So I pretty much went so sleep two hours ago, but half an hour ago I was woken up because one of my friends was calling me. Long story short, she's pretty high and saying things like "we should go to the beach, I really want to go to the beach with you" and "I really want to make out with you right now" and "would you be up for cuddling and stuff" etc. Which is all fine and cool, but the problem is she also said she probably won't remember what she said the next morning.
This kind of puts me in a bind because her ex-boyfriend happens to be one of my friends (who probably wouldn't be ok with anything happening). Oh and the fact that she was high.
So yeah, I'm not exactly sure what to do. Should I just pretend like nothing happened? She also mentioned that she was kind of sort of itinerant at the moment and sometimes slept in the student union (she's taking summer classes and lives about thirty minutes from campus...sometimes she doesn't go home), and I offered to let her crash at my place if she wanted to.
But yeah. No clue.
And now I'm going back to sleep because I have to be in my cubicle this morning T_T...I'll be back when I wake up.
EDIT: So yeah, thanks for the replies (actually going to sleep now).
And it wasn't weed, she was tripping on Ambien, so it might be different (I dunno). She's asked me to try it before ("let's see who can stay awake the longest...it gets really trippy!"), but I've always declined. I know that weed doesn't make people forget stuff haha.
As for my relationship with her ex, I see him on a fairly regular basis, but don't really talk to him much. He's more an acquaintance than anything.
Ugh, now I can't fall back asleep.
Also, this stuff has happened before in the past, but it usually went along the lines of "you're so sweet, where are you right now?" and stuff. I usually just shrugged it off.
EDIT: Yeah so my relationship with her ex-boyfriend is like...I'll see him maybe once a week, and when we do it'll be very amicable. We're in a club together, so it's not like he's a really good friend, but he's not just some rando in the back of a class either.
Let her chill at your place if she needs to but don't let anything happen I guess? Oh and it's probably best to tell her ex if he is a good friend of yours.
A lot of girls use that "Oh I ___ you but I probably wont remember this" as an excuse to tell you how they really feel.. I know a few people who did that on purpose lol.
I THINK only girls that are desperate for you resort to that method, go for it if you really like her! But ofc talk to the friend first :D
A moments pleasure will just piss away at the scene of your friend being disappointed at you. Even if nobody finds out about it, do you really want that guilty act on your back?
If your friend isn't ok with it you should ask yourself if it's worth it. I did something similar once and it was not worth it Besides, she's high.. would you do it if she was drunk instead? Probably not
The rule of man says hands off (usually). Also like you said she's was messed up.
Tell your friend and then try when she's sober if you want... If she says something like that when she's high there could be some truth behind it. On the other hand she might just feel lonely and frisky =P
it doesn't seem like you've been around high people - marijuana will not make you do crazy things that your sober self wouldn't do. saying she wouldn't remember anything by the next morning also reinforces the idea that she doesn't know much about weed and is behaving in the manner she thinks high people would. it's an excuse, and the motivation behind it seems to point towards good things for you.
i am of the opinion that you would not be taking advantage of her if you did anything with her in her current state. however, i am not so trusting of or keen on girls that act in this manner and would proceed with much caution.
So yeah, thanks for the replies (actually going to sleep now).
And it wasn't weed, she was tripping on Ambien, so it might be different (I dunno). She's asked me to try it before ("let's see who can stay awake the longest"), but I've always declined.
As for my relationship with her ex, I see him on a fairly regular basis, but don't really talk to him much. He's more an acquaintance than anything.
On July 16 2010 15:33 Empyrean wrote: So yeah, thanks for the replies (actually going to sleep now).
And it wasn't weed, she was tripping on Ambien, so it might be different (I dunno). She's asked me to try it before ("let's see who can stay awake the longest"), but I've always declined.
As for my relationship with her ex, I see him on a fairly regular basis, but don't really talk to him much. He's more an acquaintance than anything.
Ugh, now I can't fall back asleep.
Go watch some Old Spice till you fall asleep ... lol
ambien is a different matter entirely, her judgment is nonexistent now and she actually will have blanks in her memory by morning. easy call to stay away.
On July 16 2010 15:38 intrigue wrote: ambien is a different matter entirely, her judgment is nonexistent now and she actually will have blanks in her memory by morning. easy call to stay away.
Should I still be like "hey, heard you need a place to crash" or "so about that beach thing?"...she told me to remind her on facebook afterward, but yeah, dunno. :/
you guys take these shit too seriously. if you're both kewl with it, nothing wrong with a bit of dirty casual sex i am sure that acquaintance of yours dont give a flying fuck either and if he does, well fuck him too. you're not expected to marry and have children jesus christ.
On July 16 2010 15:52 DatTheMighty wrote: you guys take these shit too seriously. if you're both kewl with it, nothing wrong with a bit of dirty casual sex i am sure that acquaintance of yours dont give a flying fuck either and if he does, well fuck him too. you're not expected to marry and have children jesus christ.
I'm so glad we have a little diversity and variety on Teamliquid. I hope your friends know to not trust you around their girlfriends/ex's.
Or after you are making sweet sweet love to her on the candlelit bed, you start to feel the room shaking gently. Are you still having an orgasm? No, that isn't it. The shaking gets harder and more frequent. Is there an earthquake? Maybe.. but unlikely. Then all of a sudden fucking rhinos blast through the window along with dozens and dozens of safari animals, rampaging faster than you'd see on Animal Planet. After what seems to be minutes of animals passing you by and going through the house, a lone pelican waddles by. Before you can get out of missionary position, the pelican grabs Jumanji and makes a run for it back into the street.
Wow, men love pussies why you guys acting like your shit dont stink. pussies can be reused you know that shit self cleans and last for years. why you all so fucking uptight, i dont go around grabbing my friend's titties but i aint turning consensual sex down ever. EVER.
EPT
Besides, she's high.. would you do it if she was drunk instead? Probably not 
