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Wall of text incoming (but hey its drama! the most exciting kind of writing)
i also have a habit of using profanity
Prom is Friday next week, and guess what? I don't have a date.
It's not like i'm a total vagina and have never spoken to girls before, but where i'm from its the capital of scandalous bitches and hoes. They call it "Scandalous OC" (Orange County, CA). Why? Because for some sick reason it is okay to accept a boy's (me) invitation to accompany him to prom, wait two weeks later and tell him you (her) already promised someone else to go with them.
You know what the thing that got me sick to my stomach is? She has to pay for that kid's whole prom package. While on this side we would've split the cost. Where is the logical reasoning in this? She offers to take a bum who isn't even going to pay for the fucking tickets to prom, at the same time agreeing to be my date, then calling the whole shit off one week before the event.
Scandalous O.C it is. She mustered up the fucking gut to call my homie before she calls me and tell him about how she feel awful (probably not) about calling off the date and how she will make it up. I was about to fucking to kill someone when we were done having the phone conversation. She couldn't even control her tone of voice speaking to me, not even a single hint of remorse, just a "oops sorry -smiles-" tone of voice that i fucking hate so bad. I could've said so much to the dumb bitch, but i refrained in doing so because the bitch is probably a sociopath that is incapable of remorse. All I said was "Okay" and "It's fine" to reply to her so-called 'apologies'. Two days later i'm still fucking disgusted and pissed off. (Oh and she sits next to me in pre-calculus. Whoop - dee - fucking - doo)
Another thing that I am extremely disgusted at is how some kids are so desperate to feed their insecurities they go through extreme measures to get dates for prom. I had another girl in mind that i wanted to ask to prom. Some kid beat me to it. He offered to pay forbribed her, got all her friends there and asked her the question. Being the nice angel she is she can't refuse his little present of paying for their whole prom night and the huge peer pressure of accepting. Robbed. Fucking just got mugged of a beautiful prom date by some kid who feels so insecure about his ability to get a date he have to offer to pay to incite the inner greed of human beings and at the same time scare her into accepting the request. Fucking robbed.
Probably just going to forever alone to prom. No stupid scandalous bitch is going to rob me of an awesome once in a lifetime opportunity. Even though i feel that my pride is going to diminish the moment i walk into prom night without a date, or would i rather go with a nobody? Or I might not even go at all? Make up some excuse about my house being on fire and dodge. Cast away my pride and enjoy myself? But to be honest...
I don't know what to do.
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wait, you're super pissed that your date is going with some "bum" who doesn't pay.
and you're super pissed that your other potential date was "bribed" by someone who DID pay?
Honestly you sound like that kid who accuses everyone who beats him in SC of hacking, I wouldn't want to go to prom with someone with that attitude either. Calm down, prom is completely unnoteworthy anyway.
EDIT: and why on earth did you want to go with someone who you describe as "dumb" and "probably a sociopath that is incapable of remorse"
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Just go solo. Nobody really gives a damn about prom but the girls who want to feel like a pampered princess and you'll have a ton of fun with nobody else to drag you down.
Just be a man and do your own thing. All in all, prom is not a big deal.
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Just ask one of your friends who isn't going.
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Just have a chill day. Hang out with your real friends or find someone who isn't going. Or get a hot junior to go.
Or drive to a pc bang in a fuckin suit and go rape some face.
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Before you do any of that, you need to chill the hell down. I can guarantee you that being pissy is going to drive away a lot of women and friends. What happened sucked, but you need to be able to deal with that. You're a grown man now.
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On April 28 2011 16:09 sob3k wrote:
wait, you're super pissed that your date is going with some "bum" who doesn't pay.
and you're super pissed that your other potential date was "bribed" by someone who DID pay?
Honestly you sound like that kid who accuses everyone who beats him in SC of hacking, I wouldn't want to go to prom with someone with that attitude either. Calm down, prom is completely unnoteworthy anyway.
