EPT2. do you like inc's coaching?
3. do people ever tell you that you look like jennifer garner? because you do.
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CharlieMurphy
United States22895 Posts
2. do you like inc's coaching? 3. do people ever tell you that you look like jennifer garner? because you do. | ||
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ndralcasid
United States524 Posts
Another question that will probably be as tough to answer...how can you get any girl to respect said nerdy hobbies/make them more endearing?? | ||
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Klockan3
Sweden2866 Posts
On January 27 2010 05:44 ndralcasid wrote: Tell me, how does a nerdy Asian guy like myself get with a pretty white girl? Is it hopeless?? Why do you want a "pretty white girl"? Couldn't you do with just a pretty girl? Anyhow, to have any chance start to increase your own social value. Work out regularly, like 10-30 minutes every other day, do some running, start eating better etc, looking healthily will earn you a lot of free points with everyone you talk to which brings me to: Widen your friend circle, the more people you know the higher status you get. Don't force friendship either, it all should be genuine or they will see through it, you don't get any status sucking up to people. Don't sit by the same people all the time in class is a first step to get to know more people. When you got higher status you should be able to go up and talk to these women without any problems, after that it is all up to you. And go slowly, you wont go from zero to hero overnight. You have to work your way upwards, the more people you know the easier it will get to expand even more. It will be quite hard at first but as you start to look better and feel more comfortable talking with anyone and people should get used to you hanging around etc then it will be a breeze. This will not only get you women but also respect from others and make your life more interesting since you get to meet all these new people! (Now I assume that you don't got some disability that makes you socially incompetent, then you are quite screwed. Most likely you don't though) On January 27 2010 05:44 ndralcasid wrote: Another question that will probably be as tough to answer...how can you get any girl to respect said nerdy hobbies/make them more endearing?? The point is that they must respect you, if they do that they will respect what you do too. If you don't come off as a nerd when they talk to you then they will be much more lenient on your "nerdy hobbies". A good example is Incontrol. | ||
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uNcontroLable
United States1180 Posts
On January 20 2010 11:33 DoctorHelvetica wrote: Do you watch progaming matches at all? If so do you have a favorite progamer/team? Yeah I do, with Geoff, and I really enjoy them! But to be honest I'm not into the scene enough to have a favorite. Unless you count EG.  | ||
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uNcontroLable
United States1180 Posts
On January 20 2010 16:30 CharlieMurphy wrote: 1) Cocaine or Ecstacy? 2) If you found out you were batshit crazy and needed to take pills that kept you in line but greatly fatigued and depressed you would you take them? 3) Are you getting sick of this thread? 1. Niether 2. Yes. That would suck. ... I think in general I would never be able to rationalize an action of mine that would make my life easier at the undue expense of others. 3. No I'm really glad people still post in it! I really enjoy it! | ||
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uNcontroLable
United States1180 Posts
On January 21 2010 03:20 citi.zen wrote: Not bad is an understatement. Enjoy Flash-JD, could be such a classic. It was so intense... I was so tired, like dead asleep, but I got up to watch it and when there was the "failure" I was so pissed. I got all grumpy and eventually stormed back off to bed. lol | ||
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uNcontroLable
United States1180 Posts
On January 21 2010 03:56 YPang wrote: If you really mean it , rape her first then commit suicuide Rape is so not funny. | ||
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uNcontroLable
United States1180 Posts
On January 21 2010 05:57 DoctorHelvetica wrote: What is your opinion on incest? I guess the first adjective that comes ot my head is "sad." Other than that you'd have to be more specific as to what you want my opinion on. | ||
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uNcontroLable
United States1180 Posts
On January 25 2010 13:58 CharlieMurphy wrote: 1. do you like playing starcraft? 2. do you like inc's coaching? 3. do people ever tell you that you look like jennifer garner? because you do. 1. I love it on many levels. I love that he (relatively) makes a living doing something that he only does because he enjoys it, I love that he likes gaming in general because I do too, and I love that, of all games, he is a master of the one that takes some of the highest skill and intelligence out there. 2. I LOVE it. Again, he's making a living doing something he loves. Honestly, I think he does it for too cheap. I've heard him do numerous sessions, and I've seen the results... lemme tell ya, that kind of instruction and time is worth way more than he's charging. I know why he doesn't, and I respect it, I just mean that I think everyone who takes advantage of it is getting a pretty dang good deal. He actually inspired me to kick my own butt into gear and start promoting my personal communication and performance consulting business, and it's doing really well now! All around his coaching is just awesome. 3. I have had a few people tell me that. Thanks.  I also get Angelina Jolie and Nicole Kidman, sometimes, and used to get Jennifer Love Hewitt and Alicia Silverstone. Someone should photoshop all of them together and see if it looks like me. lolEdit: apparently also like Trista from the Bachelor? http://images.eonline.com/eol_images/Entire_Site/20091218/293.sutter.trista.ryan.lc.121809.jpg | ||
