention to play and sudden assembly of dravharem and suddenly we can inhouse. Life is good.
Also I'm just kidding. I coldly decline without a reason and never get invited again. Also because no one wants to play with me anyway. That's because you just play co-op bots and are dc'd for half the game It is usually one or the other. AT LEAST I GIVE YOU SHARED CONTROL YOU ASSHOLES WHO FEED ME TO THE OTHER TEAM.
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tell them once that you don't want random invites, if they keep inviting just unfriend them.
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United Kingdom14103 Posts
wow never inviting moreno again
srsly though dude, just say no
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wow man i'm scarred for life now, never gonna invite u again mane
but seriously just decline who cares, be like "gtfo i'm praying to lord gaben for hats"
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Netherlands6175 Posts
Also i now know why you suddenly afk when I invite you to play in my high mmr EU W 5 stack ranked games + Show Spoiler +
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I'm afk a lot and have a lot of tabs open, see the invite later in steam chat and feel really bad I normally just say srry can't play right now when I am there though. People don't really take these things too hard
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On May 22 2014 02:12 Comeh wrote: The worst is when someone messages you if you want to play, but you never ever want to play with them ever again.
And then they try to become friends with you ask how you are doing how your day was where do you live whats your asl and you just dont respond so then they stop inivting you and then they are offline and you wonder if they are still alive and if your horrible meanness caused them to change their life or hurt themself or maybe they were relaly sick and just trying to make a last friend to guide them through their last days im sorry john i hope you are okay
You obviously don't give a shit about john or you woulda played that game of dota with him. All he needed was a friend for a few days but noooo your own feelings are so fucking important that you cant even make someone happy in their final hours.
God fucking dammit you're mean.
Seriously though I had a queue buddy that was always sad about stuff and angry in game. He got hoofed unceremoniously off the friends list for raging at "mexicans" (Dont say anything = mexican, right?) one final game. I still got invites from some people we queued with, but I smashed the decline button just in case he was in their stack. It's hard to be honest and go "Yo, your friend is a douchebag and I don't want to play dota with him again" and it's much easier to smash the decline button, go solo, and find new / fun people to play with.
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Comeh. Please. I invite you again. <3. As for Moreno, no one wants to play with you on EU anyway.
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man these euros and their first world problems
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I'll always click decline at minimum. Feigning afk is annoying from the party's perspective because people will often sit there for a while expecting you to come.
Normally I just say "Sorry dude, not playing atm" or "Sorry stacking with some other guys." If someone is obnoxious enough to have a problem with that, they're probably not going to be on my friends list much longer.
The only one that could be awkward is if you just wanted to soloQ because you don't want to deal with skype or whatever.
I guess you could just pretend you were in a stack. It's almost impossible for them to prove you weren't friends with at least some of the people you played with. If the guy then stalked you hard enough to prove that you'd never played with anyone in that game ever before or since, well, I'd be unfriending that guy asap because he's probably also trying to find out where you live.
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On May 21 2014 23:16 ahswtini wrote:Show nested quote +On May 21 2014 23:12 ReignSupreme. wrote: Steam > View Friends List > (Set status to) Offline if you're so uppity over party invites I've tried this before but one friend of mine has gotten very good at finding me out. He won't reveal how though. Wouldn't he just check your match history on Dotabuff or your dota profile?
Making your profile private might solve it
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just say you're feeling too feedy and don't want to ruin their games, or go offline on steam.
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So I haven't read this thread fully only the OPs first post, but I doubt that there is any relevant "party invitation micro" posted here.
Anyways... It's super simple stuff, you are a person who has a character, by character I mean a spine. Someone invited you to a party out of the blue, you are not obliged to give a reason why you declined and personally I don't know why you feel (or so it sounds) guilt over the whole matter. If you'd rather watch a replay instead of playing with 4 random strangers that's cool, you just need to be able to express what you want and if they don't like it, what can they exactly do to you? Tell you that you smell like poop and that they won't play with you anymore? Cool, you don't need people who can't take "no" for an answer every once in a while.
That's my 2 cents
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Northern Ireland22203 Posts
Not so much feeling guilty, more that I don't want to come across as rude. I feel honoured that your first post is in my blog though :D
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On May 22 2014 17:55 ahswtini wrote: Not so much feeling guilty, more that I don't want to come across as rude. I feel honoured that your first post is in my blog though :D
Well, I have a simmilar problem because I like to state what I want or don't want to do very clearly and often that comes across as rude. Personally, I feel like that's the price of being direct, you get 100% of the message across, but people who don't have a minimal sense of awareness (and that's a lot of people) misinterpret that as rudeness.
I like blogs more than articles, I joined the site because I'm looking for an amateur team or players. I should make a post about that soon. Hope to read more from you
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Netherlands6175 Posts
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I needed way too much time to notice you were talking about Dota.
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Northern Ireland22203 Posts
I always give a reason when I decline Facebook event invites, unless it's one of those 1000 people events...
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On May 21 2014 23:16 ahswtini wrote:Show nested quote +On May 21 2014 23:12 ReignSupreme. wrote: Steam > View Friends List > (Set status to) Offline if you're so uppity over party invites I've tried this before but one friend of mine has gotten very good at finding me out. He won't reveal how though. Are you in a guild with him? You can apparently see your guild members as long as their Dota 2 client is on, even if set to offline. My friend did that to me
I feel you OP, I'm also a dirty hat hoarder and often very lazy to play (dota stressful gaem) yet my friends always beg me to fill in their 4-stacked parties
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Northern Ireland22203 Posts
Yes, the restriction on 4-man ranked party matchmaking hasn't helped either. Yeah it's probably the guild method lol, thanks!
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