First of all, I know it's wrong and I don't want idiotic advice about fucking my cousin when she gets older.
Here's the thing, my third cousin has become really attached to me for some strange reason, I don't want to reject her outright and hurt her feelings because she doesn't yet understand the social stigma that comes with a grown man hanging around too much with a young girl. Whenever she's over at our house, the little brat keeps coming to my room ande starts chatting me up.
It's weird enough to have her on my room alone. Her father and I are cool but I think he suspects that she likes me a bit too much.
Do I explain it to her that it's wrong for me to stay around her too much? It's really awkward for me to be seen with her. Am I too paranoid? Is society forcing too many men to detach themselves from their female relatives?
I just feel that shows like to catch a predator and the insane laws about men and kids got me so scared that I can't enjoy a normal relationship with my little cousin.
On January 31 2010 11:39 Rev0lution wrote: I just feel that shows like to catch a predator and the insane laws about men and kids got me so scared that I can't enjoy a normal relationship with my little cousin.
Yeah, it definitely sounds like it. O_O
There's absolutely nothing wrong with your cousin liking you and spending time with you. Even if it's possible that she has a 10-year-old-crush on you, that's completely normal for girls her age and she'll grow out of it.
I honestly don't see why you are so afraid of this. You got some serious issues on your hand.
Why do you care about this so-called "social stigma" when you have done nothing wrong? Is it because you are afraid that other people might judge you because of this? Are you so afraid of what others think of you that you rather break off with her and scar her feelings as a pre-teenage girl? I think you might need to see a psychiatrist - you are the one that seriously needs help.
what's wrong with hanging out with ur cousin? are you saying there's signs of her being sexually attracted to you? She's 10... I'm sure she's not thinking of anything besides "wow your so cool!"
she probably just does it because hanging around parents usually isnt that fun, my cousin hangs out in my room also when she comes over because i have games and stuff she likes to play.
but if its getting (illegal) weird then yes, tell her father.
^^^^^^^^^^^ Do people really suggest psychiatrists and shit for such small things? TL is his psychiatrist. If he was to do that it would just be him losing money. & young girls have this weird shit were they even like their family members, I know its fucking weird but w/e
Freud would probably say your fear of being seen with her was a deep and secretive desire to have sex with your mother, cousin, and every female that you've seen.
Freud was full of bullshit anyway xP
Don't hurt her feelings, I'm sure she just has a crush on you. As Orome said, a lot of girls have a thousand trillion crushes at that age.
She's a kid and she's your cousin. Do you really think that everyone is going to think you're a pedo because you chat with her? If so then you're a big insecure dumbass.
On January 31 2010 11:57 Cloud wrote: ps. you're an asshole and a dumbass.
lol why are you so angry?
Because he really is being a dumbass.
Also Spanish families greet each other with a kiss on the cheek, while this guy is can't even talk to his 10 year old cousin. Hell... I lick, bite, and caress/pet my family members ranging from like 6-29 years old to show my affection towards them.
I don't understand why you feel weird about it. It's just friendship. A ten year old girl wouldn't want to have a relationship with you (especially you being her cousin; just because she's young that doesn't mean she's retarded). So just hang out?
On January 31 2010 11:57 Cloud wrote: ps. you're an asshole and a dumbass.
lol why are you so angry?
Because he really is being a dumbass.
He's clearly insecure about stuff like this and completely misjudged the situation, but there's no need to be an ass about it. And Cloud seems angry in pretty much every post he makes, he likes calling people idiots nearly as much as Baal.
On January 31 2010 11:53 Navi wrote: Freud would probably say your fear of being seen with her was a deep and secretive desire to have sex with your mother, cousin, and every female that you've seen.
Freud was full of bullshit anyway xP
Don't hurt her feelings, I'm sure she just has a crush on you. As Orome said, a lot of girls have a thousand trillion crushes at that age.
LOL oh god... Freud... I did a project on him like 3 times in psychology 11 & 12 in high school. So ridiculous...
But yeah, I don't think anyone thinks you would ever even think about it, and if she's 10 then I doubt she's even thought of it. Just don't worry about it.
