EPTI'm not doing that well in school right now. I have been putting a lot of time into my studies, but in a couple classes (Advanced chem, and Calculus) I have been having a lot of difficulty. Recently I've simply burned out. I feel like I can't put in any more time. Besides, it seems to me, all that past time didn't do much. It has to do with efficiency. My parents are certainly being inflammatory, but this weekend it seems as if I've hit a wall, and I really want to do well. But I still haven't done much over the weekend. This is the first time this has really happened. What should I do to keep on moving forwards?
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Froadac
United States6733 Posts
I'm not doing that well in school right now. I have been putting a lot of time into my studies, but in a couple classes (Advanced chem, and Calculus) I have been having a lot of difficulty. Recently I've simply burned out. I feel like I can't put in any more time. Besides, it seems to me, all that past time didn't do much. It has to do with efficiency. My parents are certainly being inflammatory, but this weekend it seems as if I've hit a wall, and I really want to do well. But I still haven't done much over the weekend. This is the first time this has really happened. What should I do to keep on moving forwards? | ||
MightyAtom
Korea (South)1897 Posts
On March 21 2011 14:41 Froadac wrote: So alright. I'm not doing that well in school right now. I have been putting a lot of time into my studies, but in a couple classes (Advanced chem, and Calculus) I have been having a lot of difficulty. Recently I've simply burned out. I feel like I can't put in any more time. Besides, it seems to me, all that past time didn't do much. It has to do with efficiency. My parents are certainly being inflammatory, but this weekend it seems as if I've hit a wall, and I really want to do well. But I still haven't done much over the weekend. This is the first time this has really happened. What should I do to keep on moving forwards? last post for a while in this thread as soon as Mani locks it down, but to address your post. 1. Sometimes your mind needs time to assimilate what you've learned. For instance, if you take a test and you still haven't learned the material properly, its a freaking gong show of a process as you try to apply concepts, that you haven't fully mastered, to the problem, while simultaneously doing the required mechanics to get the answer down accurately. Ask yourself, before you write your exams, do you really know the concepts down cold? 2. Sometimes you need to ease your course load. It's a bitch to make it up during your summer break, but when you get to a point where you feel you're burning out, you're just not effective at anything and that isn't going to change over night. 3. Take a full weekend off and spend 1 full day on each subject separately and ask multiple friends how do what they are doing to come in for an hour and help you through each section. You need to get some kind of progress/ some kind of win to get through this obstacle. 4.Will power isn't enough, especially if you are demoralized. Even if you take time off to relax, you won't because this will be hanging over your head. Don't beat yourself up, but make a clear schedule and again, do number 3 with some friends to help tutor you through some concepts you're having trouble with, even if it is the same concept for the 1 hour, you need to know you can progress. But to start: Just clear your mind and go out for walk, doesn't matter how long, but just get some space (walk carefully, you may feel very distracted), just breath deeply and just try to feel as stable and fresh as you can without all the stress and strain you've built up to this point. I know, you don't want to do this because you feel all the crap hanging over your head and you dont' feel justified in taking more time, but just know, this is your last break before you fully get into it, so think of it more like just getting enough blood circulation before you really hit the books. Fully wash your face, do five push ups, drink a cold cool glass of water. Then open your text book and start from where you do understand the material, and then proceed to work through all the example questions and see if you can replicate the results, and don't move on until you can replicate the example exactly without flaw and then keep going until are confident you know the basics. A lot of the anxiety is because you aren't able to do anything that seems like progress, but even if it copying out the examples, to start, do something which adds to your understanding. When you feel tired, wash your face again, do five push ups and drink bit of water and do it until you get some kind of feeling of understanding. You'll know it when it happens. After that, go back and do all the text book practice questions, do all the ones you can. If you can't do it at that point, circle it and move on and take it up with your friends when you see them next week end or even tomorrow night. You just need 1 break through to get back on track. Trust me on that. Cheers | ||
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MightyAtom
Korea (South)1897 Posts
I'm in Zurich right now, meetings etc. But since I am still jet lagged, I have 2 hours every morning to write before I start my actual work. So, while this thread is something like 3 years old or something, I said one day I'd re-open it. So it's open! Please try to read through the thread first before asking me something, my thoughts haven't changed. I've been outside of Korean now for nearly 4 years, so maybe there are things different now; I mean even I have 2 kids now instead of 1 lol. Last off, I will be sincere in my responses, give me some time to respond though because my schedule is far more busier than it's ever been and I'm not as robust as I use to be, it has been an extremely rough rough 3 years. I'm staying in Zurich until Monday, so you have until Monday evening to ask until I fly out and this thread gets locked again for another 3 years. ^^ But I do want to say...for those who think they don't need an older brother or that kind of figure, I'm not trying to be that for everyone and say, hey I know all, listen to me,-I'm not here because I need anyone's respect or need to feed my ego- reality is I have very very few close friends as a choice- but for those who need a hyung's advice, I will be your hyung here on TL for as much as I can be. MightyAtom in Zurich Jan 29, 2014 | ||
