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Ok I don't have a gf at the moment, hence there were a couple occasions where my well-meaning friends have offered to introduce/matchmake girls to me.
Unfortunately, none of the girls they have suggested appeal to me upon first sight. Now I am not a (extremely) shallow person but I do like a certain type of look, and I feel if initial attraction is not there it is not going to work.
Please suggest a way that I can nicely decline these suggestions, while not appearing shallow and still encouraging them to introduce others to me. I've tried going on a couple of dates with the girls suggested but they just did not work out, as I thought.
Need a more pro method...
  
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yay girl blog!
"hey look, I think you are a great girl but I just don't have that sorta feelings for you. I am sure you will find someone who can appreciate you more than I do. I got a feeling that we can be great friends and I am usually right on this  "
good enough?
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"no thanks"
or if you want to be really nice "no, but thanks for your help"
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On August 15 2013 00:24 LaNague wrote:
or if you want to be really nice "no, but thanks for your help"
that's for after sex?
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On August 15 2013 00:13 targ wrote:
Ok I don't have a gf at the moment, hence there were a couple occasions where my well-meaning friends have offered to introduce/matchmake girls to me.
Unfortunately, none of the girls they have suggested appeal to me upon first sight. Now I am not a (extremely) shallow person but I do like a certain type of look, and I feel if initial attraction is not there it is not going to work.
Please suggest a way that I can nicely decline these suggestions, while not appearing shallow and still encouraging them to introduce others to me. I've tried going on a couple of dates with the girls suggested but they just did not work out, as I thought.
Need a more pro method...
Go and approach the women you want to date then.
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On August 15 2013 00:24 LaNague wrote:
"no thanks"
or if you want to be really nice "no, but thanks for your help"
no i mean i want their help, but i don't want that girl in particular
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On August 15 2013 00:20 ETisME wrote:yay girl blog! "hey look, I think you are a great girl but I just don't have that sorta feelings for you. I am sure you will find someone who can appreciate you more than I do. I got a feeling that we can be great friends and I am usually right on this " good enough?
oh that part is fine ahha, i mean what do i say to the people that wish to intro, without cutting off their desire to intro more
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On August 15 2013 00:37 lisward wrote:Show nested quote +On August 15 2013 00:13 targ wrote:
Ok I don't have a gf at the moment, hence there were a couple occasions where my well-meaning friends have offered to introduce/matchmake girls to me.
Unfortunately, none of the girls they have suggested appeal to me upon first sight. Now I am not a (extremely) shallow person but I do like a certain type of look, and I feel if initial attraction is not there it is not going to work.
Please suggest a way that I can nicely decline these suggestions, while not appearing shallow and still encouraging them to introduce others to me. I've tried going on a couple of dates with the girls suggested but they just did not work out, as I thought.
Need a more pro method... Go and approach the women you want to date then.
This. get some stones so your friends don't have to introduce you to girls.
Also, don't be so shallow. Many, many successful relationships didn't have that perfect first moment. If your friends think the girl is cool enough to introduce you to, you should at least get to know her. If you picked decent friends, you should be able to at least trust their judgment in women enough to get to know the girls they pick.
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whats so wrong about being their friend? At the very least, you expand your social network (they may have hotter friends who are single and your type you can meet)
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On August 15 2013 00:49 Race is Terran wrote:
whats so wrong about being their friend? At the very least, you expand your social network (they may have hotter friends who are single and your type you can meet)
What makes you think that their hotter friends will be interested in you.. -_-
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On August 15 2013 00:58 Riner1212 wrote:Show nested quote +On August 15 2013 00:49 Race is Terran wrote:
whats so wrong about being their friend? At the very least, you expand your social network (they may have hotter friends who are single and your type you can meet)
What makes you think that their hotter friends will be interested in you.. -_-
all you need is confidence and the ability to keep a conversation going, eye contact, smile, and your good to go
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"Sorry man, I want a gf but I still have standards" - What you want to say, in a different way
solution- "No thank you, it doesn't feel right". (Feel is the key word here, it could mean ANYTHING).
disclaimer, i have no idea what i am talking about, but thanks for the (semi-ok)girl blog.
