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Hello TL,
This is kinda just a depressed rant about how hurtful facebook can easily be. So today I get onto facebook and I see 100+ pictures posted with some of my closest or what I thought to be my closest friends. Apparently they spent an entire day walking around LA and doing all this fun stuff. Where was I during all this? On my ass playing starcraft because nobody told me that this was even happening. Worst part was I knew something had happened over the weekend. Today I am talking to my friends both of them went to this event and something slips about the even and I ask what they did and they act like they didnt even hear me until I repeated myself for like the tenth time.
Even worse is that they said we just went out to some restaurant they didnt even try to mention that they just didnt invite me to this thing at all. I am only in high school and some might sya maybe their parents iddnt have enough room or something. But they can all DRIVE.
To make matters even worse this isnt the first time something like this has happened and I thought I fixed it and that I got into their heads and made them believe that I would much rather go with them than play starcraft2 all day. I made that point clear so many times and I thought this whole nightmere was over. EVerytime I even try to ask someone about it they get silent, ignore me, or just change the subject.
Now I would be fine if these were like just casual friends but all of these people I have know since before middle school. Every single one of those people went and not one person tried to stick up for me and be like oh why not invite him.
I am probably making a stupid argument that will be posted by someone later but I just needed to vent this out to someone because I obviously cant vent it out to the people who went and are suppose to be some of my closest friends.
Thanks for listening to my rant TL <3
TL DR: That awkward moment when you log on and see all these pictures of your friends that didnt invite you to something
 
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They aren't obligated to bring you everywhere with them. Let people have fun, you don't always have to be involved...there will always be other opportunities.
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On November 15 2011 16:22 johnnywup wrote:
They aren't obligated to bring you everywhere with them. Let people have fun, you don't always have to be involved...there will always be other opportunities.
I didnt say they were I am saying they barely think to invite me anytime they do anything unless theres like thousands of people going or something
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On November 15 2011 16:27 Dice17 wrote:Show nested quote +On November 15 2011 16:22 johnnywup wrote:
They aren't obligated to bring you everywhere with them. Let people have fun, you don't always have to be involved...there will always be other opportunities. I didnt say they were I am saying they barely think to invite me anytime they do anything unless theres like thousands of people going or something
you're implying that you're hurt by them not taking you with them. and you said that they spent "an entire day" walking around LA. That doesn't really qualify as "anytime" they do anything. You said they've done this before, but how often? Honestly you're being childish. If you want to hang out with them, take the initiative and set up some time to hang out and invite them, rather than beg for them to invite you
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On November 15 2011 16:30 johnnywup wrote:Show nested quote +On November 15 2011 16:27 Dice17 wrote:On November 15 2011 16:22 johnnywup wrote:
They aren't obligated to bring you everywhere with them. Let people have fun, you don't always have to be involved...there will always be other opportunities. I didnt say they were I am saying they barely think to invite me anytime they do anything unless theres like thousands of people going or something you're implying that you're hurt by them not taking you with them. and you said that they spent "an entire day" walking around LA. That doesn't really qualify as "anytime" they do anything. You said they've done this before, but how often? Honestly you're being childish. If you want to hang out with them, take the initiative and set up some time to hang out and invite them, rather than beg for them to invite you
If you read more you will realize I explain this wasnt a one time thing and that they dodged me asking questions... read more please before you comment
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On November 15 2011 16:34 Dice17 wrote:Show nested quote +On November 15 2011 16:30 johnnywup wrote:On November 15 2011 16:27 Dice17 wrote:On November 15 2011 16:22 johnnywup wrote:
They aren't obligated to bring you everywhere with them. Let people have fun, you don't always have to be involved...there will always be other opportunities. I didnt say they were I am saying they barely think to invite me anytime they do anything unless theres like thousands of people going or something you're implying that you're hurt by them not taking you with them. and you said that they spent "an entire day" walking around LA. That doesn't really qualify as "anytime" they do anything. You said they've done this before, but how often? Honestly you're being childish. If you want to hang out with them, take the initiative and set up some time to hang out and invite them, rather than beg for them to invite you If you read more you will realize I explain this wasnt a one time thing and that they dodged me asking questions... read more please before you comment
no you read more, i said "You said they've done this before, but how often?". Read more please before you comment >_>
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On November 15 2011 16:35 johnnywup wrote:Show nested quote +On November 15 2011 16:34 Dice17 wrote:On November 15 2011 16:30 johnnywup wrote:On November 15 2011 16:27 Dice17 wrote:On November 15 2011 16:22 johnnywup wrote:
They aren't obligated to bring you everywhere with them. Let people have fun, you don't always have to be involved...there will always be other opportunities. I didnt say they were I am saying they barely think to invite me anytime they do anything unless theres like thousands of people going or something you're implying that you're hurt by them not taking you with them. and you said that they spent "an entire day" walking around LA. That doesn't really qualify as "anytime" they do anything. You said they've done this before, but how often? Honestly you're being childish. If you want to hang out with them, take the initiative and set up some time to hang out and invite them, rather than beg for them to invite you If you read more you will realize I explain this wasnt a one time thing and that they dodged me asking questions... read more please before you comment no you read more, i said "You said they've done this before, but how often?". Read more please before you comment >_>
More then I can remember thats how often... each time they avoid the subject of why
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"There is one person in every group of friends that nobody f%#king likes. You basically keep them there to hate their guts... There's always that one person. I'm looking out and some of you are like "I disagree"....... well you're that person... you're that person nobody f@#king likes."
