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On March 22 2011 15:19 GoShox wrote:
You'll live to tell. You're completely right, getting caught up in the heat of the moment can be hard.. but each little bit of experience simply builds you up for the next one, and as you gain confidence and mental toughness, you'll be able to conquer that.

I've been in the same exact spot and have been one of those people to make girl blogs, so I know how ya feel. In the past two years or so I've been sad quite a bit.. but it's got me to the point where I'm suddenly really optimistic about life and happy all the time. And I would never be this way had I never had my heart broken a few times.

Good luck, my friend.

On March 22 2011 14:22 JMave wrote:
i have since gotten rid of her from facebook and msn and i just want to move on. the thing is its very easy to be giving advice and saying the right stuff after all that's happened but when you're in the heat of the moment and the conditions that come at you which you have no control, then its a much different situation to be in.

if i could, i would have wanted to make all the right moves but i guess you don't get a rewind and replay button in life.

edit: but still, i'm really thankful for all you guys who readily responded to me and said the truth and the reality of things. sometimes its easy to get caught up in so many misconceptions and perceptions through your own thoughts. thanks for clearing things up for me guys. i'm eternally grateful.

On March 22 2011 23:47 Murderotica wrote:

Getting caught up in the heat of the moment speaks volumes about your approach. This is because this feeling is due to one or a combination of the following emotions: inexperience, naivete, fear, inadequacy, desperation, or excessive passion. Whichever applies to you is your vice, your enemy - you need to prevent it from controlling your thoughts, and therefore actions, making them "heated" [sic] (I would prefer brash). A cool and careful mind comes with practice and restraint. I like how you revealed your lack of ability to do so by pointing a finger at everyone else as a group, saying "You're no better than me! If you were in my place you would fuck up too!" Sorry JMave, referring to the aforementioned list of attraction vices, this is a sign of your naivete. I am glad that your edit aims to appease us after you try to bring us down to your level, it shows that you have the ability to make rational thoughts, if only after a brash response (your first paragraph, your interrogation of this girl, your flustered response to your first meeting with her - all examples of this).

Best of luck, and keep that finger at yourself, not others.

On March 23 2011 07:58 JMave wrote:


thanks for your advice. if it comes with practice, that means you'd have to go through it time and time again of failure to learn it right isnt it?

On March 23 2011 09:04 Murderotica wrote:

I'll make an analogy. When you are practicing as a striker for soccer, you shoot at the goal. Every time you miss, you readjust your approach and hopefully next time you score. However, you're not playing a game when you are practicing. There is more pressure and you might be physically under more stress when you're in the game, but that doesn't change the fact that you are just trying to put the ball into the net. Same concept here: you can practice your social skills in many places, and even if it's just a simulation, it helps you prepare for the real thing. If lack of confidence is an issue for you, then of course trying to get girls and failing over and over will be disheartening to you, to the point where you might give up. But how about striking up a conversation with some random person? Keeping them interested, becoming friends, etc., all prepare you for "hitting on" a girl.

EDIT: To add to the analogy, reading books about how to score a goal definitely helps, but unless you actually step out on the field you never will. So, get some theory, then practice, then score!