EDIT: and why on earth did you want to go with someone who you describe as "dumb" and "probably a sociopath that is incapable of remorse"
The focus on the other kid was more on the fact that he put her in a situation that pressured her very strongly to say yes.
And his description of the girl was spot-on given the shit she pulled on him. That's fucked up.
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who cares its just a dance. keep the money you would have spent and buy tacos with it duh
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haha i live in OC too, the whole scandalous OC thing is hilarious..
where do you go that you NEED a date to prom O_O. i mean what happened is fucked up but man, you can just be a boss and go anyway ^___^
also i dont think there are PC bangs in OC and if there are do want to know where
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She mustered up the fucking gut to call my homie before she calls me and tell him about how she feel awful (probably not) about calling off the date and how she will make it up.
Hopefully you can get laid from that "making it up to him." Then you can graduate and never see her again.
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Just for reference, I'm from North OC, the most scandalous (and lamest) in the area.
Before I say anything, I understand you're angry. I understand that very little of this makes sense right now and that this thread you've written is coming from a place which is a combination of those two things. What you must understand, first and foremost(and I mean no insult to yourself or women as a whole by saying the following) women do not generally operate from a logical standpoint like guys do. Once you figure out that they make their way through life based on attention and emotion, you'll be miles ahead of 99% of other guys in terms of getting and understanding women.
The funny thing about prom(s) is that a year or two from now, it's something you can look back on and wonder why it was such a big deal.
No stupid scandalous bitch is going to rob me of an awesome once in a lifetime opportunity.
Ta da! Exactly. No one else will, or can for that matter, rob you of having a good time. If you decide to go alone and end up having a bad time it's probably your own mindset(and preoccupations) keeping you from having the time of your life! No matter what, you will have no one to blame but yourself for what happens that night (or any night of your life) but yourself.
Believe it or not, there are a bunch of girls who go alone, and some who don't. . . but end up without a date by the end of the night. I have complete confidence that by the end of the night, if you go with a positive mindset(and proper action to accompany it) you will: A. Have a kick ass time and B. Probably end up with a girl to AT LEAST make out with by the end of the night.
Go to this social event, and be a social animal. Have a good time! Like I told you before, no one can rob you of that but yourself. It will be what you make of it. Make those chicks who bailed on you jealous that you're able to have such a great time without them. Hell, clown on their dates, that'd be funny. The night will be what you make of it. Once you get through a few parties in college, you'll probably come to the realization that prom is just an expensive excuse to have a regular old party(except with chaperones lollll).
As a side note, I wish I had gone to one of my (three) proms stag.
Cheers!
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On April 28 2011 16:26 Juliette wrote:
also i dont think there are PC bangs in OC and if there are do want to know where
Downtown Fullerton, off Harbor and (I forget  Chapman maybe?) also there is one on Yorba Linda Blvd(and Placentia Ave I think), near CSUF and one at Imperial Hwy and La Palma Ave. . . .back past In N' Out. There are a couple good ones in Irvine I've heard, but never been. The last two I wrote about are both IGZ (Internet Gamerz) been to the one on imperial and la palma a bunch as a kid, used to be called Cyberworld. . .might still be technically. GLHF
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I haven't gone to prom o.o; and I am happy I didn't. I have more self respect than that. Just because people go, it's usually a mindless infestation of retards there. As I got older I had younger female friends who were 18 and going to prom and would ask me to go as their date and I'd still decline.
