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Kralic
Canada2628 Posts
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adso
718 Posts
We are mammals.. we need this glare into another persons' soul to feel anything, The eyes say it all... Good luck with the moving on..., if you do see her again: smile with your eyes, You never know. | ||
Uranium
United States1077 Posts
If you meet a cute girl and she notices you, you have less than half an hour to initiate conversation before she writes you off. Even if she's making eyes at you, if you wait 2 hours to talk to her (at the end of the event or whatever) she can tell that you waited so long because you are fucking SCARED. So if you want to succeed with women you need to man up and get on that shit pronto. | ||
JMave
Singapore1802 Posts
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xxSK8rGUy277xx
300 Posts
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hp.Shell
United States2527 Posts
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DevAzTaYtA
Oman2005 Posts
Why haven't you gone to meet her after church service? She's given you two opportunities to do so and she was probably expecting to see you. | ||
Kyuukyuu
Canada6263 Posts
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Zim23
United States1681 Posts
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xarthaz
1704 Posts
PS, if you apply the theory of "Psycho Cybernetics" to the means of achieving that goal, you will succeed. | ||
TheLardyGooser
Canada145 Posts
You definitely got off to a good start, she was curious, interested and by all accounts willing to meet up with you at the church after the initial few exchanges. Especially the "maybe I'll remember if I see you" part. After that you just got too pushy, which for a girl who has no idea who you are, who you were talking to over facebook, is way too forward. You should've found out when she was going to be there, approached her with confidence and charmed like crazy. I don't think your chances are completely gone though, just go to the church, introduce yourself and play it really casual, you never know, this whole thing could just wind up being a fun story you tell her later on | ||
O.Golden_ne
Australia204 Posts
cool chicks are hard too find, but the easiest way to get out of a rough patch IMO is too just get outside. dont meet girlies out on the town, they're not good sorts. meet chicks at uni, and in IRL. the internet and nightclubs are the realm of the creep and the bootycall. all this being said, i met my new gf at a nightclub and we didnt exchange numbers but she asked me to add her on facebook on her iPhone. lol. idk, the world works in funny ways, just fake it till you make it. people are attracted to people who are confident, and have direction.so getting outside and being active is the best thing for meeting someone. | ||
JMave
Singapore1802 Posts
if i could, i would have wanted to make all the right moves but i guess you don't get a rewind and replay button in life. edit: but still, i'm really thankful for all you guys who readily responded to me and said the truth and the reality of things. sometimes its easy to get caught up in so many misconceptions and perceptions through your own thoughts. thanks for clearing things up for me guys. i'm eternally grateful. | ||
GoShox
United States1835 Posts
I've been in the same exact spot and have been one of those people to make girl blogs, so I know how ya feel. In the past two years or so I've been sad quite a bit.. but it's got me to the point where I'm suddenly really optimistic about life and happy all the time. And I would never be this way had I never had my heart broken a few times. Good luck, my friend. | ||
JMave
Singapore1802 Posts
On March 22 2011 15:19 GoShox wrote: You'll live to tell. You're completely right, getting caught up in the heat of the moment can be hard.. but each little bit of experience simply builds you up for the next one, and as you gain confidence and mental toughness, you'll be able to conquer that. I've been in the same exact spot and have been one of those people to make girl blogs, so I know how ya feel. In the past two years or so I've been sad quite a bit.. but it's got me to the point where I'm suddenly really optimistic about life and happy all the time. And I would never be this way had I never had my heart broken a few times. Good luck, my friend. i like this very much. its great to have people whom you can relate to all the best to you too. | ||
Murderotica
Vatican City State2594 Posts
On March 22 2011 14:22 JMave wrote: i have since gotten rid of her from facebook and msn and i just want to move on. the thing is its very easy to be giving advice and saying the right stuff after all that's happened but when you're in the heat of the moment and the conditions that come at you which you have no control, then its a much different situation to be in. if i could, i would have wanted to make all the right moves but i guess you don't get a rewind and replay button in life. edit: but still, i'm really thankful for all you guys who readily responded to me and said the truth and the reality of things. sometimes its easy to get caught up in so many misconceptions and perceptions through your own thoughts. thanks for clearing things up for me guys. i'm eternally grateful. Getting caught up in the heat of the moment speaks volumes about your approach. This