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This is just a quick rant because I think it's weird that something like that would happen.
My gf is studying architecture and she got an internship in Alberta (we're in QC). It's supposed to last for all of April and just recently she learned that she was supposed to share a 4 room apartment with 3 "exchange students", all of which are males. This is what her uni decided to pay for.
Neither of us are very happy with that, obviously - so if I have to, I'll get her one of those furnished places with monthly rates. The point though is that she goes to a pretty reputable school and it just blows my mind that they would do that.
Is that stuff common?
  
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Where in Alberta does she have the internship?
For my internships, I have to cover all the living expenses, the school doesn't touch any of that stuff.
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Does your gf have a name that could be mistaken for a man's name?
Casey, etc
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On March 30 2011 03:11 Chairman Ray wrote:
Where in Alberta does she have the internship?
For my internships, I have to cover all the living expenses, the school doesn't touch any of that stuff.
Her school picked and pays for it - she'll be somewhere in Calgary.
On March 30 2011 03:13 andeh wrote:
Does your gf have a name that could be mistaken for a man's name?
Casey, etc
Tessa, so that's probably not it =P
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I'm in Calgary atm as well. It shouldn't be too difficult finding a place to rent. If you talk to her school, maybe they could cover some of the costs.
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Hey I'm in Calgary! Is she going to UofC? Normally they wouldn't mess up that badly with roommates and whatnot but I'm sure that if she requested to get a transfer to a different room (with girl roommates) or even cover for some of the costs?
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I'd be pretty pissed off as well. It was my understanding that in those types of situations they dont even allow unisex rooms. My gf and i were looking at staying on residence at a couple colleges a few years ago and none allowed it.
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On March 30 2011 03:21 kOre wrote:
Hey I'm in Calgary! Is she going to UofC? Normally they wouldn't mess up that badly with roommates and whatnot but I'm sure that if she requested to get a transfer to a different room (with girl roommates) or even cover for some of the costs?
Actually it's an exchange type of thing (sort of), she goes to a local uni in QC and they sent her to Calgary for her internship because she checked the travel option, otherwise she would've done it locally. Alberta is obviously an exotic travel location!
I don't know if she can get her school to pay some of the expenses if she decides not to take the option they give her.
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Shes sharing the apartment, not the room. Its alright to feel uncomfortable about it but i think you are going overboard to think that the uni has done wrong, (unless the uni previously mentioned that they will only have females for the apartment)
Edit: on second thoughts, i think i understand the situation. Australia and Canada are deemed to be very very similar countries. I for one, know what most people living in Aus is like. They tend to whine alot about the most trivial matters, and have no appreciation for what their country has to offer (we got free water here, i dont see anyone being thankful for that). And i think that trait is common in Canada.
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Emmm... Can't really see a problem here?
She get's a paid room somewhere, she should just shut up or pay for it herself if it's not up to her standards. What's the big deal about living with three males? It's only for three months and I doubt they would do anything "unseemly".
Perhaps it would have been nicer from a social aspect for her to get to bunk with girls but she has no reason to complain when she lives there for free.
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i'm also in calgary~ i would imagine if its an internship she'll be working with one of the profs at the UofC. is she staying at the hotel alma during this time? i'm pretty sure they have a lot of rooms for singles instead of shacking up?
worst case scenario if you're in an emergency i guess, just get her to stay with a TL member in calgary if they're willing?
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Hmmm if it's just for April it shouldn't be too bad ... but yeah just ask your school to see if she can get another place or at least help pay for a bit for another place. Alberta is so exotic, so many deer and cows in the middle of the roads ... 
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LOL sorry that sounds hilarious. She will probably have a good time welcoming the foreigners into the country
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On March 30 2011 03:33 ProjectVirtue wrote:
i'm also in calgary~ i would imagine if its an internship she'll be working with one of the profs at the UofC. is she staying at the hotel alma during this time? i'm pretty sure they have a lot of rooms for singles instead of shacking up?
worst case scenario if you're in an emergency i guess, just get her to stay with a TL member in calgary if they're willing?
Well by internship (and maybe that's the wrong term, excuse my frenchness), I mean basically she has a job with a company there for a month so she can see what it's like to work in that business. I'm pretty sure it doesn't have anything to do with UofC
Perhaps it would have been nicer from a social aspect for her to get to bunk with girls but she has no reason to complain when she lives there for free.
Well I'm not whining as much as I'm questioning what they chose for her. She's uncomfortable with it because when she signed up they said that it would be good - at the time she didn't even think it would be possible that something like it would happen.
I'll probably be helping her get her own place for April to keep her from having to share a place with 3 guys.
On March 30 2011 03:40 FakePlasticLove wrote:
LOL sorry that sounds hilarious. She will probably have a good time welcoming the foreigners into the country
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You'd think they'd at least go 2:2, but its great living with exchange students. When I went on exchange to Canada in '03/'04 I think it was (Queen's University, Kingston, Ontario) I stayed in a house for ~8 months with the following crowd:
Male, French, Art major
Female, German, English/History major
Female, Scottish, Biology/Neuroscience major
Male, English (me), Physics major
Female, American, Business major
Male, German, Psychology major
Female, Canadian, Can't actually remember what she was studying, English/History I think?
Male, Canadian, Drama major, ex-Physics major
And it was honestly the greatest social experience of my life. So many different personalities, points of view and a wide range of study areas lead to an amazing learning experience in general knowledge, scientific knowledge, social skills and learning how to deal with diversity. I'd recommend an exchange program to anybody.
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I really don't understand why this is a problem... maybe I'm missing something, can you explain why you take issue with this?
Edit: Sorry, I don't want to prevaricate, so I should probably ask more directly, is the problem here that your girlfriend will be in close proximity with other men?
Honestly, I think it's far stranger that you'd take issue with it than that they would put her in a house with some men.
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I don't really see the problem. Its just your paranoia, no matter how much i think about it, and abit sexist as well.
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On March 30 2011 04:08 SirJolt wrote:
I really don't understand why this is a problem... maybe I'm missing something, can you explain why you take issue with this?
Ah well maybe it's something with my culture then. You don't get it and you're from Ireland and this guy from Sweden thinks it's stupid too.
Why I take issue is largely irrelevant - what matters is that she's uncomfortable with it, even if they turn out to be good people. And she was also worried (she has her reasons) because men are not always particularly nice/respectable. I mean, I never really trust people right away myself. Kind of sucks if they're all bigger and stronger than me -- you get the point?
She already wasn't thrilled with sharing a room with people, the fact that it's 3 guys is weird. It was mentioned earlier that 2 girls and 2 guys would make more sense... That's how stuff is usually done around here.
I mean, you don't need to be a psychologist that oftentimes, when you have 4 people and 3 are guys, there are weird dynamics in play.
On March 30 2011 04:15 Cubu wrote:
I don't really see the problem. Its just your paranoia, no matter how much i think about it, and abit sexist as well.
Like I said, what I think doesn't really matter. It's not paranoia - I'm just somewhat bothered by it. She's pretty uncomfortable with it and she kind of has her own reasons for that. Sexist? No - there are differences between men and women.
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the Dagon Knight4013 Posts
Just presume that any other guy in there is going to be pretty much the same as you, man. I also don't really see why she'd be uncomfortable; it comes off an awful lot like some kind of trust issues thing, but as you said, that could be a cultural difference...
Aside from that, I'm going to leave the cure here in this spoiler tag.
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