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So there's this girl (yeah, another one of these blogs, sue me  ).
I've known her since 7th grade. I always thought she was a cutie, but I never intended to be
in a relationship with her. I guess I had my sights on other girls throughout high school, but it
ended up being that we were going out eventually. It all started on her sister's 18th birthday party, and one
of her sister's friends had the idea to hook us up.
Not how I want to get into a relationship. I felt uncomfortable and awkward, but I kinda liked it too.
I never really knew how to take off from that day. I never realized that she had a thing for me,
so I was always scared that if I made a move with a kiss or some romantic whispers, I would push too far
and upset her, or put her in a situation she didn't want to be in.
So I was a dick in a certain way. I just tried to put it behind me. I was also an idiot for
doing so. My high school mistakes have been realized, however.
After graduation, we never saw each other. We never got in contact. It was kind of sad, and
I felt evil. I even tried to call her to set things straight, but I never got an answer, so I gave up. (Come to find out, she was just on vacation when I called...)
Well, after running into her sister and her boyfriend while I was conversing in my yard, I think they relayed some talk about me to this girl, and it got her to call my house, and we talked. She confessed how she regretted never doing anything, and I followed. Basically, I was too scared to do what she finally did.
So we decided to start anew. We formed a more typical relationship.
Well, then I broke up with her. I don't know why. Frankly, whatever reasons I gave her were bullshit.
I think I just didn't want a girlfriend. But I couldn't tell at the time what I wanted, because I got the
urge after breaking up to try and get back together. I wasn't the best boyfriend, in fact, by my
standards I was terrible. I would constantly deny wanting to go over to her house, and I never really
tried to get us together that much. So I wanted to change that, rationalizing that I broke up with her
because my own mentality was telling me that we weren't compatible.
Frankly, I don't even know if we are or not. Compatibility is hard to define for me, but that's beside the point.
But needless to say, I got her to go out with me again. But I still had doubts. And here I am, again,
wanting to break up. But now I'm sure of why.
I don't think I want a girlfriend now. The issue is, I don't want to put her through that a second time.
Especially since I poured my heart out to her about how I wanted to try and improve things.
I mean, I loathe the idea of even going to her house. It's so boring and being with her feels shallow. We don't talk about anything, because I got tired of just mouthing around while she just sat and listened. I get no emotional response from her ever. Only when her heart is about to be broken. She's also a freeloader; her sister and mom have a job, she's just sitting around during the summer borrowing money from her mother and trying to get everyone to take her everywhere. I tried to get her to get a job, but she just sort of didn't seem to care. I can't drive (something I'm working on) so I feel really helpless to help motivate her. I think she wants to get out and be more self-sufficient, but she has no regrets being a bum either. I can't read her because she never communicates with me. And whenever I do go over the edge a little and tell her these things, she just gets silent and tries to change the subject to cats.
I guess I want to help, but can't, because my own life is a bit messy too. And it's frustrating when she has no motivation.
So I don't know what I should do. I want to break up and deal with relationships in the future, but it feels odd to do it. I'm not sure if it's
the right thing to do. Am I wrong for wanting to break up? I'm not doing it to meet another girl, I think
that I just can't handle a girlfriend with college and trying to get my life established, especially one
who just wants me to sit around with her all day, every day.
I feel like the answer is obvious, but I always enjoy the opinions of others.
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Need your general info such as age, plans for future and how long you've been together.
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On June 25 2010 07:57 kidd wrote:
Need your general info such as age, plans for future and how long you've been together.
Oh, yeah yeah...
I'm 19, going to be a junior in college working on a Computer Science bachelor's, and my plans for the future are to get into some internships my junior and senior year for software engineering jobs. If those don't pan out, I may do IT for awhile.
We've been together for about...oh, 2 months now, since we got back together. Before it was about 8. I don't count the high school years of awkwardness. She's only a year older than I, with absolutely no plans that I'm aware of, only that she's working for an art degree. I've asked her what her goal was, and I got some pretty general answers like concept art or graphic novels.
On June 25 2010 07:59 Flaccid wrote:
Go read a vampire novel.
Any good ones? Ones that don't involve guys staring at girls while they sleep?
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Did you ask her what she thinks about your relationship?
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On June 25 2010 08:04 Lucumo wrote:
Did you ask her what she thinks about your relationship?
I was planning on asking her that question tonight, as we had planned to do a little chat, but I want it to be more of an actual talk about us than a chat on what we did.