I have a lot of cousins at that age and every time I go to Korea and visit them, we would go amusement parks and stuff like that, I'll piggyback ride them and everything.
Unless you give us more description, all I can say is you're being paranoid
On January 31 2010 12:10 konadora wrote: I think you're just paranoid -_-
I have a lot of cousins at that age and every time I go to Korea and visit them, we would go amusement parks and stuff like that, I'll piggyback ride them and everything.
Unless you give us more description, all I can say is you're being paranoid
On January 31 2010 12:10 konadora wrote: I think you're just paranoid -_-
I have a lot of cousins at that age and every time I go to Korea and visit them, we would go amusement parks and stuff like that, I'll piggyback ride them and everything.
Unless you give us more description, all I can say is you're being paranoid
On January 31 2010 12:10 konadora wrote: I think you're just paranoid -_-
I have a lot of cousins at that age and every time I go to Korea and visit them, we would go amusement parks and stuff like that, I'll piggyback ride them and everything.
Unless you give us more description, all I can say is you're being paranoid
Exactly, it's cool when we're just talking but when I go to my bedroom for some alone time she doesn't even bother to knock and just goes right in. Her father has told her not to enter my room when I am alone.
I should keep the door open at all times, that's good advice.
you need to chill out bro. so your cousin likes you, so what? cousin love actually isnt that bad, you justneed to ignore the social stigma attached to it. i remember when i was 17 my 15 year old 2nd cousin gave me head in a closet, it wasnt such a big deal. as long as youre not having babies i dont really see the problem with it.
On January 31 2010 12:10 konadora wrote: I think you're just paranoid -_-
I have a lot of cousins at that age and every time I go to Korea and visit them, we would go amusement parks and stuff like that, I'll piggyback ride them and everything.
Unless you give us more description, all I can say is you're being paranoid
On January 31 2010 12:10 konadora wrote: I think you're just paranoid -_-
I have a lot of cousins at that age and every time I go to Korea and visit them, we would go amusement parks and stuff like that, I'll piggyback ride them and everything.
Unless you give us more description, all I can say is you're being paranoid
Your personal experience has no bearing upon his. Different person, different culture, different upbringing, and different situation.
I'm not disagreeing with you but to say that because you can hang out with your cousins fine and dandy doesn't mean that it's the same for the OP.
Still waiting for him to dish out some more details.
On January 31 2010 12:22 Rev0lution wrote: Exactly, it's cool when we're just talking but when I go to my bedroom for some alone time she doesn't even bother to knock and just goes right in. Her father has told her not to enter my room when I am alone.
I should keep the door open at all times, that's good advice.
Do you have a younger sibling? If not I think that we have our explanation here. Younger kids will always do stuff like that (I would know I'm the youngest LOL).
So basically it's normal behavior, nothing to worry about.
On January 31 2010 12:23 lazz wrote: you need to chill out bro. so your cousin likes you, so what? cousin love actually isnt that bad, you justneed to ignore the social stigma attached to it. i remember when i was 17 my 15 year old 2nd cousin gave me head in a closet, it wasnt such a big deal. as long as youre not having babies i dont really see the problem with it.
On January 31 2010 12:23 lazz wrote: you need to chill out bro. so your cousin likes you, so what? cousin love actually isnt that bad, you justneed to ignore the social stigma attached to it. i remember when i was 17 my 15 year old 2nd cousin gave me head in a closet, it wasnt such a big deal. as long as youre not having babies i dont really see the problem with it.
WTF?
Hanging out with your 10 year old cousin seems cute. I don't see anything wrong with it. It seems like you are the one being paranoid and having unnecessary thoughts about this.
On January 31 2010 12:23 lazz wrote: you need to chill out bro. so your cousin likes you, so what? cousin love actually isnt that bad, you justneed to ignore the social stigma attached to it. i remember when i was 17 my 15 year old 2nd cousin gave me head in a closet, it wasnt such a big deal. as long as youre not having babies i dont really see the problem with it.
wtf... op doesnt have problems... but this is what the fuckkkkk.