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vaL4r
Germany240 Posts
edit 2/2/2014 Dear Mighty Atom Hyung, now is a good time to ask for guidance. A beginning is a very delicate time reads the introduction to the movie dune, I soon have the opportunity to begin anew and I don't want to mess it up. I am moving, moving out of reach of my bad tempered toxic stepmother and my distant father who, in his troubled relationship, remains apologetic and has resigned himself to maintaining a soul crushing status quo. I grew up in a town in nothern bavaria, my parents divorced when I was 10, i stayed with my wonderful mother, a freelance feldenkrais teacher, her boyfriend was very nice too.I had a strong supportive social circle around school and drama club.Waking up used to cause me joy in anticipation.. daily I basked in appreciation.It was fun! I was 16 in 2008 when my mother died in a motorcycle accident.My lifes story is too long to tell so I will skip out on the details.I made a bad decision then by agreeing to move away from all the support and everything I held dear.The short version: For years I was lonely and very sad, I did not continue my education after secondary school.I felt I had reached a limit and could no longer step forward.I stopped seeing my closest friends and barely spoke to anyone.I did not want to show my broken self.To keep my soul alive I did my best to distract myself with excessive online-gaming (hello teamliquid) and snowboarding. present day I live in san ramon california, I am 22 years Where do I take it from here? I want to be financially independent, secure, happy and fullfilled one day.My nightshift-gas-station job won't cut it in the long run.I can attend the local community college later this year when I become a californian resident but I will have to take student loans as I do not have large amounts of savings.What degree am I getting, is this the best way? | ||
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MightyAtom
Korea (South)1897 Posts
On January 29 2014 21:35 vaL4r wrote: cool, I look forward to it edit 2/2/2014 Dear Mighty Atom Hyung, now is a good time to ask for guidance. A beginning is a very delicate time reads the introduction to the movie dune, I soon have the opportunity to begin anew and I don't want to mess it up. I am moving, moving out of reach of my bad tempered toxic stepmother and my distant father who, in his troubled relationship, remains apologetic and has resigned himself to maintaining a soul crushing status quo. I grew up in a town in nothern bavaria, my parents divorced when I was 10, i stayed with my wonderful mother, a freelance feldenkrais teacher, her boyfriend was very nice too.I had a strong supportive social circle around school and drama club.Waking up used to cause me joy in anticipation.. daily I basked in appreciation.It was fun! I was 16 in 2008 when my mother died in a motorcycle accident.My lifes story is too long to tell so I will skip out on the details.I made a bad decision then by agreeing to move away from all the support and everything I held dear.The short version: For years I was lonely and very sad, I did not continue my education after secondary school.I felt I had reached a limit and could no longer step forward.I stopped seeing my closest friends and barely spoke to anyone.I did not want to show my broken self.To keep my soul alive I did my best to distract myself with excessive online-gaming (hello teamliquid) and snowboarding. present day I live in san ramon california, I am 22 years Where do I take it from here? I want to be financially independent, secure, happy and fullfilled one day.My nightshift-gas-station job won't cut it in the long run.I can attend the local community college later this year when I become a californian resident but I will have to take student loans as I do not have large amounts of savings.What degree am I getting, is this the best way? Ok, #1, great that you've decided to move on, 22 is still young, I still didn't get my shit together until I was about 29, so you have time ^^. You always need to think, whether you have it made by 25 or 28 or even 30, does it fucking matter when when you're 35? It doesn't, only that you have made it in the way you want. The main issue is that: when you're 22 and you don't have a lot of exposure to what careers are really out there, you tend to think there a very little options. The main thing I would think comes down to two things: an education that can lead to a job that has a progression to move up or an education in something you are passionate about. The former, I think is simply a practical step, just get the mentality of taking small deliberate steps, not massive leaps, but I'm also not saying to settle, pick a great direction, but take the small solid steps to get there. Take the student loans, and study like a motherfucker, just focus on learning and being the best in your class. take those grads, get a scholarship or the best internship you can and just take it from there. In terms of what to do, I'd say going into chef school or a trade comes to mind first, but if you have any love of food, I'd think that being a chef, while difficult has some career path anywhere you go. Other than that, even going for your CPA and working your way up is another good way, even doing taxes may be a bore, but you can always do more later on. I'd also say, programming is very solid, while you may seem behind in the game, catching up is all up to you. Additionally being a graphic or video designer/editor are also options. I hope you can take this as a start and I'd want you to keep me posted, send me a pm every 6 months or so, and even if I take a couple of months to get back to you, I will (sorry I just travel and work that much). But most of all, the fact that you are moving on- that is everything- all you need to do is be your own man, and the rest you'll figure out as you go along- cause if you have enough balls to do that, you have enough to make it. Best MA | ||
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