On December 20 2011 08:49 Probulous wrote: Welcome back, it's been a while
Was I the only one that thought FBI when I read you were seeing an analyst? Nice blog mate, really simple flow and easy to read. Have you got any ideas for post graduation? I know you were concerned about it, it would be nice to know if you are feeling a little more comfortable.
Good luck with the lady friend. Hold on to the positive stuff
She remembers you.
She wants to talk with you
She didn't run away despite your slobbery gob
Next time you won't have just finished being abused by a mouth obsessed maniac (sorry, dentists give me the creeps)
You're awesome, you can't lose
Have a great Chrissie, and I look forward to the next blog about your next succesful catch-up.
I avoid psychologist and therapist because 1. Woody Allen says analyst and 2. because psychologist and therapist is a loaded word to me. I like analyst because that's what he is doing :B
No ideas right now, I have a friend who will refer me to do public relations within EA, that's my only thing right now. I'm not bothered about doing something mediocre or small, I just want a simple, enjoyable life and nothing that relates to: "bringing work to home" sort of feel. I just wish I had more certainty in life, being a graduating sociologist isn't exactly the most job-prospective major.
Haha, thanks. She couldn't run away, we're on the same bus and metro. She talked to me, so yeah, that's a good sign. and I'm thinking about calling her soon, but I don't want to be too obsessive or annoying (I've already texted her a few times with movie suggestions trying to get a reply back, but nothing).
On December 20 2011 08:56 Synwave wrote: Kept me smiling while I waited for both my cheeseburgers and my Kings of Tin: It's a Rotterdam Christmas Charlie Brown! to start. ♥
Aah, so no windowless room, black suits and bad acting? Too bad...
Great to hear you are little more relaxed, life becomes sweeter if you can keep that state of mind. I have kind of the opposite career goals to you, I really want to bring my work home. Eventually, have my own consultancy so I don't have to kiss ass in a company that doesn't know left from right.
I watched Spirited Away for the first time this weekend, and oh my god I have subsequently watched Totoro and am trying to get hold of a copy of Howl's Moving Castle. The stories and characters are so genuine and simple (thematically at least). The joy of curiosity and wonder of living things just rings true. It's like watching my childood relived :p
Oh and if she wanted to run, she would find a way!
Nah, sorry. I believe Matt Damon would be more suited for that situation.
I'm fine with working under a corporate firm, I just want my job to matter in the end result of the company or community. I don't want to be under a Marx theory where I am alienated from my production and product and thus feel actually no attachment to the company I work under or the job I am employed as well :X
Yes, Spirited Away is a terrific film! It was beyond my favourite and may watch it again today :D! You should consider the film: The Girl who leapt through time, by far amazing! I enjoy the imagination of studio Ghibli!
Yeah, doesn't help with my situation. How do I tell a girl I want to spend time with her, but I don't want it to feel serious or under the pressure of the labeled "date". I just want good company like I said. Do I just say it straight-up?
On December 20 2011 09:16 Torte de Lini wrote: Nah, sorry. I believe Matt Damon would be more suited for that situation.
I'm fine with working under a corporate firm, I just want my job to matter in the end result of the company or community. I don't want to be under a Marx theory where I am alienated from my production and product and thus feel actually no attachment to the company I work under or the job I am employed as well :X
Yes, Spirited Away is a terrific film! It was beyond my favourite and may watch it again today :D! You should consider the film: The Girl who leapt through time, by far amazing! I enjoy the imagination of studio Ghibli!
Yeah, doesn't help with my situation. How do I tell a girl I want to spend time with her, but I don't want it to feel serious or under the pressure of the labeled "date". I just want good company like I said. Do I just say it straight-up?
Yeah, that's fair I guess. It just seems to me that as soon as a company gets medium sized, they have to start putting compliance systems, SOPs, and other restricting stuff in place. The risk becomes too great not too. It is that stuff that bugs the hell out of me. Working in Pharma I spend half my time trying not to fuck up majorly. Maybe it is just my industry.
ROFL, you are the opposite of most guys in college. You actually want to be friend-zoned! I don't know about specific advice other than cross that bridge when you get to it. The only reason there would be any pressure is if you put that pressure on yourself. If she wants something you don't, well I am sure she would make her feelings known. Deal with it then. In the meantime, what is the harm in just doing what you want?
Yeah, I am because I have intimacy issues haha! I don't know, sex is something I enjoy, but it doesn't get prioritized into either late at night or when someone is unbelievably appealing. I'm different I guess and I'd explain more, but it's awkward as fuck. Point being is that yeah; I have a sexual affinity for her, but I find a woman more desirable knowing she wants me too, isn't that what we all want? The point being is that it takes that much for me to actually try and go further.