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On June 25 2010 07:50 RageOverdose wrote:
I think that I just can't handle a girlfriend with college and trying to get my life established, especially one who just wants me to sit around with her all day, every day.
Take care of yourself first and foremost. By the sounds of things, you're in a position that you don't want to be in. You may have to totally screw things up emotionally for her since if you break up, it'll be the second time. But your well being is more important than hers.
I know you mentioned she tries to change the subject to cats or whatever when stuff happens, but try to be honest with her? Let her know that you've got too much on your plate right now to handle a relationship. Tell her that you need to break up or take a break for the time being while you get your stuff in order. If she's a reasonable person (and hopefully you're aiming for that in a girlfriend) she'll understand that you're trying to take care of yourself.
Best of luck.
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I think it is pretty impossible to be in a healthy relationship at your age if you don't even drive unless you live within walking distance of your girlfriend. It probably is the source of why you are so bored with her, I mean what can you guys do without a car.
You are also under 21 so that rules out going out for drinks and general night life besides going to parties with friends (which you couldn't even drive to anyway). The obvious choice is to not be in a relationship until you are more on your feet so to speak. Go through school, get a decent job, buy a car and then you can make some time to meet some girls. It really sucks being under 21.
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This is the first time that I heard about how the guy talks way more than the girl. How do you call this a relationship when communication isn't both ways? If she cares so little, you shouldn't care too much either. You wouldn't feel as bad focusing on you own life and your college; however, the end result will likely be you guys breaking up. Another way would be, hammer down what her issues are (I'm assuming there will be lots), then you can decide if you can live with them. But remember, you can't change/help someone who doesn't want to change/be helped.
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On June 25 2010 08:10 kidd wrote:
I think it is pretty impossible to be in a healthy relationship at your age if you don't even drive unless you live within walking distance of your girlfriend. It probably is the source of why you are so bored with her, I mean what can you guys do without a car.
You are also under 21 so that rules out going out for drinks and general night life besides going to parties with friends (which you couldn't even drive to anyway). The obvious choice is to not be in a relationship until you are more on your feet so to speak. Go through school, get a decent job, buy a car and then you can make some time to meet some girls. It really sucks being under 21.
I just still feel bad. I hate hurting people, but I know I have to sometimes.
I mean, part of this is my fault too, why I'm bored and all, but breaking up with her feels like I'm saying there's something wrong with her. And yeah, she's not perfect, but it's not that it's her as much as it is that it just doesn't work in my life to be in a relationship, and that there's not much she has going on with her that's going to motivate me to stay.
That's probably all I need then, eh?
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Why don't you tell her that you feel that you're getting no emotional response from her? Maybe she'll change. You know, girls are easier to change then guys are, Not true for every instance but on average, it's true.
Edit: In addition, you should always talk to your girlfriend when your having doubts about your relationship. That way,no one gets left in the dark.
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That means you're not really "in love"
You have no emotional attachment to her of any sort...
+ Show Spoiler +Half joking though: maybe you're gay?
Anyways, break up before you take it further and hurt her more
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its sounds like your poetically trying to explain that she's not putting out and then trying to explain even MORE euphemistically why you broke up with her solely for that reason
really your blog is a whole lot of empty words with no real info on what's goin on, so I don't know what kind of help ur expecting to get with an op that vague.
stop forcing drama on yourself, you're a teenager. go to parties, make out with random girls, play video games. you're trying to give your life some kind of flavor with this meaningless petty drama.
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classic hit it and quit it scenario.
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It's pretty obvious that you're just not that into her... there's no point in continuing in this relationship if you're not interested, it just becomes a burden to you. Don't try and work her up into getting an "emotional response" by breaking up with her and getting back together, that's not going to ever improve your situation. Try and talk things out with her if you want to stay with her, but otherwise become FWBs (Friends With Benefits) or just break up for good.
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Boring people are boring I heard.
19 isn't an age to settle down and if you find someone as soul crushingly boring as you've made out, I doubt it's a bad idea to break up with them.
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maybe u guys should fine common interest (BW maybe)
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If you're not into it, then get the hell out, because the longer you stay in a relationship you're not even interested in, the opportunities you'll be passing up. You don't need some "valid" reason to end a relationship, regardless of what some women think: you're not into it, and that's the bottom line. You'd be doing both of you guys a favor in the long run. Don't be that guy that drags this shit out. Also, you're 19. It's a good thing you're not into seriousness hoo-hah.
