yeah you were friendzoned hard, that would have worked perfectly if you were hot though, probably. it's how they work. anyway whatever you were feeling was probably just lust, so chill out

Probe.

United States877 Posts

June 13 2010 07:32 GMT

#62

Never... Use .... Facebook... to ask someone out man. That phone line was dope though

. Seriously though facebook is dumb for asking people out. You can't say a girl is cute or anything because everyone can read that and all the other girls will be like " oh he's mac'ing on that girl so he's not available" hella lame. Grow some balls and be like "im going to such and such. Want to come with me?". Or listen in on her conversation and if shes going somewhere interesting (bar, club , movies whatever you like) be like "wheres my invite".

Sadistx

Zimbabwe5568 Posts

June 13 2010 07:33 GMT

#63

On June 13 2010 14:41 Kennigit wrote:
Steps to failure
- resort to passively aggressively asking girls out via msn and facbeook chat.
- when you sense failure, pretend you weren't really asking her out
- try to date girls that you work with

You forgot "-make a blog on TL that reads like a 15 year old retard wrote it"

User was warned for this post

jjun212

Canada2208 Posts

June 13 2010 07:45 GMT

#64

On June 13 2010 16:33 Sadistx wrote:

Show nested quote +

You forgot "-make a blog on TL that reads like a 15 year old retard wrote it"

thats pretty mean man. im not gonna lie

as immature as i sounded, that's still pretty harsh towards a member whos been here for like 6 years.
i can understand if you say i failed. but to say i'm a retard is genuinely pretty bad..

i know its the internet and blah blah, but c'mon dude. i really didn't appreciate that.

*edit..

people keep saying i asked her out on facebook.. but i didnt do that..
all i did was i offered her my phone number in a joking manner.. (i didnt ask her out)

i used the same method and that's how i got her on facebook in the first place..

we work together. i didn't know her at all and i could have easily been shy and introverted and never tried to have any contact with her outside of work ... but i confidently and in a joking way got her to give me her facebook and she did so pretty easily/happily too. (so don't you think i'm at least smooth enough in real life to not seem like an idiot and interest her enough to have a connection outside of work =\ )

i have never asked her out in real life nor on facebook. i really dont see where you guys are getting that part from. i only made this thread as a fail because the joke fell over pretty hard and she didnt seem like she was buying it.

and honestly.. the main reason why i even said something stupid was not because i'm like generally nervous but because i haven't worked with her for 2 weeks and when i finally had the chance to have a talk with her, i took it even if it was through facebook. so a rush of excitement pushed through me i guess and that's what happened.

and just another note.

i used the same math question to equal my phone number and it helped break the ice between me and another girl in grade 10 math class.

she laughed her ass off and now we are mutual friends. there was no way i could get with her but at least i wasn't a dreamer and i was socially active.

shes a model by the way, "melissa molson"

you can google her.

TheAntZ

Israel6248 Posts

June 13 2010 07:52 GMT

#65

On June 13 2010 16:33 Sadistx wrote:

Show nested quote +

You forgot "-make a blog on TL that reads like a 15 year old retard wrote it"

The fuck is wrong with you? He was just asking for help with something hes not super confident in, that makes him a retard? All of us have our shortcomings, dont be a dick

Herculix

United States946 Posts

June 13 2010 07:53 GMT

#66

edit: i completely misread the blog like pretty much everyone else i guess.

arb

Noobville17921 Posts

June 13 2010 07:54 GMT

#67

Write her a song that repeats the following line

"can't you see i love you bitch?"
"lets go on a god damn date you damn whore"

repeat this over and over until she calls the cops or agrees to go out with you.

Ive done this with success before.

BloodDrunK

Bangladesh2767 Posts

June 13 2010 07:59 GMT

#68

well at least you tried and it's still not the end of the world.so cheer up
btw,next time when you ask someone out,do it in person,not facebook.

tontonba

United States74 Posts

June 13 2010 08:14 GMT

#69

i wanna see a picture of what you look like. it may seem superficial, but it's the best way to get the most objective advice possible imo

lungo

Denmark276 Posts

June 13 2010 08:15 GMT

#70

"i used the same math question to equal my phone number and it helped break the ice between me and another girl in grade 10 math class"

what... the fuck......

zOula...

United States898 Posts

June 13 2010 08:15 GMT

#71

you need to act much more confidently, dont keep tell her you were joking and definitely dont apologize to her for christ sake... just act smooth, and grow a pair. girls like confidence...not some guy that apologizes about "being a douche" on facebook chat ^_^

tontonba

United States74 Posts

June 13 2010 08:27 GMT

#72

On June 13 2010 14:06 jjun212 wrote:

anyway, so one night when we're walking home, i accuse her of liking me and i offer her to add me on facebook but she was like LOL, how about you ADD me.

and if it were me, my next statement after she goes "how about you add me" is "how about we go out instead"

Heyoka

Katowice25012 Posts

June 13 2010 08:51 GMT

#73

I dated a girl last summer who once said she was going to stop wearing makeup because she was so tired of random nerds asking her out on facebook and texts. Its a good thing fb chat didn't exist when I was in high school because I would have done this all the time.

JMave

Singapore1806 Posts

June 13 2010 09:22 GMT

#74

talking to a girl on fb for the first time seems like quite an unmanly act. its like hiding behind a veil and talking. but since you had the option of asking her face up, i don't know why you decided to do otherwise, which was obviously a bad decision. the best thing now is probably to just pick yourself up and live out again. don't get too caught up with such things.

OhThatDang

United States4685 Posts

June 13 2010 09:47 GMT

#75

aha dude this does make u sound like a highschool guy =D what happened where did u go bust !!!

anyways flirting on facebook is always fail cause u never know what they are looking at and the distractions the other side has ~_~. you make be all up on her while shes browsing some dudes photos while chatting with you aha =D

btw saying that you used that math thing and now youre mutual friends with a girl doesnt help the cause! you have a crush on the new girl you dont want the same effects right ^_^. So how do you necessarily fix this thing and still be friends? Well im not sure if you want to be friends or its purely a crush in hopes of a relationship. If its the former than its easy and just continue talking with her and if shes around work its really easy to just ask her to hang out and stuff. Once she says yeah just ask for her number so you can meet up. If its the latter than you do nothing like mentioning the fail facebook chat =D. Basically you just gotta keep it cool and see if she continues to talk to you or not when you see each other. if she continues to talk to you than just keep it simple, imo as long as u just try on one girl its a lot easier to keep it simple and others usually get this shit wrong. Ask her out but with more intent on being alone instead of groups if you feel that its the right time to do so =D. By asking i mean a date of course so she can see the difference in you and other guys (hopefully that difference will be dating potential).

but in hindsight shes really chatty and around many people sooo is it worth the investment =o

PobTheCad

Australia893 Posts

June 13 2010 09:49 GMT

#76

On June 13 2010 15:08 OneFierceZealot wrote:
just be cool and if you do have a shift with her... then make sure she talks first. i mean you can be like hey and all but an "actual" conversation make sure she begins.

if you have shift with her act like nothing happened