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Well.
I am currently attending high school, I am probably one of the stupider kid in my group of friends.
I don't know why but when I look all my friends seem to be doing better than me, even in life. I average about a C-/+ depending on the term, like last term I basically failed physics and while my friends all got like B's and I am like what the fuck. Even in school my friends always seem to think of better things and stuff while I always think of stupid stuff. I don't do stupid things. I just say them without thinking it through, I don't even know why. Even though my school life, I relied on everything with my friends, I basically put my education in their hands, I always copied off my friends homework, on test i study but do bad/fail and the only way through life for me is cheating and it sucks! And in term 2 i am basically averaging out a C- in Chemistry and a D- in Biology and a B+ in Math. My parents want me to average a C+ in everything but it seems so hard, and procrastinating is like the only thing i can do right. I am always out of the loop in life, even with my parents it like uhhh wTF? Is it maybe becasue I started playing video games at the age of like 10 and got addicted :S? Even when it comes to the logical things in high school, i always seem to fail them and I can't quit playing video games... I honestly don't know why. I am the average kid but I am not special or anything. I want to do better in life, but i just don't know what is holding me back.. is it video games or just me?
 
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Vatican City State2594 Posts
You need to read some books, stop playing videogames, and get your fucking life on track. Reason? Good grades in high school determine if and where you go to college, and life without a college education is hard, take my word for it. Just because your parents want you to average a C+ doesn't mean that should be your goal. You are a student and have only 1 important task in this world and that is to learn and get good grades. You need to start taking life seriously, and that means sacrificing things until you raise your grades.
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It's neither you or the video games. It's your mindset on the situation. If you only focus on the negative aspects of your life, they naturally appear amplified out of their real proportions. Trust me, plenty of people out there live far less meaningful and productive lives than you. And when it comes down to you, you give life meaning, not your friends. You are the reason your life is important. Don't compare yourself to others. Life isn't a competition. It's a miracle. Don't ruin it for yourself by obsessing over something as impossible as perfection. There will be points in life for almost everyone where they are pushed back against the wall and have nowhere to run or hide from their problems anymore. It will seem unbearable. But you can overcome these. All you have to do is get your mind out of the runt and pull yourself together. I wish you the best.
Also don't mind the trolls or people who can only articulate their advice in harsh vulgar. 
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Sounds to me like you're just lazy...
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Bro, I was in the same situation as you. I was a lazy dumb kid with no friends though. My grades? 30%. I failed my 9th grade and only got 60s until the end of high-school (I did my classes in french, so it was very hard).
Why don't you tell us what you want to do in life? Can I guess that you don't know? I didn't know and it was a large reason why I didn't do well in class, no reason to since I had no aim, goal or motivation. My sole motivation was to finish and get out as my father would say.
My best suggestion, learn to reward yourself. Everytime I finished studying a large portion, I'd reward myself with a game or with food or something. It worked for years and it still does, it requires a lot of talking to yourself and self-control.
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acknowledging you have a problem that u want to fix is the first step 
i can't really give you good advice, but i'll offer you my thoughts
just know that every move you make is your choice. you could choose to play games right now if you wanted to. you could procrastinate if you wanted to. if you really wanted to raise your grades, you probably could.
its just a matter of when you decide to put your first step forward =P
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In my blog, just a week or 2 ago, I'm kinda facing a similar problem, though our cases are quite different. Learn to give up somethings, because even though you might not think it now, school is definitely worth giving up time for. Why else do you spend close to 8 hours at school everyday? It's worth it in the long run, and putting hard work and effort into it will go a long way. Stop copying your friends and do your own homework. That way studying is a lot easier. Also with biology its mostly memorization and if you don't do your homework, your not gonna retain anything.
You kinda answered your own question, but I must ask how many hours do you spend on gaming...? If you can't quit learn to cut down
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On March 25 2011 13:28 MrBitter wrote:
Sounds to me like you're just lazy...
If he was lazy, then why would he complain about it?
The mindset doesn't match your characteristic.
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Don't judge how good your life is based on the grades you are getting.
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Baltimore, USA22254 Posts
On March 25 2011 13:34 Torte de Lini wrote:If he was lazy, then why would he complain about it?
LOL what???
Complaining is the hallmark of the lazy...
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I would say some lazy people complain and some don't. You are both wrong
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On March 25 2011 13:37 EvilTeletubby wrote:Show nested quote +On March 25 2011 13:34 Torte de Lini wrote:On March 25 2011 13:28 MrBitter wrote:
Sounds to me like you're just lazy... If he was lazy, then why would he complain about it? LOL what??? Complaining is the hallmark of the lazy...