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I think you're pretty mean for hurting this girl haha, and it looks like you might do it again... it also seems like she's a total waste of time. I'd say either keep trying to help out her and maybe she'll get her shit straighten out, but if not, then just break up with her and tell her that you have tried and tried to help her but she just refused to receive it.
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instantly thought of
if you havin girl problems i feel bad for you son
i got 99 problems but a bitch aint one
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IMO the last thing you want in your life is a girl with no ambitions for the future.
I think the most interesting people are those who know where they're going or at least are trying really hard to find out.
I knew this girl who was 25, lived with her parents and had never had a job in her entire life; and to add some contrast, her younger sister already made 6 figures. That girl dated 2 guys at once and ended up dumping my friend (UPS employee) for a guy who was a coast guard and more importantly a sucker who was completely fine with providing for her.
It all went well until he decided to get her to move in. Two days in, he proposed to her. Every work day, he would leave and come back - she had been playing WoW all day. It didn't take very long for him to notice that feeding and housing a deadweight isn't a very viable lifestyle if you also plan to be happy.
Today she's 27. She lives with her mom who's got to be desperate by now. She tried working but she thinks she's worth more than the minimum salary at Wal-Mart, but even that is too difficult for her. She's got no education and doesn't move forward....
This is just to say, people don't change... Or at least they don't change that much. I personally can't respect someone without goals or ambitions. I can probably be with someone like that for a little while but it would get overwhelmingly bad. So yeah, absolutely break up.
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On June 25 2010 08:15 nosliw wrote:
This is the first time that I heard about how the guy talks way more than the girl. How do you call this a relationship when communication isn't both ways?
Actually, I talk a lot more than my girlfriend does/did. I'm extremely expressive, and she's the type to never ever say what's on her mind unless you practically hold a gun to her head. I remember being really frustrated at her, because she would never respond to anything I said, and she never seemed to have an opinion on .. well, anything. She never voluntarily shared anything, and when she did, she always skimped on the details and just rushed to give a general, almost robotic, account of what happened in the day.
It took several months of me cajoling her, assuring her that I cared about her opinion, and repeatedly confronting her about her passivity, before there was any real progress on her part. Even then, it took many more months to get to the point where I felt like we could truly communicate in a way that we both enjoyed.
Well, from what little I know about relationships, I've come to understand that the foundation to all of this was that I had to gain her trust that I selflessly cared about her, and she had to feel safe with me. This takes time, patience ... and love, selflessness ...
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Really hate what you're feeling? Get her to do the dumping, I know seems wrong and all, but seriously, you'll lose attachment and "responsibility" easier - cause it was her not you. 
Does she even want to be in a relationship? Doesn't look that she does from how she shys away from deep talks.
Whatever, I'm just a guy around your age giving random advice over the internets - take it or leave it. :D
(Lifes short, only stay if you want commitment/willing to commit)
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On June 25 2010 09:19 Happy.fairytail wrote:Show nested quote +On June 25 2010 08:15 nosliw wrote:
This is the first time that I heard about how the guy talks way more than the girl. How do you call this a relationship when communication isn't both ways? Actually, I talk a lot more than my girlfriend does/did. I'm extremely expressive, and she's the type to never ever say what's on her mind unless you practically hold a gun to her head. I remember being really frustrated at her, because she would never respond to anything I said, and she never seemed to have an opinion on .. well, anything. She never voluntarily shared anything, and when she did, she always skimped on the details and just rushed to give a general, almost robotic, account of what happened in the day. It took several months of me cajoling her, assuring her that I cared about her opinion, and repeatedly confronting her about her passivity, before there was any real progress on her part. Even then, it took many more months to get to the point where I felt like we could truly communicate in a way that we both enjoyed. Well, from what little I know about relationships, I've come to understand that the foundation to all of this was that I had to gain her trust that I selflessly cared about her, and she had to feel safe with me. This takes time, patience ... and love, selflessness ...
Hmm...
Well, as any good son does, I go to my parents for advice, well, my mom, because my dad is horrible with relationships. Her opinion was a lot more like this than just dumping her. I mean, I like this girl, a lot. It's just hard to be in a relationship and deal with life, especially with a girl who is hard to communicate with. And it isn't like she is fucking with me; her life growing up was just constant ridicule from her mother and sister. Granted, all she does is mope about it. I'd like to try to get her to be more confident in herself...
