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On July 02 2010 19:43 nath wrote:
Guess what - I am from a similar culture and have very many good friends from china (not first generation Chinese-American, but born there) -- and there are even subtle things that point in the direction of chauvinism in the culture. Coming from a (perhaps equally) chauvinistic culture I compared and saw similarities.
As a chinese person you know how big a part of your own culture Confucianism is. I have extensively read and studied Confucius and if you dont think it is chauvinistic then theres no point even discussing this LOL....and you need to actually read and think about the nature of a Confucian society.
Only in 1949 was there even a CALL for male and female equality, which hasn't been fulfilled very much. keep in mind that with the one child law female abortions were very common and normal, purely on the basis of gender. But i'm sure that's just a coincidence...its not that the male could continue the family line whereas the female is 'thrown out' and given away to another family when married.
Drop your condescending attitude.
You are only partially right anyway. The Chinese culture has traditionally been HEAVILY chauvinistic, however, since the communist party overtook the country, there has been a very strong push for gender equality. During the years when China was completely closed off to western nations, it was almost non-chauvinistic at all. In fact, the Chinese communism was partially based on gender equality.
Only until recently, when they opened up China to other nations, and loosened the communist control did China retract its progress. While it's true that the older generation still care very much about boys/girls, the newer and more educated generations care less and less. My parents' generation (growing up under heavy communism propaganda) is probably the least chauvinistic generation in the entire Chinese history.
If you compare today's China against Japan and South Korea, you'd notice a huge difference in the way society views women. How could you even say that "the call has not been fulfilled very much"?
Unless you have a parent who has lived through that era in China, there is no way you could understand.
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To OP:
Looks like you prefer for a more emotionally dominant guy 
The kick was ridiculous lol
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On July 02 2010 20:56 Cambium wrote:To OP: Looks like you prefer for a more emotionally dominant guy The kick was ridiculous lol
keke, maybe
Why the kick was ridiculous.
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i know so many guys who are like that. Trying to "pretend" to be sneaky and hint shit. They are mentally very weak and if you don't show how much you like them, they will think there is something wrong with you and hate you.
better to not be with him anyways...emotional problems coming from a girl is normal ( ), coming from a guy is messed up.
usually, guys who are like that end up being useless... im generalizing of course.
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That guy is such a child....He doesn't deserve a girlfriend....
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Obviously guys treat girls badly in China, didn't you guys see the new Karate Kid? Seriously guys, seriously...
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On July 02 2010 20:59 XiaoJoyce- wrote:Show nested quote +On July 02 2010 20:56 Cambium wrote:To OP: Looks like you prefer for a more emotionally dominant guy The kick was ridiculous lol keke, maybe Why the kick was ridiculous.
because i can't believe he kicked you lol
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On July 03 2010 00:58 NonFactor wrote:
Obviously guys treat girls badly in China, didn't you guys see the new Karate Kid? Seriously guys, seriously...
Umm no? They were only treating the black guy badly due to racial discrimination. The Asian guy was only overprotective (because their families are close friends) and got angry because she was making friends with the black guy.
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Hong Kong20321 Posts
wtf thats crazy lol O_O
glad u didn;t go out with him
what city are u in btw xiaojoyce?
hmm
@ the chinese chauvinism thing i dont really think so lol o _o
chauvinism is like if males think thehy'r the shit still or something? or what
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On July 03 2010 00:59 Cambium wrote:Show nested quote +On July 02 2010 20:59 XiaoJoyce- wrote:On July 02 2010 20:56 Cambium wrote:To OP: Looks like you prefer for a more emotionally dominant guy The kick was ridiculous lol keke, maybe Why the kick was ridiculous. because i can't believe he kicked you lol
Yea, I hate him for kicking me. 
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some girls just dont find out that easily if a guy is that stupid... is a really bad situation that you had to find out that way.. he kicked you WTF?
you will find someone much better ....he has to grow up and stop being such an idiot..
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On July 02 2010 18:49 XiaoJoyce- wrote:Show nested quote +On July 02 2010 18:22 icystorage wrote:On July 02 2010 17:52 XiaoJoyce- wrote:On July 02 2010 17:35 endy wrote:On July 02 2010 17:17 XiaoJoyce- wrote:On July 02 2010 17:02 mOnion wrote:On July 02 2010 16:55 XiaoJoyce- wrote:On July 02 2010 16:41 LLXC wrote:
You, a female, treated a guy to lunch and the guy let you? WTF kind of freeloading guy is that... What is "let you?" allowed you what he's saying is that no self respecting guy with a penis that still stands up would let a girl buy the lunch. I NEVER let the girl pay, even if there's no romance possibly going to come out of it, just a friendly lunch, I still pay. It's what men do. Ah, I didn't know... I thought it is boyfriend treat girlfriend lunch. But for friendship, it doesn't matter. So I just pay keke. Haha would you like to become my friend ? Keke, no free lunch. owned hahaha @OP, he fucking kicked you?! if i ever see irl a man kick a girl, id fucking break his legs off (unless its taekwondo sparring or something) Yea, but I am scare u all think too exerating. It is not kick me to the stomach, or kick me in the face. Not like that. Just in the leg, and he said sorry afterwards. But it is all too fake. I know it is on purpose. But my friends do not believe me. Ah so angry. And I hate him alot afterwards. the kick wasn't light kick. It is very strong 1. I got bruise and it is pretty ugly. That time I thought it will leave scar or mark. But it went away keke. I think too much ahaha.