I think the overall thing I want is to know she wants to do something rather than her doing the same as I do and waiting for someone to "cross that bridge" like you said. Isn't being over-eager something that gives off the wrong message and inflicts the idea of sexually-obsessive (She doesn't know that I'm not).
You're concerned, that she is concerned that you are something that you are not but you have no way of knowing whether she is concerned about the thing that you are concerned about...
Or something similar...
I can see why Woody Allen appeals (sorry that was harsh ). Seriously, you should play mafia. This is classic WIFOM. You don't know what she wants, you only know what you want. You can't make up her mind for her and I doubt that you trying to be on your best behaviour is going to make any difference. Hell you were slobbering last time you met and she still didn't bail. In short, relax and let things happen. If it becomes clear that she wants you, then you have your motivation to take things further. Otherwise you get to spend some time with someone you like. Downside?
As for this
I think the overall thing I want is to know she wants to do something rather than her doing the same as I do and waiting for someone to "cross that bridge" like you said. Isn't being over-eager something that gives off the wrong message and inflicts the idea of sexually-obsessive (She doesn't know that I'm not).
You do realise that obsessing about what she thinks is still an obsession? Being neurotic about something you can't control is pretty much insane. It is hard to step back if you are emotionally invested but that is the only way to let things happen. You can't control the universe, only yourself. If she doesn't respond to who you are, then sadly it ain't meant to be (bring on the cliche`s).
Alas, I have to go to a work lunch. Catch up later
I've got the vince gueraldi christmas CD at home, I learned linus and lucy a long time ago on piano. I'd post my favourites, but I like all the songs. I guess this one sticks out
On December 20 2011 09:49 Probulous wrote: What a mind fuck!
You're concerned, that she is concerned that you are something that you are not but you have no way of knowing whether she is concerned about the thing that you are concerned about...
Or something similar...
I can see why Woody Allen appeals (sorry that was harsh ). Seriously, you should play mafia. This is classic WIFOM. You don't know what she wants, you only know what you want. You can't make up her mind for her and I doubt that you trying to be on your best behaviour is going to make any difference. Hell you were slobbering last time you met and she still didn't bail. In short, relax and let things happen. If it becomes clear that she wants you, then you have your motivation to take things further. Otherwise you get to spend some time with someone you like. Downside?
I think the overall thing I want is to know she wants to do something rather than her doing the same as I do and waiting for someone to "cross that bridge" like you said. Isn't being over-eager something that gives off the wrong message and inflicts the idea of sexually-obsessive (She doesn't know that I'm not).
You do realise that obsessing about what she thinks is still an obsession? Being neurotic about something you can't control is pretty much insane. It is hard to step back if you are emotionally invested but that is the only way to let things happen. You can't control the universe, only yourself. If she doesn't respond to who you are, then sadly it ain't meant to be (bring on the cliche`s).
Alas, I have to go to a work lunch. Catch up later
Inception concerning! I didn't write this last bit because it's embarrassing, but we talked about her previous relationships and how she's been doing socially. She named a bunch of guys who didn't suit her number and how a few guys always inquire if she's single etc. and as a joke I went: "You do know the best way to find out if you're single is to ask about your past relationships." to which I inexplicably looked for a backspace key after blurting that out realizing that the joke may be misinterpreted. I don't recall her response, but she didn't get the joke (lol -__________-)
Have fun at lunch! I'm not entirely obsessive over her, meaning that if I just wanted to forget about her and it then it will be done. It's another trait I have which is just dropping things all together. they linger sometimes in my mind, but eventually get so buried over other things I can focus on that they become entirely irrelevant.
So there's that... yeah...
It's not harsh, I've always compared myself to his characters and Midnight in Paris even called to me more (the admiration and even romanticizing of a city). Yeah, you're right, for now I'm just going to enjoy my X-Mas vacation as it is, might pick things up in the new year and see how they go, not sure. My friend really wants to meet her too (he's in love with her already rofl), but I think I'll just leash him for now!
On December 20 2011 10:14 Porcelain wrote: It's about damn time. We've missed you. :D Your blogs (which I don't think are about nothing) are always interesting and hold my attention.
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Nice blog mate, really simple flow and easy to read. Have you got any ideas for post graduation? I know you were concerned about it, it would be nice to know if you are feeling a little more comfortable.
I am a huge Vince Guaraldi fan
