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JieXian
Malaysia4677 Posts
On August 15 2013 02:05 Capped wrote: You're doing something very wrong when i agree with japhybaby. hahahahahahahahahahahah targ yeah why not be their friend by not "leading them on" the wrong direction | ||
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LaNague
Germany9118 Posts
On August 15 2013 00:39 targ wrote: no i mean i want their help, but i don't want that girl in particular oh well. I am always incredibly annoyed when someone tries that with me and will always always refuse. | ||
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MysteryMeat1
United States3292 Posts
On August 15 2013 02:05 Capped wrote: You're doing something very wrong when i agree with japhybaby. Ya my thoughts exactly. Wow we just need bisuever to finally post a relevant video that I will watch to put the final nail in the coffin. | ||
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targ
Malaysia445 Posts
On August 15 2013 01:45 Japhybaby wrote: just treat the girls on the dates like a bro and then say "there weren't sparks but she's awesome." but honestly, you seem like a dick. a "more pro method"... fuck off. just be honest. hahhaahaa i can see where i would sound like a dick yes. what i mean is when i go out with them i do treat them like a bro when i see there is no spark, but because we are out one on one and their friend introed us they have expectations. | ||
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Burrfoot
United States1176 Posts
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QuanticHawk
United States32159 Posts
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Cowpieguy
United States97 Posts
Now we have been dating for over 5 months and I'm very happy. The longer I date her, she seems to get prettier and sexier. | ||
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Wrongspeedy
United States1655 Posts
On August 15 2013 00:13 targ wrote: Ok I don't have a gf at the moment, hence there were a couple occasions where my well-meaning friends have offered to introduce/matchmake girls to me. Unfortunately, none of the girls they have suggested appeal to me upon first sight. Now I am not a (extremely) shallow person but I do like a certain type of look, and I feel if initial attraction is not there it is not going to work. Please suggest a way that I can nicely decline these suggestions, while not appearing shallow and still encouraging them to introduce others to me. I've tried going on a couple of dates with the girls suggested but they just did not work out, as I thought. Need a more pro method... Going off limited information but kinda sounds like you immediately judge these girls based on their looks then your entire experience is based off this. Why not just try and have fun? Not all dating has to be so serious. It can be just two people trying to get to know one another while having a good time with no intention of having physical intimacy afterwards. I feel like your expectations of what should be going on for yourself may be limiting your social experiences. I have definitely done this in the past myself and I am not trying to say that's what happening absolutely. But that's just the impression I get. Me personally I am trying to be more open minded, live in the moment, and enjoy where I am when I am there, regardless of what it is. Saying yes to things I might not normally say yes to and trying to embrace it in the moment. Its made for some really interesting and fun times lately. As for nicely declining a simple "No thanks" would do, but declining "hanging out" with someone (which is pretty much what a date is) solely based on looks is kind of shallow. Who said dating had to be romantic all of the time? You could just make a new friend or find someone who has interesting business/economic possibilities for you. | ||
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Awesomedrifter
Canada62 Posts
You are pretty shallow imo, but I have "high standards" according to some people | ||
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Souone
Brazil470 Posts
Or something like that. I have to agree though that it's not necessarily a matter of high/low standards. I've had plenty of occasions where I saw girls that I personally thought were like 9+ and most of my friends thought were pretty bland, and vice versa. And even though I agree, this might also be relevant. | ||
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venomium
Netherlands245 Posts
(Don't say these things to the girl in question) | ||
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renoB
United States170 Posts
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Souma
2nd Worst City in CA8938 Posts
On August 15 2013 00:40 targ wrote: oh that part is fine ahha, i mean what do i say to the people that wish to intro, without cutting off their desire to intro more "Pic?" "Eh, sorry, not my type. Here, let me browse through your Facebook to see if I can find someone."  | ||
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QuanticHawk
United States32159 Posts
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CecilSunkure
United States2829 Posts
On August 15 2013 06:38 QuanticHawk wrote: yeah ignore the shallow comments. physical attraction is kinda important in dating. going on one of these set up things when you know you have zero attraction to the other person is wasting your time and hers This is true. I don't really get why people call it "shallow". You gotta have standards on attraction, like minimum requirements. That isn't shallow unless beauty is your only standard. | ||
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Cyber_Cheese
Australia3615 Posts
stop being a wuss, give one a legitimate chance | ||
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docvoc
United States5491 Posts
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QuanticHawk
United States32159 Posts
On August 15 2013 06:47 CecilSunkure wrote: This is true. I don't really get why people call it "shallow". You gotta have standards on attraction, like minimum requirements. That isn't shallow unless beauty is your only standard. This is correct | ||
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targ
Malaysia445 Posts
On August 15 2013 06:47 CecilSunkure wrote: This is true. I don't really get why people call it "shallow". You gotta have standards on attraction, like minimum requirements. That isn't shallow unless beauty is your only standard. exactly, thanks guys | ||
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targ
Malaysia445 Posts
On August 15 2013 04:26 Wrongspeedy wrote: Going off limited information but kinda sounds like you immediately judge these girls based on their looks then your entire experience is based off this. Why not just try and have fun? Not all dating has to be so serious. It can be just two people trying to get to know one another while having a good time with no intention of having physical intimacy afterwards. I feel like your expectations of what should be going on for yourself may be limiting your social experiences. I have definitely done this in the past myself and I am not trying to say that's what happening absolutely. But that's just the impression I get. Me personally I am trying to be more open minded, live in the moment, and enjoy where I am when I am there, regardless of what it is. Saying yes to things I might not normally say yes to and trying to embrace it in the moment. Its made for some really interesting and fun times lately. As for nicely declining a simple "No thanks" would do, but declining "hanging out" with someone (which is pretty much what a date is) solely based on looks is kind of shallow. Who said dating had to be romantic all of the time? You could just make a new friend or find someone who has interesting business/economic possibilities for you. Ah okay let me clarify here. When my friends say "hey meet this girl" or "hey lemme intro some friends to you" then I hang out with anyone freely, without judgment of any sort. The thing is when they say "hey you have no gf right, lemme intro this girl to you", I think they also say something to the girl on the other side as in "this guy is looking for a partner". This causes the girl to have expectations right from the get-go that I plan to court her. Therefore, if I hang out with her normally then don't do anything, she starts asking her friend why I am not doing anything yada yada... such is my experience. Now if the girl was alright with normal hanging out and no expectations I'd be perfectly alright. I'd even pay for a drink haha. | ||
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