As long as you are not having an inappropriate relationship, then it shouldn't matter how much time you spend with family. Don't let the ridiculous new generation child & adult witch-hunt scare you from enjoying time with family.
I think it's pretty normal from young cousins to have crushes on older ones, especially with that big age gap. Everything about you probably seems cool to her. Just be vocal about things, if she does something she shouldn't, just tell her.
Also communicate with your aunt/uncle. Tell them you think their daughter might have a little crush on you, so they aren't so surprised if she acts strangely around you. They will probably think it's cute and have a talk with her, like I said - I think that's normal for girls her age.
On January 31 2010 12:23 lazz wrote: you need to chill out bro. so your cousin likes you, so what? cousin love actually isnt that bad, you justneed to ignore the social stigma attached to it. i remember when i was 17 my 15 year old 2nd cousin gave me head in a closet, it wasnt such a big deal. as long as youre not having babies i dont really see the problem with it.
There's nothing wrong with her being interested in her cool cousin. If she does have a silly little girl crush, it'll pass, shes to shy too make the first move anyway.
As long as you aren't attracted to her there is nothing wrong with it. Don't be so paranoid. If she likes you, so what? She is 10. Not like she is gonna try to fuck you or something.
On January 31 2010 12:23 lazz wrote: you need to chill out bro. so your cousin likes you, so what? cousin love actually isnt that bad, you justneed to ignore the social stigma attached to it. i remember when i was 17 my 15 year old 2nd cousin gave me head in a closet, it wasnt such a big deal. as long as youre not having babies i dont really see the problem with it.
But that can be considered statutory rape.. and you just confessed on the internet!
If you want you can talk to her father, but I'm not entirely sure why. Unless he thinks you are doing something wrong, there's nothing to explain.
And you're being way too paranoid. She's a pre-teen with a schoolgirl crush that she will almost certainly get over at some point. If she makes a strong come-on or tries to kiss you or something, you'll have to put your foot down, but so long as she's just being friendly, let her be friendly.
Also, I get the impression that you're worried about how people see your relationship with her.... when you're in you're own home? What? If you're worried about what your relatives might think, then just leave the door to your room open whenever she's up there with you. If you're worried about what your neighbors are thinking, she's your cousin and she's perfectly welcome in your home and it's none of their fucking business.
Out in public, just treat her like you would a younger sister. Nobody should bother you.
On January 31 2010 12:23 lazz wrote: you need to chill out bro. so your cousin likes you, so what? cousin love actually isnt that bad, you justneed to ignore the social stigma attached to it. i remember when i was 17 my 15 year old 2nd cousin gave me head in a closet, it wasnt such a big deal. as long as youre not having babies i dont really see the problem with it.
But that can be considered statutory rape.. and you just confessed on the internet!
is it? i thought statutory rape didnt count if both were minors?
On January 31 2010 12:23 lazz wrote: you need to chill out bro. so your cousin likes you, so what? cousin love actually isnt that bad, you justneed to ignore the social stigma attached to it. i remember when i was 17 my 15 year old 2nd cousin gave me head in a closet, it wasnt such a big deal. as long as youre not having babies i dont really see the problem with it.
don't let the japanese loli culture or just general pedo views get to u, she's just a kid and ur cousin that likes to hang out with u, its perfectly normal, unless ur "attracted" anyhow to her then we have a problem...
On January 31 2010 13:20 Shizuru~ wrote: don't let the japanese loli culture or just general pedo views get to u, she's just a kid and ur cousin that likes to hang out with u, its perfectly normal, unless ur "attracted" anyhow to her then we have a problem...
Nah what's wrong with that? I mean really, people lust for their mothers, fathers, sisters, brothers, pets and his mom. Cousins aint that bad. If they end up having a love baby it will probably even come out in decent shape maybe not college material but consider it money saved
On January 31 2010 11:47 illu wrote: I honestly don't see why you are so afraid of this. You got some serious issues on your hand.