Just saying bro. Prom is more for the average guy/gal who don't know any better. It usually means nothing. Get good relationships =P
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On April 28 2011 16:42 ZombiesOMG wrote:+ Show Spoiler +Just for reference, I'm from North OC, the most scandalous (and lamest) in the area. Before I say anything, I understand you're angry. I understand that very little of this makes sense right now and that this thread you've written is coming from a place which is a combination of those two things. What you must understand, first and foremost(and I mean no insult to yourself or women as a whole by saying the following) women do not generally operate from a logical standpoint like guys do. Once you figure out that they make their way through life based on attention and emotion, you'll be miles ahead of 99% of other guys in terms of getting and understanding women. The funny thing about prom(s) is that a year or two from now, it's something you can look back on and wonder why it was such a big deal. No stupid scandalous bitch is going to rob me of an awesome once in a lifetime opportunity. Ta da! Exactly. No one else will, or can for that matter, rob you of having a good time. If you decide to go alone and end up having a bad time it's probably your own mindset(and preoccupations) keeping you from having the time of your life! No matter what, you will have no one to blame but yourself for what happens that night (or any night of your life) but yourself. Believe it or not, there are a bunch of girls who go alone, and some who don't. . . but end up without a date by the end of the night. I have complete confidence that by the end of the night, if you go with a positive mindset(and proper action to accompany it) you will: A. Have a kick ass time and B. Probably end up with a girl to AT LEAST make out with by the end of the night. Go to this social event, and be a social animal. Have a good time! Like I told you before, no one can rob you of that but yourself. It will be what you make of it. Make those chicks who bailed on you jealous that you're able to have such a great time without them. Hell, clown on their dates, that'd be funny. The night will be what you make of it. Once you get through a few parties in college, you'll probably come to the realization that prom is just an expensive excuse to have a regular old party(except with chaperones lollll). As a side note, I wish I had gone to one of my (three) proms stag. Cheers!
good post, thanks for the encouragement and wisdom
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lol. I just played video games with my buds both proms. It was worth it.
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On April 28 2011 16:47 ZombiesOMG wrote:Show nested quote +On April 28 2011 16:26 Juliette wrote:
also i dont think there are PC bangs in OC and if there are do want to know where Downtown Fullerton, off Harbor and (I forget Chapman maybe?) also there is one on Yorba Linda Blvd(and Placentia Ave I think), near CSUF and one at Imperial Hwy and La Palma Ave. . . .back past In N' Out. There are a couple good ones in Irvine I've heard, but never been. The last two I wrote about are both IGZ ( Internet Gamerz) been to the one on imperial and la palma a bunch as a kid, used to be called Cyberworld. . .might still be technically. GLHF
I don't think it's called Cyberworld anymore, but I used to go there too 
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Do this:
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But since you don't have someone in mind yet, ask afterwards who would want to go with you.
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On April 28 2011 16:09 sob3k wrote:
wait, you're super pissed that your date is going with some "bum" who doesn't pay.
and you're super pissed that your other potential date was "bribed" by someone who DID pay?
Honestly you sound like that kid who accuses everyone who beats him in SC of hacking, I wouldn't want to go to prom with someone with that attitude either. Calm down, prom is completely unnoteworthy anyway.
EDIT: and why on earth did you want to go with someone who you describe as "dumb" and "probably a sociopath that is incapable of remorse"
I keep cool in front of people, this blog was just to let out anger and frustration, having asian parents and their constant nagging doesn't help either.
The reason i'm pissed at the other kid is because he almost forced her to go with him, she was put in situation where saying "no i can't" is messed up.
And no, i rarely bm people in sc
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It is always interesting to read how in other counties it is such a big deal to get a date for the prom. So what if you go alone, and just have fun?
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Let me tell you my story. I was hopeless in love with a girl at the end of high school. We became bf/gf in the last year of school. BUT she dumped me (yep you guessed it) a couple months prior to graduation and prom. Uh oh, what do I do for prom?
+ Show Spoiler [So I...] +First I couldn't man up because I wanted her back so badly so I hung on like a loser for a month or two. Gathered enough balls to ask her as a prom date (NOT to be back together... just a prom date, I made that very clear) just to be rejected two days later. Yes, she took the pleasure of torturing me for those two days with "let me think about it."
