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This is pretty much an advice blog about dealing with some annoying wierdo who has started calling my place. Here's the story behind it, and I would appreciate any advice you guys have about how to deal with this, and anything that I should watch out for.
Basically, I just moved into a place in a new city that my brother is living at, and on Canada day we went to a party at a waterfront condominium. While it was an excellent party, and the fireworks were amazing, for the entire party there was this weird dude who was apparently friends with the host farting around and chatting with people. I'm usually not very chatty until I've had drink or two, but this guy was a pretty big talker. He was a pretty odd fellow, and although I didn't get any weird vibes from him at the time he definitely seemed like a person with some handy issues. I try to do my best to be nice to everyone I meet, so I humored him during the party and chatted with him until me and my bro left to go hit a Timmy's at 2am (donuts taste better at 2am), and the whole experience blew over.
A few nights ago I got a call at about 9pm while my brother was out, and while I normally leave it for the message machine I didn't recognize the number and I thought it might be my bro calling from a payphone for some reason, so I answered it. Sure enough, it was that dude from the party, and he was asking for my brother. I told him that my bro wasn't in but I can take a message for him anyway, and he basically just gave me his home phone number and his cell number just in case my bro needed to reach him for some non-existent reason.
Here's where it gets a bit strange. For starters he was drunk when he called by his own admission, and he was asking questions about what my brother was up to which I didn't feel like answering. The other strange thing is, I was the one who ended up talking to him the most, so unless he's mistaking us I'm even more confused.
Tonight once again I got a call, this time at 9:30. He sounded more sober this time so it took me a second to figure out who it was, but once again he wanted to talk to my brother who is off island seeing his gf at the moment. We went through a similar conversation as before, and he only vaguely remembered that we talked earlier. Once again he asked a few questions which were a little bit more intimate than I feel comfortable discussing with some creep calling at 9:30pm so he can talk to someone about 25 years his junior. Worst of all, he asked "where do you live?" I told him a street that we live off of, but thankfully that's a pretty nebulous answer and despite that he didn't probe further.
That's the story up until now. I'm sure he'll call again soon, whether my bro returns his call or not, so I'm not really sure how to go about dealing with him. The fact that he's attempting to reach out to my bro probably means that he's a pretty messed up person, and I don't really want to make it worse by telling him to fuck off. All the same, the only time I like to tolerate dealing with idiots/loonies/creepers is when I'm paid to do so at work.
Do you guys think I should be concerned about him? Should I just tell my bro to not call him and when he calls back I instruct him on inserting his phone into his rectal cavity and never call again?
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Ask him what he wants? and if he can't come up with a good answer call the police, If there's truly anything you should be worried about I'm sure they have a history on this guy.. allthough you might have to find out exactly who he is first :p Most likely he's just really weird but not actually dangerous (like 99% of weird guys) but i think you should be careful if not worried at least.
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Just don't answer the phone next time he calls? Is he using a different phone number each time or something?
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Yeah he actually did use a different number the second time. He showed up on caller i.d. the first time, but not the second. Maybe he used his cellphone for the second call. Also, further development, he apparently has both of our facebooks. I haven't added him, but I don't know about my brother. I don't know when he tried to add me though. I don't use fb too often anyway.
I'm not really too concerned about him physically since he was a small and wiry guy, and I'm a farm boy who's worked out for 4 years (albiet inconsistently). Still, a knife is a knife, and unless I can scare him off by flexing my traps that doesn't really count for shit.
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NOT ADVICE AT ALL BUT:
post his facebook link?
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I know it can't be fun, but there's really no reason to panic over this and start talking about knives. In all likelyhood he's just a lonely guy with not even social tact to realise he's being weird.
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Be honest the next time he calls and say that you don't want him calling the house anymore. If he continues to bother you, then say you'll call the cops if he doesn't stop which should stop him. If he doesn't stop, then call the cops. Or you could just stop answering calls from unrecognizable phone numbers, since he doesn't really know where you live I doubt he would push it any farther. Dude sounds like hes either got the hots for you or your brother though, which is pretty creepy.
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OP be pullin' bros yeeee. Brag blog? I think yes.
To deal with your problem tell him you're involved with another guy, boom he'll stop bothering you.
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maybe your bro is having a secret relationship with this guy or he's buying drugs or something from your brother
did you ask your brother if he knew the guy or why he'd be calling? maybe he's hiding something from you bru
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On September 11 2011 16:05 Risen wrote:
OP be pullin' bros yeeee. Brag blog? I think yes.
To deal with your problem tell him you're involved with another guy, boom he'll stop bothering you.
I'd probably be offended by what you said, but I'm having difficulty understanding it. Although I don't have problems with homosexuals, I don't appreciate you implying that I am one, especially under these circumstances. Whether this guy is gay or not I couldn't care less. What exactly do you think I'm bragging about? What the hell does "pullin' bros yeeee" mean?
