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I quit my job at DirecTV three days ago.
I am 19 years old and left my house yesterday after an argument with my parents about going back to college. Just left. Took no clothes or money or ID. My last words to my dad were "fuck I'm an adult" and to my mother "I'm leaving" Its barely been 24 hours but I don't plan on going back for more than my money ID and some clothes.
Now I'm staying at my friends house with his wife and son trying to figure out what to do next. My best plan is to move to Florida to meet up with a hot girl I know then go traveling for a month or two and then get a job somewhere.
I know this is all stupid and a terrible plan and worse i know my parents just wanted what was best for me. But I'm more stubborn than a goat and I refuse to go back.
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I hope you don't regret this decision. :o
Best of luck though.
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United States24500 Posts
Quit job -> lose free housing at home -> travel for a month or two?
That progression doesn't make sense to me.
Why did you quit your job?
I can totally understand why you want to get the hell out of your house, but you need to do it in a more mature manner. I was patient and waited until I was 25 to move out despite them driving me crazy and I'm glad I did (but this was mostly for money reasons). Regardless, I moved out in an organized fashion.
Just to give you an idea of why I wanted to move out, whenever I'm in the same room as a family member my pulse ends up going up significantly due to the environment.
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you never want to leave the home on bad terms with your family... go back and make things right, if you still want to leave after that go ahead
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Yeah, I don;t honestly know I'm kinda hoping for someone here at TL to knock some sense into me sense I can't do it myself and nobody irl would say such things to me.
I quit my job because I was a subcontractor and my boss was telling me I was making tons of money and after two months of 40+ hours a week I only got $300.
I told my parents I wanted to quit and they said that was okay and that I was being treated unfair, we agreed I'd look for another job. The next day they pressured me to go back to College and I told them I wasn't going which led to the fight which lead to me leaving.
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United States24500 Posts
What are the pros and cons of going back to college?
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go to college its way easier than any other lifestyle except highschool, and theres a future in it.
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Pros: Further my education -- work towards a degree for a better future
Cons I don't believe there are cons in college asides from the time spent in classes that do nothing for your goals.
I have nothing against college its just not what I want to do. I wanted to get a normal minimum wage job like any other kid and make some money but that wasn't an option, to my parents.
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It sounds to me like you know you were wrong, you just don't to have to admit it to them.
You don't have to admit you were wrong about going back to college. No one enjoys arguments, and its definitely normal to get upset while arguing. Just tell your parents that you overreacted and that you're still frustrated from getting paid so little after working so hard. Then figure out what to do.
Nothing wrong with taking a vacation if you've got the time and money. Or if you want to get right back to work do that. Whatever you decide will be easier if you tell your parents before hand. Give them the opportunity to support your decision and you'll feel better about it, even if they end up disagreeing with what you've decided.
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United States24500 Posts
Get a minimum wage job: make shit money that can barely cover your expenses when you live extremely frugally.
College: lead into a job potentially that pays better than shit money and can cover your expenses.
What is it about the first choice that is appealing enough that you aren't interested in the second choice? I don't get why you think wanting to get a normal minimum wage job when college is an option is like any other kid.
If you have any job prospects that are better than minimum wage and don't require college then I'm not saying you shouldn't pursue those.
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Hyrule18941 Posts
Pros: college parties, girls, drugs, booze, a degree
Cons: shit ton of debt, frequent blackouts, and more debt
But seriously, I reallllly want to go back to college. A degree would make my life so much better. Abandoning your home and family, moving to another state to shack up with some chic, and being a vagrant really tends not to work out most of the time.
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On November 04 2010 08:07 micronesia wrote:
Get a minimum wage job: make shit money that can barely cover your expenses when you live extremely frugally.
College: lead into a job potentially that pays better than shit money and can cover your expenses.
What is it about the first choice that is appealing enough that you aren't interested in the second choice? I don't get why you think wanting to get a normal minimum wage job when college is an option is like any other kid.
If you have any job prospects that are better than minimum wage and don't require college then I'm not saying you shouldn't pursue those.
Honestly micronesia,
I don't know why I don't want o go to college, I went for a year and felt like I'm sure lots of bright students do going to school that I wasn't learning anything and wasting money.
One valid reason I tell myself is that I don't have a direction in life I need college for. As in, I don't know what I want to do career wise.. it's honestly one of the negative impacts sc has had on me ever since 2004 all I ever wanted to be was progamer or the next rekrul.
