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Facts time!- YOU ARE 17 YEARS OLD
- THIS RELATIONSHIP IS 2 MONTHS OLD
- YOU WILL INEVITABLY BREAK UP
- SHE'S ALREADY LOST FAITH IN THE RELATIONSHIP
Time to let it go.
Oh, and also why the hell haven't you fucked her yet? Relationships should begin with sex. That's just how the world is nowadays. Also if this is relevant let me convey some advice that one of my older friends gave me when I was 15:Giz, never date a virgin! Surely you must be able to infer why.
One last item of note: If you have long-term intentions then this honeymoon phase better last at least two years and better include a lot of fooling around. Real good relationships take about a year before a major fight happens and about two years before the initial attraction dies down. Also if you want it to last that long you better start spending less time with her or she'll get tired of you real quick.
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On July 14 2011 04:35 Servius_Fulvius wrote:Show nested quote +On July 14 2011 03:44 Mogwai wrote:
well, correct me if I'm wrong, but I think the OP has long term intentions here. He said this in a later reply: Show nested quote +On July 13 2011 22:26 FiWiFaKi wrote:
Well at first I thought it would be really casual. But honestly weve both grown on each other A LOT. I mean we can both see each other together in years to come, weve talked about it together, and well. She put me infront of her parents numerous times, several times knowing she would get into serious shit, and she did, just to be with me, same goes for me. If they had been dating for a year or something then my advice would be different. This is the honeymoon period of the relationship. It's the period of time after a relationship begins characterized by an almost euphoric sense of companionship. And why not? Leading up to the relationship there was bound to be pent up feelings and a lot of uncertainty. This is where it all pays off! During this time you're both happy, content, and wonder how you ever got along without the other person. It's way too easy to make long term plans when everything is going so well. And then the honeymoon phase ends. I believe this happens when you need to start putting effort into the relationship isn't easy anymore. Distance does this very well, along with moving, going to college, a school year ending, taking a new job - SOMETHING that interrupts the honeymoon routine. It's at this time you realize that what you were living wasn't so much a relationship, but a vacation. Now you see each others' faults, shortcomings, and things you don't agree with. The good times are still here, but they're no longer uninterrupted. So yes, OP says "we can both see each other together in years to come", but this is normal for a young romance. I've had more than one girlfriend in the past announce their intentions to stay with me forever and with those same lips break up with me when the relationship became difficult. It's not just me, this happens all the time (hence many of the replies here garnering an appropriate amount of skepticism). Show nested quote +17 year old falls hard for a girl... I dunno, I tend to think of these as srsbsns intentions but that just be me projecting my 17 year old self onto the situation. if it's all in the name of just having a good time until High School is over, then yea sure, you're solution can work, but if he's looking for a real long term relationship here, I don't think it can really work if she's putting God first and he isn't. I dunno though, some people can make stuff work (for instance, I can't imagine marrying someone with drastically different political ideals, but some people seem to make it work *shrug*), so maybe again I'm projecting myself and what I'm comfortable getting over onto this situation. Just doesn't make sense to me how you could ever be OK with having someone be the #1 priority in your life only to be playing second fiddle in theirs to something you don't even believe in. I agree that if OP is looking for a long-term, serious, "we might end up married" relationship then this will become a serious talking point. My advice applies to the "here and now". However, I don't think it's reasonable to look so far ahead when you've only been dating for two months. At least wait until the honeymoon is over!
haha, well I'm also assuming he won't listen to this because again, I remember being young and in love, and trust 17 year old Mogwai, HIS SITUATION WAS DIFFERENT THAN EVERYONE ELSES, AND YOU JUST DON'T KNOW LOVE.
