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Some random questions and musings:
So, if I hypothetically see a random girl that I've never met before eating alone in a dining hall, would it be appropriate to approach her and start talking? And how should I approach her?
In general, what are your best ways of approaching random girls out in public?
So, I guess at this point, if I really want a relationship, I'm probably going to have to meet new people, hence the previous questions.
My urge to workout is starting to grow. Unfortunately, I've never regularly exercised in my life because I'm fucking lazy as fuck. Today, I did a few situps and pushups, and I jogged around campus. I really hope this is the beginning of a new era of fitness for me.
So, what is the best way to level up Restoration in Morrowind? Half my spells are failing, and it's quite annoying. I'm too stingy to buy health potions, but I might end up buying them if there are no good alternatives.
I should be doing my homework right now.
I recently got rank 1 in a match in Battlefield 2 on a pretty full 64-player Wake Island server. Felt good getting a gold star. The vast majority of my points was from healing and reviving teammates. I guess BF2 is a good alternative to BF3 considering my laptop can't run the latter.
I learned the hard way today that I should mix in Ghosts and Vikings when up against Broodlord-Infestor. Sometimes, mass Marines can't brute-force their way through everything.
Bisu's FPVOD in his PvZs make me dizzy.
Shit, I have a 5-page philosophy paper midterm thing due in 2 days and I haven't started T_T
I'm going to be riding on the ForGG bandwagon for a while longer, even if he becomes disappointing. Sometimes, you gotta just embrace the fanboyism just for fun.
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To answer most of your questions and concerns:
Just do it.
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On February 01 2012 17:53 Fishgle wrote: To answer most of your questions and concerns:
Just do it. But I don't wanna buy health potions
Gotta save up the gold for whatever.
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On February 01 2012 17:54 eviltomahawk wrote:Show nested quote +On February 01 2012 17:53 Fishgle wrote: To answer most of your questions and concerns:
Just do it. But I don't wanna buy health potions Gotta save up the gold for whatever.
lol i was referring to the how do i approach girls and I should be doing my homework and trying to start a workout routine. :S
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well, this is the most random thing ever. bored much? anyway I would start with the midterm paper, then the girls, I am lazy as fuck to so the fitness thing is bleh, but I do always choose the stairs over elevators and I walk everywhere on campus instead of drive, that has got to count for something right? I can tell you how to level restoration up in skyrim and oblivion but i don't really like morrowind so sorry about that.
and the girl thing you just have to start putting your self out there and yes it is totally appropriate to just start talking to her and see if she will let you stay or if she shrugs you off. just don't go meeting girls at bars if you are looking for a relationship. not the best place to meet a girl unless you just wanna hook up.
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dude 5 stars.
hahaha man GL with exercising
as to girls, my advice is start with an obvious joke! lol dude even look one up and just tell it to her. if she laughs, you can then be like "my name is _ " and then just talk . ask questions like "whatsup" and try to give real answers when she asks you back.
this means that even if she goes "nothing, what'sup with you?" respond with "oh , i'm just eating lunch, taking a break from my philosophy paper, " bla bla bla
ok hope that helps
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and YES to fanboying and also bisu fpvods. O_O
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Start talking to the ugly ones, so when you move up to the pretty ones, their impression on you isn't already burned.
+ Show Spoiler +I'm such a dick, sometimes
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I'm not an expert on how to approach completely random girls; most of the time I'm either introduced (by someone I already know), or already in a position of advantage (I do have pretty amazing piano skills), or at a party where alcohol plays a factor (easier to approach people). I guess the party scenario applies best to your scenario anyway.
I've been taught and trained how to do this, hardly any of what I'm about to suggest is my own discovery - as I said I'm usually a position of advantage and I never had to 'do work' to strike up a conversation.
So first, you gotta prepare yourself. Girls don't instantly turn you down based on your looks unless you're absolutely hideous or over 489 kilograms. Yes, that is a completely arbitrary number. They do, however, turn you down if they don't 'smell' the 'man' from you. Getting in shape helps not because you'll throw your shirt off to show off your massive pecs, but because it gets your posture right (as long as you work out right). Shoulders wide, back straight, confident walk, arms open (don't ever walk towards a girl with arms crossed) and top it off with a half-serious but not overly freaky look. Don't be smiling before you start talking. Sounds like a tall order but once you get used to it, it'll be standard by the 3rd chick you try this on.
Within 2-3 meters the girls should have already taken notice of you. Maintain eye contact but maintain your 'I'm-not-amused-yet' face, stand/sit close enough so that she won't be distracted but don't go too close that she'll instantly back off. This one is hard, I don't really know - some girls got bigger safety distances than others. At parties... safety distance is less than 1 meter. Anyways, you should give a nice opener. "Nice shirt" "I've seen your hairstyle somewhere" "Is that a genuine Coach bag" whatever works, but what I've been taught by my master is to go a little more arrogant. "You like what you see?" is a good one because it instantly establishes you as a superior specimen that she should take notice of. If she's showing off her prized cleavage, "your shirt matches your eye colour" or some bullshit like that also works because she'll actually instantly check, look back up, and go "whaaat? xD" with an xD face. NOW you can break your serious face and chuckle.
Introduce yourself or let her or whatever just exchange names, now you've started a conversation. Good. Carry on a good conversation and don't give away your entire bragging package in a 10-minute speech. Have a decent office job? Tell her you flip burgers for a living. Drive a nice car? Tell her you took your grandpa's bike here. Humourously defend your position. Basically by the end of the conversation she should still be guessing whether you're a zero or a hero because you told her a bunch of conflicting gibberish, but all of that was so funny she still remembers. While that's happening you should check for obvious signs (check fingers for rings, etc.) and as long as there's no blatantly obvious sign it's not wrong to ask her out for a date.
