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This is going to be short and sweet:
My advice to anyone still in high school is to not do anything more with girls other than go on a few dates and mess around. You don't need a girlfriend and it'll only serve to screw you up, especially at the end when your grades should be most important.
For university, getting a girlfriend is your choice. Now you're at a point where I'd say it's better to be alone and get through school (unless you're in an easy program). At the same time, if you acquire a girlfriend and she turns out to be a really great person, stick with it - she may just be the girl who will one day become your wife.
I say this because girlfriends - not dating - are a lot of work. It is a constant battle with yourself to keep your cool and not push her away with unattractive behavior, while also having to deal with and shut down her BS. In all though if you both make each other happy then little mishaps won't cause damage and you can both just be yourselves. Just understand what you're getting into, and for the love of God do not listen to anyone else when it comes to your relationship.
My girlfriend and I have been going out of 3.5 years and will one day be married. We started going out after 1st year university. We have had many arguments and gone through many rough times together both with each other and in our respective lives. It has been a lot of work, still is, and still will be, but in the end all that matters is that we're with each other.
My point is that if you are not in a relationship stay out for a while, and if you are in one - stay the course, but only if it isn't actually hurting you.
 
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So.... singles, die alone?
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Forever alone.
I think hes just saying u shouldn't try too hard to get a gf... cuz that's pathetic anyways.
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I see right through you. You want all the girls besides the ones already taken for yourself, don't you? Don't you, Mr. Giz?
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I agree for the most part. Most people who date in high school get relationship-centered and lose sight of their friends, family, grades, morals, etc in the process. However, sometimes you do need to take advice relating to you relationship. An extreme case being one side is getting beaten by the other, so friends recommend they leave the abusive relationship. I think I understand what you were trying to say, though.
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I agree, a GF really TAKES a lot of time! It's not easy at all :/
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I want a girl who will study with me :/, its lonely in the library
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That is quite the devious ploy that TheGiz has enacted.
I think CanucksJC's one-line summary is on the money though. People do often try too hard to get a girlfriend, or it's on their mind so much that they cannot act normally around girls.
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One hundred years of solitude.
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On December 14 2010 04:46 GunSec wrote:
I agree, a GF really TAKES a lot of time! It's not easy at all :/
I second that.
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This whole thing was a contradiction. "Do not listen to anyone else when it comes to your relationship" Then why are you giving advice on ...relationships?
"you don't need a girlfriend, it will only screw you up" why do you have a girlfriend, and why are you happy?! girlfriends only screw you up!
"If you're not in a relationship stay out" rofl, wtf is this? Be lonely guys!
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On December 14 2010 04:42 AcrossFiveJulys wrote:
I see right through you. You want all the girls besides the ones already taken for yourself, don't you? Don't you, Mr. Giz?
In genius O_O
I'm lonely...
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On December 14 2010 04:36 yoonyoon wrote:
So.... singles, die alone?
We are all alone when we die...
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@OpRaider
1. I'm talking about general relationship advice versus targeted advice about YOUR relationship. Don't let people around you influence your relationship. Relationship advice about relationships in general is cool.
2. That sentence was talking about High School. High School is the biggest waste of time of our lives, and everyone gets it wrong thinking about the social aspects of it when schooling is all that matters. Girlfriends have the potential to draw you away from that. Even in university you should be cautious of this. Having a girlfriend itself can be a good thing, but it's like being successful in life - it requires blood, sweat, and tears along the way.
3. Be single, don't be lonely. If you stumble upon someone who turns out to be great then you'll recognize it, but don't think you NEED that.
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sure, relationships are a lot of work, but that doesn't mean that you should wait until you think you've found someone you think you can stay together with forever.
you need to learn what you want from a relationship and how relationships work, and being dumped / breaking up a couple of times is part of the process.
if you want to focus on school and your career that's fine, but if that's all you do I'm sure you'll get good grades and feel utterly empty inside.
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i literally had 0 friends in high school (aww yee, internetz) so i think i'm on the right track
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On December 14 2010 04:54 alypse wrote:
One hundred years of solitude.
The funny thing is that that book is all about people boning people. I have no idea as to why Gabriel Garcial Marquez gave his book its name.
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On December 14 2010 04:48 n.DieJokes wrote:
I want a girl who will study with me :/, its lonely in the library
bitches love the library. i want a girl who will drink at noon with me on campus.
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On December 14 2010 05:07 TheGiz wrote:
@OpRaider
1. I'm talking about general relationship advice versus targeted advice about YOUR relationship. Don't let people around you influence your relationship. Relationship advice about relationships in general is cool.
2. That sentence was talking about High School. High School is the biggest waste of time of our lives, and everyone gets it wrong thinking about the social aspects of it when schooling is all that matters. Girlfriends have the potential to draw you away from that. Even in university you should be cautious of this. Having a girlfriend itself can be a good thing, but it's like being successful in life - it requires blood, sweat, and tears along the way.
3. Be single, don't be lonely. If you stumble upon someone who turns out to be great then you'll recognize it, but don't think you NEED that.
If you're always aiming to get the maximum amount of efficiency out of life you're going to have a rather dull one. You could also argue that you shouldn't have a girlfriend while you're working, because she'll detract from your 16 hour days/7 days a week schedule. How are you going to get promoted if you aren't dedicating everything to your job?!
I know plenty of people who met their wives in high school, and who are incredibly happy and successful now. I went through high school focusing on the social aspects of it, and still got into the program I wanted at the university I wanted. It's all about balance.
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