EPT
No One Knows Who I Am
| Blogs > Emzeeshady |
|
Emzeeshady
Canada4203 Posts
| ||
|
synapse
China13814 Posts
Plus, being able to make stuff up isn't an evil skill in itself--you're able to understand how to keep someone's interest, you know what people will find funny, etc. | ||
|
Qwyn
United States2779 Posts
I am a god. Wanderer of twisting streets, a barefoot memory. Labyrinthine doors. Eyes sweep these shadowed streets, light-framed lies on every side - Choose wisely. I see men. I tread among them. I whisper silently of light-framed lies and fall further into black. Black is my sight. Close my eyes and see light of these memories men have made I reach vainly. Memory slips, like grains of shadow between my fingers fall the light of opened doors. Among men, I gift the weave of creation. Bright are my lies, as I stand trapped behind doors of my own making. -- Made an edit  . | ||
|
Game
3191 Posts
On December 07 2012 14:58 Qwyn wrote: Among men I am a god. Wanderer of twisting streets, a barefoot memory. Labyrinthine doors. Eyes sweep these shadowed streets, light-framed lies on every side - Choose wisely. I see men. I tread among them. And so I whisper silently of light-framed lies and fall further into black. Black is my sight. Close my eyes and see light of these memories men have made and so I reach vainly. Memory slips, like grains of shadow between my fingers fall the light of opened doors. Among men, I gift the weave of creation. Bright are my lies, as I stand trapped behind doors of my own making. Bravo, bravo. | ||
Pandemona
Charlie Sheens House51434 Posts
 Always remember there is time for anyone to right their wrongs, it is not easy, it will not be a quick fix, bUT it is possible to do.The first thing you need to do is to just stop lieing. If you conquer that, the rest will fall into place. If you find yourself not able to stop, seek help from a shrink to try and help you, as it seems you have indentity problem more than a power control problem to me. | ||
|
matiK23
United States963 Posts
| ||
|
Dienosore
Brunei Darussalam622 Posts
You could give this a go? I've been trying to get into it. It's not easy at first because the truth isn't always pretty. I will say, however, that I feel much better about myself and that I have a clear conscious. Also, I feel like I'm much closer to the people around me than I ever was before. | ||
|
Myrtroll
139 Posts
But your friends might know more than you think. Lying on the scale you describe and not getting caught is next to impossible. That they stay with you still is a good sign. Instead of confessing, start "finding yourself" like everybody does at some point in your life. Find something you really like truthfully, and start sharing it instead of inventing lies. You might end up not having room for lies if you keep going like that, and you might even like yourself better too. | ||
|
Dirkzor
Denmark1944 Posts
As Myrtroll stated your friends probably know more then you think even though you think you got all your bases covered. But they still like you. If you really want to change talk to a professionel about changing your behavior. | ||
|
Mataza
Germany5364 Posts
The important question, if you ask me, is: Do you keep lying because you fear the backlash, or do you keep lying because you inexplicably can´t stop? If it is the former, I can tell you that people are much more likely to forgive one than I ever imagined. No one wants to suddenly lose a friend or family member. The amount of things that people can forgive to maintain the status quo is huge. If you are anything like me, the guilt you feel about it fuels your fear. By not telling anybody you think the lies are worse than they actually are. Especially "putting up an act" is not uncommon, so to speak "wearing a mask" or false personality is actually not uncommon among "normal" people. I hope that can help you. Sooner or later I hope you realize that this is not as dramatic as you (probably) think it is. In case this is too much for you alone to handle, don´t shy away from asking a professional to help you. Many people do, me too. | ||
|
Flying Potato
United States77 Posts
There's already some good advice present in this thread, follow it and admit your mistakes. It's easy as hell for me to say that over the computer where I have no repercussions, and habits are never easy to stop once they've entered your psyche, but if you care about your dignity and character, then don't just wait and say "I'll stop soon, i swar!" Good luck man, and thanks for allowing me to take a look at myself too. | ||
|
opisska
Poland8852 Posts
), because he has obvious flaws in the stories (like he has never any pictures from travels, has "lost" his passport uncountable times and he recently even started to look for a cardiologist from scratch, presumably because he got real trouble (or new fake ones) and denied that he ever had any problems at all). The fun thing is that we (me and my wife) know it for many years. Every time we tried to bring it up, he would just start randomly talking about anything else, pretending we never said anything. I think he is not even really trying in front of us. But we don't really care - he is otherwise a nice and fun person and we just like him. And it's not like he was a high-school kid. He is 30 and has a good fulltime job (or, is amazingly good at pretending so), so you can get pretty far with that The sad part is that most of his former friends left him, but he also used to be quite an asshole, so it was not only about the lying anyway.edit: and he is married, too | ||
|
Chef
10810 Posts
+ Show Spoiler + The 90s! As food for thought for what you actually wrote: I think you'd be surprised how many people know you are lying. There is always one person in a group of friends that is this ridiculous compulsive liar, and when that friend isn't around everyone talks about the latest whopper he told. At least this was my experience when I was in high school. You will probably actually find a lot of success if you just stop lying, and your friends might even be impressed even if they don't say so directly to you. But people very easily get a feeling when they've been lied to, or when most of what you say can never be verified. So don't think you're that clever lol. Also, lying about stuff like what music you like and what you did during lunch is called pointless lies. I had another friend (separate from the one I'm thinking above) that did that, and whenever he wasn't around we talk about that too lol. Cause inevitably you do slip up, but no one bothers to tell you because who cares about getting into an argument about whether or not you went to someone's house at lunch. I think for you lying has become a compulsion, but it's not something you should make into a giant mountain. Just take one day at a time not telling lies. If someone finds out you like a different kind of music than you said you did, they're not gonna freak out. Either they already knew or they'll think you had a change of interests. | ||
|
jdseemoreglass
United States3773 Posts
| ||
|
nomyx
United States2205 Posts
On December 07 2012 19:34 matiK23 wrote: Jesus, do you have an ounce of self confidence in you? Not only do you make up stories because you have no balls, you won't even man up and apologize for your lies because you have no balls. Sorry but you get no sympathy from me and I hope this bites you in the ass and you learn from it. I'm going to agree with this. Basically, you reap what you sow  | ||
|
Aerisky
United States12128 Posts
Nonetheless, hope OP has managed to find his own way of dealing with it in a way that has changed his life for the better. Don't feel bad, and I hope you're on the path to (at least in some degree) honesty~ | ||
| ||