It's interesting to get both sides here. On one hand, people are telling me I have no good future with this girl.
On the other hand, I'm being told that I can also attempt to motivate her, instead of expecting her to only motivate me.
It's gotten a bit more complicated. But now it's up to me. Thanks for the opinions guys.
(Sometime I may actually post about Starcraft when I get past D-/D level.)
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Have you screwed her yet? If you guys don't have anything to talk about, just do it. Relations at your age should be exciting without as much of the drama
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On June 25 2010 07:50 RageOverdose wrote:
I think that I just can't handle a girlfriend with college and trying to get my life established
Stay in a relationship because you want to stay in a relationship, NOT because you think you should and NOT because you want to make things 'work'. A lot of guys I knew in high school wanted to maintain a relationship just for the sake of keeping it going, even when feelings had died down. Please don't fall into that trap. Believe me, when you start dating someone you really like those things come easier than you think.
College is a crazy time, but the process of 'getting your future in order' isn't black and white. I'm 23, just graduated, on my second internship, and about to go to grad school because I discovered what I wanted to do my senior year and that it takes a higher degree. Along the way I've dated twice. Both times my girlfriend was amazing to have around, especially this current one ^^. Once again, when you like a person enough making the relationship work isn't that hard.
Ask yourself:
Can I be myself around her?
Does she like me for who I am?
Do I like who she is?
Does spending time with her make me feel good (I'm talking emotionally)?
In my opinion, if you answered no to any of those you should just be friends.
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On June 25 2010 09:06 hellobye wrote:
instantly thought of
if you havin girl problems i feel bad for you son
i got 99 problems but a bitch aint one
I got 99 problems, and they all bitches
wish i was jigga man, care-free living...
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On June 25 2010 12:07 Servius_Fulvius wrote:Show nested quote +On June 25 2010 07:50 RageOverdose wrote:
I think that I just can't handle a girlfriend with college and trying to get my life established
Stay in a relationship because you want to stay in a relationship, NOT because you think you should and NOT because you want to make things 'work'. A lot of guys I knew in high school wanted to maintain a relationship just for the sake of keeping it going, even when feelings had died down. Please don't fall into that trap. Believe me, when you start dating someone you really like those things come easier than you think. College is a crazy time, but the process of 'getting your future in order' isn't black and white. I'm 23, just graduated, on my second internship, and about to go to grad school because I discovered what I wanted to do my senior year and that it takes a higher degree. Along the way I've dated twice. Both times my girlfriend was amazing to have around, especially this current one ^^. Once again, when you like a person enough making the relationship work isn't that hard. Ask yourself: Can I be myself around her? YesDoes she like me for who I am? YesDo I like who she is? YesDoes spending time with her make me feel good (I'm talking emotionally)? YesIn my opinion, if you answered no to any of those you should just be friends.
Yeah, some of the things I mentioned she does annoy or frustrate me...But it's more of a concern thing, where I don't want her to end up in a bad situation where her mom drives into a ditch drunk and she's left alone without a job.
So...
I could just be trying to get out of responsibility of a relationship...Ah...
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When you're with a girl with no ambitions you not only have the responsibility of a relationship but also the responsibility of carrying a girl through life because she doesn't have the will power to sustain herself.
My gf is about to be an architect, I don't feel that much pressure because she's not going to be overly dependent and so I won't need to babysit. It's an huge deal to me.
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On June 25 2010 08:10 kidd wrote:
I think it is pretty impossible to be in a healthy relationship at your age if you don't even drive unless you live within walking distance of your girlfriend. It probably is the source of why you are so bored with her, I mean what can you guys do without a car.
You are also under 21 so that rules out going out for drinks and general night life besides going to parties with friends (which you couldn't even drive to anyway). The obvious choice is to not be in a relationship until you are more on your feet so to speak. Go through school, get a decent job, buy a car and then you can make some time to meet some girls. It really sucks being under 21.
I can't drive and my girlfriend can't drive (we are both 20) and we have a very healthy relationship (2+ years)... We use bikes, trains and busses. If your relationship needs the "going out for drinks and general night life" then you have a serious problem imo.