Complaining and not wanting to do anything about it is.
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Drop the games bro; take it from someone who played too much during HS and regrets it. Priorities mate, get em right.
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On March 25 2011 13:34 Torte de Lini wrote:If he was lazy, then why would he complain about it? The mindset doesn't match your characteristic.
Haha i can tell you that i am so lazy, but i realize it and i hate it. I always complain that i just cant get the motivation to do certain things, and it pisses me off.
I really think you need to set goals for yourself on what you want to do, and then force yourself to do it. You are the only person that can make yourself do something!
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There was a part of my life during which school just wasn't for me. It's probably a different period though. Through high school, I averaged a B, but from 17 to 19 in uni, I couldn't actually get anything done. I failed a bunch of classes because I didn't care - and you probably don't either.
I worked and played poker for a while until I decided to go back to school. Now I'm a B+/A student and I'm not any smarter than I was before - I just have the correct mindset.
To be honest, I don't even do my homework and give very little effort outside what's absolutely mandatory... I'm the very definition of lazy. For instance I'll solve 1-2 of each type of problem in math, and that's how I came out of both my calculus classes with very respectable grades - even quite far above average - this is especially impressive since I'm typically very bad at mathematics. I spend 15 minutes on it per 5 hours of class, which is literally 20 times less than the specified "study time" suggested by the course outline.
I really have no suggestion other than find a way to make yourself WANT to pass. If you can't do that now, tough it out until you make it through and hopefully someday you'll have an urge to know stuff.
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Calling him lazy and leaving it at that doesn't help him at all. OP, I think it might help to examine why all of this is bothering you to begin with. What do you want to do with your life? I think you might lack motivation just because you don't see any reason to put effort into your school work.
Don't try to force yourself to study just because your parents are pressuring you to or because you feel dumb compared to your friends. I don't think that'd be very effective. Instead consider how you would like to spend the rest of your life; indeed, high school does much to determine it. Is a life with some sacrifice now and more reward later (better education means more money) more appealing to you than a life spent with only the immediate future in mind? And this is a serious question. I know a very intelligent guy who chooses to slack off in school and get high every day because he doesn't want to die without having enjoyed his life.
It's your life. Consider all your possible courses of action with their implications and choose wisely.
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i used to be really fucking lazy, it sucked. i didnt do as well as i could have in high school and i sometimes regret it now. but i managed to overcome my laziness (unfortunately this happened after i was out of high school).
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On March 25 2011 13:39 Torte de Lini wrote:Show nested quote +On March 25 2011 13:37 EvilTeletubby wrote:On March 25 2011 13:34 Torte de Lini wrote:On March 25 2011 13:28 MrBitter wrote:
Sounds to me like you're just lazy... If he was lazy, then why would he complain about it? LOL what??? Complaining is the hallmark of the lazy... Complaining and not wanting to do anything about it is.
Well we'll just need to see if OP will follow up on anything, then we can determine if its laziness or not
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CA10828 Posts
ok a few things...
1) it's good that you realize there's a problem
2) stop copying off of friends' notes, cheating is bad.
3) stop procrastinating. easier said than done, i know. set reasonable goals, like study math for 30 minutes before i do xyz for 30 minutes. then study chem for 30 minutes, etc.
4) games are NOT the problem. do you know how many academic ballers are on TL? it's your mindset. don't blame the games, blame your lack of self-discipline.
basically, you need to take ownership of your life. you're in high school, you aren't a kid anymore. chances are, you hate it when adults are condescending towards you. but guess what, there's a reason for it. once you can show you're in control of your life and are heading toward a positive direction i guarantee things will be better for you in all aspects of your life.
good luck.
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On March 25 2011 13:51 Shinshady wrote:Show nested quote +On March 25 2011 13:39 Torte de Lini wrote:On March 25 2011 13:37 EvilTeletubby wrote:On March 25 2011 13:34 Torte de Lini wrote:On March 25 2011 13:28 MrBitter wrote:
Sounds to me like you're just lazy... If he was lazy, then why would he complain about it? LOL what??? Complaining is the hallmark of the lazy... Complaining and not wanting to do anything about it is. Well we'll just need to see if OP will follow up on anything, then we can determine if its laziness or not
Wanting to understand and asking for advice seems like a fine start.
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you're in high school. I thought the same when I was your age, I just didn't see the cruel reality that awaits us after high school when we're forced to either settle with a job at 7/11 for the rest of our lives or fight for something better.
You need to take responsibility for yourself, get some perspective about life and what will happen if you don't do well in school. It's not necessarily the games though. I'm still playing a lot of games in university at the same time as getting 80-100%.
