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Try breaking up your "doing stuff" time, and your relaxation time. I know that if I feel like I'm just relaxing all the time, I think I should be productive instead -- so I don't want to relax. Just like you say, I feel guilty about playing video games or watching streams, or whatever else.
I regressed really hard earlier in the Summer when I didn't have a job, basically after applying for jobs I would play video games, then feel guilty about playing video games, then do nothing instead (real productive -_-). This pretty much continued for a month or so, to the point where I was barely cooking for my self, rarely cleaned anything, and just generally did very little and felt pretty shoddy.
Anyhow, for me personally I just need to keep busy so I can not worry about how I spend my free time. It takes time and experiences to learn about these kinds of things in life. Maybe try getting a job (if you don't have one) or volunteering for something you enjoy, it could be that you just need something to get yourself out of bed in the morning.
I'm sure it's my own pride, or youthful sense of indestructibility, but I don't really feel the need to go to a therapist for such issues as this. Again, I just think you need more stuff to do, but if it gets really bad or the issue persists you should probably seek professional help. The Summer can be pretty rough if you're not in regular contact with people, where as school pretty much forces you into socializing.
Edit: it's important to note that even if I'm not relaxing all the time, if I feel like I am, I get to thinking that I should just work more, which is why it's important for me to separate working and relaxing.
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On July 30 2013 09:18 wanghis wrote:
have you tried jerking it?
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I'm hopefully going to save you years of hardship with this. I went through exactly what you are going through, and I have gone from hating myself for being unmotivated, to feeling awesome because I bust my ass and make shit happen, in a couple months.
I'm going assume that you aren't happy with yourself. You know that you are a reasonably intelligent human being capable of many things. You have pride in yourself because you've seen that you can coast through many things and still excel, but you just seem to piss your time away, unable to motivate yourself to really make shit happen. You may feel different from other people, because you don't enjoy a lot of the stupid pointless shit that people talk about and do. All of these things are true until you decide that you are so tired of being this way that you want to change.
Here's how to fix yourself. In broad strokes, you need to do two things:
-Decide who you want to become. This doesn't need to be too specific, but try your best. Things such as "I want financial independence", "I want to learn an instrument", "I want to be fit and healthy" are good general goals. If you are any bit as ambitious as I am, you'll shoot way higher.
-Start taking action towards becoming who you want to be. This requires you to motivate yourself, which is something I could right a fucking dissertation on. Instead watch this video, and do the things he says. If you don't want to take advice from a random old man in a suit with weird mannerisms, just google who Brian Tracy is. Imagine Tony Robbins, accept trying to appeal to rational business minded individuals, instead of...you get the picture probably. Anyways, I use the methods he mentions in this video and I guarantee they work. No, you don't have to buy his shit, he gives you all the info you need right there.
If you follow those steps, something funny will happen. You'll start to feel happy about yourself because you are being productive. Instead of saying things like "I can't seem to motivate myself", you'll say "I just fucking did, bitch." This creates a feedback loop, and in a while you'll actually feel like your goals are tangible. It doesn't matter that they may be years away, the knowledge that you are moving in the right direction will light a fire under your ass.
I want to mention something about the myers briggs. It will only hurt you, and it's fucking terrible. Before you think less of me, checkout my blog history and you'll find that I made a post about it back in 2010 asking people to take the test. I don't say that it's fucking terrible lightly. The thing is, if you start to identify with the things it tells you, it can severely hamper your progress. I was a stone cold "introvert" and I identified well with that label. I only had a few close friends in school, I didn't like big social gatherings, and I generally hated small talk of most kinds. Then I worked in sales for a year and a half and found out that the reason I was socially awkward, was that I avoided social interactions like the plague, and I identified myself as a fucking "introvert". I hope I didn't sound like too much of an asshole there. When you learn how destructive it is to think of yourself as anything other than who you really want to become, you see how destructive such a concept as a personality type is.
Gl hf bro, hope I at least gave you some food for thought.
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Boredom is a symptom of depression. Start working out or at least going on walks and listening to some kind of useful podcast or audio book non fiction.
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I'd say the best way is just to try out things. Sports, cycling, cooking, blog writing... Even cleaning up your house. Another important thing is not to make assumptions that something will suck for you even if you never did this before.
However, the best thing to learn is to stop trusting your own thoughts/feelings that much. Just because they are yours, doesn't make them as meaningful as most of people think. Plus, ultimately, they can be always overcome with actions you make.
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