If you are bored of her then you guys just don’t fit. Communication is VERY important in a good relationship. I can talk for hours with my girlfriend, and really about everything. Also ask yourself: is this the girl I want to spend my whole life with?
gl
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On June 25 2010 17:09 lew wrote:Show nested quote +On June 25 2010 08:10 kidd wrote:
I think it is pretty impossible to be in a healthy relationship at your age if you don't even drive unless you live within walking distance of your girlfriend. It probably is the source of why you are so bored with her, I mean what can you guys do without a car.
You are also under 21 so that rules out going out for drinks and general night life besides going to parties with friends (which you couldn't even drive to anyway). The obvious choice is to not be in a relationship until you are more on your feet so to speak. Go through school, get a decent job, buy a car and then you can make some time to meet some girls. It really sucks being under 21. I can't drive and my girlfriend can't drive (we are both 20) and we have a very healthy relationship (2+ years)... We use bikes, trains and busses. If your relationship needs the "going out for drinks and general night life" then you have a serious problem imo. If you are bored of her then you guys just don’t fit. Communication is VERY important in a good relationship. I can talk for hours with my girlfriend, and really about everything. Also ask yourself: is this the girl I want to spend my whole life with? gl
Well to answer your first point, there is a MAJOR difference between american-and 'the rest of the western world'-lifestyle regarding that. Basically everybody has a car once they turn at least 18, if not younger. I can only speak of San Diego, but this city is huge as fuck. You have nowhere to go, if you don't own a car. Also public transport is the worst (again judging by my experience). In Europe you usually don't own a car until you can actually buy one yourself (aka not financed by daddy). So while I agree with you, your example only stands true in Europe, which in itself is really small compared to the US. When you're living in the US and you don't have a car, you're screwed. In the Butthole. Furthermore you're screwed in the butthole again, when your not of legal drinking age, which basically leaves only private house parties as solutions, which you cannot just make happen, when you feel like it.
But you are right, regarding that if that is a center of a relationship and everything just evolves around it, something is really wrong. However going out might give a little spark to the relationship and then you'll take it from there.
Completely agree on your second paragraph.
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On June 25 2010 09:06 hellobye wrote:
instantly thought of
if you havin girl problems i feel bad for you son
i got 99 problems but a bitch aint one
In my case I got 99 problems and a bitch is the source of about 47 of them
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On June 25 2010 23:37 Woyn wrote:Show nested quote +On June 25 2010 09:06 hellobye wrote:
instantly thought of
if you havin girl problems i feel bad for you son
i got 99 problems but a bitch aint one In my case I got 99 problems and a bitch is the source of about 47 of them
Sounds like a conservative estimate.
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at least you don't have as many non-bitch-induced problems as Jay-Z.
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On June 25 2010 17:09 lew wrote:Show nested quote +On June 25 2010 08:10 kidd wrote:
I think it is pretty impossible to be in a healthy relationship at your age if you don't even drive unless you live within walking distance of your girlfriend. It probably is the source of why you are so bored with her, I mean what can you guys do without a car.
You are also under 21 so that rules out going out for drinks and general night life besides going to parties with friends (which you couldn't even drive to anyway). The obvious choice is to not be in a relationship until you are more on your feet so to speak. Go through school, get a decent job, buy a car and then you can make some time to meet some girls. It really sucks being under 21. I can't drive and my girlfriend can't drive (we are both 20) and we have a very healthy relationship (2+ years)... We use bikes, trains and busses. If your relationship needs the "going out for drinks and general night life" then you have a serious problem imo. If you are bored of her then you guys just don’t fit. Communication is VERY important in a good relationship. I can talk for hours with my girlfriend, and really about everything. Also ask yourself: is this the girl I want to spend my whole life with? gl
Yeah buddy, if you read my post you would see that I said that's hard unless you guys lived close together. Here is alot different than Europe where it very hard to do much of anything without a car. Esepcially if you live in a decent sized city getting around is meant to be done in cars. The going out to bars and stuff part is just an added way to get some sort of fun out of their boring and communication challenged relationship.
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I mean, I loathe the idea of even going to her house. It's so boring and being with her feels shallow. We don't talk about anything, because I got tired of just mouthing around while she just sat and listened. I get no emotional response from her ever. Only when her heart is about to be broken. She's also a freeloader; her sister and mom have a job, she's just sitting around during the summer borrowing money from her mother and trying to get everyone to take her everywhere. I tried to get her to get a job, but she just sort of didn't seem to care. I can't drive (something I'm working on) so I feel really helpless to help motivate her. I think she wants to get out and be more self-sufficient, but she has no regrets being a bum either. I can't read her because she never communicates with me. And whenever I do go over the edge a little and tell her these things, she just gets silent and tries to change the subject to cats
tell her this, this is why you dont want to be with her.