I also think that going through a relationship where you're certain that that person is the one and fighting for the relationship only to have reality slap you upside the head later down the road is a defining moment of growing up. I dunno, I just think there's some value is actually pursuing young love and learning life for yourself, cause well, who knows, maybe it works out (99% doesn't) but even if it doesn't you learn a lot about relationships in the process. at least that's my $0.02
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On July 14 2011 04:49 Mogwai wrote:
I dunno, I just think there's some value is actually pursuing young love and learning life for yourself, cause well, who knows, maybe it works out (99% doesn't) but even if it doesn't you learn a lot about relationships in the process. at least that's my $0.02
Agreed. You learn a lot through the experience! Knowing what I know now I could have saved myself a lot of woman-related trouble a few years back. We all have to learn somehow!
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Holy smoke, both the OP and responses... :o
I have nothing to say, but good luck!!
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Well you can A. Try and pursue her in hopes she changes her mind or whatever and tries to make the relationship work.... or B. drop her and move on.
Personally you two will both be at college and soon so I'd go with B. I mean you've been going out for 2 months, so scientifically speaking, you love each other more or less because your hormones are just going fricken nuts right now and eventually that will stop. Yes, this is science. Pretty much that's why you have this huge feeling of attachment to her right now, and eventually it will go away and everything will be good.
Also, if you choose to stay with her the same thing will happen, you may continue going out, but you may end up splitting because you've lost your feelings for her or whatever.
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A compilation of quotes
On July 13 2011 22:08 OpticalShot wrote:
*edit: and I personally love girl blogs, keep 'em coming!
On July 13 2011 22:42 synapse wrote:Show nested quote +On July 13 2011 21:52 FiWiFaKi wrote:
Hello, I know teamliquid doesnt especially appreciate these kinds of blogs What??? We love this shit.
On July 13 2011 23:33 Hassybaby wrote:Show nested quote +On July 13 2011 21:52 FiWiFaKi wrote:
Hello, I know teamliquid doesnt especially appreciate these kinds of blogs, First mistake. TL loves the girl blog (unless they're Chill, and I guess he can get out)
On July 13 2011 23:58 Kipsate wrote:Show nested quote +On July 13 2011 21:52 FiWiFaKi wrote:
Hello, I know teamliquid doesnt especially appreciate these kinds of blogs On the contrary, they are very enjoyable. Now where is ILOVEKITTENS?
On July 13 2011 22:04 NuKedUFirst wrote:
She's nuts dude, move on ASAP.
On July 13 2011 22:07 Romance_us wrote:
What? hahahahahaha. Find a new girl..
On July 13 2011 22:28 Stijx wrote:
She's crazy, leave her.
Now on the off chance that you still want to go through with this... I'm sure you've read kitties.
On July 14 2011 00:00 ILOVEKITTENS wrote:
Okay man I got your back.
Maybe convert to christianity.
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My friend's gf went to a christian camp for a week... she broke up with him shortly thereafter for similar bullshit reasons.
i wonder what theyre teaching there...
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so she went to christian camp to learn about self fulfilling prophecies?
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Kentor
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I would have seen that coming.
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tbh i think you should dump her
like honestly she puts god over you...
if she wants a relationship she'd set aside her religion and buncha shit that no one cares about.
EDIT: besides eventually you woulda gotten sick of her shit and dumped her anyway
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I guess there is only one thing to say : "OH MY GOD !"
Dealing with fanatics (of all kind, not only religious) is the best way to self-destruct and get and long and painful depression afterwards. Take my simple advice, send her a letter (old-school style) with what you think of this and break up with her. If she wants to be with you, she will change her mind. Otherwise you will have spare yourself a painful experience.
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She's a mental case. You know what to do...
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On the flipside my girl's best mate ditched their friendship because a plam reader told her they were not compatible, so maybe this girl is relatively sane...
Just sayin 
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Tell her it was the devil trying to trick her...duh.
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Dude man do what you want but me if she told me that I would be leaning towards breaking up. Anyone who trusts someone else for "seeing" that someones relationship will fail is not trustworthy.
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sorry dude but it sounds like a self fulfilling prophesy. true or not, it will split you apart. id suggest moving on, as hard as it may be. best of luck to you.
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i think she is a bit cray cray if you get what i mean, i'd dump.
