EPTIt is the right time to get a good work ethic that will be useful all your life, and even if it pisses you off they are not happy right now and don't let you do as you want, you WILL understand and be grateful in a few years.
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Nouar
France3270 Posts
It is the right time to get a good work ethic that will be useful all your life, and even if it pisses you off they are not happy right now and don't let you do as you want, you WILL understand and be grateful in a few years. | ||
BLinD-RawR
ALLEYCAT BLUES50532 Posts
On May 06 2014 13:21 itsjustatank wrote: + Show Spoiler + I KNOW T-L IS NOT THE PLACE TO BRING MY TROUB-LES BUT THIS IS PROB-A-BLY THE ON-LY PLACE I KN-OW [. . .] I need some place to rant that I'm a senior. By majority, this means that, you can relax, and not really care about school as long as, you graduate my parents still force me everyday to study all damn day... (unlimited texting privileges don't impact my studying at all) Today my dad goes online and and sees that I HAVE C'S IN ENG-LISH HON-ORS NOW WITH ON-LY ONE GRADE IN "WHY ARE YOU PLAYING GAMES WITH SUCH A SHITTY GRADE?" [. . .] hey guess what? It's just one essay grade Get over it. oh, and my past marking period grades? 84, 90, and 87 respectively. I am nowhere even near, hell, a C average for the year in english. (so how about you get off my fucking back and take a seat.) plus I have projects that will FLUFF UP THE GRADE OH, AND WAIT, AF-TER I TELL THEM THAT I HA-D AL-READY SUB-MITT-ED O-THER THINGS FOR GRAD-ING I TOLD THEM THAT COLLEGE DON'T REALLY CARE A-BOUT YOUR YEAR SORRY FOR THE VENT THANKS FOR READING FLASHFTW 15/10 great lyrics. in my case, mom's been pretty ok as long as I didn't fuck up my exams. | ||
Pandemona
Charlie Sheens House51493 Posts
On May 06 2014 13:21 itsjustatank wrote: I KNOW T-L IS NOT THE PLACE TO BRING MY TROUB-LES BUT THIS IS PROB-A-BLY THE ON-LY PLACE I KN-OW [. . .] I need some place to rant that I'm a senior. By majority, this means that, you can relax, and not really care about school as long as, you graduate my parents still force me everyday to study all damn day... (unlimited texting privileges don't impact my studying at all) Today my dad goes online and and sees that I HAVE C'S IN ENG-LISH HON-ORS NOW WITH ON-LY ONE GRADE IN "WHY ARE YOU PLAYING GAMES WITH SUCH A SHITTY GRADE?" [. . .] hey guess what? It's just one essay grade Get over it. oh, and my past marking period grades? 84, 90, and 87 respectively. I am nowhere even near, hell, a C average for the year in english. (so how about you get off my fucking back and take a seat.) plus I have projects that will FLUFF UP THE GRADE OH, AND WAIT, AF-TER I TELL THEM THAT I HA-D AL-READY SUB-MITT-ED O-THER THINGS FOR GRAD-ING I TOLD THEM THAT COLLEGE DON'T REALLY CARE A-BOUT YOUR YEAR SORRY FOR THE VENT THANKS FOR READING FLASHFTW Quite clear how you got your TL Pen. Holy shit /clap | ||
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Entirety
1423 Posts
+ Show Spoiler + Not literally! I have Asian parents, I know what it's like for them to constantly nag; I always felt like I was in control of my situation, I'm the one who knew how to handle my own business. Their meddling was annoying, why couldn't they just see that I could take care of things? Still, give credit where credit is due. Your parents want 100% of your effort and nothing less, which is a valuable mindset to have. I read a blog post recently. You should too: http://affectiveliving.wordpress.com/2014/03/08/what-students-really-need-to-hear/ Not saying I agree completely with the blog post, but he makes some great points. You're right - a lousy English essay grade won't matter. But at the end of the day, you're typing a paragraph about how you did get a C but it doesn't matter and everyone else did poorly too and you always get high marks in English so your essay grade isn't indicative of anything else, and plus since when did high school grades dictate your future prospects, etc. etc. Meanwhile, you could have typed a simple sentence instead: "I got an A on my essay." That's all there is to it. It's hard to stay motivated when the stakes are low, but keep in mind that complacency is a drug. Don't try to justify your performance; take your parents' nagging as a challenge to improve yourself. Because really, it's not about satisfying your parents - it's about ensuring that you'll never satisfy yourself. Strive higher  | ||
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SpiritoftheTunA
United States20903 Posts
i get caught up with my parents too really my baggage with how they try to deal with me usually just gets in the way of thinking about getting what i really want for myself as for your question of what to tell them, it really depends on how badly they could potentially react, but they should know that 1. you're going to survive no matter what, they've raised you well enough and you're clever enough to do well where it matters, and you have a good sense of priorities and the big picture. (BUT DO YOU!?!?) 2. tell them why you're getting the grades and put it in perspective these are kind of questions for you too though what are you learning in class? i know high school english can seem like... dull and fluffy, especially for certain types, but you should read good literature on your own, it helps you grow emotionally and actually gain a big picture view of the world. this sounds like generic condescending bullshit, but... i feel compelled to bullshit it what's your big picture plan? if you arent getting perfect grades where's that time going? i wasted a lot of time in high school but i still did the academics (can't say the same for college l o l) | ||
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Daswollvieh
5553 Posts
Pop-psychology book on how pressure fucks up your kids. | ||
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pebble444
Italy2498 Posts
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Zeller
United States1109 Posts
I get the screaming for independence part, but you're about to see way less of your parents when you go to college and subsequently enter the "real" world afterwards, it'll come soon enough. | ||
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MtlGuitarist97
United States1539 Posts
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Omnishroud
1073 Posts
My mother never gave a single shit if i'm honest and i screwed it all up by slacking completely, i could have done far, far better with a kick up my ass like you had. They basically want to prepare you for when they aren't there to kick you up the ass so you don't slack off when you shouldn't be. *Italics placed because american education isn't bad, just its system of college / uni / money $$$, getting accepted into a "good" place is required or people lol at your degrees and shit. | ||