Anyway, I'm quite sure he isn't a drug dealer because for starters neither of us do drugs (I'm 99% sure he doesn't, but I'm not him and I can't verify that). I'm going to ask my bro when he gets back about the whole thing, and I'll figure out what to do then. I thought about it for a while last night and realized that this is just going to have to be a situation where empathy has little place. Whether he's just lonely, or truly is a creeper, neither of us have the time or should have to deal with it.
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why are you entertaining his questions?
why not just ask him what the hell he wants and why he is asking you all these questions
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On September 11 2011 16:09 DoctorHelvetica wrote:
maybe your bro is having a secret relationship with this guy or he's buying drugs or something from your brother
did you ask your brother if he knew the guy or why he'd be calling? maybe he's hiding something from you bru
I agree with the Doc, the most logical thing would be to talk to your brother. Maybe they know each other?
So much drama could be avoided if people would just talk to the right people.
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On September 12 2011 03:18 a176 wrote:
why are you entertaining his questions?
why not just ask him what the hell he wants and why he is asking you all these questions
yea, first thing I do when I get a telemarketing, survey, or just general unknown caller asking me a question(s) is say "what is this regarding?" and if the answer is of no concern I'll just hang up and ignore from then on.
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On September 12 2011 03:08 rad301 wrote:Show nested quote +On September 11 2011 16:05 Risen wrote:
OP be pullin' bros yeeee. Brag blog? I think yes.
To deal with your problem tell him you're involved with another guy, boom he'll stop bothering you. I'd probably be offended by what you said, but I'm having difficulty understanding it. Although I don't have problems with homosexuals, I don't appreciate you implying that I am one, especially under these circumstances. Whether this guy is gay or not I couldn't care less. What exactly do you think I'm bragging about? What the hell does "pullin' bros yeeee" mean? Anyway, I'm quite sure he isn't a drug dealer because for starters neither of us do drugs (I'm 99% sure he doesn't, but I'm not him and I can't verify that). I'm going to ask my bro when he gets back about the whole thing, and I'll figure out what to do then. I thought about it for a while last night and realized that this is just going to have to be a situation where empathy has little place. Whether he's just lonely, or truly is a creeper, neither of us have the time or should have to deal with it.
Wow that really went over your head? In the first line he is making a sarcastic joke. Don't worry, he isn't calling you gay.
Next, he is saying this guy could be gay, so you should scare him off by saying you (or I suppose your bro) is seeing another guy. Not implying you are actually the gay ones. Holy crap.
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On September 12 2011 05:12 Cham wrote:Show nested quote +On September 12 2011 03:08 rad301 wrote:On September 11 2011 16:05 Risen wrote:
OP be pullin' bros yeeee. Brag blog? I think yes.
To deal with your problem tell him you're involved with another guy, boom he'll stop bothering you. I'd probably be offended by what you said, but I'm having difficulty understanding it. Although I don't have problems with homosexuals, I don't appreciate you implying that I am one, especially under these circumstances. Whether this guy is gay or not I couldn't care less. What exactly do you think I'm bragging about? What the hell does "pullin' bros yeeee" mean? Anyway, I'm quite sure he isn't a drug dealer because for starters neither of us do drugs (I'm 99% sure he doesn't, but I'm not him and I can't verify that). I'm going to ask my bro when he gets back about the whole thing, and I'll figure out what to do then. I thought about it for a while last night and realized that this is just going to have to be a situation where empathy has little place. Whether he's just lonely, or truly is a creeper, neither of us have the time or should have to deal with it. Wow that really went over your head? In the first line he is making a sarcastic joke. Don't worry, he isn't calling you gay. Next, he is saying this guy could be gay, so you should scare him off by saying you (or I suppose your bro) is seeing another guy. Not implying you are actually the gay ones. Holy crap.
yeah no offense but if that's how you react to an obviously joking post I could see how you might be the type to overreact and assume the wrong intentions and motivations of other people. Though if everything you are saying if correct, then this guy does indeed seem creepy, but I don't know why you would fear him knifing you or anything dangerous like that.
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Yes, I suppose I did misunderstand his post and took it as an insult/useless remark to my situation. It's no word of a lie that I'm known between my family and friends as having difficulty catching on to sarcasm (it actually gets funny in it's own right). But seriously, could someone please translate the joke for me, I still have no idea what it means or why it's funny. I've never heard this expression before, and I interpreted it as something which I'd rather not repeat, especially when it was followed by the instruction of me telling him I was involved with a guy. I apologize for overreacting but I don't think that my interpretation of what was said was completely out in left field.
As usual, a few people pointed what I should've done in the first place. I'm going to either ignore him or tell him to stop calling. If he gets irate or keeps harassing me I'll call the cops. After my brother gets back from wherever the hell he's been for the past few days I'll just tell him to deal with his secret admirer in whatever way he wants to, which is probably what I should've done from the start. If it hurts Mr. Wierdo's tender feelings then I'll just have to live with it 
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