Why do you care about this so-called "social stigma" when you have done nothing wrong? Is it because you are afraid that other people might judge you because of this? Are you so afraid of what others think of you that you rather break off with her and scar her feelings as a pre-teenage girl? I think you might need to see a psychiatrist - you are the one that seriously needs help.
The absolutely stupid legal precedents set by countless cases and the current extreme coddling and "nanny-state" society we live in right now begs to differ. His fear are entirely well-founded and many many people have written about how in our culture right now many activities with kids and relationships with kids are basically off-limits now because everyone is paranoid and is out to find sexual predators. This is almost exclusively limited to men and their relationships with children.
What you people seem to be missing is that it is totally irrelevant whether or not he lets it get to him or whether or not he's doing anything wrong. People get in trouble for that kind of shit all the time and there's nothing they're doing wrong, they just get accused by an overzealous parent or guardian and then they are the one who has to prove they're innocent in the eyes of the public. Being accused of being a child molester or a rapist is always damaging no matter how false the accusation is. It's the same as when a female accuses a man of rape - the "power" of the accusation and of first-impressions and etc is in the hands of the accuser.
Safest bet is just to talk to the parents if you really feel uncomfortable and be 100% sure they know nothing is happening.
On January 31 2010 12:23 lazz wrote: you need to chill out bro. so your cousin likes you, so what? cousin love actually isnt that bad, you justneed to ignore the social stigma attached to it. i remember when i was 17 my 15 year old 2nd cousin gave me head in a closet, it wasnt such a big deal. as long as youre not having babies i dont really see the problem with it.
But that can be considered statutory rape.. and you just confessed on the internet!
is it? i thought statutory rape didnt count if both were minors?
Varies from country to country, state to state, province to province, etc.
On January 31 2010 13:29 DoctorHelvetica wrote: Dude have you ever been around a little girl before. Little girls look up to older guys all the fucking time, it's normal.
I take care of an 8 year old girl who wants to "marry me", my little 9 year old cousin "thinks im cute" and hangs around me all the time. When I was a little kid I wanted to hang around and impress older girls. Just play along, no one will think you're a pedo, wtf. It's probably weirder to sexualize it by saying it's bad then to just play along.
This one is significantly weirder because we know that this poster has loli-tendencies and posts pics of young (18 -), kinda ugly asian girls all the time.
Dude have you ever been around a little girl before. Little girls look up to older guys all the fucking time, it's normal.
I take care of an 8 year old girl who wants to "marry me", my little 9 year old cousin "thinks i'm cute" and hangs around me all the time. When I was a little kid I wanted to hang around and impress older girls. It's 9 times out of 10 innocent and perfectly healthy. Just play along, no one will think you're a pedo, wtf. It's probably weirder to sexualize it by saying it's bad then to just play along.
It's absolutely fine with that.. When she gets older, i suppose she will understand the age gap.. nothing is wrong with getting along with someone who's 10years younger than you are..
At least she's willing to confide and talk to adults..
On January 31 2010 12:23 lazz wrote: you need to chill out bro. so your cousin likes you, so what? cousin love actually isnt that bad, you justneed to ignore the social stigma attached to it. i remember when i was 17 my 15 year old 2nd cousin gave me head in a closet, it wasnt such a big deal. as long as youre not having babies i dont really see the problem with it.
On January 31 2010 12:23 lazz wrote: you need to chill out bro. so your cousin likes you, so what? cousin love actually isnt that bad, you justneed to ignore the social stigma attached to it. i remember when i was 17 my 15 year old 2nd cousin gave me head in a closet, it wasnt such a big deal. as long as youre not having babies i dont really see the problem with it.
Everyone is going to give you hard shit for this, but I have no problem with that. The problem of inbreeding isn't nearly as big as people want you to think it is.
On January 31 2010 13:29 DoctorHelvetica wrote: Dude have you ever been around a little girl before. Little girls look up to older guys all the fucking time, it's normal.
