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haduken
Profile Blog Joined April 2003
Australia8267 Posts
Last Edited: 2012-03-30 15:14:02
March 30 2012 13:48 GMT
#21
By the way, I'm not advocating any sort of show down with your boss. Just plan your exit, tell him to fuck off by your actions but never ever say it to his face, if you do, then you are coming off as impulsive and emotional, not bad qualities but it makes you very predicable, something you don't want to stick to your reputation if you continue to play this game.
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docvoc
Profile Blog Joined July 2011
United States5491 Posts
March 30 2012 14:02 GMT
#22
Your boss seems to be overshooting what is possible, it sounds nice in theory but won't work in reality. You need to layout what you think needs to be done to make this work in a professional way, using professional language. No cursing, no child's play, just be calm, cool, and collected. It would also be very useful if you were to layour in a more broad way what is going wrong since your explanation in your earlier comment is in my opinion TOO vague, unless thats as clear as you can afford to be.
User was warned for too many mimes.
bokeevboke
Profile Blog Joined May 2010
Singapore1674 Posts
March 30 2012 14:04 GMT
#23
On March 30 2012 22:46 haduken wrote:
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On March 30 2012 22:36 Arkless wrote:
Ummmm, no you can't be insubordinate.... period. Only times it's really acceptable to refuse your boss is if it is unsafe physically or mentally. If it's just a direction you don't agree with then suck it up. He pays you, to do what he wants. He's your boss not your friend. It's kind of hard to comment without any information by the way.


Completely wrong advice lol...

OP is not a blue collar brick layer, he is a young professional, there will always be a job out there waiting for him.

OP, you need to plan your career and future, you can suck up and take shit when you are >35 but right now, tell that guy to go fuck him self then jump ship.


Thanks, you seem to totally understand my situation.
To those who say suck it up: I always used to suck it up, I can manage to ignore all screaming, rambling or insults as long as its bearable. But there are limits you know.
Only problem I have now, is whether to leave or not. I'm not sure if I can find the right job quickly enough and support my family. Bit I think haduken is right. I should be more optimistic, and try to do my best. Instead of sitting and waiting. Not to brag, but I have good it/working skills. So I shouldn't worry about finding a job.
Its grack
ranshaked
Profile Blog Joined August 2010
United States870 Posts
March 30 2012 14:43 GMT
#24
I'm stubborn as hell, and I would stand my ground on principle, but you have to be ready to find another job ASAP.

Shai
Profile Blog Joined August 2010
Canada806 Posts
March 30 2012 14:47 GMT
#25
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Immediately what I thought of upon reading the title of the thread.
Eagerly awaiting Techies.
haduken
Profile Blog Joined April 2003
Australia8267 Posts
Last Edited: 2012-03-30 15:17:19
March 30 2012 15:07 GMT
#26
Let me lay it out for you. What are your options and why finding another job is no big fucking deal.

You are young, that alone means the ball is in your court. You can get fired, quit or whatever, you can end up in the deepest and most depression shit but guess what? you will survive and your family will too because at your age you can tough it out a few years, commitments are less . Hell, if you really really can't find another job, you can pick up something like cleaning toilet (not saying you will lol) and still survive because you have years to burn to get yourself back on your feet.

Let's face it, company have no loyalty or stability these days, you can advance, climb and kiss ass and get your way to the top, then before you know it company go bust or make you redundant and if all you've learned is how to climb then you will have to climb again some where else and you will be fucked because you will compete against grads who are 10 years younger that can work faster, longer and cost 1/10th of your wage.

This is why at this point in your life, the only reason you should stay at ANY company is for personal development either professional or managerial or whatever floats your boat. Your long term goal should be as good as you can be in your field and network like crazy so by the time you hit 35 or 40 you will be so fucking good that you are indispensable to who ever wants to hire you and can demand your own wages.

Your boss contribute nothing towards your development, you can't learn managerial skills from this douche because he is fucking bad at being a manager, you can't learn skills in your own field because he always butts in and watches you and any achievement he will either claim as his own or sabotage and fuck you over so it doesn't make him look bad and if the company promotes fuck ups like him then there is nothing in it for you, don't waste your life there.
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Jibba
Profile Blog Joined October 2007
United States22883 Posts
Last Edited: 2012-03-30 15:19:17
March 30 2012 15:14 GMT
#27
On March 30 2012 20:50 Count9 wrote:
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Boss wants him to work with system X in development phase, so that after the project finishes he had total understanding of everything.

looooooooooooool That never works, ever. You just annoy the development team and or the slow it down massively if they actually have to make the person understand.