When I was in college i carried around a copy of super/system 2 and read it over and over.
that is the best I can say for that.
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always good to explore man, it probablly would be better to leave on good terms with your parents.. but I guess I don't know the whole situation. I'm 19 too, sounds kind of scary but go for it if your problems are that severe.. its always good to get out and experience something new anyway, you can always get back to studies anyway, you're young.... gl hf and get back to us about ur decision :D best of luck with all
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On November 04 2010 08:12 tofucake wrote:
Pros: college parties, girls, drugs, booze, a degree
Cons: shit ton of debt, frequent blackouts, and more debt
But seriously, I reallllly want to go back to college. A degree would make my life so much better. Abandoning your home and family, moving to another state to shack up with some chic, and being a vagrant really tends not to work out most of the time.
I read this and think.. "tends not to work out most of the time?" I'll be the exception to that. Even though I realize that I should take your point as extremely valid.
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On November 04 2010 07:53 micronesia wrote:
Just to give you an idea of why I wanted to move out, whenever I'm in the same room as a family member my pulse ends up going up significantly due to the environment.
I admire that you still manage to be in the same room as them. More then I can stand though.
OP - If you're not careful there's a very real possibility you'll end up on the streets. Takin two months off now sounds very dangerous. By all means go to Florida, but make sure you search for a job every day and that you put some real effort into it. If you have some good friends that you can rely on, that's great. But don't overstay your welcome. After five days you should be on the move again which should give you an idea of how urgent your situation is. Your friends are nice enough to let you stay there so do your best to get a grip and sort your life out.
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United States24500 Posts
As I mentioned before there is another option besides minimum wage job and college. Lots of people do reasonably well without a college degree. It's not an easy question for many to answer, but what can you do or get trained to do fairly easily that will work for you and actually be a decent job?
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On November 04 2010 07:53 micronesia wrote:
Just to give you an idea of why I wanted to move out, whenever I'm in the same room as a family member my pulse ends up going up significantly due to the environment.
I feel the same way.
I can be having a great day away from home, out with friends or even when I was at school. Then I come home and as I walk up the driveway I get the feeling of uneasiness. Then I'd walk into the house and someone would say something to me it could be
-where have you been?
-how was your day?
-how was Johan?
-what are you doing.
anything.
And I'd just instantly get mad and think that whoever was so stupid not worth my time to explain.
It was always just my home. If I went to other peoples houses similar things could happen but id have a normal social reaction.
My mom and dad I feel have been bearing down too much pressure on me since I was about 14. Or maybe thats just teenage angst but thats how I feel.
My household had 4 screaming less than 5 year olds. and a bunch of drama filled siblings on top of that if it counts.
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On November 04 2010 08:13 Xtal wrote:Show nested quote +On November 04 2010 08:07 micronesia wrote:
Get a minimum wage job: make shit money that can barely cover your expenses when you live extremely frugally.
College: lead into a job potentially that pays better than shit money and can cover your expenses.
What is it about the first choice that is appealing enough that you aren't interested in the second choice? I don't get why you think wanting to get a normal minimum wage job when college is an option is like any other kid.
If you have any job prospects that are better than minimum wage and don't require college then I'm not saying you shouldn't pursue those. Honestly micronesia, I don't know why I don't want o go to college, I went for a year and felt like I'm sure lots of bright students do going to school that I wasn't learning anything and wasting money. One valid reason I tell myself is that I don't have a direction in life I need college for. As in, I don't know what I want to do career wise.. it's honestly one of the negative impacts sc has had on me ever since 2004 all I ever wanted to be was progamer or the next rekrul. When I was in college i carried around a copy of super/system 2 and read it over and over. that is the best I can say for that.
I had the exact problem as you. Didn't know what i wanted to do for a career, felt like i was wasting money going to college for something i had no interest in, etc. All I can tell you is go and grind it out, or you'll regret it later (I know I do). Having even 1 year of college education to fall back on will save your ass in a dire situation.
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United States24500 Posts
Nah in my case my pulse is going up because of actual ridiculousness.... not just a learned overreaction. The intensity of the cross examinations and the tense atmosphere over the most unimportant things is enough to take years off of your life.
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As a 23 year old that's made all of the wrong choices, go back home and finish school. No matter the amount of success I've found outside of school, I still look back and regret not finishing, and I'm probably going to be taking classes next semester.
PM me if you want to talk more about things, but I honestly couldn't advise more strongly against what you're doing.
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