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On June 26 2010 02:50 vanskater wrote:Show nested quote +I mean, I loathe the idea of even going to her house. It's so boring and being with her feels shallow. We don't talk about anything, because I got tired of just mouthing around while she just sat and listened. I get no emotional response from her ever. Only when her heart is about to be broken. She's also a freeloader; her sister and mom have a job, she's just sitting around during the summer borrowing money from her mother and trying to get everyone to take her everywhere. I tried to get her to get a job, but she just sort of didn't seem to care. I can't drive (something I'm working on) so I feel really helpless to help motivate her. I think she wants to get out and be more self-sufficient, but she has no regrets being a bum either. I can't read her because she never communicates with me. And whenever I do go over the edge a little and tell her these things, she just gets silent and tries to change the subject to cats tell her this, this is why you dont want to be with her.
To put it bluntly she's garbage x_x
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On June 25 2010 07:50 RageOverdose wrote:
I mean, I loathe the idea of even going to her house. It's so boring and being with her feels shallow. We don't talk about anything, because I got tired of just mouthing around while she just sat and listened. I get no emotional response from her ever. Only when her heart is about to be broken. She's also a freeloader; her sister and mom have a job, she's just sitting around during the summer borrowing money from her mother and trying to get everyone to take her everywhere. I tried to get her to get a job, but she just sort of didn't seem to care. I can't drive (something I'm working on) so I feel really helpless to help motivate her. I think she wants to get out and be more self-sufficient, but she has no regrets being a bum either. I can't read her because she never communicates with me. And whenever I do go over the edge a little and tell her these things, she just gets silent and tries to change the subject to cats.
This just stuck out to me. I want to know more about this.
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If you aren't enjoying yourself get a new girlfriend. It's not a big deal.
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On June 25 2010 10:49 Tazza wrote:
Have you screwed her yet? If you guys don't have anything to talk about, just do it. Relations at your age should be exciting without as much of the drama
As sad or mean this might sound, that's what happened with me and my ex.
She was just like yours OP, exactly the same.
We did stuff sometimes however, but it was mostly screwing around all the time. We enjoyed it, it was a really light relation. We'd do stuff together, but never had much in common in activities. We went like that for 2 years, it was my first serious relation and I learned a lot through it.
At the end, we both knew we could rely on sex to keep our relation, so we decided to leave each other and go look for something else.
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On June 26 2010 03:42 Woyn wrote:Show nested quote +On June 25 2010 07:50 RageOverdose wrote:
I mean, I loathe the idea of even going to her house. It's so boring and being with her feels shallow. We don't talk about anything, because I got tired of just mouthing around while she just sat and listened. I get no emotional response from her ever. Only when her heart is about to be broken. She's also a freeloader; her sister and mom have a job, she's just sitting around during the summer borrowing money from her mother and trying to get everyone to take her everywhere. I tried to get her to get a job, but she just sort of didn't seem to care. I can't drive (something I'm working on) so I feel really helpless to help motivate her. I think she wants to get out and be more self-sufficient, but she has no regrets being a bum either. I can't read her because she never communicates with me. And whenever I do go over the edge a little and tell her these things, she just gets silent and tries to change the subject to cats.
This just stuck out to me. I want to know more about this.
She loves cats. A lot. She has four, and is always wanting to go see her aunt's cats, which is just a couple blocks from my house. I don't particularly care about cats, and her love for them is somewhat annoying, because she thinks they're like little people. But I mean, she isn't really bad about it. It's not like her vegan-ass sister...
And she freezes up when you get confrontational. She's very scared when anything seems to not be in the happy-zone of conversation. So when I'd rather stay home and play Starcraft or read about game design (sadly, the latter never happens as often as it should -_-) she gets a bit puffy, then I get upset at her, then she shuts up. Then I feel bad. Lather, rinse, repeat.
Since I've wrote this blog, I've realized some of these problems are more related to me. Frankly, I'm creating more problems in my head than really exist. Some private discussions have taken place that made me realize that I'm just a coward when it comes to girls, and it affects my mentality with this one girl who I actually can be with, that I do really like, making me more reclusive and cynical.
I do want to thank everyone for their responses. And I'm also glad that the responses weren't all the same too. That kind of different point-of-view input really helps me come to a decision.
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