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uNcontroLable
United States1180 Posts
On January 27 2010 05:44 ndralcasid wrote: Tell me, how does a nerdy Asian guy like myself get with a pretty white girl? Is it hopeless?? Another question that will probably be as tough to answer...how can you get any girl to respect said nerdy hobbies/make them more endearing?? No, it isn't hopeless. As to the how, you just be yourself, and stop worrying about it, and you'll fidn that eventually the perfect girl for you will show up just when you least expect it, whether she is pretty and white, or funny looking and purple. Start looking for people who are pretty on the inside first, and I bet you'll find your perfect knockout. I think I've answered this question in different forms many times throughout this thread, so for a more complete answer, I'd look back over the first few pages, but here's the gist: First, some girls will never be into gaming or starcraft, some girls are already. Some girls will like the fact that you spend hours a day doing something else and give her her space, some will be horribly offended. Some will be embarrassed by it, some will think it's cute, and that's just the way it is. Some girls will never be turned, and you just have to decide if you're cool with that, or if it's important to you to have a nerd-girl. Now, all of that is not to say that "either a girl will accept you how you are or she's not worth the time" NO NO NO. It is just to say that you should always look for someone who is at least open to sharing your interests. The second part is that you MUST find balance in life. Balance between time spent on her interests and your interests, between talking about her likes and your likes, between staring at a computer screen and staring at her. Pour energy into understanding what she likes, as well as telling her about you love about your hobbies, and I think things will fall into place. Explain to her what excites you about the game, and then follow up by askeing if there is anything she does that makes her feel the same way. Find your commonalities, and tell her how much you appreciate knowing a girl who can both support what you do, and introduce you to new things. Bottom line is, women are territorial, and if a game incroaches too much on her territory (that being your time and attention) she will go into prowling lioness mode. Make her feel valuable and interesting, and you'll be fine. | ||
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uNcontroLable
United States1180 Posts
On January 27 2010 06:56 Klockan3 wrote: Why do you want a "pretty white girl"? Couldn't you do with just a pretty girl? Anyhow, to have any chance start to increase your own social value. Work out regularly, like 10-30 minutes every other day, do some running, start eating better etc, looking healthily will earn you a lot of free points with everyone you talk to which brings me to: Widen your friend circle, the more people you know the higher status you get. Don't force friendship either, it all should be genuine or they will see through it, you don't get any status sucking up to people. Don't sit by the same people all the time in class is a first step to get to know more people. When you got higher status you should be able to go up and talk to these women without any problems, after that it is all up to you. And go slowly, you wont go from zero to hero overnight. You have to work your way upwards, the more people you know the easier it will get to expand even more. It will be quite hard at first but as you start to look better and feel more comfortable talking with anyone and people should get used to you hanging around etc then it will be a breeze. This will not only get you women but also respect from others and make your life more interesting since you get to meet all these new people! (Now I assume that you don't got some disability that makes you socially incompetent, then you are quite screwed. Most likely you don't though) The point is that they must respect you, if they do that they will respect what you do too. If you don't come off as a nerd when they talk to you then they will be much more lenient on your "nerdy hobbies". A good example is Incontrol. I've seen so many post like this... While they're good advice, the bottom line is, guys, that you want a girl who likes you for who you are, and who you want to be. Stop trying to be some social ideal and just focus on being the best YOU you can possibly be. Then the right girl will come along before you even realize it. None of the guys I ever loved were people that I noticed because they were high on the ladder of social desirability. Even if they were, it didn't matter to me as much as that we shared those important things in life, like values, goals, and sense of humor. If they had tried to be anyone but themself in those areas... I wouldn't have been interested, and we never would have worked out. | ||
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DoctorHelvetica
United States15034 Posts
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vRoOk
United States1024 Posts
Except when it's not. | ||
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Klockan3
Sweden2866 Posts
On February 01 2010 05:42 uNcontroLable wrote: I've seen so many post like this... While they're good advice, the bottom line is, guys, that you want a girl who likes you for who you are, and who you want to be. Stop trying to be some social ideal and just focus on being the best YOU you can possibly be. Then the right girl will come along before you even realize it. None of the guys I ever loved were people that I noticed because they were high on the ladder of social desirability. Even if they were, it didn't matter to me as much as that we shared those important things in life, like values, goals, and sense of humor. If they had tried to be anyone but themself in those areas... I wouldn't have been interested, and we never would have worked out. Well, it is not about making yourself different from who you are but more about making your overall life better. It is not about cutting down on what he likes, but