You've probably all heard of the series. You know its for kids. It's got pictures in it.
For those that haven't Diary of a Wimpy Kid is a fictional book series about an average middle school student with horrible decision making abilities, and the troubles he gets himself into.
It reminds me a bit of my high school years and how inconsequential the things I did then were. The newest book reminds me of a hershey kiss I bought during lunch around Valentines day for a girl I knew and had it delivered to her in homeroom. I was fairly sure she knew I had a crush on her but I was worried the girls collecting the money for the Kisses would see it and... well I don't know. I talked to her every chance I got to on the way to lunch and then we sat at different tables. Teachers tried to pair me up with her in class. Pretty sure everyone knew.
I'm not going to say that I've grown wise and that all high schoolers are stupid. *cough*
The things I did made sense to me back then. Many of the things I did were consequential to who I am today. The little things I learned added up and made me who I am today.
But now I wonder what fears I have today that hold me back. Fears of talking to people still. Fears of talking to my superiors and voicing my concerns. Fears that will lead to the same bad consequences of years past.
Fears can be good but sometimes they're irrational and can lead to some of the biggest regrets you have in life.
What things in presecondary school did you do that made you afraid back when you were young but now you laugh at? What decisions you made mattered in the past and still matter today?
I really pity you because my life is full of poor decisions. However, whenever I write blogs like this, they all get rated one star. I'm sorry your life is so tragic. What resulted from the purchase of the chocolate for your mate?
On December 01 2012 13:29 fatfail wrote: I really pity you because my life is full of poor decisions. However, whenever I write blogs like this, they all get rated one star. I'm sorry your life is so tragic. What resulted from the purchase of the chocolate for your mate?
Not a mate. Nothing transpired. The kisses are anonymous.
I was afraid of so many things and all I did was face my fears. I was taught to always give a hundred percent. To always try new things. To be the life of the party, never be sad, and never give up. I always went up to the girl, always challenged authority, always tried to be funny. I was good at many things from a young age so I guess it was expected of me. And I failed many many times. But I didn't even except the failure. I was always up.
It's when I realized I was human and had limitations that I started to succeed. Honesty is the key. Honesty of where you are, of what you can do, and if you don't know... Find out. Also adaptability, reading the situation and not having unbreakable rules for everything is huge.
Speaking of rules. That website is terrible to read. Trying to apply what you should do for everyone without talking about specific situations is naiive at best, dangerous at worst.
Fake it till you make it? Terrible advice. So pretty much lie to yourself and others and you think that will somehow be true down the line?
Exposé yourself to fear? Tried that doesnt make you less afraid. You have to go about it with the right mindset when you're ready and actively learn ways to dissipate the fear. You go into a scary situation ten times and you don't solve the problems, then the fear will get even worse. Plus you will be torn apart by it.
I tried to be superhuman and was therefor fake. I did everything perfectly on paper or on a resume but I was miserable. Fear didn't hold me back but it should have. Now I have learned and am a vastly better person now.
Once I made baklava for a school party to impress this girl I liked. She didn't come so I was going to save her a piece. To my horror there was but one scrap of pastry left. I scooped it up and gave it to her anyway. So pathetic.
Whoa, I don't even know what i fear?? the unknown?? rejection??
@RedTail, why would someone take your advice on teamliquid to not take advice on teamliquid?? Why not fake confidence? faking a smile makes someone do a real smile and their smilemakes you smile. The way you think you know every answer disgusts me.
I don't think I know every answer. There is so much I don't know. What I know though is from experience. Faking a smile is bad. Faking is bad. It's lying. So instead of listening to me follow every piece of advice from that website (sarcasm). As I said it's half right.
On December 03 2012 03:19 RedTail wrote: I don't think I know every answer. There is so much I don't know. What I know though is from experience. Faking a smile is bad. Faking is bad. It's lying. So instead of listening to me follow every piece of advice from that website (sarcasm). As I said it's half right.
Not giving a fuck is two edged knife. On the one hand it can make you more relaxed because you don't give a fuck if a girl dumps you, if a relative dies, or even you get sick and die. But how will you ever find happiness if you can't feel the joys that come success, good health, and good relationships? Unfortunately you gotta take the good with the bad. Truly not giving a fuck will require you to abandon all your hopes, dreams, and love. But at least you won't feel bad or happy again. Your choice I suppose.
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