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AcrossFiveJulys
United States3612 Posts
Seriously though I would totally do that if I wasn't already committed to what I'm doing. | ||
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Warrior Madness
Canada3791 Posts
On May 29 2010 16:10 blue_arrow wrote: find some new friends who can 'hang out' on a frequent basis your asian right? go spend more time at pacific mall or something there is a large variety to select from at the uoft loool. Pacific mall. I get my hair did there. Anyways, jjun212, I've been in your situation before. It really is a shitty place to be in. Being lonely sucks, but being lonely AND having nothing to do really drains you. I have a question though. What's so hard about saying, "Hey we should go this or that?" to other students in your classes? So WHAT if the other students are international or from all around the world. Don't you think the isolation, the lonliness, the yearning for warmth and friendship is a common ground that you both share? "Yeah, all my closest friends moved on to other places and it's actually a little hard to find genuine friends." These are the folks its actually EASIEST to befriend because they're just LOOKING for someone to become friends with. Also, what do you like to do? What sort of activities do you think you like? I advise you to find an activity that gets you excited. It's easy to make friends when doing a mutual activity that you both love. (Starcraft anyone?). LEAP before looking. Do things you're not comfortable doing. On a regular basis. Never gone karoking before? Do it. Never gone canoeing before? Do it. Never gone clubbing before? Fantastic. See what happens. UofT has TONS of clubs. I bet there's a starcraft club there... If not, start one yourself and see what happens. It can't hurt. Even if you get 2 or 3 people out of the entire student body to join. That's pretty good. http://utoc.sa.utoronto.ca/ (Also, volunteering is a nice place to meet some fine young tail. I mean friends.) I also advise you to find a genuine friend with shared interests but who's a real social butterfly. I mean, that really is the best way to learn how to make new friends. They'll go out of their way to help you, teach you, push you. Also, listen to Lil' Jon and wash your car at LEAST twice a week. | ||
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SleepSheep
Canada344 Posts
On May 29 2010 16:18 blue_arrow wrote: are you saying that only asians go to pacific mall? how rude =p *face palm* and this is exactly what you implied in your post. | ||
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CursOr
United States6335 Posts
We all get older. We lose contact with friends, it happens. I don't talk to, now, 90% of the people I've called friends. You sometimes just gotta deal with it as they come and go. You will make more for sure, at jobs or in classes, its just gonna happen. My point is, don't rush it. Maybe you can take the time to get into other things. Learn to paint or pick up an instrument. Don't feel like you have to spend ALL your free time talking to someone or texting or its a total waste. Be patient and see where the next few months take you. No worries. + Show Spoiler + ![[image loading]](http://isleifure.blog.is/users/e1/isleifure/img/ronery1.jpg) edit: Volunteering is a great idea. Hospitals or Libraries come to mind :D | ||
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I_Love_Bacon
United States5765 Posts
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blue_arrow
1971 Posts
On May 29 2010 16:33 Daimon wrote: *face palm* and this is exactly what you implied in your post. =O i would never purposely imply such racially discriminatory and rude ideas as stated in your accusation =( btw OP i have several good buddies (mostly azn) over at the uoft if you really want i can tell you their names and which programs they're in and where they live during the fall/winter semesters, but i think i gotta ask for their permission first before disclosing any personal information that would cause them discomfort watch out though 1 or 2 of these people i know may try to anally violate you with various objects when you look the other way | ||
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scrdmnttr
United States96 Posts
Now I'm a senior and even though I've been going to school for three years, I have never made a single lasting friend. You know, I've tried. I went to university clubs, parties, road trips with strangers, study groups, asking to hang out with classmates, trying lots of new things, etc. I've tried it all. While I wouldn't say that these things wouldn't work for you, they definitely didn't work for me (ahh I can still remember those horrified faces when I asked to hang out with them). In this regard I'd advise you to trust yourself - I know that personally, I'm not very social. I knew that spending the night with strangers would be weird for me, buut I did it anyway, just to try to break out of my depressing routine. The things I thought I wouldn't like turned out to be a waste of time, so now I trust myself - if I don't think I like it, I don't do it. I decided to do things that I thought WOULD be fun. For example, I love nature and so I had a lot of fun camping in the Colorado open-space for a few weeks. Also, I enjoyed a lone road trip to the Grand Canyon. I joined in a bike competition. Even though I was anonymous and remained so, I had fun being in a crowd and burning energy. Consider involving yourself in things you're confident you'll enjoy. These endeavors helped, but the truth is that I was still pretty depressed. As I said, I'm a senior, no friends, and many many people have blatantly said they didn't want to spend any time with me. Yet - I'm happy. Why? Well the Rolling Stones were right - look for the girl with the far away eyes. The reason I'm satisfied with my life, the reason I'm never lonely, the reason I no longer let every little thing get to me, is because of the chick I'm with -- my wife. Ahh I remember every little thing about her; when we first met, our first kiss, the smell of her hair, the way our hands fit together so perfectly - ahem. Well my point is that I know exactly what you're going through. I'm afraid this isn't actually THAT helpful, since I found my wife when I was 17, and then bumped into her three years later, getting married soon after that. Obviously you can't plan for that... Nonetheless, I know for a fact that if my wife left me I'd be miserable. Women are important. Essential, even. She and I don't spend every waking second together (in fact, I'm alone quite often) but she is still the source of my happiness. On another note, try to discover yourself, and what it would take to make yourself happy (me, for example, I knew I'd be happy being a biologist, so that's why I'm in school.) Pay attention to yourself. For example, I think that many people (definitely me and apparently you as well) are miserable when they are idle (so if you find yourself unhappy, try to unmask the reason why - maybe you hated living with your asshole of a brother - I know I did). Make sure to occupy yourself with things you KNOW you can do (don't promise yourself something you can't keep). Can't find the willpower to work out? I feel ya, but try to go swimming; it's much more fun and a great work out. Plus bikinis... plus bikinis. Walk/jog with your dog(s), or buy some cheap in-home work out equipment so you can work out more spontaneously. Or study, even if the semester is over! I do a little of each. Bottom line -> Listen to yourself, get yourself a woman, and GLHF. Hope that helped. | ||
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Zoler
Sweden6339 Posts
 I found the smash community in my city, met a lot of my friends from there | ||
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XDawn
Canada4040 Posts
I goto Ryerson, live @ Yonge and Finch - kTOWN | ||
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bubblegumbo
Taiwan1296 Posts
Like this website for example... There are people share your hobbies are interest on the internet too for you to interact with, if you cant get hold of friends in real life. | ||
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ghen
United States1356 Posts
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KurtistheTurtle
United States1966 Posts
sounds like you need a woman imo lol friends are awesome too. find somebody who makes you laugh, decide they should be your friend, and take em out to dinner. do this a couple times and you've got another circle of friends | ||
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Lexpar
1813 Posts
Volunteer somewhere. You'll be helping good people doing good things, meeting said good people, and getting out of the house. Triple win. You mentioned how you went to a different school then all your friends. Awesome. That's a great opportunity. Abuse it: join a club. It's not hard to meet people, you're just not used to it. | ||
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InTheFade
United States1721 Posts
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Wr3k
Canada2533 Posts
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illu
Canada2531 Posts
I'll hang out with you! : | ||
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