It can actually be extremely important, depending on what's being done and how it's handled. The OP and further explanation are a bit too vague, but letting developers/engineers run free without involving the end user in the design process leads to a lot of overengineering, wasted time on unimportant features and bad useability. The administrator has a better understanding of what he has to do with the system, even if he doesn't understand how to use it yet, which is why his input is important. He doesn't need to be there through the entire process, because he's paid to do other stuff, but in a proper development model he should be involved or at least briefly consulted from the beginning.
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Lysenko
Profile Blog Joined April 2010
Iceland2128 Posts
Last Edited: 2012-03-30 15:38:47
March 30 2012 15:35 GMT
#28
On March 30 2012 22:46 haduken wrote:
OP is not a blue collar brick layer, he is a young professional, there will always be a job out there waiting for him.

OP, you need to plan your career and future, you can suck up and take shit when you are >35 but right now, tell that guy to go fuck him self then jump ship.


Actually, it's the people over 35 who can sometimes get away with pushing back on things. The young employees are usually instantly replaceable.

To those who say suck it up: I always used to suck it up, I can manage to ignore all screaming, rambling or insults as long as its bearable. But there are limits you know.


Sure, but your description of the problem above didn't mention screaming or insults. If you feel the situation is harmful to your well-being, then yes, you're totally in the right to get out. If you're just having a disagreement over how to do the work, then you should be sucking it up. Two totally different things.

So I shouldn't worry about finding a job.


It doesn't matter who you are or what you can do -- however long you think it will take you to get a new job, triple that. If you're going to leave, do the sensible thing and find a new job before you do so.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lysenkoism
Chill
Profile Blog Joined January 2005
Calgary25981 Posts
Last Edited: 2012-03-30 15:40:29
March 30 2012 15:38 GMT
#29
On March 30 2012 17:51 bokeevboke wrote:
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On March 30 2012 17:14 Integra wrote:
Your are being to ambiguous. It's like a guy comes onto a forum and says "hey guys I just killed this guy, is this okay?" and all people goes "Hell no, what is wrong with you, hope you get to jail" then it turns out that the guy was kidnapped, sat in a box for 1 week and was tortured for 5 months before by a mistake the guy got free and had to kill the assailant since he had a gun stored in the house and would had shot him while escaping if he would had let him live.


I'll try to explain my situation in short. We have a contract with a company who are developing a system X for us. The system X connects to other bunch of systems of our company. Majority of the project is done, and we're going to finish the project soon. Problems:
1) The company we have contract with have only two qualified developers who are doing this project, and they're in tight schedule. Our system administrator has to take over the project after its done. but now, he doesn't have idea how it works. Boss wants him to work with system X in development phase, so that after the project finishes he had total understanding of everything. I tell my boss we shouldn't distract developers, or we gonna fail to deliver the project in time (which is very important since we're a government institution). Developers are totally against it, we already tried and its slowing down the project pretty badly. Besides, after project finishes, we have two weeks of training according to the contract.
2) two systems of our company have technical problems, they're not ready to connect to our system X. But they're already resolving the issues. I have general idea what the problems are and how/when they're going to be fixed.
Boss wants me to be incontrol of these problems and every specific details. I have no idea how those systems work and don't have any skills to help them. I've already asked them if can I help, they told me I can't by any means. If I interfere I'll just slow them down. Boss keeps on harassing me about that system, although its perfectly clear I can't do anything about it.

I would just tell him upfront that you need to make it clear to him that you aren't up to speed to handle this project. You have no problem managing it, but it needs to be your main focus for ___ weeks, and your other responsibilities will have to take a back seat.

If that isn't acceptable to him, then tell him you will either need to hire a third party and you will manage them, or someone else inside the company will have to manage the project and you will support them in whatever they need.

If he doesn't find any of those solutions acceptable then he's illogical and I'd start looking for another job.
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WhiteDog
Profile Blog Joined November 2010
France8650 Posts
Last Edited: 2012-03-30 16:48:06
March 30 2012 16:47 GMT
#30
If you actually decide to be stubborn and rise against your boss, no matter what the reason, then it is something you can be proud about because you are putting your ethic as a professionnal and your own view before your own interests (which is being a sheep and saying yes to everything your boss say). And that sir is a thing you should be proud of.
"every time WhiteDog overuses the word "seriously" in a comment I can make an observation on his fragile emotional state." MoltkeWarding
Lysenko
Profile Blog Joined April 2010
Iceland2128 Posts
March 30 2012 19:25 GMT
#31
On March 31 2012 01:47 WhiteDog wrote:
If you actually decide to be stubborn and rise against your boss, no matter what the reason, then it is something you can be proud about because you are putting your ethic as a professionnal and your own view before your own interests (which is being a sheep and saying yes to everything your boss say). And that sir is a thing you should be proud of.


