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Like the title says I been having some roommate problems recently. I been doing my best to just keep out of his way but finally I cannot take it anymore..
This whole year he's been complaining to me about various things I have that smell. I eat korean food on a daily basis(I'm korean)and rice+kimchi is a must for every meal(along with other side dishes)but those two absolutely must be there. So the first problem comes with the kimchi. He's saying the smell comes through his a/c's vent even though he shut it because of the smell(he says it still comes through). So he asks me if I can shut my vent too every single time I eat.
Another is, I have korean food like bulgogi inside ziploc bags and I throw the bulgogi in a bowl, heat it in microwave then eat it. I throw the ziploc bag away. However, the ziploc bag has some leftover bulgogi juice and after a couple days it starts to rot like any other food u throw away. So he complains about that too how the trashcan smells and that I need to rinse the ziploc bag with water every time before i throw it away.
He also once mentioned that my soon dubu soup smelled like fish(even though there's not a hint of fish in that soup)and that my room smells like food and I should vacuum it.
Two days ago, he put pinesol in my toilet. I had to hurry and catch the bus so after I got on I texted him. "Did you use my bathroom?" and he replied "of course not. your bathroom is very dirty and the smell reeks into my bedroom. i threw pinesol on it to ease the smell"
Before I left for spring break couple weeks ago, I cleaned some of the bathroom floor and around the cracks and corners and also around my sink. I didn't have time to clean the toilet. So he put a towel under the door crack so the smell wouldn't come to his side of the bathroom. I don't know how he handles going to the men's public bathroom cuz half the time they smell too but u just learn to ignore it.
I've had 4 non-asian roommates and they never complained to me about kimchi smell going through the vent or nothing about this bathroom thing. I would have to flip my life around and not eat korean food and clean my room and bathroom everyday so it smells minty fresh for him.
And I realize the bathroom is my fault but it's just all his complaining about everything that's adding up and its driving me crazy. And it goes beyond the kimchi + trashcan + bathroom. He just keeps on complaining about other stuff too.
 
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He really may just have a sensitive nose. Things like closing your vent before you eat, cleaning out the ziploc bag (trash not taken out for 2 days? :O) shouldn't be a big deal. If he's sensitive smells, be sensitive to that fact and try to clean any smells you make.
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Find a new roommate/apartment. Obviously your current situation isn't working out.
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I've never heard of someone complaining that food has too strong of a smell. I'm just speechless.
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take out your trash more often, eat in the kitchen, get an air freshener for your bathroom (or clean it w/e).
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I think you're overreacting a bit. I don't really feel like it's too hard to do most of the things that he asks you to do.
Shutting the vents isn't a huge demand, and neither is preventing the trash can from having rotting juice in it by washing the bag. Each of these will take you like.... 15-20 seconds?
And for cleaning the toilet? Let's say 30 minutes a week.
I don't think he's trying to give you a hard time... I feel like his current list of demands is reasonable
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make him hang an air freshner over the vent or something sounds likes hes really overreacting and you two should have a conversation about your problems and see if its possible for you two to keep living together
maybe try some compromises like rinse your bags if he stops complaining about the kimchi and stuff like that
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On April 20 2012 12:13 MonkSEA wrote:
I've never heard of someone complaining that food has too strong of a smell. I'm just speechless.
If you hate something that you keep smelling, I doubt you would enjoy that,
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Should probably try and compromise the best you can. Seems like you are both blowing it out of proportion to me. Coming to an agreement that wont exactly "flip your life around."
If you can't do without Korean food tell him how often you are willing to clean the bathroom and take out the trash. Maybe 2 or 3 times a week if you can't do it once a day.
I would really just talk to him and try to come to an agreement that you can both accept even if its not perfect. Its only gonna get worst if you let it stew.
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Um.. kimchi.. smells.. a lot. Not many non-Asians like it... And dang.. you a fob? kimichi and bab everyday/meal? :O
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On April 20 2012 12:24 klibrt wrote:
Um.. kimchi.. smells.. a lot. Not many non-Asians like it... And dang.. you a fob? kimichi and bab everyday/meal? :O
I realize this but I take it to my room, close my door, he has his vent closed, the kimchi container is open for 20~ minutes while i eat then it's closed again. But it still somehow goes through the vent. That is what I don't understand. I never had this problem with any of my previous roommates before. I mean it must be quite severe to him if hes closing his a/c vent and putting a towel in the crack under the door.