I have to Quote this again, it is not those Bruce Lee kick. keke. Ah, forget about kicking ahahaha.
On July 03 2010 01:10 alffla wrote:
wtf thats crazy lol O_O
glad u didn;t go out with him
what city are u in btw xiaojoyce?
hmm
@ the chinese chauvinism thing i dont really think so lol o _o
chauvinism is like if males think thehy'r the shit still or something? or what
I am from Nan Jing. Very nice place.
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wow you are very cute, nice to have cute girl forumers on TL yay
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It's okay, Starcraft will be always be here for you ^^
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On July 02 2010 14:40 XiaoJoyce- wrote:
He does things like, I do programming in free access lab. Then I went toilet for awhile. He go delete all my program and wrote Fuck You Bitch on the screen. The time I come back I cry, he delete all the saved files too. Point middle finger at me whenever we meet. He kicked me before so I am really hate him to the core. Not to mention all the silly childish stuff that make me feel embarassed in lecture hall and my classmates.
Just based on that I have to say the guy sounds really disturbing. Deleting your work and verbally/physically harassing you? Makes me think of those unstable people that commit crimes that you sometimes see in the news :/ I hope you're careful/ok.
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TossFloss
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^ Lived in China for 3 years. Couple things I learned:
Chinese wives wield an incredible amount of power. In public, she will maintain the illusion that the man is king; but don't be fooled by cultural etiquette. Calling China chauvinistic is wrong. Inferring modern Chinese values from Confucius dogma is wrong. For one, Mao Zedong thought Confucius was a douche. Also, show me a country that is not male-dominated.
The average Chinese University student is ~5 years less mature than their western counterparts. This has to do with limited life experience and parental sheltering.
XiaoJoyce - 应该找个外国男朋友好好教训他 (You should find a foreign boyfriend to teach this guy a lesson)
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On July 03 2010 09:51 XiaoJoyce- wrote:Show nested quote +On July 03 2010 08:44 TossFloss wrote:
^ Lived in China for 3 years. Couple things I learned:
Chinese wives wield an incredible amount of power. In public, she will maintain the illusion that the man is king; but don't be fooled by cultural etiquette. Calling China chauvinistic is wrong. Inferring modern Chinese values from Confucius dogma is wrong. For one, Mao Zedong thought Confucius was a douche. Also, show me a country that is not male-dominated.
The average Chinese University student is ~5 years less mature than their western counterparts. This has to do with limited life experience and parental sheltering.
XiaoJoyce - 应该找个外国男朋友好好教训他 (You should find a foreign boyfriend to teach this guy a lesson) I do not need subtitles for chinese language . I am already feel bad for being bad in my mother tongue language.. but I am still better, ALOT better than foreigner keke. Not to mention poor english too.  Ah, but I am okay, as long as able to communicate, I am content keke. I do not plan to write newspaper so I think I am fine. Chinese University student is ~5 years less mature than their western counterparts. If this is true.. I am sad. Anyway, I do not think I should go for foreign boyfriend, to make the guy more angry. It is not the right motivation to find boyfriend?
Making the guy more angry would be bad..considering the things he has already done.
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On July 03 2010 09:52 Megalisk wrote:Show nested quote +On July 03 2010 09:51 XiaoJoyce- wrote:On July 03 2010 08:44 TossFloss wrote:
^ Lived in China for 3 years. Couple things I learned:
Chinese wives wield an incredible amount of power. In public, she will maintain the illusion that the man is king; but don't be fooled by cultural etiquette. Calling China chauvinistic is wrong. Inferring modern Chinese values from Confucius dogma is wrong. For one, Mao Zedong thought Confucius was a douche. Also, show me a country that is not male-dominated.
The average Chinese University student is ~5 years less mature than their western counterparts. This has to do with limited life experience and parental sheltering.
XiaoJoyce - 应该找个外国男朋友好好教训他 (You should find a foreign boyfriend to teach this guy a lesson) I do not need subtitles for chinese language . I am already feel bad for being bad in my mother tongue language.. but I am still better, ALOT better than foreigner keke. Not to mention poor english too. Ah, but I am okay, as long as able to communicate, I am content keke. I do not plan to write newspaper so I think I am fine. Chinese University student is ~5 years less mature than their western counterparts. If this is true.. I am sad. Anyway, I do not think I should go for foreign boyfriend, to make the guy more angry. It is not the right motivation to find boyfriend? Making the guy more angry would be bad..considering the things he has already done.
Keke, yea!! Maybe the 1 I have met is potential future killer? ahahaha. I have experienced first hand the attitude of a killer if that is true.
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He does things like, I do programming in free access lab. Then I went toilet for awhile. He go delete all my program and wrote Fuck You Bitch on the screen. The time I come back I cry, he delete all the saved files too. Point middle finger at me whenever we meet. He kicked me before so I am really hate him to the core. Not to mention all the silly childish stuff that make me feel embarassed in lecture hall and my classmates.
if i were you, i woulda socked him in the face. and shoved my boots so far up his ass he would have to vomit it up through his mouth.
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