-Dane Cook.
In all honesty though if you want people to hang with you, don't come across desperate / beg them to hang out with you. Next time take some initiative and organise something yourself... or better yet go and do something with a different group of friends and "forget" to invite the others with you.
Trust me, I've been in similar situations, more then once, and I've found the best thing to do is go and find a new group of friends, ones that actually care about you.
But yeah... high school is horrible.
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On November 15 2011 16:42 ArcticMuse wrote:
"There is one person in every group of friends that nobody f%#king likes. You basically keep them there to hate their guts... There's always that one person. I'm looking out and some of you are like "I disagree"....... well you're that person... you're that person nobody f@#king likes."
-Dane Cook.
In all honesty though if you want people to hang with you, don't come across desperate / beg them to hang out with you. Next time take some initiative and organise something yourself... or better yet go and do something with a different group of friends and "forget" to invite the others with you.
Trust me, I've been in similar situations, more then once, and I've found the best thing to do is go and find a new group of friends, ones that actually care about you.
But yeah... high school is horrible.
Thanks for the lulz and the good advice. I think im going to try doing that for sure just kinda sucks when what appears to be some of the closest friends in your life can turn so easily
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On November 15 2011 16:48 Dice17 wrote:Show nested quote +On November 15 2011 16:42 ArcticMuse wrote:
"There is one person in every group of friends that nobody f%#king likes. You basically keep them there to hate their guts... There's always that one person. I'm looking out and some of you are like "I disagree"....... well you're that person... you're that person nobody f@#king likes."
-Dane Cook.
In all honesty though if you want people to hang with you, don't come across desperate / beg them to hang out with you. Next time take some initiative and organise something yourself... or better yet go and do something with a different group of friends and "forget" to invite the others with you.
Trust me, I've been in similar situations, more then once, and I've found the best thing to do is go and find a new group of friends, ones that actually care about you.
But yeah... high school is horrible. Thanks for the lulz and the good advice. I think im going to try doing that for sure just kinda sucks when what appears to be some of the closest friends in your life can turn so easily
You will learn this as you get older, but most of the people you call "friends" are not truely a friend. Even less so friends from School.
I had a massive group of friends at school, 12 years later I am friends with none of them. Some of them are still in contact with each other but its rare, when we see each other in the street or at a pub/club we chat and have a drink but thats it. I had another massive group of friends in my early 20's and now I only speak with 2 of them.
I can count my true friends on one hand, not because I'm socially arkward but because thats the truth of it. A true friend will drop whatever they are doing and drive clean across the country when you are in need, and of the many many "friends" i've had over the years I can name only 4 who would do that for me, and I for them. Thats the kind of friends you should be looking for, its better to have only 1 true friend in the world than to have 100 friends who don't really care about you.
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[QUOTE]On November 15 2011 17:04 emythrel wrote:
[QUOTE]On November 15 2011 16:48 Dice17 wrote:
[QUOTE]On November 15 2011 16:42 ArcticMuse wrote:
"There is one person in every group of friends that nobody f%#king likes. You basically keep them there to hate their guts... There's always that one person. I'm looking out and some of you are like "I disagree"....... well you're that person... you're that person nobody f@#king likes."
-Dane Cook.
In all honesty though if you want people to hang with you, don't come across desperate / beg them to hang out with you. Next time take some initiative and organise something yourself... or better yet go and do something with a different group of friends and "forget" to invite the others with you.
Trust me, I've been in similar situations, more then once, and I've found the best thing to do is go and find a new group of friends, ones that actually care about you.
But yeah... high school is horrible.[/QUOTE]
Thats the kind of friends you should be looking for, its better to have only 1 true friend in the world than to have 100 friends who don't really care about you.[/QUOTE]
This. It's also better to have one true friend than 1.000 facebook friends.
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I'm gonna go ahead and say that maybe your "friends" simply don't like you.
Could be that they are just bad friends and bad people, but maybe you're an annoying or unfriendly person and that's why they constantly exclude you. To be honest, making a rage blog like this on TL does not demonstrate the character traits that people generally admire.
Maybe you should go and ask your friends what they really think about you. Might be surprised at what you find out, and could help you if you do decide to switch friend groups.