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On August 15 2013 00:47 Stratos_speAr wrote:Show nested quote +On August 15 2013 00:37 lisward wrote:On August 15 2013 00:13 targ wrote:
Ok I don't have a gf at the moment, hence there were a couple occasions where my well-meaning friends have offered to introduce/matchmake girls to me.
Unfortunately, none of the girls they have suggested appeal to me upon first sight. Now I am not a (extremely) shallow person but I do like a certain type of look, and I feel if initial attraction is not there it is not going to work.
Please suggest a way that I can nicely decline these suggestions, while not appearing shallow and still encouraging them to introduce others to me. I've tried going on a couple of dates with the girls suggested but they just did not work out, as I thought.
Need a more pro method... Go and approach the women you want to date then. This. get some stones so your friends don't have to introduce you to girls. Also, don't be so shallow. Many, many successful relationships didn't have that perfect first moment. If your friends think the girl is cool enough to introduce you to, you should at least get to know her. If you picked decent friends, you should be able to at least trust their judgment in women enough to get to know the girls they pick.
I do approach girls too, but now due to my field of work my social circles are a bit narrow so every little bit helps. Also yes true I should be less shallow I guess... but seriously I've fell in love at first sight (and subsequently dated) girls which my friends said "ok shes not pretty at all". To me if I'm attracted I don't care what other people think, and same if I'm not.
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On August 15 2013 00:49 Race is Terran wrote:
whats so wrong about being their friend? At the very least, you expand your social network (they may have hotter friends who are single and your type you can meet)
Yea I have no problem being their friend, trouble is if the girl expects more (due to her friend introducing me) then I feel bad for leading her on. Happened a couple of times already.
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On August 15 2013 01:25 targ wrote:Show nested quote +On August 15 2013 00:47 Stratos_speAr wrote:On August 15 2013 00:37 lisward wrote:On August 15 2013 00:13 targ wrote:
Ok I don't have a gf at the moment, hence there were a couple occasions where my well-meaning friends have offered to introduce/matchmake girls to me.
Unfortunately, none of the girls they have suggested appeal to me upon first sight. Now I am not a (extremely) shallow person but I do like a certain type of look, and I feel if initial attraction is not there it is not going to work.
Please suggest a way that I can nicely decline these suggestions, while not appearing shallow and still encouraging them to introduce others to me. I've tried going on a couple of dates with the girls suggested but they just did not work out, as I thought.
Need a more pro method... Go and approach the women you want to date then. This. get some stones so your friends don't have to introduce you to girls. Also, don't be so shallow. Many, many successful relationships didn't have that perfect first moment. If your friends think the girl is cool enough to introduce you to, you should at least get to know her. If you picked decent friends, you should be able to at least trust their judgment in women enough to get to know the girls they pick. I do approach girls too, but now due to my field of work my social circles are a bit narrow so every little bit helps. Also yes true I should be less shallow I guess... but seriously I've fell in love at first sight (and subsequently dated) girls which my friends said "ok shes not pretty at all". To me if I'm attracted I don't care what other people think, and same if I'm not.
And that's totally fine, and kudos to you for having your own tastes. All I'm saying is that you shouldn't automatically write off a girl if you don't have an instant severe attraction to her. You'd be surprised what you can dig up when you get to know someone. Someone's personality may make them much more attractive, or maybe they're sporting a different look than normal on that particular evening? Lots of things change, so don't eliminate options so quickly.
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just treat the girls on the dates like a bro and then say "there weren't sparks but she's awesome." but honestly, you seem like a dick. a "more pro method"... fuck off. just be honest.
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Here's one for you: "I want them to be prettier."
Just be honest. Jesus.
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You're doing something very wrong when i agree with japhybaby.
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I wish my friends did this for me. But alas, my friends have less success with women than I do, and I'm not that successful.
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