EPTSo pretty much bring it up with the employer, its only a month so I don't know how much they can do but it definitely is not strange that 3 guys live with 1 girl.
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te3l
Canada126 Posts
So pretty much bring it up with the employer, its only a month so I don't know how much they can do but it definitely is not strange that 3 guys live with 1 girl. | ||
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Djzapz
Canada10681 Posts
On March 30 2011 05:22 te3l wrote: Lol sometimes i dont even lock my doors because i forget. But anyways. If it is an issue bring it up with the people that are paying for her stay. Chances are they will understand, they probably thought it of them as 4 adults living together, not 3 guys and a girl living together. So pretty much bring it up with the employer, its only a month so I don't know how much they can do but it definitely is not strange that 3 guys live with 1 girl. She's leaving friday so talking to the school probably wouldn't help, that's why we're handling it ourselves for now but she'll talk to the school. As for it being "not weird" for 3 guys living with 1 girl, you're right IMO if they know each other - if they don't however, I would say that it can be kind of dangerous for her. Either way, she's the judge of that. | ||
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Bibdy
United States3481 Posts
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Chairman Ray
United States11903 Posts
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QuanticHawk
United States32159 Posts
On March 30 2011 05:02 Djzapz wrote: Edit: I'm sure all this takes is a phone call and her saying "I feel uncomfortable in this setup". Have you done that? She hasn't yet. She'll be working on trying to get the money from them so we can rent a place for her to live alone. Since many people don't seem to understand her concerns because I haven't really explained it, she got punched in the face by a man once, which broke her nose. She didn't go crazy or anything but she more careful than a person to whom that didn't happen. [/QUOTE] so you're really trying to paint your concern as something other than your fear that it's a little more than coincidence that your girlfriend has as many orifices as there are guys in the dorm?? This is like a really bad plot for one of those college porn skits on redtube... i mean, it's not like girls get in fist fights or anything... | ||
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Zim23
United States1681 Posts
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Torte de Lini
Germany38463 Posts
I'm surprised Emperor didn't ask this, but which uni in QC are you guys in, you better fucking say Concordia (oh and join our Concordia club D:< ) I'm sorry Chill, but I think you are being a bit naive, but on the other hand, I understand how at a university level all with educational intentions, why would it not be possible to live with 3 equally intelligent peers who are presumably civilized and restrained. Sadly, it isn't uncommon for what is implied here to happen. It just goes either unreported or becomes a misdemeanor. That's my take on it. I'm on the fence, I agree with Chill and just call them, hassle them and then file a proper complaint. After that, you're pretty much safe. Edit: she got punched in the face by a man once, which broke her nose. She didn't go crazy or anything but she more careful than a person to whom that didn't happen. Hope she filed a report because this will further your cause so fucking easily, it's not even funny. Domestic abuse or just a violent fight? Oh God, I hope to fucking hell she got that shit on paper, the school can't ignore that shit. | ||
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Djzapz
Canada10681 Posts
so you're really trying to paint your concern as something other than your fear that it's a little more than coincidence that your girlfriend has as many orifices as there are guys in the dorm?? This is like a really bad plot for one of those college porn skits on redtube... i mean, it's not like girls get in fist fights or anything... You put it in a very creepy way, but no my concern isn't that she might get gangbanged. I don't know why you would put it like that either... Let me explain my issue. My main concern is in fact that she is concerned. Is that not enough for you? However I built this thread on the idea that it's somewhat weird that a canadian school would do this - which it is. It doesn't generally happen. Stop lashing onto the idea that I think she'll get raped, that's just part of the picture. And also, stop worrying about my perspective and try to think about it from her perspective if you want to actually understand. On March 30 2011 06:11 Zim23 wrote: Yeah I'm sure her school made her do it. Jesus, I don't usually say things like this but you're really not very intelligent. Read the thread before you throw in a clever one-liner. | ||
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Torte de Lini
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Djzapz
Canada10681 Posts
On March 30 2011 06:13 Torte de Lini wrote: File a complaint that these living arrangements are not suitable due to her personal past history. If anything was to occur with those students and her, the school would be held liable since they ignored your complaint and request to change the living arrangements and you get big bucks. I'm surprised Emperor didn't ask this, but which uni in QC are you guys in, you better fucking say Concordia (oh and join our Concordia club D:< ) She goes to UDM. As for the complaint thing, I don't know if it'll be a formal complaint - she'll probably just ask if the school will help her pay for the place she chooses. One issue is really time related because she's leaving friday so the school probably wouldn't have time to get anything figured out. Edit: Hope she filed a report because this will further your cause so fucking easily, it's not even funny. Domestic abuse or just a violent fight? Oh God, I hope to fucking hell she got that shit on paper, the school can't ignore that shit. Well like I said, we probably won't be using it, but yes she filed a report when it happened. | ||
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Torte de Lini
Germany38463 Posts
On March 30 2011 06:23 Djzapz wrote: She goes to UDM. As for the complaint thing, I don't know if it'll be a formal complaint - she'll probably just ask if the school will help her pay for the place she chooses. One issue is really time related because she's leaving friday so the school probably wouldn't have time to get anything figured out. Well like I said, we probably won't be using it, but yes she filed a report when it happened. Should use it and just because she's leaving doesn't mean she can't change places when she gets there. Or even after, stay there a few days and then switch when something is available. The school should be putting your GF's, their student, safety first. Especially when it may deter her educational accomplishments and productivity at this internship. If she's suffered from domestic abuse from a male and you have legal document, use it and pressure them with her concerns. Never too late. | ||
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Djzapz
Canada10681 Posts