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spacemonkeyy
Australia477 Posts
Being good academically is not necessarily something you can just switch on an off when you want to and slacking off can definitely limit your skill ceiling permanently. First and foremost I think parents should want their kids to be happy but it easy to see why they would want their kids to get good jobs that pay well and they enjoy because the rest of their adult life is constructed around this scaffolding. I think video gamers understand the concept of grinding more than most, and unfortunately that is what education is especially at the secondary level. The only currency is effort- you get out what you put in. Nothing wrong with aiming to be a high achiever. After saying all that I think having balance and being able to enjoy life, video games and friendships is important rather than becoming some person who grinds away 24/7 and lets their youth pass them by. TL;DR- don't worry about your parents, everyone rages at them. They just want the best for you. Keep up the good work. | ||
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TheFish7
United States2824 Posts
On May 06 2014 11:45 FlaShFTW wrote:What would you tell your parents if they were acting like this and do senior year grades actually matter? I'd start by telling my dad that if he wanted to tell me what to do with myself he shouldn't have walked out of my life when I was 5. Then I'd remind my mom of how I got an almost full ride to college based entirely on my SAT scores which had nothing to do with my B- average in high school and how much money that will be saving her. Once you get to college, your high school grades no longer matter. Consider how different grading systems work at many different high schools and how impossible it really is to compare them in the first place, and recognize that your grades were worth maybe 20% of your application, if that. A little known secret about colleges is that many accept people based on quotas: like they want to get 50 people from new york and 40 people from boston, but if someone from texas applies they will have more leniency because they represent diversity. If the swim coach needs someone to swim butterfly that year, then some lucky butterflyer with a C average is going to get lucky. but if you happen to be the 41st person in the boston pile of applications you're SOL. + Show Spoiler + Here's another bit of wisdom for you; future employers don't give a shit about your college grades either That said, you're a smart dude so it should be pretty easy for you to get some good grades without any real effort. It might be worth it just to make your parents happy (or to shut them up for a couple months). Are you going away to school? Go forth and live the college life. Get good grades not to appease your parents, but because you want to learn all you can and because you're now in college and can study the things that truly interest you. Do as much as you can. Go to every class, don't skip. Join a sports team or club. Go to parties and make bad choices. In 4 or 5 years your worries will be much more real so make the most of it now! | ||
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Pierrot
Canada53 Posts
Alternative answer: No, fuck *you* DAD! | ||
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biology]major
United States2253 Posts
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Cr4zyH0r5e
Peru1308 Posts
It's for your own good. Independently of how much your senior year's grades matter for your college acceptance, you shouldn't be half-assing your studies. Mediocrity can develop into a habit. I'm not saying you should study for hours every day, but do the bare minimum to keep A's, which isn't very much. You'll probably understand this better in 5-6 years. | ||
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IgnE
United States7681 Posts
-William Torrey Harris, the most influential Commissioner of Education in US history | ||
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SpiritoftheTunA
United States20903 Posts
On May 07 2014 06:46 IgnE wrote: "Ninety-nine [students] out of a hundred are automata, careful to walk in prescribed paths, careful to follow the prescribed custom. This is not an accident but the result of substantial education, which, scientifically defined, is the subsumption of the individual." -William Torrey Harris, the most influential Commissioner of Education in US history that's total bullshit lol what a horribly simplistic masturbatory quotation i bet 99/100 wankers reading it think they're the 1/100 too | ||
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Kalingingsong
Canada633 Posts
edit: if you think your parents are cutting you a shitty deal, why not just condemn/renounce them and go find some better parents? rofl | ||
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SpiritoftheTunA
United States20903 Posts
On May 07 2014 09:27 Kalingingsong wrote: you problem isn't that you have asian parents, it's that you have no money, and you have to rely on economic subsidies from someone else. He who has the $ calls the shots. edit: if you think your parents are cutting you a shitty deal, why not just condemn/renounce them and go find some better parents? rofl false dichotomy, those things aren't mutually exclusive at all certain parents do have a certain nagging and uncompromising way of dealing with kids that really wears on them over time. asian kids in communities with other asian kids notice that asian parents tend to be the parents who are most like this (jewish parents are somewhat similar). the power structure is the big picture but the details of the interactions matter too im not saying the parents are in the wrong, i'm just saying that as asian parents i do stereotype them as likely being more overly focused on grades (especially in questionable education systems) and shit like that. just like if i saw a black kid in a hoodie i'd probably stereotype him as having a taste for basketball shoes | ||
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Kalingingsong
Canada633 Posts
On May 07 2014 09:35 SpiritoftheTunA wrote: false dichotomy, those things aren't mutually exclusive at all asian parents do have a certain nagging and uncompromising way of dealing with kids that really wears on you over time. the power structure is the big picture but the details of the interactions matter too Not sure if we are talking about the same thing. Ultimately, whether OP's parents are acting reasonably or not, the real source of their power is still their money. So practically the real question the OP should be concerned about is how to get his own money as fast as possible. | ||
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