Well, screw that bitch. So I thought about going solo. After all, I've been to semi-formals and dance parties solo and had a ton of fun anyway. Unfortunately my friends did not agree, because they already locked up their dates. 4 friends, 4 dates, + me = 9, for a table of 10. This wasn't going to work out. Sigh, and I worked up a little skit to lure a cute choir girl (grade 11... aka not graduating) into being my prom partner. Lots of extra bucks - I mean, it wasn't her prom year, so I felt that I needed to pay. I'm not that much of an asshole - for someone I'm not emotionally into anyway.
Prom night itself was fun, imagine how "perfect" a table of 5 pairs looked like... whatever. I probably could have had just as much fun going alone (besides the trouble of finding a 10th person for the table) and chilling with other people that came without a partner. Most of it isn't even slow-dancing or whatever, it was more of a preview of the club atmosphere without the drinks and in nicer clothes.
My point is, you'll be fine going without a designated partner. Best if you go in a group of friends (hopefully not all male!), sit together, and enjoy it like any other dance night.
+ Show Spoiler [Rest of the Story] +Needless to say, I still think if I went with that original gf I would have made more fond memories of prom. Sigh...
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I went to my junior prom with 3 male friends without dates. We had a lot of fun. IF people had thought negatively of us or made some sort of derogatory comment, we wouldn't have cared. BUT nobody did that anyway, cuz they were just there looking to have fun too.
I'd say, if you don't have a special girl to go with, just go with your mates and have fun. Mingle with your group but also other acquaintances/friends/definitely girls. Use this mingling to set up casually asking a girl to dance during one of the slow dances, and you will still get that male-hormone-I'm-a-failure-if-I-can't-dance-with-one-damn-girl-at-prom thing out of the way.
Clearly you don't have to go at all, and I'm not one of those people to say "you'll regret it forever you have to go to your prom!" But I do think that going to prom will be the most fun option of anything you could do that night, all things and ruminations considered.
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It's amazing how little you actually think about prom once you're an adult. It just ends up being one of those things you did one time, just like any other day.
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On April 28 2011 16:47 ZombiesOMG wrote:Show nested quote +On April 28 2011 16:26 Juliette wrote:
also i dont think there are PC bangs in OC and if there are do want to know where Downtown Fullerton, off Harbor and (I forget Chapman maybe?) also there is one on Yorba Linda Blvd(and Placentia Ave I think), near CSUF and one at Imperial Hwy and La Palma Ave. . . .back past In N' Out. There are a couple good ones in Irvine I've heard, but never been. The last two I wrote about are both IGZ ( Internet Gamerz) been to the one on imperial and la palma a bunch as a kid, used to be called Cyberworld. . .might still be technically. GLHF
OC is too big x-x. im a bit more south but i know where cyberworld is haha. I've seen the place a few times. i need to visit one of those sometime
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On April 28 2011 17:07 TOloseGT wrote:Do this: + Show Spoiler +http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cyh6AXtJYA8 But since you don't have someone in mind yet, ask afterwards who would want to go with you.
That was so boss.
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On April 28 2011 23:10 Kamille wrote:Show nested quote +On April 28 2011 17:07 TOloseGT wrote:Do this: + Show Spoiler +http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cyh6AXtJYA8 But since you don't have someone in mind yet, ask afterwards who would want to go with you. That was so boss.
Indeed, awesome lol
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Why are you complaining that someone offered to pay for his date?
Isn't that just basic chivalry?
What the fuck is wrong with children these days man...
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I think OP is looking at the whole situation a little too irrationally:
Your original date bailing at the last minute definitely isn't cool, but it happens. Her communication about it sucked, too, but that kind of thing is learned over time. The girl isn't a sociopath, she just hasn't experienced the real world (yet). Do the mature thing and let it go.
The guy paying for a dance isn't necessarily a bribe. In fact, some look at a dance as a date, and the guy "traditionally" pays for the date. Sounds like he's just being chivalrous and found a way to ask where he'd get a yes. If this girl is such a "nice angel" then why didn't you ask her to begin with?