That doesn't make any sense. Working with other people requires communication and sometimes recognizing that everyone doesn't get to have their way on everything. Unless you can do whatever it is you do in your life entirely on your own, with nobody else's help or participation, being "stubborn" or "rising against" anything isn't going to get you anywhere you want to be.

Or, it may be virtuous to be stubborn but only, ONLY if you're right, and it still might leave you out on the street in the end.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lysenkoism
arb
Profile Blog Joined April 2008
Noobville17921 Posts
March 30 2012 19:41 GMT
#32
On March 30 2012 22:46 haduken wrote:
Show nested quote +
On March 30 2012 22:36 Arkless wrote:
Ummmm, no you can't be insubordinate.... period. Only times it's really acceptable to refuse your boss is if it is unsafe physically or mentally. If it's just a direction you don't agree with then suck it up. He pays you, to do what he wants. He's your boss not your friend. It's kind of hard to comment without any information by the way.


Completely wrong advice lol...

OP is not a blue collar brick layer, he is a young professional, there will always be a job out there waiting for him.

OP, you need to plan your career and future, you can suck up and take shit when you are >35 but right now, tell that guy to go fuck him self then jump ship.

The guys still right though, you do what the boss tells you, that's why he's the boss.


if yout hink he's doing something stupid or really wrong go to his boss, other wise shut the fuck up and do what he tells you
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haduken
Profile Blog Joined April 2003
Australia8267 Posts
March 31 2012 00:37 GMT
#33
On March 31 2012 00:35 Lysenko wrote:
Show nested quote +
On March 30 2012 22:46 haduken wrote:
OP is not a blue collar brick layer, he is a young professional, there will always be a job out there waiting for him.

OP, you need to plan your career and future, you can suck up and take shit when you are >35 but right now, tell that guy to go fuck him self then jump ship.


Actually, it's the people over 35 who can sometimes get away with pushing back on things. The young employees are usually instantly replaceable.



You might be right, but again that's entirely dependant on the company culture. If your superior really want to fire your ass he will find a way don't matter what age you are.

My point is that at >35 you have a lot more commitments, quitting will impact your life more than quitting at a younger age. When you are young, you have options, at 35 or 40, you will have loans to pay and kids to feed.
Rillanon.au
bokeevboke
Profile Blog Joined May 2010
Singapore1674 Posts
March 31 2012 06:24 GMT
#34
I think the best way boss should act is to discuss and encourage people rather than giving undeniable straight-forward orders. There is a thing like motivating workers into doing something, if they are not motivated then they won't do it effieciently. Needless to say other project of our company, which is being managed by our boss, has failed badly eventhough their team consisted of more than 10 people. We're not gonna pay the developer company. And its gonna be huge problem, if they'll sue us. They have wasted one year of work into nothing. I don't wanna judge and say that its our boss' fault. But, I'm sure he could do better in order to finish the project in a more succesful way.
Its grack
Carson
Profile Joined September 2010
Canada820 Posts
March 31 2012 06:53 GMT
#35
On March 30 2012 22:46 haduken wrote:
Show nested quote +
On March 30 2012 22:36 Arkless wrote:
Ummmm, no you can't be insubordinate.... period. Only times it's really acceptable to refuse your boss is if it is unsafe physically or mentally. If it's just a direction you don't agree with then suck it up. He pays you, to do what he wants. He's your boss not your friend. It's kind of hard to comment without any information by the way.


Completely wrong advice lol...

OP is not a blue collar brick layer, he is a young professional, there will always be a job out there waiting for him.

OP, you need to plan your career and future, you can suck up and take shit when you are >35 but right now, tell that guy to go fuck him self then jump ship.

LOL bricklayer, ditchdigger, engineer or doctor this is not about qualifications, it's about being confident and assertive. Whether your job is "blue collar" or "white collar" it is still important to be confident.

@op: Stand up for yourself, but be right. If you're wrong, be a man about it, pride isn't worth a good job (assuming it's a good job)
"You have to remember something: Everybody pities the weak; jealousy you have to earn." Arnold Schwarzenegger
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