On June 13 2010 14:06 jjun212 wrote:
k so for the last 2 months, i've had a pretty hard crush on the girl at work. we joke around a lot and i've had the HARDEST motherfreakin time reading her.

because she is really outgoing, lots of guy friends, etc, which dont bother me at all. im not insecure about that, but it just makes her harder to read because im not sure if shes naturally playful or if shes really trying to send a message.

Basically this is exactly my situation, i played it cool for 3 months tho.

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Eventually she added me on facebook (step 1 complete)

Then she gave me her number about when i needed days to switch with her at work(step 2 complete).

Suddenly she calls me and ask for help about this guy she has been talking ever since she started working. (step 3 complete :D)

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Basically this guy she was talking, was cheating on her when she was at work. How'd she know? her friends were at the bar and they witnessed it.

SOOOO they broke up and its time for me to gun it.

BUT i was too late, she was already taken couple days after the incident by one of her so called best friend. She told me she was going on a double date with her friend.

Sigh FML :[

zenMaster

Canada761 Posts

June 13 2010 14:53 GMT

#88

On June 13 2010 23:18 FraCuS wrote:

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When girls call you to talk about her guy problems, thats the signal that you have been friend-zoned... When that happens to you again, you man up and say, "stop crying over the phone. I'm going to pick you up and have a cup of coffee(or whatever), then maybe we can talk about it." If that doesn't work then just move on, you've been friend-zoned.

FraCuS

United States1072 Posts

June 13 2010 15:20 GMT

#89

Yeah i should of taken her out for something to talk about it.

At least we're still friends.

But yeah Ive moved on cause she seems really interested in this guy.

Time to travel to Korea to find a nice Asian girl. :D

iloahz

United States964 Posts

June 13 2010 15:45 GMT

#90

I dont know why you are trying to give her your number/facebook and wait til she contacts you. Isn't the guy suppose to do the action? why don't you just ask her number and call her?

Beyonder

Netherlands15103 Posts

June 13 2010 16:50 GMT

#91

Oh God, the e-telephone pickup line. It's so crazy (good) :D I pasted that to my first girl, she however didn't seem to appreciate.

Anyways, should just ask her if she wants to do something straight up after some flirting. Much easier, much directer and a bit more neutral-- you can just see where it ends. The way I like it anyway :D Good luck

ilovezil

United States4143 Posts

June 13 2010 16:55 GMT

#92

On June 14 2010 00:20 FraCuS wrote:

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A nice asian girl = red flag. They're usually coldhearted bitches in truth. Doramas don't lie!

jjun212

Canada2208 Posts

June 13 2010 17:01 GMT

#93

On June 14 2010 01:50 Beyonder wrote:
Oh God, the e-telephone pickup line. It's so crazy (good) :D I pasted that to my first girl, she however didn't seem to appreciate.

Anyways, should just ask her if she wants to do something straight up after some flirting. Much easier, much directer and a bit more neutral-- you can just see where it ends. The way I like it anyway :D Good luck

Yea.. thats what I just wanna do.

I know some people were saying I shouldnt say what I bolded before in my 2nd post.

But it's just so hard to read her forreal. She's really cool with me in real life and when we talk and joke, etc, it's good and I get a pretty nice vibe and stuff.

But online, it's not as smooth.

You're right though, I just feel like being straight up would be simple lol.

Beyonder

Netherlands15103 Posts

June 13 2010 17:11 GMT

#94

It kind of depends on the level of comfort and your personality. Me, I much rather try to be 'different' and 'interesting' (read: not simple) through my personality. It can be done too by what you end up doing when you do get together with the girl. A picknick, for example-- something they might not expect and appreciate.

Should just avoid online as much as possible then :D Don't give up too fast! Some girls are just generally playful and not always thinking about more than friendship. Kind of sounds like that! What is there to lose?

Invictus

Singapore2697 Posts

June 13 2010 18:08 GMT

#95

I'm totally different o.o. Online, i can talk to the crush i like very fluently, however upfront everything that i wanted to say just goes out of the airlock and whats left behind is a teenager going"erm....nvm"

If you like that girl, don't mention anything about that incident and just be cool about it. I think you could lie low abit, but if theres anything not related to the incident you could just talk to her about it like normal friends, such as talking about your favourite music or blah blah

EPO

Canada341 Posts

June 13 2010 18:37 GMT

#96

classic overthinking everything due to massive crush.

imo she knew you were asking her out via fb and you gave her an easy out to reject you, which she took.

fanta[Rn]

Japan2465 Posts

June 13 2010 18:41 GMT

#97

I took a girl once to a light house and we drew stuff on it. Worked pretty well, afterwards we walked along a river and observed stars

Beyonder

Netherlands15103 Posts

June 13 2010 18:44 GMT

#98

On June 14 2010 03:41 fanta[Rn] wrote:
I took a girl once to a light house and we drew stuff on it. Worked pretty well, afterwards we walked along a river and observed stars

Then you did her hair and she did yours?