You can look at prom as "a once in a lifetime opportunity", but I think you're building it up WAY too high. Yeah, it's your good-bye-from-high-school-party and for many, savoring the last bit of popularity and "easy living" before college and the real world. Years down the road you realize "It's just a high school dance" and I doubt you'll even care.
Regardless, if there's still someone you want to go with hurry up and ask. If not, just go to the dance, hang out with your friends, ask pretty girls to dance, and have a good time.
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Get some refridgerated creme soda and some Lay's sour cream & onion chips. Lay back on the couch and just chill. You're at a point in life where people are still bitchy... and you'll have to deal with bitchy behavior.
If another guy does something elaborate to ask a girl to prom, they're not attacking you personally. They're not robbing you of anything. They're doing what you wanted to do, just faster. It sucks. Go alone or just ask a friend, move on.
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I thought it was basic chivalry for the guy to pay for his date. The only thing I didn't pay for at my prom was her dress and my boutineer. So the day date, dinner, pictures, and the actual dance were paid for by me.
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Hahahaha man don´t sweat it. At my high school you could not bring girls from other schools, everyone had to be a student or ex-student. My girlfriend at the time went to another all girls school and she was not eligible to come. Thus, I went to prom with the fattest chick in my grade, it was a blast, drunk as fuck. Good times with my friends.
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On April 29 2011 02:50 Dalguno wrote:
I thought it was basic chivalry for the guy to pay for his date. The only thing I didn't pay for at my prom was her dress and my boutineer. So the day date, dinner, pictures, and the actual dance were paid for by me.
For me, it's always: I pay for the tickets, dinner and her boutineer thing, and she pays for pictures and my corsage thing.
Don't trip brosef. There's so much hype over prom but honestly, two or three months later, nobody will remember. Go with a friend you're not romantically interested in. I regret going with my (then) girlfriend; it would have been so much better if I had broken up with her before and gone with a good friend.
Also, am I reading this wrong? Everyone in this thread is getting mad at OP getting mad at the guy paying for prom, but..
On April 28 2011 15:57 iKill[ShocK] wrote:
You know what the thing that got me sick to my stomach is? She has to pay for that kid's whole prom package. While on this side we would've split the cost. Where is the logical reasoning in this? She offers to take a bum who isn't even going to pay for the fucking tickets to prom, at the same time agreeing to be my date, then calling the whole shit off one week before the event.
Other way around guys.
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On April 28 2011 16:11 numLoCK wrote:
Just go solo. Nobody really gives a damn about prom but the girls who want to feel like a pampered princess and you'll have a ton of fun with nobody else to drag you down.
Just be a man and do your own thing. All in all, prom is not a big deal.
Do not go to prom solo.
Having said that, it's not like missing prom is the biggest deal. It's really what you make out of it.
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"basic chivalry"
edit: wow no wonder none of these women want to go with you they probably don't want to get smacked
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Another thing that I am extremely disgusted at is how some kids are so desperate to feed their insecurities they go through extreme measures to get dates for prom. I had another girl in mind that i wanted to ask to prom. Some kid beat me to it. He offered to pay forbribed her, got all her friends there and asked her the question. Being the nice angel she is she can't refuse his little present of paying for their whole prom night and the huge peer pressure of accepting. Robbed. Fucking just got mugged of a beautiful prom date by some kid who feels so insecure about his ability to get a date he have to offer to pay to incite the inner greed of human beings and at the same time scare her into accepting the request. Fucking robbed.
your reaction to this is absolutely ridiculous. so a shy, insecure kid goes through the trouble of orchestrating a nice way to ask a girl to prom, and you're angry that he "ROBBED" her from you? she'd probably prefer to go with a nice guy who'd go through the trouble of setting up a cute way to ask her to prom and would buy her ticket, over you who'd probably just swagger up to her and say "bitch, prom? we'll split the cost."
i'm exaggerating, but still.