On March 30 2011 06:27 Torte de Lini wrote: Should use it and just because she's leaving doesn't mean she can't change places when she gets there. Or even after, stay there a few days and then switch when something is available. The school should be putting your GF's, their student, safety first. Especially when it may deter her educational accomplishments and productivity at this internship. If she's suffered from domestic abuse from a male and you have legal document, use it and pressure them with her concerns. Never too late. Oh just to clear it up, it wasn't domestic abuse. But yeah we've got it mostly figured out so it'll be comfortable for her - and with some luck maybe the school will help out. | ||
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Torte de Lini
Germany38463 Posts
On March 30 2011 06:29 Djzapz wrote: Oh just to clear it up, it wasn't domestic abuse. But yeah we've got it mostly figured out so it'll be comfortable for her - and with some luck maybe the school will help out. Ah, al'right. Still doesn't mean it isn't valid. And uh... what luck are we talking about it here? I don't want to say the school is practically obligated to resituate your girlfriend, in fear that I might be wrong, but I'm fairly sure they have to fucking do something if you preset a real (real being actual and sustained by documentation of a previous occurrence) and factual problem. I said all I need to say (this time for real). Best of luck/Bonne chance. | ||
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TickTockBoom
Canada185 Posts
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QuanticHawk
United States32159 Posts
On March 30 2011 06:17 Djzapz wrote: And also, stop worrying about my perspective and try to think about it from her perspective if you want to actually understand. from her perspective, i would say it would be similar to me suffering from some random act of violence, and then determining that everyone that is a part of the particular ethnic group that the person represents is likely to do the same thing to me furthermore, it's at a university. what kind of savages do you (or your girlfriend) think go to a university that she'll be in imminent danger because she's in the presence of males?? | ||
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Djzapz
Canada10681 Posts
On March 30 2011 06:32 Torte de Lini wrote: Ah, al'right. Still doesn't mean it isn't valid. And uh... what luck are we talking about it here? I don't want to say the school is practically obligated to resituate your girlfriend, in fear that I might be wrong, but I'm fairly sure they have to fucking do something if you preset a real (real being actual and sustained by documentation of a previous occurrence) and factual problem. I said all I need to say (this time for real). Best of luck/Bonne chance. Well I don't know much about what the obligations of the school are, I know that not every internship comes with free housing so that was kind of a bonus for her. When I talk about the school "helping out" I mean that, if 1 month with those 3 guys was going to cost UDM $1000, then it would be nice if they paid $1000 of the apartment she'll be renting alone, and we'd pay for the rest. Thanks for the heads up though, might be worth it to make a formal complaint. On March 30 2011 06:38 Hawk wrote: from her perspective, i would say it would be similar to me suffering from some random act of violence, and then determining that everyone that is a part of the particular ethnic group that the person represents is likely to do the same thing to me furthermore, it's at a university. what kind of savages do you (or your girlfriend) think go to a university that she'll be in imminent danger because she's in the presence of males?? It's predominently discomfort that's a problem here, the "danger" part is merely a concern of hers. What do you suggest she does? "Oh you got attacked by someone so you should immediately adopt a purely rational vision of the world according to which, statistically, you're going to be fine" The world doesn't work like that Hawk, and maybe you should consider that. If she feels that it's unsafe because of a bad experience, it's her thing and I think it's legitimate to avoid feeling unsafe, even though people like you may think it's not justified. | ||
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StorkHwaiting
United States3465 Posts
Also, I think Hawk has a really pleasant view of life. What uni did you go to where the men are all mild as milk and do no harm? The uni I went to had tons of roided up frat boys who crushed beer cans on their heads and humped everything in sight, including the furniture. They sure as heck would have had a field day with a cute lil intern stuck with them for months on end in the same house. They'd come out their room, go into the girl's room, come back out, take a shower, rummage through the fridge, turn on the tv, pop a few cans of beer, and then play Madden when the other roommates come back, with nobody the wiser. A girl with a bf def shouldn't be living with three other dudes. All kinds of havoc could occur. | ||
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Djzapz
Canada10681 Posts
On March 30 2011 07:12 StorkHwaiting wrote: IMO, 3 guys, 1 girl, and months together to get up to nasty, nasty will happen! People are animals, and that's just what animals do. Especially if the girl is attractive and susceptible to that sort of thing. Also, I think Hawk has a really pleasant view of life. What uni did you go to where the men are all mild as milk and do no harm? The uni I went to had tons of roided up frat boys who crushed beer cans on their heads and humped everything in sight, including the furniture. They sure as heck would have had a field day with a cute lil intern stuck with them for months on end in the same house. They'd come out their room, go into the girl's room, come back out, take a shower, rummage through the fridge, turn on the tv, pop a few cans of beer, and then play Madden when the other roommates come back, with nobody the wiser. A girl with a bf def shouldn't be living with three other dudes. All kinds of havoc could occur. Yeah she's pretty cute and I figure many guys our age would mess with her. I mean in the end it might never turn bad, but I can imagine that 3 guys being "playful" could be annoying and uncomfortable to her. I don't know why people assume university students are wise and serious when some folks there are real life incarnations of 4chan. I'm personally having a field day here, I'm the least serious person ever. Uni guys + beer can be quite a problem too. Or maybe not but what do I know. | ||
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Raeleigh
Canada902 Posts
If she had requested to be living with girls, I'd find it a bit off, but if nothing was asked, then I don't find it that odd. You're growing up and you're adults. o___o'' I don't see a problem. | ||
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Chairman Ray
United States11903 Posts
If you can get in contact with the three guys, then maybe you can have your girlfriend chat with them over the phone or webcam or something. Just talk about stuff like bathroom system, fridge space, smoking/non-smoking, etc. If the three guys seem decent, then it will make you both feel more comfortable about staying there, and if one of them seems a bit off, then you know for sure you don't want to stay there. | ||
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