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This is not a help me how do I get this girl, how do I grow a pair of balls and ask her out, does she really like me or not type of blog. I really would like some information from anyone majoring in psychology or just with lots of wisdom to share to explain the state of being Limerent.
From what I understand, it's a state of being infatuated except in a greater magnitude. I believe I'm a regular college student that live a life that's very standard. I have great parents, friends, I enjoy sports, broodwar, etc. Nothing out of the norm. Yet, I cannot forget about a particular girl I had a crush on since High School. It's pathetic and senseless even in my eyes but it still doesn't make me forget about her. We weren't too close, just in a class together and couple conversations but that's pretty much it, yet five years has passed and I still think about her. Heck I haven't talked to her for years.
I sometimes go on dates/parties thinking I'll soon forget about her if I occupy myself with someone else but it never seems to happen... It's just bugging me why I can't seem to let it go. We haven't talked to each other in years, she's on the other side of the country and I would bet my life that she doesn't remembers who I am or that I even exist. Maybe I still haven't grown up yet.
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Well I still have dreams about a girl from elementary school (that's 10 years ago!), probably because she's the only person that makes my heart beat faster when I'm near her.
Back to you: Is there anything that separate her from other girls? you didn't mention anything about her in your post.
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Question is, did anything happen between you and her? Or was it unrequited love on your part? I think that may also be a possibility.
Given that she was at one point in your life, on a pedestal, she was technically ideal (if it was unrequited) and therefore in an elevated state compared to those that you may or are experiencing in terms of "relationships". As such, no one holds a candle to her in terms of memory as she is purely positive memory while others have both positive and negative.
But unless more details surface then I'm just speculating really.
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It's important to realize that what you're cherishing is a fantasy, not the actual girl (who it sounds like you barely spoke to or knew). Chances are, if you were dating her, she would fail to live up to the fantasy you've built around her. Keeping that in mind, realize that there are plenty of women around you who you actually have a chance to get to know, unlike the dream phantom across the country. But anyway it's good to be capable of such strong feeling, channel it into something positive.
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