You just need to find something to motivate you that's all.
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In my experience it can be like a vicious cycle. Play games/procrastinate too much -> worse in school -> feeling bad -> play more games/procrastinate to temporarily feel better.
You need to cut the cycle. Games aren't necessarily the problem but you need to discipline yourself. Get the homework done and try your best. If you know you're putting in an honest effort the grades will come.
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FREEAGLELAND26781 Posts
Weirdly enough Nitrogen's signature is completely applicable to this situation. Stop playing video games. Video games themselves can be quite the monumental time sinks, and the time saved from quitting them is quite non-negligible. That time can be better spent doing other, more productive things. Study more, sleep more, talk to your parents more. It'll pay dividends in the future.
Another thing is to not tell yourself that you are stupid. It's one thing to have a sense of humility, but perhaps you are taking it a bit far. Cheer up! Positivity goes a long way. Don't do things for the sake of your parents--do them because you know you'll be far better off in the future. As others in this thread have said, sacrifice now will mean a better, happier life in the future.
Good luck with everything, good sir. I hope you can pick yourself up.
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i think my signature is relevant to most, if not all situations. it's the best advice i've been given.
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North American laziness. This kinda of apathy doesn't exist in Asia because with a C- average you dont get past primary school. Only in America does a kid complain about C's on the intertubes from the comfort of his suburban home. Get a clue kid. If you don't want it you wouln't get it.
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Agreed with most of the replies.
You've probably heard it a lot before from other people but if you keep the lazy/procrastination mindset you're going to look back on your time in high school a few years later and realize how stupid and selfish you were being at the time.
Been there, don't let it happen to you.
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It's indeed quite hard to break out of the rut you seem to be in. But believe me, if you power through it, stop playing video games, study, actively try new things you will be a million times happier for it down the road. If you don't you're going to always regret it.
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On March 25 2011 13:45 petergibbons wrote:
Calling him lazy and leaving it at that doesn't help him at all. OP, I think it might help to examine why all of this is bothering you to begin with. What do you want to do with your life? I think you might lack motivation just because you don't see any reason to put effort into your school work.
Don't try to force yourself to study just because your parents are pressuring you to or because you feel dumb compared to your friends. I don't think that'd be very effective. Instead consider how you would like to spend the rest of your life; indeed, high school does much to determine it. Is a life with some sacrifice now and more reward later (better education means more money) more appealing to you than a life spent with only the immediate future in mind? And this is a serious question. I know a very intelligent guy who chooses to slack off in school and get high every day because he doesn't want to die without having enjoyed his life.
It's your life. Consider all your possible courses of action with their implications and choose wisely.
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Sorry... Not sure what kind of advice you want...
If you're lazy, and you don't like being lazy, then get off your ass and do something about it.
Discipline isn't genetic. It's trained. If you want to be better in life, then go fucking be better in life, and don't satisfy yourself with sitting around and crying.
If you want better grades, then fucking study. Some of the dumbest kids I know are honor students because they work their asses off.
This applies everywhere.
If you want a better body, stop crying about it and go work out.
If you want to be better at Starcraft, then stop watching VODs and go practice.
If you want to stop being lazy, then get the fuck off of TL and go do something productive.
edit: All these cushy responses don't help... What the OP needs is for someone to light a fire under his ass. Get real - you're not making bad grades because you're dumb, you're making bad grades because you don't really care...
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Just a word of advice, DO NOT copy homework off friends. We have homework for a reason. It helps us understand problems and how to solve them at our exams. If you copy all of them, you won't do so great.
I'd rather try my best and go to the teacher saying "I did my best and this was all I could do" then give my friend's homework in.
Good luck. Remember to try hard, put heaps of effort in and cut down on things such as games.
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On March 25 2011 13:40 SecondChance wrote:
Drop the games bro; take it from someone who played too much during HS and regrets it. Priorities mate, get em right.
Don't drop the games bro; take it from someone who played WAY too much during HS and NEVER regretted a second. Priorities mate, get em right.
That being said, know the line when gaming is taking over too much of your life. Even playing quite competitively can be balanced with a good amount of normalness in your life, all you need is decent time-management and enough sense to know that enough is enough.
Seriously just git'r'done. I'm lazy too but if you have a mentality of always getting it done, and not doing it just to hand something in or show up for the test, you will hopefully learn to just pull surprisingly good shit together last second (I say this as I'm finishing up the final edits/reading TL of a paper due in 6 hours).
