Just as the title says -- I feel like I'm becoming one of those stereotypical emo kids. You know, the ones who just make up problems for themselves and then cry about it. Yeah, that.
Now, I definitely do not have a horrible life at all. I'm young, employed and I have a significant other who loves me to pieces.
But here's what went down last night: I played SC2, lost of a bunch of games in a row. Then suddenly something snapped. I went into this spiral about how I wasn't good at the game (it's true, but let's be honest -- I'm in platinum league, which means there's a good amount of people who are worst than me and a good amount of people who are better than me). Suddenly this turned into a conversation about how my job was stressing me out.
And there, I think we hit it the mark and root of my issue. I dedicate too much time to my job -- taking on responsibilities I don't have to do and creating more work for myself. However, I'm kind of in the situation where I can't back out of it. I like my job and I don't want to leave it.
So, I need a way to release all my stress and ragequitting. I've been getting random illnesses lately, so my immune system is definitely cracking under pressure. I am on medication that does increase the level of hormones (also know as "the crazies"). If you're female, or you've spent time around females, you'll understand what this is...
tl;dr: I'm stressed-- what can I do to release all of this stress?
Question time!:
What do you do when you're stressed out and you're starting to lose base with things? And how do you come out of a nasty losing streak on Ladder?
wait what? what does all have to do with becoming emo? you could just take some vacations or do a little trip over the weekend somewhere relaxing with your significant other
Like POiNTx said, you just need to start doing things aren't stressful, or are happy. I find that listening to music always cheers me up, as it has a change ability to directly influence my mood.
On July 09 2011 02:47 josemb40 wrote: wait what? what does all have to do with becoming emo? you could just take some vacations or do a little trip over the weekend somewhere relaxing with your significant other
Emo in terms "making up problems and getting freaked out by them".
I had a vacation in early June. Flew to Montreal to watch a sporting event with my boyfriend. Had a great time, but then went immediately back to work.
1. Stay occupied. An idle mind is the devil's playground. 2. Stop that downward spiral before it can start. Once it starts, it's really hard to stop. 3. Give yourself the occasional pep talk.
On July 09 2011 02:47 POiNTx wrote: Things I do is:
-Talk to friends. -Listen to happy upbeat music. -Play relaxing games like Minecraft.
This works for me.
[EDIT] For the losing streak, just stop playing for that day, and start playing again when you feel confident and well.
): Most of my friends are still in college, so I rarely see them. They're all taking summer school. I graduated early and immediately entered the work force. When they do come home, they make ridiculous plans that I can't make. Such as, "hey wanna go drinking? It's 2:30 on a Wednesday! let's go!"
This thread was created only minutes ago. It should answer your question on how to deal with losing streaks, and generally make you feel better with your life as in the end, your problems will go away.
Say yes to "can you work overtime this week" to your full time job, end up working multiple 60+ weeks in a row. Then they don't bother asking anymore because they expect you to say yes, or do anything they ask. To be honest, the easiest way for me to prevent this from happening was to BS some excuses why I couldn't work late that night, or that Saturday. My work stress has gone down tenfold because I don't feel like I HAVE to get all this done, or people are gonna get pissed.
The reason you get asked to do extra stuff is because no one else wants to, so they go to you because it's an easy "yes"...Just start saying no. Tell them your bf/gf is expecting you to go out tonight or something...they'll understand. If they don't, tell em to shove off. :p
As for ladder? I find it's better just to take a break. Someone suggested Minecraft - that game can be fun if you're with friends or just want to ponder in your own creativity for a while, but find a game that'll totally chill you out. Something that doesn't necessarily have a win/lose situation so you stop beating yourself up if you screw it up. I find it's better to quit laddering for a while than try and bust through a loss streak.
This thread was created only minutes ago. It should answer your question on how to deal with losing streaks, and generally make you feel better with your life as in the end, your problems will go away.
On July 09 2011 02:47 josemb40 wrote: wait what? what does all have to do with becoming emo? you could just take some vacations or do a little trip over the weekend somewhere relaxing with your significant other
Emo in terms "making up problems and getting freaked out by them".
I had a vacation in early June. Flew to Montreal to watch a sporting event with my boyfriend. Had a great time, but then went immediately back to work.
ohh i got it, as all of the above said you could try to find new things to do or stay bussy, and if it persists or you feel you have been like this for too long, you could always go see a doctor. There are lots of anti-depressives and other stuff that can help you
This thread was created only minutes ago. It should answer your question on how to deal with losing streaks, and generally make you feel better with your life as in the end, your problems will go away.
On July 09 2011 02:56 Torenhire wrote: You sound like the one-year-ago version of me.
