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In a few months, I will be attending a masters program across country, being uprooted from where I lived for last 14 years -- but more importantly, away from family, friends, and girlfriend.
I would like to enjoy and make some good memories my last few months here but the prospect of having to be away constantly depresses me and doesn't allow me to enjoy the present to the fullest. I almost wish I had a button that would make me forget that I would be going away, only reminding me few days before departure...
Has anyone faced a similar dilemma and how do you deal with it?
ps: please no comments about why i'm putting myself through something i don't seem to look forward to.. i am not looking for that kind of advice here
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It could help to view it as a sort of death, a new chapter in your life. So you should focus on this chapter before writing the next one.
Take 5 and just close your eyes. Imagine the nagging feeling right in front of you as a glowing orb of incredible energy. Focus on it and really believe that the prospect of being away is encompassed in that orb. Once you have it, watch the orb as it rises up into the sky and becomes as small as a star.
Whenever you think of this problem again, just close your eyes and look up at that star. It helps to do this instead of actually going through the motions of thinking through all the potential paths.
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May I ask what you're doing and where you're going? Not a rhetorical or critical question--I'm just curious ^^
I guess it's very case-by-case in that some people have no trouble setting something off and focusing on the "now", while others may never be able to do it. Maybe just try to immerse yourself with your friends and family, and find as many exciting things to do together as possible? Talk to all the people you'll be leaving and maybe keep in mind that you should be able to come back in due time.
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Hint: other than drugs, if you are doing a really engaging activity such as athletics or music or creating art or playing an engaging game or viewing an entertaining performance, you won't have the brain power available to get depressed about moving. Since doing engagning fun things with your friends and GF is probably what you should be doing if you havelimited time with them, I recommend you get out there and occupy yourself with such engaging activities.
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Focus on the small things in life that makes you happy and enjoy those. The rest will come. Yes it sounds lame, but it works.
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Don't focus too much on making every last moment perfect. Thinking in those terms will just get you down. Just live normally, you're moving not dieing.
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Be genuinely thankful for every blessing that crosses your everyday life. Say thank you to a transcendental view you see while you're driving. Maybe not aloud, but murmur it somewhere in your heart, and I think the days may seem to grow more and more special.
At least this is how I help myself live more in the moment.
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