EPTthe best way to deal with this is to be more self-centered. think of it as you don't want to hang out with them, not they don't want to hang out with you. by being hurt by their actions, you're showing that their friendship means more to you than yours to them. once you change your mindset and build up more confidence, you'll get over being left out in no time
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tiffany
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the best way to deal with this is to be more self-centered. think of it as you don't want to hang out with them, not they don't want to hang out with you. by being hurt by their actions, you're showing that their friendship means more to you than yours to them. once you change your mindset and build up more confidence, you'll get over being left out in no time | ||
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Loanshark
China3094 Posts
On November 15 2011 20:22 tiffany wrote: this stuff happens all the time. you're only in high school, expect to experience more of it as you get older the best way to deal with this is to be more self-centered. think of it as you don't want to hang out with them, not they don't want to hang out with you. by being hurt by their actions, you're showing that their friendship means more to you than yours to them. once you change your mindset and build up more confidence, you'll get over being left out in no time Sounds like a great way to make sure that nobody will ever want to hang out with you. Sure, he won't feel bad about getting left out but then he won't have a friend circle of any kind to get left out of anyway. | ||
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FFGenerations
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Torte de Lini
Germany38463 Posts
It's still going on actually. I'm torn as to whether it's an insecurity of mine or bad choice of friends. After going through several friends and circles/communities, it's still a miserable mystery in my life. Can't stand it. I have no solution, sorry. | ||
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haduken
Australia8267 Posts
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Hynda
Sweden2226 Posts
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FractalsOnFire
Australia1756 Posts
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keiraknightlee
United States301 Posts
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iamperfection
United States9645 Posts
Day well spent. | ||
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aike
United States1629 Posts
So if you want to do something with your friends, send them a message asking if they want to do something  | ||
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zalz
Netherlands3704 Posts
But you were playing Starcraft 2 whilst you really wanted to be out and about with your friends. But is that really true? Because if you really wanted to go out with your friends why didn't you call them? If i have to call a guy every single god damn time i wanna hang out then i feel like i am dragging that person along. A person that enjoys hanging out with me shouldn't have to be dragged along. That said i have maybe 4 friends that i would call real friends and with noone of them trivial stuff like this would keep any of us up. | ||
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ilovezil
United States4143 Posts
On November 15 2011 17:04 emythrel wrote: You will learn this as you get older, but most of the people you call "friends" are not truely a friend. Even less so friends from School. I had a massive group of friends at school, 12 years later I am friends with none of them. Some of them are still in contact with each other but its rare, when we see each other in the street or at a pub/club we chat and have a drink but thats it. I had another massive group of friends in my early 20's and now I only speak with 2 of them. I can count my true friends on one hand, not because I'm socially arkward but because thats the truth of it. A true friend will drop whatever they are doing and drive clean across the country when you are in need, and of the many many "friends" i've had over the years I can name only 4 who would do that for me, and I for them. Thats the kind of friends you should be looking for, its better to have only 1 true friend in the world than to have 100 friends who don't really care about you. Couldn't agree more with what's said here. I used to think it was so important to know and have as many friends as possible, but as you grow older you realize that from all of those people you know from way back, they'll probably move on with their lives and forget you and most, if not all of the others they used to hang out with. As the quoted person said, it's better to have one true friend than any number of surface acquaintances, as I like to call them. | ||
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Orpheos
United States1663 Posts
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arb
Noobville17922 Posts
If they dont ever call you fuck em, find new friends | ||
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Roffles
Pitcairn19291 Posts
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BrTarolg
United Kingdom3574 Posts
No problem, just learn to scorn people in general, make a shitload of money and bathe in your success and hard work. Then go do stuff like read books and climb rocks But really, find a couple of friends who you can trust, if you don't have any, thats unlucky but i've been there a million times | ||
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Aelonius
Netherlands432 Posts
Ontopic: Either confront them about it or think hard. Do you really want friends that ignore you when you ask them simple questions? | ||
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Luepert
United States1933 Posts
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Mobius_1
United Kingdom2763 Posts
2) Take a million photos | ||
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YPang
United States4024 Posts
during my high school, i can safely say that i had 1-2 friends, however, even now i don't really talk to those 1-2 friends i made in high school because we go to different colleges and study different subjects, most other people i don't really know we just talk when we see each other. I had no female friends at high school neither. During college, my first year i faced the same situation as you. I think it was because i always felt like my ego was at stake wheather or not i got invited to events or not. As a result, i was that awkward guy that people knew but didn't really wanna hang out with... Currently as a second year, i can say that i have 2 good friends now in college and we constantly talk in class, and after class. I also made a lot more female friends in college as well after i let go of my ego. TL:DR: my story was similar as yours in high school and 1st year of college, but it got better after i let go of my ego about whether or not i got invited or not. Have the mindset of "you don't need anyone but yourself", and then awesome people will flow to you. | ||
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