Don't like the title of the thread, too much drama for me. HS sucks life doesn't
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You always copied off your friends hw. Honestly, you need to start doing hw or at least reading the textbooks. Don't do your hw at home; you've grown too accustomed to slacking off there. Try going to a library and really focus on doing hw or just do your hw somewhere besides your room. You already have the mindset of "i'm addicted to games, i have to play instead of doing other significant things." It took me awhile to realize how to set my life straight and how to encourage myself to start trying. Honestly, if you really tried, you should be getting at least a 3.0 average for regular (not AP) classes, which are the types of classes you should be taking. I'm not trying to be mean but you should really take the advice other people are giving you on this forum.
Also, don't be envious of your friends. You were at least partially responsible for your shortcomings; don't go "why am i the only one?! forever alone ;-;" Because when college admissions come around, you'd be infuriated by everyone else.
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As a lot of people are suggesting. You need to take important steps.
1. Take responsibility for your situation.
2. Take steps to self improvement.
Best advice is to create a regiment and follow it. For example, no video games until homework is completely done. The important thing is that you stick with it! Don't cheat yourself man.
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wow man. I honestly wish my life sucked the way yours does and i wish i had your problems.
Jesus grow a pair of balls dude. Do something about whats so shitty in your life instead of moping around on tl seeking sympathy and a quick fix to your not so difficult to fix problems. Its really much less effort than you think to just get off your lazy ass and open a textbook and do homework than it is to rush through and copy your friends shit.
No one can help you but yourself. And quite frankly you sound like the kind of person that would rather bitch in someones ears than do something about it.
Good things DONT come to those who wait. They come to those who get off their asses and do something to make it happen
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Hey guys, I never thought I would get this awesome response from the community, I have read every comment you guys have posted. These are the advice my parents consistently nag to me. I am very lazy to tell you guy, I honestly don't know what I am going to do in life, getting into a college or university is possible with only a B where I live. Even if I get into post secondary, I dont know what to do,there is no motivation, in me. My parents make me go to the library to study, but it never helps me on a test unless I grind it into me and honestly im just too lazy to do that. I try to set my priorities straight but in the end, it always fail , and it pisses me off. Like my mind is just bent on getting out of high school as fast as I can with a simple education, but I don't want that, I want get good grades and do something with my life. I'm always the guy that laughs, I'm usually positive but I sometimes have a short temper. The things that bugs me most, is I know I can be successful but I don't can't seem to get off my ass to do it, and it pisses me off.
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you can only do what you truly desire (and right now that happens to be "not much at all"), it's not something a human being can control. You can only control 'how' you do something, external factors control 'what' you want to do. But you do seem to have a desire to want to do 'something', so expose yourself to some different experiences, and see if something inspires you.
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The frick?
You sound lazy as hell. Things don't just happen to you unless you're incredibly intelligent or talented, and that's not most of us. It takes hard work to get to places.
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On March 26 2011 00:29 lethal111 wrote:
Hey guys, I never thought I would get this awesome response from the community, I have read every comment you guys have posted. These are the advice my parents consistently nag to me. I am very lazy to tell you guy, I honestly don't know what I am going to do in life, getting into a college or university is possible with only a B where I live. Even if I get into post secondary, I dont know what to do,there is no motivation, in me. My parents make me go to the library to study, but it never helps me on a test unless I grind it into me and honestly im just too lazy to do that. I try to set my priorities straight but in the end, it always fail , and it pisses me off. Like my mind is just bent on getting out of high school as fast as I can with a simple education, but I don't want that, I want get good grades and do something with my life. I'm always the guy that laughs, I'm usually positive but I sometimes have a short temper. The things that bugs me most, is I know I can be successful but I don't can't seem to get off my ass to do it, and it pisses me off.
It really does take something that produces motivation from within in order to become hard-working. I suggest you do more things (become the "yes"-man) and try to not be lazy in more ways than one.
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you need to appreciate life more, if you dont like where you're at, then work harder... If you want better grades, dont procrastinate, start studying and stop cheating, or get better at cheating.
Kids these days think that life magically becomes great, you have to go out and make the life you want
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Copying homework is the absolutely worst thing you can do. Homework is where you really check if you understood the stuff you did in school. If you can't do your homework, you should immediately check the internet for other explanations of the stuff you just did.
You should always do your homework. They won't be enough to give you straight A's, but it's no problem to get B's throughout the board JUST due to homework, because homework basically verifies your understanding of the topic. A's are done mostly by practice. Compare it to Starcraft: Knowing counters and build orders for specific things theoretically are enough to get you out of the lower leagues, but without practice you won't become pro, no matter how talented you are.
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