I take care of an 8 year old girl who wants to "marry me", my little 9 year old cousin "thinks i'm cute" and hangs around me all the time. When I was a little kid I wanted to hang around and impress older girls. It's 9 times out of 10 innocent and perfectly healthy. Just play along, no one will think you're a pedo, wtf. It's probably weirder to sexualize it by saying it's bad then to just play along.
I think it's pretty normal? Don't little girls always like young older male. All of my younger cousins like me, and all of my mom's friends daughters really like me too (between 10-15, and I'm 22).
It's pretty accepted in Chinese culture at least. Don't be so paranoid.
I don't get why everyone's hating on OP? It's unfortunate but the social stigma is a lot more serious than a lot of you make it out to be, especially within the past 5 years or so. Parents are a lot more paranoid on the whole these days (maybe even rightly so), perhaps not of their own relatives but OP's fears aren't unfounded.
edit: I could be wrong about this since it's something I've only "heard", but aren't there cases of like a father is beaten or something for playing with his daughter at a playground or whatever, because people thought they were pedos? Just stupid shit like that, it just goes to show what society has come to (particularly American society I can't comment on any other culture).
I think there are two discussions going on here. First is, is it normal for a younger cousin to have a crush on an older one? There seems to be consensus that it is.
Second is, is it weird to be alone in a room with your 10-year-old cousin? This is the more interesting question. I think it probably is a little weird. Think about it this way: when her parents come to get her, are they supposed to knock?
On January 31 2010 14:18 enthusiast wrote: I think there are two discussions going on here. First is, is it normal for a younger cousin to have a crush on an older one? There seems to be consensus that it is.
Second is, is it weird to be alone in a room with your 10-year-old cousin? This is the more interesting question. I think it probably is a little weird. Think about it this way: when her parents come to get her, are they supposed to knock?
I think the question we should all be asking is whether or not the girl has a crush on him or not. It sounds like she's just acting as a younger sibling would with an older sibling.
On January 31 2010 13:39 DoctorHelvetica wrote: Yeah just yesterday i was hanging out with the 8 year old supermodel and walked into my 1000000000000 dollar home and she was being clingy
On January 31 2010 14:18 enthusiast wrote: Second is, is it weird to be alone in a room with your 10-year-old cousin? This is the more interesting question. I think it probably is a little weird. Think about it this way: when her parents come to get her, are they supposed to knock?
If you're asking if its weird to be alone with a 10 year old cousin you might as well ask if its weird to be alone with any 10 year old relative, which can include your sister. In terms of family relationships I don't see how much different being alone with a 10 year old cousin and being alone with your 10 year old sister can be.
I doubt you would treat one that much differently from the other unless she was a complete brat and you hated her, but from the sounds of the original post it doesn't seem that way.
On January 31 2010 12:23 lazz wrote: you need to chill out bro. so your cousin likes you, so what? cousin love actually isnt that bad, you justneed to ignore the social stigma attached to it. i remember when i was 17 my 15 year old 2nd cousin gave me head in a closet, it wasnt such a big deal. as long as youre not having babies i dont really see the problem with it.
On January 31 2010 12:23 lazz wrote: you need to chill out bro. so your cousin likes you, so what? cousin love actually isnt that bad, you justneed to ignore the social stigma attached to it. i remember when i was 17 my 15 year old 2nd cousin gave me head in a closet, it wasnt such a big deal. as long as youre not having babies i dont really see the problem with it.
Did you seriously just condone incest?
A second cousin on average shares a single chromosome with you. It is really far from incest and it really isn't any stranger than having sex with one of your parents friends daughters.
On January 31 2010 12:23 lazz wrote: you need to chill out bro. so your cousin likes you, so what? cousin love actually isnt that bad, you justneed to ignore the social stigma attached to it. i remember when i was 17 my 15 year old 2nd cousin gave me head in a closet, it wasnt such a big deal. as long as youre not having babies i dont really see the problem with it.
Did you seriously just condone incest?
A second cousin on average shares a single chromosome with you. It is really far from incest.
Yeah. Plus she was really cute too. totally worth it.
I think you've seen too many movies and pedo news that you think everyone's looking at you like at some kind of pedophile because that's what her hanging out with you might insinuate.