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On November 15 2011 16:30 johnnywup wrote:Show nested quote +On November 15 2011 16:27 Dice17 wrote:On November 15 2011 16:22 johnnywup wrote:
They aren't obligated to bring you everywhere with them. Let people have fun, you don't always have to be involved...there will always be other opportunities. I didnt say they were I am saying they barely think to invite me anytime they do anything unless theres like thousands of people going or something you're implying that you're hurt by them not taking you with them. and you said that they spent "an entire day" walking around LA. That doesn't really qualify as "anytime" they do anything. You said they've done this before, but how often? Honestly you're being childish. If you want to hang out with them, take the initiative and set up some time to hang out and invite them, rather than beg for them to invite you
THIS^^^ no one likes the guy that does his own thing until everyone else comes up with something fun to do and then decides he want to be friends. + Show Spoiler +I inferred from your OP that you play a lot of SC2 instead of hanging out with your friends on a normal basis? And you've told your friends "if you have something to do, I'll hang out"? You need to realize that this comes across as "I don't want to hang out (be friends) unless you guys have something to do that's better than SC2"?
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Would be cool if you could have all of your friends write their version of the story.
I'll wait with my propper response till then.
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On November 15 2011 17:32 Loanshark wrote:
Maybe you should go and ask your friends what they really think about you. Might be surprised at what you find out, and could help you if you do decide to switch friend groups.
Yea, go straight to them and talk about it and then you're smartert. If they are really your friends, they will listen. If not, they are probably not really your friends.
There are people I know since the age of 2 but I hate them because they are fucking idiots, don't call people your closest friends just because you know them for so long!
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shit sucks, u need to learn to be independent and not rely on others like this . i would join a club like martial arts and start meeting people there, you need to expand yourself so you're not relying on just 1 or 2 things because when those 1 or 2 things fail you then you have nothing
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So one of my friends I've known since we were like 7 (I'm 23 now) and some of my other friends I've known since we were like 11 or 12 usually hang out and do stuff together... well one day me, and 2 of my friends (that i've known since 11) were at a fast food place waiting for another friend to get back home when we got a call from this girl that one of my friends really liked, she was going away for a while (joined the Navy, going to basic) and she was freaking out the whole week before and she had a going away party but we weren't invited (her mom didn't like my friend or something) so she was like "You guys should come down and hang out with us" so we were just like "Ok!" So we just took off to head down there, they live about an hour and a half away, through some mountains. When we got to the other side of the mountain we received a few text messages from my other friend we were originally waiting on and he was like "What's up? what's the plan for tonight" and the 3 of us looked at each other and were just like "oh shi... we completely forgot about him" We were in such a hurry to get down there (cuz the girls said meet us there at X time... they were late btw) that we completely forgot about him... it went on to be one of the most epic nights we've ever had... and he wasn't there... but it wasn't on purpose or anything...
So the moral of the story is... maybe they didn't do it on purpose? They just forgot about you because YOU don't ask THEM what is going on?
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I don't even think this is childish of you, because if they treat you like this (it sounds like you guys are pretty good friends, closest friends from middle school and all, they shouldn't be leaving you out like that.) there might be something that's keeping them away.
imo, confront them about it. The best thing to do here is to find out the truth, and hopefully they'll give you that.
If there's nothing wrong, okay. I'd say if they said that, I would find it suspicious. The whole going silent, ignoring, and / or changing subject thing does hint to me that they are purposely leaving you out. If there's really something wrong, and they don't like you anymore or something, just move on. You can't change them, or their opinion about you. You shouldn't have to change to impress them, and to stay friends with them.
Join a club, find a new group of friends, do things you normally don't, get to know people. Find people who actually appreciate you.
If they're doing things like this to you I wouldn't consider them real close friends anyway, and this wasn't even just a one-time thing.
Leaving one person out of a group thing hurts that one person, and also does crazy shit to their confidence. :/
my tl;dr? don't worry too much over it. just confront them, find out what's wrong and move on.
edit: @aike~
to clarify, what I gathered from the OP's post was that this wasn't a one-time thing, it's happened before, and he's already made it clear to them that he would like to hang out with them, and he prefers it over the video games he uses to kill his time and boredom otherwise.
that's what makes me think what his friends are doing is pretty horrible. :/
he's had to pretty much tell them that he wants to spend time with them, even though it should be a pretty close to, if not given since they're all such close friends, and it's like they just conveniently forget about him.
rude. ._.
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If they didn't invite you there is beacuse : 1) they aren't real friends and they don't give a fuck about you.
2) they don't find you enough friendly.
So if you want to be invited you have to be more fun with them, maybe try to be a cool dude. or start new relationships.
Or start not giving a fuck about them. If there's a thing I've learnt is that if you're not getting invited is usally your fault 
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