Say yes to "can you work overtime this week" to your full time job, end up working multiple 60+ weeks in a row. Then they don't bother asking anymore because they expect you to say yes, or do anything they ask. To be honest, the easiest way for me to prevent this from happening was to BS some excuses why I couldn't work late that night, or that Saturday. My work stress has gone down tenfold because I don't feel like I HAVE to get all this done, or people are gonna get pissed.
The reason you get asked to do extra stuff is because no one else wants to, so they go to you because it's an easy "yes"...Just start saying no. Tell them your bf/gf is expecting you to go out tonight or something...they'll understand. If they don't, tell em to shove off. :p
As for ladder? I find it's better just to take a break. Someone suggested Minecraft - that game can be fun if you're with friends or just want to ponder in your own creativity for a while, but find a game that'll totally chill you out. Something that doesn't necessarily have a win/lose situation so you stop beating yourself up if you screw it up. I find it's better to quit laddering for a while than try and bust through a loss streak.
Ouch, that's pretty harsh. :\ Glad you go through it though! I work in the same office as my bf, actually. lol.
My work isn't super stressful, it's just that the shit has been hitting the fans lately. I'm sort of like the first response team. If something goes down, I gotta tell everyone to get help. So I'm constantly watching the project, trying to make sure everyone's happy. I'm not the only one though. A lot of people are stressed out. I think I'm the only one who's showing it though/not handling it well.
2 months ago, I was like "WOO SC2 EVERYDAY! Partyyyy" Now it's like "aguhgeughuughhh is it sleepy time yet?"
I might just take a few days off from SC2, as many have suggested. The ladder's locked, but I still wanna play a little before it resets.
Regarding that video: Awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwe <3 <3 <3 While we're on the topic of adorable animals...
On July 09 2011 02:47 POiNTx wrote: Things I do is:
-Talk to friends. -Listen to happy upbeat music. -Play relaxing games like Minecraft.
This works for me.
[EDIT] For the losing streak, just stop playing for that day, and start playing again when you feel confident and well.
): Most of my friends are still in college, so I rarely see them. They're all taking summer school. I graduated early and immediately entered the work force. When they do come home, they make ridiculous plans that I can't make. Such as, "hey wanna go drinking? It's 2:30 on a Wednesday! let's go!"
Any other games you can suggest?
I'm playing Borderlands right now.
I don't have the biggest games collection so sorry. Minecraft works the best for me when I am feeling down. I think Borderlands is a good game too. I think the Portal series are good games too (if you like puzzling).
The game just needs to be rewarding and keep your mind busy. Starcraft is very rewarding when you win, but when you lose, you feel down. So that's not the best game.
Learn something new. I have this thing when I see something really cool, I want to be able to do it. At the end it feels very rewarding. Like learning to juggle 3 balls for example. Or learn how to solve a rubik's cube.
Also sporting like Kickboxer said would be good too if you like too sport. Personally I don't, but for a lot of people that works too.
On July 09 2011 02:47 josemb40 wrote: wait what? what does all have to do with becoming emo? you could just take some vacations or do a little trip over the weekend somewhere relaxing with your significant other
Emo in terms "making up problems and getting freaked out by them".
I had a vacation in early June. Flew to Montreal to watch a sporting event with my boyfriend. Had a great time, but then went immediately back to work.
ohh i got it, as all of the above said you could try to find new things to do or stay bussy, and if it persists or you feel you have been like this for too long, you could always go see a doctor. There are lots of anti-depressives and other stuff that can help you
The doctor's always an option, but I don't wanna get ahead of myself. I've been doing some internet sleuthing on anxiety and emotional control. If things get worse, I'll definitely seek some sort expert advice.
Making this blog post was actually pretty therapeutic. Hooray catharsis!
I've had the same thing happen to me with the "downward spiral" about not being good at this game... ect. and i beat GM's every day =/ funny, and somewhat comforting that someone would have it even at diamond level.. I just find ways to relax as much as possible when i get stressed. "Watch american dad/family guy" or just play some TF2 or doom3. : )
On July 09 2011 02:47 josemb40 wrote: wait what? what does all have to do with becoming emo? you could just take some vacations or do a little trip over the weekend somewhere relaxing with your significant other
Emo in terms "making up problems and getting freaked out by them".
I had a vacation in early June. Flew to Montreal to watch a sporting event with my boyfriend. Had a great time, but then went immediately back to work.
ohh i got it, as all of the above said you could try to find new things to do or stay bussy, and if it persists or you feel you have been like this for too long, you could always go see a doctor. There are lots of anti-depressives and other stuff that can help you
The doctor's always an option, but I don't wanna get ahead of myself. I've been doing some internet sleuthing on anxiety and emotional control. If things get worse, I'll definitely seek some sort expert advice.
