EPTMental discipline does take some time to develop...but like everyone has said, you're 21, its never too late to turn your life around. Having said that, I've never found writing goals down effective personally - might work for some people I guess...but look at all those "I'm going to be a progamer blogs". I find that repeating in my head that: "I'm skinny, I got shitty grades and I need more friends" fires me up to work at those things everyday. My mentality to greatness is that I want to be the son my parents are proud of, and the guy that friends will say: "I want to be like that dude".
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zeks
Canada1068 Posts
Mental discipline does take some time to develop...but like everyone has said, you're 21, its never too late to turn your life around. Having said that, I've never found writing goals down effective personally - might work for some people I guess...but look at all those "I'm going to be a progamer blogs". I find that repeating in my head that: "I'm skinny, I got shitty grades and I need more friends" fires me up to work at those things everyday. My mentality to greatness is that I want to be the son my parents are proud of, and the guy that friends will say: "I want to be like that dude". | ||
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keiraknightlee
United States301 Posts
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Misanthrope
United States924 Posts
The biggest piece of advice I can give to anyone in this position is to realize that you ultimately will fail in some regard, for no other reason than your design is inherently fallible. Know this, accept it, own it, then keep beating your head at the wall till you make progress. | ||
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EienShinwa
United States655 Posts
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mmp
United States2130 Posts
Behaviorally, animals respond to stress with either fight, flight, or freeze. You are currently frozen, unwilling to face the music (fight), but unwilling to walk away (flight). I don't think you're a flyer, otherwise you wouldn't have posted. If flight seems appealing, you should think about getting on anti-depressants & talk with your friends/family about the stresses you're under (talking is a good idea regardless). As difficult a time as this is for you, you want to move forward nonetheless, blindly if necessary -- you will thank yourself a few years later for sticking it out and leaving options open. So what about fight? I think your title "I am a failure" tells a lot about why you are frozen. You have failed in the past, so you are afraid of failure ahead. You could try for Berklee Music, but what if you don't get in (could you handle the rejection)? Why risk a fight if the battle can't be won? It hurts terribly to see your dreams fall apart before your eyes, but I think I have found the answer to this problem. In a nutshell, you're not dreaming big enough. What more is Berklee than an educational stepping stone? What more is education than a foundation on which to build a career? What more is a career than an avenue through which art can express itself and a livelihood can be made. What greater worth is there to art and livelihood but enjoyment, and enjoyment of life? So maybe you won't get into Berklee, that's entirely possible. That doesn't mean you cannot learn. Don't fight to get into Berklee, fight for knowledge itself. Maybe your career won't take the path you expect it will (few of us can predict where are careers take us). That doesn't mean you stop seeking the things that make you who you are. Don't fight for your career, fight for yourself. You're fighting simply for whether you are, or you are not. And the sooner you come to your self-awakening, the sooner you can start fighting. | ||
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Marou
Germany1371 Posts
I'm curious about your music don't hesitate to post what you do  | ||
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nanoscorp
United States1237 Posts
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MrBitter
United States2940 Posts
At one point in my life I had dropped out of school (without dropping classes) leaving me with something like a 1.7 GPA. I was building houses for 12-16 hours/day and making the kickass wage of $8/hr. But one day I slapped myself and got my shit together, and now I've got a pretty kick ass life. If you're willing to work, and if you're willing to sacrifice, there's very little that you can't do. But don't bitch about it. That's not going to get you anywhere. Instead, do something about it. Just fucking do it. ^^ | ||
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Russet
United States48 Posts
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Alisera
United States71 Posts
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Snuggles
United States1865 Posts
Absolutely do not slack on your education. There is absolutely no excuse for failing, even terminal illness. | ||
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mblaq_si
Great Britain19 Posts
1) plan revision ahead...make a wall chart, note down key dates (exam dates, deadlines, study slots) 2) pre-read lecture notes, and summarise. 3) After lectures read notes again, add addition notes to the summaries or rewrite 4) Always ask the Professor for questions and problems you are stuck on 5) make friends with clever students, see how they study 6) Key to passing exams is to do past exam paper along with your summary notes. 7) Dont leave assignments till the last minute, 8) create a daily check list ...such as finish notes for lecture 1 (this works for me..but the list cant be long) lastly you are not a failure, every person has so much potential, you have to unlock it with the right key (such as revision techniques, motivation, time managment).. Unleash the inner phoenix and soar to the stars!!! hwaiting! + Show Spoiler + ![[image loading]](http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_wWFJU8XXVaw/S6t8wmupk3I/AAAAAAAAAD4/Cfua-jqJkwI/s1600/FantasyFirePhoenix.jpg) Edit: I didnt realise you were a drug addict, perhaps you should talk to your doctor for help on withdrawing from recreational drugs. In order to achieve greatness you have to be healthy physically and mentally. Also talk to your Tutor and discuss your plans and future goals and difficulties. Do this Asap!! | ||
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Arthemesia
United States292 Posts
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run.at.me
Australia550 Posts
You should be proud of yourself coz change really isn't easy, but something that hasn't really been mentioned here is why or how you managed to get to that state in the first place. Unless your parents never taught you to brush ur teeth and shower daily, or never cared for school/ education, it would help if you really thought about why you started to act the way you did (or why you felt the way you did to not care anymore). It may make you feel upset to think about it, but in doing so you can see what lead to the problem and how you can go about making sure it doesn't happen again in the future. You will have periods of feeling down again. Feeling like a failure, and you will want to resort to the old bad habits because that is the easiest escape from those emotions. If you don't acknowledge and prepare for this, you could end up where you were before. This is all about coping mechanisms, doing what you need to do to make you feel OK about yourself, accepting that you can and will fail and that is also OK and you just have to keep trying and move forward. Your in a good place right now, and keep up the good work. Bit by bit, you will get your confidence back and self worth along with it, just be prepared for some failures, and don't let it bring you down. It's part of the 'growth' process, people like to call it. | ||
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Quesadilla
United States1814 Posts
On February 10 2012 06:30 mewbert wrote: dont post on the internet for sympathy/advice about your life, everyone has problems and they themselves need to find the best way to fix it because they are the only ones that understand everything about them and how they work. How about you don't post. Are you new around here? Teamliquid is (and has been) a community of honesty and advice for a long time, so ridiculing him for seeking suggestions of how to better himself is ridiculous. It probably took a lot of guts to write what he did—at least double what it did to make yourself feel better on the internet for 5 seconds. Be constructive or get out. And to the OP, I'm proud that you let out everything that you did. You've already done the biggest step which is acknowledging everything that you want to fix. All I can say is that you aren't going to be able to do all of this alone. You should invest in some relationships with the same attitude that you had when you wrote this, perhaps even show them this. Don't do it too quickly, let these things come up naturally in the relationships. | ||
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Paperplane
Netherlands1823 Posts
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affinity
United States266 Posts
Also, taking a picture of yourself every day might be helpful (see how you progress/guilt trip yourself by "what would this do to my appearance") Good luck man, way to be brutally honest with yourself :D | ||
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jyhlol
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NeedsmoreCELLTECH
Netherlands1242 Posts
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hp.Shell
United States2527 Posts
+ Show Spoiler + http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s7pF6_PeamU Listening to Nujabes has gotten me past my own failures and through the darkest times of my life. It sounds like music is important to you so I feel that you can benefit from this medicine as much as I have. `Zapdos fighting! | ||
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