Establish physical contact early in the game by asking her on an 'active' date where it's so natural to just hug or high-five. Playing billiards is a good one because it's just natural to, you know, yeah. Even if you absolutely suck it's okay just high five after good shots and giant hug after someone wins. Bowling isn't bad either, same logic. Mini-golf: fantastic. Skating is a good one in the winter. Shopping in a mall - this one - well as long as it's crowded, it works. Big crowd, don't want to lose company, what do you do? Take her hands, of course. Make it firm to let her know you mean it, and then soften a little. If she pulls it away, it's not your lucky day, carry on as usual and take your rightful place in her friendzone. She doesn't squirm away, then good, no need to comment further.
Basically it doesn't matter if you suck at something, just go for it. If it's in a group with her friends, it's fine too, but not after the first or mayyyyybe second one. When you're stuck chilling with her friends for 2+ times in a row, you know it - the f-zone. Now, I'm not saying the f-zone is a bad thing, in fact it's good if you have a lot of female contacts (it's like spreading out your influence aura) but you wanted this chick as a girlfriend in the first place, right? So land a personal date and make it physical. Physical exercise usually calls for a nice meal afterwards, which is where more talking happens if you're that type.
In between or after dates, I have few rules about texting and calling that I've set for myself. Never text first unless it's absolutely necessary. Pick a day to text 3-4 times then for next 3-4 days don't text first and reply only with short one-word answers.
Anyways by then you would have figured out if she's someone you'd like to go deep with or not. Good?
Oh and yeah Bisu is amazing.
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On February 02 2012 01:04 OpticalShot wrote: I'm not an expert on how to approach completely random girls; most of the time I'm either introduced (by someone I already know), or already in a position of advantage (I do have pretty amazing piano skills), or at a party where alcohol plays a factor (easier to approach people). I guess the party scenario applies best to your scenario anyway.
I've been taught and trained how to do this, hardly any of what I'm about to suggest is my own discovery - as I said I'm usually a position of advantage and I never had to 'do work' to strike up a conversation.
So first, you gotta prepare yourself. Girls don't instantly turn you down based on your looks unless you're absolutely hideous or over 489 kilograms. Yes, that is a completely arbitrary number. They do, however, turn you down if they don't 'smell' the 'man' from you. Getting in shape helps not because you'll throw your shirt off to show off your massive pecs, but because it gets your posture right (as long as you work out right). Shoulders wide, back straight, confident walk, arms open (don't ever walk towards a girl with arms crossed) and top it off with a half-serious but not overly freaky look. Don't be smiling before you start talking. Sounds like a tall order but once you get used to it, it'll be standard by the 3rd chick you try this on.
Within 2-3 meters the girls should have already taken notice of you. Maintain eye contact but maintain your 'I'm-not-amused-yet' face, stand/sit close enough so that she won't be distracted but don't go too close that she'll instantly back off. This one is hard, I don't really know - some girls got bigger safety distances than others. At parties... safety distance is less than 1 meter. Anyways, you should give a nice opener. "Nice shirt" "I've seen your hairstyle somewhere" "Is that a genuine Coach bag" whatever works, but what I've been taught by my master is to go a little more arrogant. "You like what you see?" is a good one because it instantly establishes you as a superior specimen that she should take notice of. If she's showing off her prized cleavage, "your shirt matches your eye colour" or some bullshit like that also works because she'll actually instantly check, look back up, and go "whaaat? xD" with an xD face. NOW you can break your serious face and chuckle.
Introduce yourself or let her or whatever just exchange names, now you've started a conversation. Good. Carry on a good conversation and don't give away your entire bragging package in a 10-minute speech. Have a decent office job? Tell her you flip burgers for a living. Drive a nice car? Tell her you took your grandpa's bike here. Humourously defend your position. Basically by the end of the conversation she should still be guessing whether you're a zero or a hero because you told her a bunch of conflicting gibberish, but all of that was so funny she still remembers. While that's happening you should check for obvious signs (check fingers for rings, etc.) and as long as there's no blatantly obvious sign it's not wrong to ask her out for a date.
Establish physical contact early in the game by asking her on an 'active' date where it's so natural to just hug or high-five. Playing billiards is a good one because it's just natural to, you know, yeah. Even if you absolutely suck it's okay just high five after good shots and giant hug after someone wins. Bowling isn't bad either, same logic. Mini-golf: fantastic. Skating is a good one in the winter. Shopping in a mall - this one - well as long as it's crowded, it works. Big crowd, don't want to lose company, what do you do? Take her hands, of course. Make it firm to let her know you mean it, and then soften a little. If she pulls it away, it's not your lucky day, carry on as usual and take your rightful place in her friendzone. She doesn't squirm away, then good, no need to comment further.
Basically it doesn't matter if you suck at something, just go for it. If it's in a group with her friends, it's fine too, but not after the first or mayyyyybe second one. When you're stuck chilling with her friends for 2+ times in a row, you know it - the f-zone. Now, I'm not saying the f-zone is a bad thing, in fact it's good if you have a lot of female contacts (it's like spreading out your influence aura) but you wanted this chick as a girlfriend in the first place, right? So land a personal date and make it physical. Physical exercise usually calls for a nice meal afterwards, which is where more talking happens if you're that type.
In between or after dates, I have few rules about texting and calling that I've set for myself. Never text first unless it's absolutely necessary. Pick a day to text 3-4 times then for next 3-4 days don't text first and reply only with short one-word answers.
Anyways by then you would have figured out if she's someone you'd like to go deep with or not. Good?
Oh and yeah Bisu is amazing. You could try to memorize and execute this but you'll probably fail if you have that much on your mind. You only need three things: 1. be confident, make sure she knows you're interested. 2. be playful 3. relax
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