Making this blog post was actually pretty therapeutic. Hooray catharsis!
I had a girlfriend back when I was having issues - she helped a lot. I've got a super bad inferiority complex, but she kicked my ass back into shape, hahaha. Talking about it and just finding someone who is a good venting target is also really handy.
The red pandas were cute but Boo is still the cutest thing ever!! :p
On July 09 2011 02:47 POiNTx wrote: Things I do is:
-Talk to friends. -Listen to happy upbeat music. -Play relaxing games like Minecraft.
This works for me.
[EDIT] For the losing streak, just stop playing for that day, and start playing again when you feel confident and well.
): Most of my friends are still in college, so I rarely see them. They're all taking summer school. I graduated early and immediately entered the work force. When they do come home, they make ridiculous plans that I can't make. Such as, "hey wanna go drinking? It's 2:30 on a Wednesday! let's go!"
Any other games you can suggest?
I'm playing Borderlands right now.
I don't have the biggest games collection so sorry. Minecraft works the best for me when I am feeling down. I think Borderlands is a good game too. I think the Portal series are good games too (if you like puzzling).
The game just needs to be rewarding and keep your mind busy. Starcraft is very rewarding when you win, but when you lose, you feel down. So that's not the best game.
Learn something new. I have this thing when I see something really cool, I want to be able to do it. At the end it feels very rewarding. Like learning to juggle 3 balls for example. Or learn how to solve a rubik's cube.
Also sporting like Kickboxer said would be good too if you like too sport. Personally I don't, but for a lot of people that works too.
I honestly have yet to check out Portal. My game collection is super small, and they're mostly shooter games for Xbox.
I have a rubiks cube on my desk that I received from a conference. So maybe I'll try learning how to solve it since everybody scrambles it when I'm not looking. ):
I used to do motorsports, specifically kart racing. But I had to quit the super competitive side of it because of college. I haven't raced in a few months just because the season's on a 2 month break period. Also it's pretty darn expensive too.
On July 09 2011 02:47 josemb40 wrote: wait what? what does all have to do with becoming emo? you could just take some vacations or do a little trip over the weekend somewhere relaxing with your significant other
Emo in terms "making up problems and getting freaked out by them".
I had a vacation in early June. Flew to Montreal to watch a sporting event with my boyfriend. Had a great time, but then went immediately back to work.
ohh i got it, as all of the above said you could try to find new things to do or stay bussy, and if it persists or you feel you have been like this for too long, you could always go see a doctor. There are lots of anti-depressives and other stuff that can help you
The doctor's always an option, but I don't wanna get ahead of myself. I've been doing some internet sleuthing on anxiety and emotional control. If things get worse, I'll definitely seek some sort expert advice.
Making this blog post was actually pretty therapeutic. Hooray catharsis!
I had a girlfriend back when I was having issues - she helped a lot. I've got a super bad inferiority complex, but she kicked my ass back into shape, hahaha. Talking about it and just finding someone who is a good venting target is also really handy.
The red pandas were cute but Boo is still the cutest thing ever!! :p
Yeah, my boyfriend has been completely supportive of me. He's even skimming women's blogs (Lolololol poor guy...) and trying to find some solutions for me. It's definitely helping out, but for sure I'm not back to 100%.
Dude, just chill. It's not like you can ever achieve anything worthwhile or great in life so why stress about it. Eventually your car will run out of gas anyways, you can take your hands off the steering wheel every now and then or even take a nap on the passenger seat.
Staying busy doesn't make your life any more enjoyable, you just won't have the time to even try to enjoy.
On July 09 2011 03:10 HaruHaru wrote: you should go workout at the gym or run. exercising helps a lot in terms of stress relief.
I feel like this is the best advice in the thread. You may not feel like you have the energy at first but once you push through that your body will reward you. Also you will be doing something to become more healthy. Win/win
On July 09 2011 02:47 POiNTx wrote: Things I do is:
-Talk to friends. -Listen to happy upbeat music. -Play relaxing games like Minecraft. .
Minecraft is not relaxing, its so damn stressful going down into those dark and scary caves o.O damn skelingtongs.
On topic: If your stressed mate, make sure you get plenty of sleep. With regards to your job just try to take on the extra work you got currently and finish it and just don't go down that road again. Finally, if you are stressed, and I mean really stressed, playing StarCraft is not a good thing to play, because you can make silly decisions in game which causes you to lose which causes you to rage which causes a racing heart which makes everything terrible. Take a break from StarCraft and play something else. Hang with your significant other, is a long weekend coming up? Take a vacation to a beach or something you both really enjoy.
On July 09 2011 02:47 POiNTx wrote: Things I do is:
-Talk to friends. -Listen to happy upbeat music. -Play relaxing games like Minecraft. .
