Alright I just broke up with my girl, and shes with another dude right now 3 weeks after we broke up. She was good "friends" with this dude while we were together, and i could never find evidence if she was really cheating behind my back. Needless to say, it was not a amicable split.

Anyhow to the question: Of late, she keeps trying to invite me to dinner/supper or shit like that. Should i a) reject politely b) reject violently or c) accept? I dont wanna get into the friendzone or let her think she can walk all over me - anyone with experience please help! thanks!

FXOTheoRy

United States519 Posts

May 09 2010 22:18 GMT

If you're wanting to stay out of the friendzone, I'd suggest A) reject politely.

illu

Canada2531 Posts

May 09 2010 22:19 GMT

Obviously reject politely. You don't want to do b) or c) then get punched by that dude. :D

OPSavioR

Sweden1465 Posts

May 09 2010 22:19 GMT

Get an escort and visit her "dinner" and make her shit jealous

bloopie

United States123 Posts

May 09 2010 22:21 GMT

On May 10 2010 07:19 OPSavioR wrote:
Get an escort and visit her "dinner" and make her shit jealous

i'm liking this, haha. nothing else like seeing a bitch green with envy =]

Reason

United Kingdom2770 Posts

May 09 2010 22:22 GMT

Do you want to get back with her?

Mullet_Power

Canada64 Posts

May 09 2010 22:23 GMT

For the first half of your post, just forget about it, it's over. Finding that kind of info out will not change or help anything.

As for your second question, why would you reject "violently"? What does that help? You would just cause yourself unneeded drama. If you want to be friends accept, if not just say no.

Personally I find there is enough other people in this world that will go out of their way to make your life more stressful/difficult, so there is no point in doing the same to yourself.

Reason

United Kingdom2770 Posts

May 09 2010 22:23 GMT

Maybe she's with the other guy to make you jealous or just to keep her busy

and is asking you to dinner because she really wants you back...

Worst you can do is go to dinner and be like fine I came to dinner what do you want... if she says come back say yes or no whatever you want... if she says let's be friends say no....

bloopie

United States123 Posts

May 09 2010 22:24 GMT

well the long story is me, this girl and this dude are in a bunch of close friends, with other people. Its awkward as it is, and well shes got photos of him and her splashed across the facebook profiles like nobody's business.

It would seem like a douche thing to do anyway.

bloopie

United States123 Posts

May 09 2010 22:30 GMT

#10

I guess the question now is: is it worth going back for her?

Reason

United Kingdom2770 Posts

May 09 2010 22:36 GMT

#11

Don't be a bitch. Who cares if she has photos splashed around facebook? If you get back with her they will disappear instantly and be replaced with your stupid grin...
If you want her back, yes it's worth going back...
If you don't, it's not..

We can't tell you what you want man! If you want her go get her you had her before you can get her again

Sonnet

Ireland39 Posts

May 09 2010 22:41 GMT

#12

I shall advise you as my father would,
And wisely suggest you take option C,
For should you accept you very well could,
Take your revenge most elegantly

Bear with me know as I recommend,
A plan for which you must be resolute,
Go under guise of making amends,
But bring with you a fine prostitute

Sit through dinner like a man of high bearing,
But as you wait for desert, start getting heavy,
Try too to tear the clothes that she's wearing,
Your ex will feel stress, and I'm betting envy

But for dessert wait, in case timing's poor,
Pull it too early and she'll know she's a whore

frozenclaw

Canada410 Posts

May 09 2010 22:41 GMT

#13

If you want her back, say no and re-schedule.

Reason

United Kingdom2770 Posts

May 09 2010 22:43 GMT

#14

Why do sonnets kill topics?

Frozenclaw give some explanation as to why cancelling and re-scheduling ?

decafchicken

United States20159 Posts

May 09 2010 22:44 GMT

#15

Reject or accept and ask if you can bring a date.

Speaking of which i broke up with my gf like a month ago and havent talked to her...is that normal?

bloopie

United States123 Posts

May 09 2010 22:45 GMT

#16

yea thats normal. i havent talked (voluntarily) to my ex-gf for 2months already.

frozenclaw

Canada410 Posts

May 09 2010 22:50 GMT

#17

On May 10 2010 07:43 Reason wrote:
Why do sonnets kill topics?

Frozenclaw give some explanation as to why cancelling and re-scheduling ?

Just to gauge what her intentions are and where she's at. I think that you could also use it as a power play so she understands that you're not going to give easy compliance, especially just after 3 weeks. I don't think it's useful to sound like you took a big hit to your life and that you NEED her back.

Lightwip

United States5497 Posts

May 09 2010 22:58 GMT

#18

I would, just to figure out what she wants.

Rekrul

Korea (South)17174 Posts

May 09 2010 23:03 GMT

#19

girls often do things like this in an attempt to make you jealous after the relationship ends how they didn't want it to

i had a girl that i was seeing but always was very honest w/ her and told her shes not my gf. obviously she wanted a real relationship but it wasn't going to happen. finally i cut things off for good but we were still on talking terms even tho she was def mad at me.

not so long ago she logged on msn telling me all about her new BF and how amazing he is in a pathetic attempt to get some 'revenge'

i typed 'lol' and blocked her. then she tried facebooking me. blocked there too. then she emailed me. no reply.

i would reject her, not politely or rudely, just straight up and if she tries to ask why just ignore her.

and if you really want to have fun, go there then tell her infront of her bf that you just tested positive for genital herpes and that she should go get checked out. for added effect throw in a 'but i have slept with 3 girls after we broke up so it might not be you...but anyways better to get tested to be sure'