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On September 15 2010 12:09 synapse wrote:(Maybe you quitting your drinking might set an example  )
Well, she drinks more than I do, and I'm actually a "responsible" drunk [oxymoron?] (I cut myself off, don't drink till I puke, etc.). She is pretty much a binge drinker. She'll say no to weed at first, but X beers later and she's all over that shit if it's available. Goes that way for lots of people I know. But I mean, we'll never meet a girl that never does anything that we don't like, which is why I feel awkward even making a big deal out of this. They say don't knock it till you try it, but I really have no desire to smoke it.
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On September 15 2010 13:09 MountainDewJunkie wrote:Show nested quote +On September 15 2010 12:09 synapse wrote:(Maybe you quitting your drinking might set an example ) Well, she drinks more than I do, and I'm actually a "responsible" drunk [oxymoron?] (I cut myself off, don't drink till I puke, etc.). She is pretty much a binge drinker. She'll say no to weed at first, but X beers later and she's all over that shit if it's available. Goes that way for lots of people I know. But I mean, we'll never meet a girl that never does anything that we don't like, which is why I feel awkward even making a big deal out of this. They say don't knock it till you try it, but I really have no desire to smoke it.
itd be dumb if u smoke because of it.
Actually every1 is different, so just follow your heart and do what makes you happy, not what makes others happy
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You should've been honest as soon as you found out she smoked weed. Dump her IMO, talking to a high girl while your sober is fucking annoying.
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haha being from holland this is so ridiculous lol
hypocrite
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On September 15 2010 14:45 Therapist.. wrote:
You should've been honest as soon as you found out she smoked weed. Dump her IMO, talking to a high girl while your sober is fucking annoying.
lol what?
how many high girls have you talked to? Was that generalization supposed to be serious?
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How do you know she won't compromise for you if you haven't asked yet? She brought it up hoping to discuss the matter and come up with a solution for both, you dodged the issue assuming that she would not want to do what she was already showing interest in doing. If you ask her to cut out on the weed I don't see why she wouldn't; just have a couple talks about it and see how you both feel. And uhh yes her business is your business, otherwise why would you have bothered to move in with her?
You can't live with someone and supress your own needs just to make her happier (which might not even be the case). The sooner you ask the sooner you'll find out whether or not you want to continue being in this relationship.
Best of luck to you =D
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On September 15 2010 13:09 MountainDewJunkie wrote:Show nested quote +On September 15 2010 12:09 synapse wrote:(Maybe you quitting your drinking might set an example ) Well, she drinks more than I do, and I'm actually a "responsible" drunk [oxymoron?] (I cut myself off, don't drink till I puke, etc.). She is pretty much a binge drinker. She'll say no to weed at first, but X beers later and she's all over that shit if it's available. Goes that way for lots of people I know. But I mean, we'll never meet a girl that never does anything that we don't like, which is why I feel awkward even making a big deal out of this. They say don't knock it till you try it, but I really have no desire to smoke it.
Im still missing why you havent just told her that you dont like it, but that all youre asking is that she just not do it around you
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Im having an extreme case of deja vu. Swear i saw this thread before with the same responses before.
She can be doing worst things then weed but if it really bothers you that much then you better step it up and tell her this relationship wont work if she continues.
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On September 15 2010 09:58 itzbrandnew wrote:Show nested quote +On September 15 2010 09:53 MountainDewJunkie wrote:
Because as crazy as she is about me, as I know her, she does not compromise for any man. Even me. There is no such thing as a relationship without compromise (one that lasts anywho) Edit: Also, if she's willing to talk about it you need to be honest with her and let her know before she becomes comfortable with the notion that you are okay with it.
This ... commitment and communication is so key and foundational to any relationship. As two different people, you need to know how to meet each other's needs, and the only way you can do that is by (1) finding out each other's needs through communication and (2) committing to meet each other's needs [which often necessitates compromise on both parties].
I think if you really care for her and she cares for you, then you should lay out both of your thoughts while reiterating how much you care for her and you want to make this relationship work. As she said, "her issues are our issues", so she needs to be aware of your needs and how the two of you can work out a way to meet both your needs and her needs.
tl;dr: communicate more please, and make the decision of whether you want to commit or not =P
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ANy updates? have u talked to her?
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your relationship is gonna go down the shitter if you don't start opening up
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