Minecraft is not relaxing, its so damn stressful going down into those dark and scary caves o.O damn skelingtongs.
On topic: If your stressed mate, make sure you get plenty of sleep. With regards to your job just try to take on the extra work you got currently and finish it and just don't go down that road again. Finally, if you are stressed, and I mean really stressed, playing StarCraft is not a good thing to play, because you can make silly decisions in game which causes you to lose which causes you to rage which causes a racing heart which makes everything terrible. Take a break from StarCraft and play something else. Hang with your significant other, is a long weekend coming up? Take a vacation to a beach or something you both really enjoy.
Yeah, I definitely have not been getting a good night's sleep. I get around maybe 6.5 - 7hrs on the weekdays, if I'm lucky.
We've got a regular weekend (our long weekend just passed for 4th of July). Hopefully I can make the most of it.
yesterday i went on a losing streak and was so pissed but didnt want to make a lot of noise so i bit into this steel part of an object on my desk, chipped my tooth and was in a lot of pain. after that i wasnt so frustrated tho
I was just linked to this thread, but my boyfriend is like the same way. He starts losing matches and compleeeeetely rages out. All I can do is listen, and sometimes it's really hard because he gets so mad, and I try to just keep calm and tell him it's okay, it's a game. He's a master league terran, so he gets really upset when he's not doing as well as he should, because sometimes he has focus problems, and once he starts losing, he panics and goes for quick wins when he shouldn't.
If you can change your mentality in SC2 so that you think of every game as a learning experience (I have trouble with this too), maybe you will be able to control your anger (and downward spiral from there) better. Force yourself to watch the replay after the loss and then complain about how bad the other player was and what you should have done. Sometimes it's just one simple reason why you lost, sometimes it's a lot of little things.
And if you're not having fun with the game, stop playing. Take a break. Do something else with your time.
Whoever said exercise is also right, or something tension-relieving like kickboxing or punching a bag. xD
P.S. Rubik's cube is maddening. I can solve it, but you might be tempted to throw your cube across the room.
On July 09 2011 11:59 Liquid`HuK wrote: yesterday i went on a losing streak and was so pissed but didnt want to make a lot of noise so i bit into this steel part of an object on my desk, chipped my tooth and was in a lot of pain. after that i wasnt so frustrated tho
On July 09 2011 02:47 POiNTx wrote: Things I do is:
-Talk to friends. -Listen to happy upbeat music. -Play relaxing games like Minecraft. .
Minecraft is not relaxing, its so damn stressful going down into those dark and scary caves o.O damn skelingtongs.
On topic: If your stressed mate, make sure you get plenty of sleep. With regards to your job just try to take on the extra work you got currently and finish it and just don't go down that road again. Finally, if you are stressed, and I mean really stressed, playing StarCraft is not a good thing to play, because you can make silly decisions in game which causes you to lose which causes you to rage which causes a racing heart which makes everything terrible. Take a break from StarCraft and play something else. Hang with your significant other, is a long weekend coming up? Take a vacation to a beach or something you both really enjoy.
Yeah, I definitely have not been getting a good night's sleep. I get around maybe 6.5 - 7hrs on the weekdays, if I'm lucky.
We've got a regular weekend (our long weekend just passed for 4th of July). Hopefully I can make the most of it.
Try to fix that. My brain doesn't function properly when I get too little sleep i.e. < 8-9 hours every day.
On July 09 2011 11:59 Liquid`HuK wrote: yesterday i went on a losing streak and was so pissed but didnt want to make a lot of noise so i bit into this steel part of an object on my desk, chipped my tooth and was in a lot of pain. after that i wasnt so frustrated tho
There should be a "Like" button here like Facebook :D
On July 09 2011 03:09 kierpanda wrote: Making this blog post was actually pretty therapeutic. Hooray catharsis!
Yah, TL is great for stuff like that. People on here are generally pretty nice and don't instantly assume stuff about you (Most of the time) Honestly I find exercise and talking to people I trust helps me deal with stress (Even if its over the phone). If you have any hills/mountains nearby and it usually gets foggy in the morning, I suggest you go up there early and check out the view. Seeing a city in fog is probably one of the coolest things to see anyway.
Oh and watch replays if you want to do something SC related! I find that commentating random replays to myself with ridicious accents, etc is fun
Rock climbing. Best way to release stress ever. Really, any physical exercise will work as long as you focus all your attention on it. But I've found rock climbing to be the best for it.
As for SC2, play for fun. Try some funday monday builds or play some casual 2v2/3v3.
And finally, as for work...spend a week focusing on the two most important things about your job. And don't worry about anything else.
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Sometimes it's just one simple reason why you lost, sometimes it's a lot of little things.
anyway, hope you're getting better tho