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Chill buddy. By the time youre in college you look back on prom and laugh
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Interesting cultural differences. I remember our high school prom to be very different from this. Basically everyone who was graduating was invited and allowed to bring 1 person along (friend or date). It was a very casual thing, nothing big about bringing a date or "going with someone". Everyone would just show up in a nice suit/dress, get wasted and have a blast. 
Sounds like your version is a lot more stressful. I've seen it in movies before but didn't think it was really that big a deal. All I can say is that I'd try to get my head clear if I were you. Your post is dripping with frustration, which probably isn't the right mindset. You should be looking at your options. Unless the guy:girl balance is severly messed up I'm sure there's other girls around you can still ask. It might not be the cutest girl in the playground but consider that an early lifelesson, in a few years you'll realize that that's not what it's about anyway. If you rather fly solo then I'm sure you could still have fun, you're never the only one, and who knows you might find a stray little female bird at the prom who flew solo as well.
Final option is to just skip it, it's not a big deal, I doubt there are a lot of people who skipped it and sat in a bar at the age of 50 sulking to the bartender that it all went wrong after they missed prom.
TL;DR: Don't be a negative nancy!
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Yeah having the chick say yes then bail on you a week before prom is a dick move. But this kinda thing happens all the time. Females, especially at a young age aka high school age, act on their emotions most of the time, not on logic. Venting is good though, the more you let out your frustration the faster you'll get over it.
As far as going solo, I'll just tell you my experience. I had two friends that went to prom solo and they grinded on every hot chick there and got TONS of attention. They definitely had a good night. It could work out for you it could not. If I were you I would try and find someone who doesn't have a date yet (trust me they're there) or ask a junior friend. Having a date is nice, it's part of the experience.
And if you think your situation is bad, it can be worse lol. My friend asked out this reallly hot chick that he didn't really know and she said yes. After we arrived she proceeded to ditch him 15 min into the night. We didn't see her till the end of the night and she was leaving with another guy. =\
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lol prom
might as well toss a couple hundred dollars more out the window on the way there
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I skipped my prom and played videogames instead
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Im also closing on prom night without a date, and if I really can't find a date to go with that night I won't go at all. I think it is possible to go to prom and have fun but I dont want to go with the idea of being alone. One of my friends asked the girl I was going to ask to prom before I could ask her too, and apart from her I didn't have any other girls in mind. Damn I never felt more alone.
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Dude i went to prom 3/4 years in high school. Now im a freshman in college. Let me just tell you straight up, prom is such a waste of money and time. Save your money and go for bigger, better things.
High school drama is so...i dont know..stupid?
Being a freshman in college is really eye-opening. Do you know how many high school relationships I've seen fall apart in the transition from high school to college? Theres girls here who've been in relationships with a high school sweetheart for YEARS. Then Thanksgiving break comes by. you know what a Turkey drop is? Well you'll find out.
I don't even hang out with the high school friends that I had that go to the same college as me. Guess what? I'm not alone. When you go to college no one is going to give a single fuck if you went to prom or not.
My suggestion? gear up for college. I had a girlfriend(s) for the majority of high school life and i regret it. A LOT. If I could go back to High school I would be single ALL THE FUCKING way and I would go to the gym everyday, learn to breakdance, toss video games out the window, and tell my parents to invest in apple.
Trust me man. You still have time. Forget about prom. I don't even really remember prom and its been only a year. All i can say is frat parties and bigass club events make Prom look like playing barbies in a dollhouse.
Use that money, get a membership at 24, pump iron everyday. You will have a fucking great body, super confidence, and you wont give a shit if some girl ditches you for prom. Because you know what? In college, girls 20 x hotter than that girl are going to be fighting to get action on you. In fact, maybe even multiple girls at once. Oh wait that girl(s) just asked to come back with you to your dorm? I guarantee you at that point prom will be the last thing on your mind. But you probably won't even be thinking because you'll be drunk as fuck and high at the same time. And thats great.
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