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It's cool. Anyway you seem to have thought that I was quite free or something like that, so just to let you know, I'm actually very busy now and hardly have time to come online. So don't misunderstand if you don't see me on msn or if I take a few days to reply your emails. Regarding meeting up, we'll see how it goes again if we ever happen to see each other online okay?

Although it seems like things are looking better, I think she just feels bad so she wanted to make sure you didn't get hurt by any of her actions (past and future). This isn't as good as it may seem because - "we'll see how it goes again if we EVER happen to see each other ONLINE okay?" This just tells me that she doesn't really want to see you online again, and her preface ("If you don't see me on msn...") makes it seem to me like she is denying you in the nicest way she possibly can which is avoidance. Think about it logically - why would the discussion of meeting up be any different the next time you are both online? It wouldn't. She just doesn't want to say "No, never," to your face.

I could be wrong on this one because she might be the saint of forgiving and philanthropic pity, and therefore is just telling you how it is, although phrasing the last sentence poorly. However I find that to be highly unlikely.

Your best bet is to stop barking up this tree for a while, even if you see her online. Only talk to her after you've seen her online for a few times, and when you talk to her, make it productive. Be interesting, less desperate to meet up, etc. Next time you talk to her, I'd start with something like "I feel like I came off as a needy person last time and I'm not usually like that, sorry if I creeped you out," (whatever you feel comfortable saying to that effect). This shows you have understanding of her situation, which is an attractive quality in men. From then on you should try to be interesting and NEVER hint at meeting up in person, until many many conversations later. Picking up women over the internet through MSN chat and AIM is entirely possible because they are attracted to your persona, so once you meet in real life there is already a connection. On top of that, due to the nature of IM, you get a little more time to tweak what you say and this is like practice ;D GLHF

EsX_Raptor

United States2801 Posts

March 23 2011 14:05 GMT

#42

I would recommend you let that one slip and find another; she obviously has no idea who you are and the current impression she has of you is not a truly favorable one. This will affect your relationship with her from this day on.

Guys, make sure you remember very damn well that first impressions are always key.

Also, don't assume every girl out there knows what a troll or any other sort of on-line junk is. For christ's sake, don't bring shit up like that in a conversation with a girl; she's not your Starcraft practice partner or your 4chan user. Girls will definitely think you're a huge ass computer nerd by thinking your terms stem from pokemon or something along those lines.

Don't be pushy. Girls are excellent fags when it comes to taking things slower than rock deterioration. So give them their time. Don't expect to meet a chick and be dating her the week after (unless she just wants to fuck). If you date her a year after, you're doing great (3-4 years if Christian).

I got lazy. With that said, let that one slip and go find another one.

Elegance

Canada917 Posts

March 23 2011 15:05 GMT

#43

You know I find it funny that I saw this blog a couple of days ago. I'm currently in the same situation (except, none of this crap has happened yet), and she's the one who added me.

So I was like "hmm she looks like a decent 8-8.5" So I waited a few days before shooting her a message saying "I think you added me. I dont think I know you?" which hints that it is sort of rude while coming off sounding casual. This is good as it gets her on the DEFENSIVE side, afterall she is the one who added me.

The reply from that was "You commented on my post on (insert mutual friend's name here)'s wall, about male nurses. So because you're the first one I know, I thought I'd add you.

"

So I was just thinking to myself "Alright time to get into gear" So I tried to get her on the defensive again (even moreso this time) which coming off as a generally hillarious guy.

My response to that was "Oh wow you added me because I'm a male nurse? Not because of my delicious cooking abilities, my world renowned sheep herding skills or maybe even my personality? I am hurt. " Afterall, I was just having fun with it. I don't know her, she doesn't know me, so what if she thinks I'm a freak. Because I am a freak and I'm an asshole.

Turns out it was effective I guess as she in turn replied with another semi joke "I'm sorry.

I didn't know those things until now! but i would love to watch you herd sheep sometime! "

Now I had to make her believe that SHE was the one hitting on me. (even though I caused this entire shit to happen). So i said "Haha slow down there (inset her name here), I don't perform for strangers. There's gotta be some trust first." Basically I'm telling her that she's getting too pushy and that she needs to slow down, again putting her on the defensive. That's pretty much it for now, gotta see how it escalates, just taking my sweet time.

Also all of my messages have been written roughly half of a day after her replies, afterall I'm a "busy" guy.

I'll let you know how this turns out. I guess what I'm trying to say, is let go of the whole romantic meetup/guy courting girl crap. Play some role reversal, be funny about it. Generally, just do this for fun. I'm having fun with it, I don't care whether it works or not, I don't fucking know this chick.

EsX_Raptor

United States2801 Posts

March 23 2011 16:39 GMT

#44

On March 24 2011 00:05 Elegance wrote:
You know I find it funny that I saw this blog a couple of days ago. I'm currently in the same situation (except, none of this crap has happened yet), and she's the one who added me.

So I was like "hmm she looks like a decent 8-8.5" So I waited a few days before shooting her a message saying "I think you added me. I dont think I know you?" which hints that it is sort of rude while coming off sounding casual. This is good as it gets her on the DEFENSIVE side, afterall she is the one who added me.

The reply from that was "You commented on my post on (insert mutual friend's name here)'s wall, about male nurses. So because you're the first one I know, I thought I'd add you.

Yeah, keep us posted. XD

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