is because this feeling is due to one or a combination of the following emotions: inexperience, naivete, fear, inadequacy, desperation, or excessive passion. Whichever applies to you is your vice, your enemy - you need to prevent it from controlling your thoughts, and therefore actions, making them "heated" [sic] (I would prefer brash). A cool and careful mind comes with practice and restraint. I like how you revealed your lack of ability to do so by pointing a finger at everyone else as a group, saying "You're no better than me! If you were in my place you would fuck up too!" Sorry JMave, referring to the aforementioned list of attraction vices, this is a sign of your naivete. I am glad that your edit aims to appease us after you try to bring us down to your level, it shows that you have the ability to make rational thoughts, if only after a brash response (your first paragraph, your interrogation of this girl, your flustered response to your first meeting with her - all examples of this). Best of luck, and keep that finger at yourself, not others. | ||
JMave
Singapore1802 Posts
On March 22 2011 23:47 Murderotica wrote: Getting caught up in the heat of the moment speaks volumes about your approach. This is because this feeling is due to one or a combination of the following emotions: inexperience, naivete, fear, inadequacy, desperation, or excessive passion. Whichever applies to you is your vice, your enemy - you need to prevent it from controlling your thoughts, and therefore actions, making them "heated" [sic] (I would prefer brash). A cool and careful mind comes with practice and restraint. I like how you revealed your lack of ability to do so by pointing a finger at everyone else as a group, saying "You're no better than me! If you were in my place you would fuck up too!" Sorry JMave, referring to the aforementioned list of attraction vices, this is a sign of your naivete. I am glad that your edit aims to appease us after you try to bring us down to your level, it shows that you have the ability to make rational thoughts, if only after a brash response (your first paragraph, your interrogation of this girl, your flustered response to your first meeting with her - all examples of this). Best of luck, and keep that finger at yourself, not others. thanks for your advice. if it comes with practice, that means you'd have to go through it time and time again of failure to learn it right isnt it? | ||
Murderotica
Vatican City State2594 Posts
On March 23 2011 07:58 JMave wrote: thanks for your advice. if it comes with practice, that means you'd have to go through it time and time again of failure to learn it right isnt it? I'll make an analogy. When you are practicing as a striker for soccer, you shoot at the goal. Every time you miss, you readjust your approach and hopefully next time you score. However, you're not playing a game when you are practicing. There is more pressure and you might be physically under more stress when you're in the game, but that doesn't change the fact that you are just trying to put the ball into the net. Same concept here: you can practice your social skills in many places, and even if it's just a simulation, it helps you prepare for the real thing. If lack of confidence is an issue for you, then of course trying to get girls and failing over and over will be disheartening to you, to the point where you might give up. But how about striking up a conversation with some random person? Keeping them interested, becoming friends, etc., all prepare you for "hitting on" a girl. EDIT: To add to the analogy, reading books about how to score a goal definitely helps, but unless you actually step out on the field you never will. So, get some theory, then practice, then score! | ||
JMave
Singapore1802 Posts
On March 23 2011 09:04 Murderotica wrote: I'll make an analogy. When you are practicing as a striker for soccer, you shoot at the goal. Every time you miss, you readjust your approach and hopefully next time you score. However, you're not playing a game when you are practicing. There is more pressure and you might be physically under more stress when you're in the game, but that doesn't change the fact that you are just trying to put the ball into the net. Same concept here: you can practice your social skills in many places, and even if it's just a simulation, it helps you prepare for the real thing. If lack of confidence is an issue for you, then of course trying to get girls and failing over and over will be disheartening to you, to the point where you might give up. But how about striking up a conversation with some random person? Keeping them interested, becoming friends, etc., all prepare you for "hitting on" a girl. EDIT: To add to the analogy, reading books about how to score a goal definitely helps, but unless you actually step out on the field you never will. So, get some theory, then practice, then score! ok. thanks | ||
JMave
Singapore1802 Posts
+ Show Spoiler + HER It's cool. Anyway you seem to have thought that I was quite free or something like that, so just to let you know, I'm actually very busy now and hardly have time to come online. So don't misunderstand if you don't see me on msn or if I take a few days to reply your emails. Regarding meeting up, we'll see how it goes again if we ever happen to see each other online okay? | ||
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