I just cannot continue living with him knowing that hes suffering like that and I have to make changes to keep him happy.
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The pine sol in the toilet is the start to passive-aggressive warfare. Start using his toothbrush to scrub the toilet, ejaculating into his shampoo, and eating all his food (since he hates the smell of yours). Also, start making shitloads of noise/inviting people over at night, cooking/eating when he's trying to sleep, and playing obnoxious music (kpop?) way too loudly.
Either that or admit to yourself that you're fucking dirty and clean up after yourself. I shouldn't be surprised/disgusted that some people use public restroom's cleanliness standards for their own personal ones. but i am. rotting meat juice in the trashcan? god damn
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Its called living with other people and it won't work unless you put some effort into it.
Clean your zip-lock bags
Close your vent
Clean your washroom
You should be doing these things even if you lived alone. You should definitely be doing these things if you live with anybody with reasonable household standards.
Part of growing up is ideally becoming sensitive to the expectations of others and fulfilling those expectations where possible. The inconvenience to you in this particular situation is negligible and will in fact improve the quality of your living.
On April 20 2012 12:30 MaRiNe23 wrote:
I just cannot continue living with him knowing that hes suffering like that and I have to make changes to keep him happy.
I believe this is the underlying problem with your situation.
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Kimchi smells bad to people who don't love to eat it. A LOT of people don't like pickled things. Pretty sure it's your fault for all the smells that are uninviting. or maybe ask him to cut off his nose.
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On April 20 2012 12:35 Ximeng wrote:Its called living with other people and it won't work unless you put some effort into it. Clean your zip-lock bags Close your vent Clean your washroom You should be doing these things even if you lived alone. You should definitely be doing these things if you live with anybody with reasonable household standards. Part of growing up is ideally becoming sensitive to the expectations of others and fulfilling those expectations where possible. The inconvenience to you in this particular situation is negligible and will in fact improve the quality of your living. Show nested quote +On April 20 2012 12:30 MaRiNe23 wrote:
I just cannot continue living with him knowing that hes suffering like that and I have to make changes to keep him happy. I believe this is the underlying problem with your situation.
After some thought I pretty much agree with everything you said. It's gonna be hard for me to suddenly make all these changes from my old lifestyle but I'ma try to start by at least cleaning the toilet.
I just wrote this cuz when he does things that annoys me sometimes, I just learn to live with it or work around it and try not to make a big deal out of it. I mean i have a friend that's saudi arabian and when I go to his house there is a certain smell I'm not used to or fond of but my nose eventually gets used to the smell and life goes on.
edit: thank u for ur post btw
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On April 20 2012 12:53 MaRiNe23 wrote:
After some thought I pretty much agree with everything you said. It's gonna be hard for me to suddenly make all these changes from my old lifestyle but I'ma try to start by at least cleaning the toilet.
I just wrote this cuz when he does things that annoys me sometimes, I just learn to live with it or work around it and try not to make a big deal out of it. I mean i have a friend that's saudi arabian and when I go to his house there is a certain smell I'm not used to or fond of but my nose eventually gets used to the smell and life goes on.
edit: thank u for ur post btw
No problem mate. Took me a while to learn this myself about 2 years ago when my wife moved in with me full time. As soon as I adapted, and it took about 2 months, things have been rosy ever since.
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Yeah, just fyi, in case it isn't clear... I've been to houses of Korean people and on occasion I literally can't be within 5-10 feet when the fridge is opened with kimchi in it. It's seriously a horrendous smell to anyone who's not used to it.. x.x I know korean people cant even smell it but it's god awful. Seems like he's slightly overreacting but I can't imagine the smells being pleasant.
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O_o dem Koreans are dumb. There's something called a kimchi refrigerator that a lot of people get :D. Used for only kimchi basically 'cuz that shit stinks up your fridge and stays there. My friend had some in his dorm some time ago... that kimchi smell.. never went away LOL
EDIT: PUPATREE is correct. You don't want to have a passive-aggressive roommate. My brother went through that in for a semester when he was in a dorm with 3 other white kids that were sophomores.
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Semester is almost over.
Just tank it!
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Lol i have a friend who's rooming with 3 white guys and they don't fucking clean their dishes or w.e. they use to cook. Fucking smells death every time i go to his dorm.
The meat in the bag thing is pretty easy to deal with. Just rinse the bag before you throw it away. Dunno about kimchi though. Never found the smell to be terrible. It's not particularly great smelling but I don't find it horrible either.
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