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They did not forget to call you. They communicated to everyone except you.
You were not invited on purpose.
You can ask all day long and they will tell you that they forgot or that all their phones got caught in an EMP because nobody in the world wants to be rude and tell you the truth. They didn't want you there.
I once decided not to invite a "friend" to my birthday because i actually find him annoying as fuck. Whenever he is around i try to be nice but i really hate his fucking guts. He asked me why he wasn't on the email list.
I said oops, my bad and sent him an invite. I invited a person i didn't like to my birthday just so i wouldn't have to feel like i was being a dick. I have known the guy for about 5 years now. I still hate him and i still pretend to be friendly around him.
You might just be the friend that nobody likes. Whether that is the case or not, remember that they didn't invite you and they did so on purpose. They didn't forget, their phones are still working.
When it comes to these kind of things it's pretty similar to when a girl doesn't answer your calls anymore. The universe did not conspire against you. They simply didn't want you there.
How should you feel about it? Branch out.
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Edit:lawl i thought the post above me was OP...xD
If he annoys you why don't you just tell him to stop being an annoying cunt. Seriously the most annyoying this ever is, for example, seeing someone make a post on facebook about how they went somewhere, then seeing "omg no invite?" in the comments. No bitch you weren't invited for a reason so stfu. Same should go for your friend,
Also he if he really annoys you and you don't like him he isn't your "friend" is he?
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On November 27 2011 04:40 Megaliskuu wrote:
Edit:lawl i thought the post above me was OP...xD
If he annoys you why don't you just tell him to stop being an annoying cunt. Seriously the most annyoying this ever is, for example, seeing someone make a post on facebook about how they went somewhere, then seeing "omg no invite?" in the comments. No bitch you weren't invited for a reason so stfu. Same should go for your friend,
Also he if he really annoys you and you don't like him he isn't your "friend" is he?
It's a friend i hate. That is closer to the facts then just saying i hate the guy.
The reason i don't just tell him to get fucked is because whilst the majority of my friends find him annoying, he is an old friend of one of my best friends. That friend doesn't really like him much either but at the same time things get akward if you just blurt out the truth and tell someone that he isn't surrounded by friends but just people that tolerate him.
I just balance out the drama that it creates with the advantage. Right now he tags along maybe once a month and flips between being tolerable or a thorn in my side for one night out. If i tell him to fuck off i would still see him drifting in the same social circles and he would just ruin one day a month with all the drama he would drag along.
Keep in mind btw OP that this guy that i hate so greatly doesn't have a clue that i dislike him. He doesn't have a clue most people dislike him. Hell the whole reason people find him so annoying is because he is an arrogant person. You might not think a 25 year old without a job or education has much to boast about but you would be suprised how much he spins with so very little.
I ain't saying you as a person are flawed but you might just not click with your friends. They might just tolerate you rather then like you.
We had a similar blog earlier about a guy that didn't get asked to hang out with his "friends" when they went to the city. It didn't take long to realise he never actually bothered to do anything other then sit and wait for his friends to hand him "stuff to do".
These problems are difficult because you are probably the worst judge when it comes to yourself. How you view yourself and how others view you can be miles and miles apart. You might see laughing faces when in reality people are just smiling to be polite whilst thinking "when will this guy stfu".
Them not having invited you though, that is a clear sign they didn't want you there. I know how a night out goes and if me or any of my friends wants a person to be there then they call or text or whatever. People do actually make the effort because if your a fun person then having you along for the ride only makes things more fun. They didn't all suffer from amnesia, you have to be realistic in these things.
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Keep in mind btw OP that this guy that i hate so greatly doesn't have a clue that i dislike him. He doesn't have a clue most people dislike him. Hell the whole reason people find him so annoying is because he is an arrogant person. You might not think a 25 year old without a job or education has much to boast about but you would be suprised how much he spins with so very little.
It would probably help if you were willing to call him out.
I don't really consider anyone a friend if they can't tell me what they think, or if I can't tell them what I think. You are just really afraid of conflict and it's turning into a weird passive aggressive thing in which you punish the person and they don't understand that they're being punished or what they're doing wrong. That's a really unhealthy attitude to have. Of course there's people who just don't take the hint when you are sarcastic/try to let them down gently, but outright lying and telling them everything is fine and laughing when you hate them... is pretty messed up.
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hopefully its just a misunderstanding OP. Just talk to them... I don't know why people need to ask what to do in these situations. Stop being a social butterfly! Just call them up and ask 
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It would be funny if they were pranking you. That would be pretty ingenious actually.
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If you have been friends for a long time I doubt there is anything more to it than a misunderstanding. My gf does this sort of stuff all the time... over analyzing situations which involve judgement. I look at it as be yourself and people like you for who you are or are not.
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So it turns out that this was a mix of a misunderstanding and some technology fail.
I mentioned in the OP that my cousin and I are very tight with one another and we talk about a myriad of things together. Let's call him Steve. Well, earlier in the week he and I were having lunch on campus. While we ate, we discussed video games, TV, our classes, etc. I brought up the subject of our friend's birthday celebration, let's call him Bob, that I assumed was still going to happen on Saturday.
Steve mentioned that he might not be able to attend because of money issues, and I chimed in saying the same thing. I had heard from people that this Dave & Buster's place was not that cheap. I didn't necessarily take his statement as truth, since I considered it as sort of joking around. He said it in a tone that sounded more like, "I dunno if I'll have enough money for his birthday~" rather than "Hey man, I'm not going since I don't have money." And when I agreed with him, I thought he interpreted it the same way I did.
Well, it seems he didn't.
Anyways, yesterday I went to Steve's house to chat about this. I found out that he met up with Bob at the library in the middle of the week and the subject of the birthday celebration came up. Steve mentioned in passing to Bob, that I wouldn't be able to make it since I was low on the cash. So, when Bob sent out the texts to tell everyone of the change of date, it didn't come my way.
However, on that Friday evening, about an hour before everyone was supposed to meet up, Bob texted Steve and asked him to text me just in case. Perhaps I would have come up with the money by that time and would be able to join them. Steve indeed sent me a text, but it never reached me for some reason.
I know this because while I was at Steve's house, he showed me the text message on his phone. I looked at my phone just to be sure I didn't glance it over, but it wasn't there. Eh, unfortunate mishap.
It's all fine though. After leaving Steve's house, I hit up Bob's house to give him his bday gift. We hung out for the night, kicked back a few beers and played some games on the ole 360. I explained to him the situation in its entirety and we both just ended up laughing.
Oh well, water under the bridge.
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I'd be pissed. What kind of friends are they if they all forgot about you..
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glad to hear things were sorted out
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