Man so much wall of text and I don't think I read it carefully enough to fully absorb it all in one run, but I just got the impression you missed out on a couple good chances before it all came down to that drunk night. Girls are fast at noticing stuff...

Well now that it's happened, I'd advise you to let things settle down and don't push anything more to "happen" with her.

Shiverfish

Canada95 Posts

July 01 2011 05:04 GMT

#42

The important thing is that you stepped up and made your move. How she responds is entirely up to her and there isn't anything you can do to change it. There is no further action required from you to "convince" her that you would be good together. Sometimes fate just delivers the wrong thing and you have to play with what you got.
Now that you've already put it out there, you can move on with no regrets that you didn't give it a decent try. Not everyone can say the same.

Torenhire

United States11681 Posts

July 01 2011 05:11 GMT

#43

On June 30 2011 08:22 GhostKorean wrote:
Someone really needs to make a "general dating & relationships thread for any and all questions" answered by teamliquid professionals in dating and relationships. There are just so many girl blogs I can't expect to find a decent blog under all this

Find the "Ask Kennigit" Thread.

Get laid 10x more often. Guaranteed!

doobyscoob

United States2 Posts

July 03 2011 08:43 GMT

#44

number one rule.. there are no fucking rules.. dont make things complicated. if you want her, you go for her - now think about it, if you don't, don't try to convince yourself that you actually want her. now go kick some ass

Ventil

Sweden414 Posts

July 03 2011 09:44 GMT

#45

Never feel awkward for anything. You wanna talk to her? Then talk to her. You wanna run around naked? Then just do it! Always do what you feel is right, regardless of how embarrassing or awkward things might feel.
She said she wanted to see you again? That's great! Even though she might not feel the same for you as you do towards her (yet!), it doesn't matter! You're great friends, and that's not so bad either, right? Just because you dropped the bomb and told her you loved her, it doesn't mean your friendship and everything you feel for her is forever ruined, right? Just take a step back, accept the situation and just smile at life, because life is awesome. *knucklebumps*

POiNTx

Belgium309 Posts

July 03 2011 09:50 GMT

#46

So much diversion in people's opinion lol.

I actually made up my mind. I am going to ask her out. Zlasher convinced me with a PM he sent. If it's super awkward and stupid, well that's a lesson that will be burned into my memory for the rest of my life, and I accept that. I realized it's this kind of experiences that I will need. If I don't grab this chance now, maybe somewhere in the future I will be facing the same problem and still don't know what to do if I don't act now.

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On July 03 2011 18:44 Obbeskrutt wrote:
*knucklebumps*

*knucklebumps*

PyroCat

United Kingdom14 Posts

July 03 2011 16:43 GMT

#47

My advice is to just be honest and say, 'look, I really like you, why don't we give this a try and see how it works out?' Go out and do something casual and fun. Go for a coffee, go exploring in the city, go look at some cool shit. Just the fact that she knows you're on a date changes the whole dynamic of the relationship. Since you've already made it clear you like her, it's very unlikely you'll be friends the same way again - so you might as well take the chance and go for it. Otherwise, like you said, there will be regrets.

In terms of the whole "game" thing, I personally think it's, at worst, a whole load of bullshit, and at best, it just gets in the way. Just have the balls to suggest you go out and see how things go and learn things on your own.

I spent years of my life learning this and there are so many girls I regret not asking out in the last two years. Thankfully I'm still young so I have loads of chances left with other girls, and so do you. So give it a shot and see how it works out. And if it doesn't, then you will have that experience under your belt and you will be better off for it.

AMaidensWrath

Belgium206 Posts

July 03 2011 17:11 GMT

#48

I ordered a third beer to drink for some courage, finished it, and went to her. I kissed her on the cheek and we started talking. It went very fluent because I was a bit drunk. I still had everything under control. We took some pictures with her friends and I went back to my group. I ordered another beer. And another one. And another one.

Jupiler? Duvel? What was it?

Sorry to hear that it didn't work out. If I was in your shoes, I'd break off contact and try to get over her. It sounds like she's not interested in more than just being friends...

POiNTx

Belgium309 Posts

July 03 2011 17:54 GMT

#49

On July 04 2011 02:11 AMaidensWrath wrote:

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Leffe (blond en donker) and Jupiler

Sinklarr

Spain18 Posts

July 03 2011 21:16 GMT

#50

I was once in a kind of similar situation a couple of years ago. I went to my best friend and told her that i loved her. She said she didn't and it felt so awkward, but surprisingly we kept being friends (now we still are pretty good friends). I think it was because we just kept acting natural and just kind of started over.
Try to let it be for a while, and then... whatever it comes will come good. Just relax