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On June 07 2014 19:56 Apom wrote:
You wanted to pursue your dream and achieve economic independence after living "at the claws" of other people and she can't blame you for that ; she doesn't want a botyfriend that she can't see without boarding a plane and you can't blame her for that.
This has nothing to do with revenge, pettiness or whatever. It's just that long distance doesn't work.
This is a very smart post.
Anyways, you describe the road of a man that is bettering himself and becoming indipendet and realizing his potential. Quite inspirational. Keep going down that road and love will find you, but you seem to know that already. 5/5
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I'm happy for you that your gf leaving you haven't completely destroyed you.
Break ups can easily mess up lives before you learn to live with it and move on.
and if shes not Korean what would become of your kids?! gotta get that master race gene flowing
Best of luck Nate on your continuing journey of following your dreams.
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I'm glad your life is improving in so many ways. I don't want to be judgmental but a girl that is wiling to leave you so shortly after you left no matter how she phrases you "abandoning" her or whatever isn't so bad. Especially if with a close friend of yours. Sounds like she isn't a great person.
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On June 07 2014 19:56 Apom wrote:
You wanted to pursue your dream and achieve economic independence after living "at the claws" of other people and she can't blame you for that ; she doesn't want a botyfriend that she can't see without boarding a plane and you can't blame her for that.
This has nothing to do with revenge, pettiness or whatever. It's just that long distance doesn't work.
This is 100% accurate.
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Would you rather have your ex see someone probably think is a good person or some douche bag? Its a lot worse to get dumped for someone you hate. The reality of it is distance is hard, and its really unlikely that a girl would understand your passion for sc2. No one here can call her "good" or "bad". All that being said I will echo everyone on here and say I hope you make it and you acheive everything you set out to do. And if you meet a nice asian girl feel free to PM me with her sisters number
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This is pretty much a textbook example of what bittersweet means. :/
Really sorry to hear things didn't work out with your girlfriend. For what it's worth, I think you've managed to do more than just achieve GM status - you've also managed to become one of the most well liked casters and personlities in the community. Best of luck in the future, keep up the good work.
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Sorry about you mom. Its been two years since I lost mine, it isn't easy.
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Someone as passionate as you deserves a girlfriend who understands and appreciates that passion. Simple as that. If she isn't that person then so be it.
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I have nothing but respect and admiration for you, Nathan. You chose the road less travelled.
As to your girlfriend, nothing anyone can say will make it easier for you now or in the near future. But, time will. As others have said, she might not have been the best person for you, anyhow. When it is time, move on. Maybe someone else, someone better, will come along. In the meanwhile, enjoy your work and make the most of your new life.
GL and go well.
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Nathanias very nice post I was the kid talking to you at the LAN today. GL in ur road to Challenger and gl with your passion for your career !
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Don't worry Nathanias! Life is all about balance after all, with downward spirals followed with upward surges of happiness. Your dedication is something so many people don't have the guts to actually try and accomplish, and you should be proud of where you are right now.
Its great waking up in the morning in Korea early to see you cast, its great to sometimes tune in into your stream and simply watch your passion actually take place in front of my eyes. Your work makes me feel proud to be a sc2 fan through and through, and so with that I hope this sudden crash with your girlfriend won't stop your contributions towards starcraft, and I hope you keep up the great work, because no great work goes unrewarded.
Keep up positivie! hehe
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That was a nice read. Hope you can keep the spirit up, fighting!
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Sorry to hear it man, but I honour you for treating the issue responsibly.
If she couldn't wait for you - she isn't right for you.\
If she is seeing your close friend - she is a lot worse than right for you.
You need to change your perspective on your gf and realize that she is a bad person. How can someone leave you for your close friend because you aren't around enough? And how can that friend be a friend?
I just kind of want to add to this. I agree, if you needed her support and she couldn't offer it, she isn't right for you. Seeing your friend though, I hate that people see this as a betrayal. She told you why she didn't want to wait. If you care about her- if *you* were in the relationship for more than your own needs then recognizing that she is simply taking care of her own and being happy for that may help. Sometimes shit like this happens, and it's easy to feel betrayed and wronged. Neither is true, though I don't mean this to try and diminish your pain.
Your GF still probably cares about you, but you were not there to give her what she needed in that kind of relationship and expecting her to suffer for you isn't particularly wholesome. You don't own her, or your friend, and they're free to pursue their own relationships. If you let your frustration and confusion at the situation turn into anger and bitterness at them, then you'll be being far more of an asshole than either of them and probably cutting yourself off from people who still do care for you if you let them.
From what you've written you're a pretty responsible and upright guy. I hate to see you go through that kind of shit, even though I've never met you and don't know you. Still, I'd urge you to soldier on and treat this as just one of those things that happen from time to time when stuff doesn't work out in your favour or in a way you expected. Adjust your expectations, rethink what's important to you and proceed to where you want to be going.
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I'm sorry about your personal situation. But you will be better off in the long run. You will meet someone else. Your ex showed her true colors. Maybe you "dodged a bullet" thanks to her leaving now instead of years from now. I hope the next girl is better. Also, congrats on GM and the job!
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Hey man, just wanted to say that you are doing an awesome job casting and I really appreciate all of your contributions to the scene. I hope that everything works out okay for you, and I hope that you stick around in SC2 for a long time
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That blog hit me hard man, i'm all teary eyed. I admire you for having the strength to go through with all this. I wish you the best of luck. And on a side note : I love this community, I love this game, I love how supportive people here can be. I havent played starcraft 2 in forever but I still love watching it and love the people in it. STAY STRONG MAN!!!!!!!!
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Good luck man. It is always important to pursue ones' own life goals and career before settling for another anyways. Keep bettering yourself in every aspect of your life, which it looks like you have been doing, and I'm sure when you look back at this years down the road it will only seem minor and insignificant in the long haul.
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Plenty more fish in the sea man. And just look at em 
+ Show Spoiler +
Gratz on GM.
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Sorry to hear that man. You deserve better anyway.
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she was no longer interested in a relationship with me so she could be with him since I abandoned her to come make money.
Wow dude stop beating yourself up. Your (ex)girlfriend must be a really shitty person if she made you feel as if you abandoned her for money.
If she was really in love with you, she would understand your reasons and encourage you to pursue your dreams. The relationship may or may not have worked out in the long run, but both she (and you) would have tried your best to make it work. Trust me as a guy who was in a long distance relationship with the girl of my dreams for the past 2 years, and finally married her the beginning of this year. Never for once did we doubt that anything was going to happen that would jeopardize our relationship. When you are truly in love, distance is just a minor hurdle that can be solved over the course of time, and you eventually find a way to make it work. It can be challenging sometimes to satisfy your physical needs, but there's nothing that a bottle of lotion and porn cant solve  .
tl;dr - you are better off without your ex.
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