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So I was really busy on vacation and I didn´t really have much time to post, but now I have a quick few minutes to make an update.
I talked to her, we both didn´t have much time so I decided to bring this up on facebook and she said she was thinking about it too. And she said that god or religion has never got in the way of us before (which is true) and that it wasn´t going to change. Truthfully, even after all that happened, and whatever you may think, she´s a smart girl and I trust she knows what she´s doing. Either Im really stupid and shes playing some dirty game, or she really loves me, and Im not going to take the former.
We talked after that on skype, we joked around, everything was normal, which is good I didnt want her to take it offensively. And I mean I get back on the 30th so there isn´t much to do until then. Also I bought her some nice silver necklace.
Ill post an update on the situation after a few days together in Canada again.
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On July 28 2011 00:43 FiWiFaKi wrote:
So I was really busy on vacation and I didn´t really have much time to post, but now I have a quick few minutes to make an update.
I talked to her, we both didn´t have much time so I decided to bring this up on facebook and she said she was thinking about it too. And she said that god or religion has never got in the way of us before (which is true) and that it wasn´t going to change. Truthfully, even after all that happened, and whatever you may think, she´s a smart girl and I trust she knows what she´s doing. Either Im really stupid and shes playing some dirty game, or she really loves me, and Im not going to take the former.
We talked after that on skype, we joked around, everything was normal, which is good I didnt want her to take it offensively. And I mean I get back on the 30th so there isn´t much to do until then. Also I bought her some nice silver necklace.
Ill post an update on the situation after a few days together in Canada again.
Well, it's good to here there's no animosity or anything. I'm a Christian, and to be honest, this whole "vision" thing really doesn't sound real. It might be some counselor telling her something, and she has some dream or concern or something. True visions almost never exist. Almost. But given you're not a Christian, it'll be pretty tough to talk to her about Christianity. If you really love her, do a bit of research and find some way of convincing her to let the relationship pan out first.
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Tell her that you were in laying in bed for hours last night and could not fall asleep because you were worried about your relationship. Tell her that even though you are a man of logic and rationality, you felt compelled to pray. So you got off the bed, clasped your hands in a cold sweat, closed your eyes harder than you ever have before and did something you never thought you would do.
The experience was liberating despite the fact that you have never prayed before and were not sure if you were doing it right. Your heart stopped racing and you were overtaken with a calmness that you could only describe as a trance, almost like a dream. You crawled back into your bed to ponder the experience, and though the sweat and worry had subsided, you remained awake with a clairvoyance that you had only heard about in stories.
You remember it perfectly, it was not a dream. You were in a field of tall grass and trees. On the one side you can see a house not unlike the one you had imagined growing old in, sitting against the backdrop of sunny mountains. There is a couple sitting on the front porch with two small children playing at their feet. Looking behind you, the tall grass and trees seem to get smaller and smaller, with nothing but whiteness in the background.
You felt compelled to walk to this brightness, and as you walked along you realized that the vegetation was not getting smaller, but was in fact getting younger. You were walking a timeline of your life, and as you continued on you again saw in the distance an exact reflection of yourself talking to her. You remember simply from the physical gestures that this is the conversation in which she told you that she was doubting your relationship. You remain transfixed on the couple for a few minutes, unable to move until the reflections fade, at which point you feel the wind on your back. It is cold, but not unpleasant. You try to turn around but find yourself unable to move.
At this point, you feel a touch on your shoulder. You want to describe it like a hand, but there was something different about it. You knew you were in the presence of God. As the wind passed your ears, you heard the the voice of God. You knew then that everything would be okay and that you had a purpose. He said more in a few words than anyone else could have said in hours, and you now want to share what God had said to you with her.
Lean closer to her, put your hand on her cheek and tell her
+ Show Spoiler +"GOD SAID BRING BACK HAIR METAL!" ![[image loading]](http://berlinavia.files.wordpress.com/2009/12/nitro512.jpg) Walk away singing this and never look back;
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