It's not really like that, younger relatives hanging around the older ones finding them interesting is something normal and i think we've done it as well when we were kids (at least i did).
On January 31 2010 12:23 lazz wrote: you need to chill out bro. so your cousin likes you, so what? cousin love actually isnt that bad, you justneed to ignore the social stigma attached to it. i remember when i was 17 my 15 year old 2nd cousin gave me head in a closet, it wasnt such a big deal. as long as youre not having babies i dont really see the problem with it.
But that can be considered statutory rape.. and you just confessed on the internet!
confessing on the internet doesn't mean crap. you can post about being a big time drug hustler and almost getting caught by the police and get away with it...
On January 31 2010 12:23 lazz wrote: you need to chill out bro. so your cousin likes you, so what? cousin love actually isnt that bad, you justneed to ignore the social stigma attached to it. i remember when i was 17 my 15 year old 2nd cousin gave me head in a closet, it wasnt such a big deal. as long as youre not having babies i dont really see the problem with it.
But that can be considered statutory rape.. and you just confessed on the internet!
is it? i thought statutory rape didnt count if both were minors?
In all honestly... what the helllllllll was my first impression... Second cousin? I mean, still, it's weird, but that's pretty distant to all of you people overreacting. It's your grandmother/father's siblings grandchildren...
On January 31 2010 12:23 lazz wrote: you need to chill out bro. so your cousin likes you, so what? cousin love actually isnt that bad, you justneed to ignore the social stigma attached to it. i remember when i was 17 my 15 year old 2nd cousin gave me head in a closet, it wasnt such a big deal. as long as youre not having babies i dont really see the problem with it.
But that can be considered statutory rape.. and you just confessed on the internet!
Hopefully australia has sane enough laws to realize that 15 and 17 is basically the same age.
But yeah. Don't worry about it too much. If it is the fact that she's with you too much that bothers you, then just talk to her parents (your uncle/aunt, I suppose) about it and make things clear. If she's the problem, as in just being with her is uncomfortable, then... tell her to find another friend, lol. Ok nevermind I don't think I made myself very clear...
On January 31 2010 12:23 lazz wrote: you need to chill out bro. so your cousin likes you, so what? cousin love actually isnt that bad, you justneed to ignore the social stigma attached to it. i remember when i was 17 my 15 year old 2nd cousin gave me head in a closet, it wasnt such a big deal. as long as youre not having babies i dont really see the problem with it.
But that can be considered statutory rape.. and you just confessed on the internet!
It depends on where it happened. A number of places (parts of Australia, but not all of it) have a "romeo and juliet clause" in their age of consent laws.
On January 31 2010 11:44 IntoTheWow wrote: Are you sure she's like that and not just looking up to you? Maybe she takes you as a role model or something.
yeah. My cousin, which is a boy 6 years younger than me, btw, idolized me and followed me around all the time. It's pretty natural. Just pretend it's your parents embarrasing you lol Do you honestly think she'll understand if you tell her what you were thinking? I don't think so. Just play cool and put up with it. Be glad that someone idolize you, not many of those can be found
On January 31 2010 12:02 BuGzlToOnl wrote: Hell... I lick, bite, and caress/pet my family members ranging from like 6-29 years old to show my affection towards them.
Do you also urinate on your things so that people know they belong to you?
If so, I'm afraid I have a bit of bad news for you...
What kind of sick demented mind would think there is anything wrong with hanging out with a 10 year old relative when the family comes to visit?
WHATEVER YOU DO dont mention anything to the father or there will be problems (he might see you as a perv instead of a normal family member). Normal people just dont think like this about family members and the thought has probably never crossed his mind, but if you mention it then it will.
First off .... Who mentioned anything about you fucking yo 10 year old cousin ?? Thats making you sound like a complete pedo, Second off , why are you looking at the situation in this typa matter anyways .. maybe she just want to make a better bond wit you, or maybe she fw yo personality and think you dope asf... you needa chill, and if you think its weird of her coming in your room n shi then just dont let her in.
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