instead it is about making him take care of himself and lose his social anxiety. Nowhere did I say that he should change his humour, interests or anything like that. My advice was: Talk to more people, work out and eat better. He would basically be the same person, but a better version than his old self. Edit: Also even though you don't think that you care about the ladder, you really do it unconsciously. Countless studies have proven that people really have no clue on why they perceive others like they do. For example, if you ask people to rate random strangers where they get nothing to go on but appearance in terms of how smart they are, how good parents they would be etc, the good looking people get significantly higher ratings than normal. Another study was about a phone, they had two groups of people, one was showed to phone on a picture. The other group was shown exactly the same picture with the phone but with a hot woman next to it. When asked afterwards what they thought about the phone the ones who had seen it with the woman rated it significantly higher than those who had just seen the phone. The most interesting one is though this one: The test person goes up an elevator to meet a guy. In this elevator they are asked to hold a drink. Half of them got to hold an icecold drink and the other half got to hold the warm one. Then everyone talked with the same person. Afterwards they were asked if they would hire this guy. Those who had held the cold drink (and thus had just had an unpleasant experience before the talk) had a very negative view on this guy while those who had just hold the warm one was very positive about the whole thing. Humans wants to believe that what you say is true, that people aren't biased, that we just want to find our other half. But there is no magic to it. You are however completely right on that you should never ever try to get girls by hiding/faking interests. | ||
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jalstar
United States8198 Posts
what do you think of day[9] and other commentators and posters using the word rape to describe a one-sided victory in starcraft? i don't think it's particularly offensive but i'd like to hear a woman's opinion | ||
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Chef
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I don't mean that in a snarky way, I just honestly think it's pretty unfair to have your personal opinions get used to generalize your sex, and I wonder if after awhile you just get used to male-centric forums doing that to you. | ||
Jibba
United States22883 Posts
On February 01 2010 12:47 Chef wrote: This is something that I hate, and why I can't stand a lot of the people at my school. It's like they're stuck in the 1970s. I think it happens to us here a bit too.As a woman, do you feel it's degrading to often have to qualify statements you make with 'coming from a woman's perspective' ? As a man, I know I don't like have to qualify things I say to other people with my gender. I don't mean that in a snarky way, I just honestly think it's pretty unfair to have your personal opinions get used to generalize your sex, and I wonder if after awhile you just get used to male-centric forums doing that to you. | ||
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Jibba
United States22883 Posts
Rape in self defense is hilarious. uNc, did you celebrate National Lady GaGa day? | ||
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uNcontroLable
United States1180 Posts
On February 01 2010 08:20 Klockan3 wrote: Well, it is not about making yourself different from who you are but more about making your overall life better. It is not about cutting down on what he likes, but instead it is about making him take care of himself and lose his social anxiety. Nowhere did I say that he should change his humour, interests or anything like that. My advice was: Talk to more people, work out and eat better. He would basically be the same person, but a better version than his old self. Edit: Also even though you don't think that you care about the ladder, you really do it unconsciously. Countless studies have proven that people really have no clue on why they perceive others like they do. For example, if you ask people to rate random strangers where they get nothing to go on but appearance in terms of how smart they are, how good parents they would be etc, the good looking people get significantly higher ratings than normal. Another study was about a phone, they had two groups of people, one was showed to phone on a picture. The other group was shown exactly the same picture with the phone but with a hot woman next to it. When asked afterwards what they thought about the phone the ones who had seen it with the woman rated it significantly higher than those who had just seen the phone. The most interesting one is though this one: The test person goes up an elevator to meet a guy. In this elevator they are asked to hold a drink. Half of them got to hold an icecold drink and the other half got to hold the warm one. Then everyone talked with the same person. Afterwards they were asked if they would hire this guy. Those who had held the cold drink (and thus had just had an unpleasant experience before the talk) had a very negative view on this guy while those who had just hold the warm one was very positive about the whole thing. Humans wants to believe that what you say is true, that people aren't biased, that we just want to find our other half. But there is no magic to it. You are however completely right on that you should never ever try to get girls by hiding/faking interests. Yeah dude, sorry, I didn't mean to imply that I thought your post was wrong, just kind of that, there are plenty of people with plenty of ideas on what will make you the most attractive or desirable, but following all that advice really won't necessarily get you anywhere, and what will is developing yourself to your own personal fullest potential. For most people, that would probably include eating better, working out, and socializing more. For some, it might not though! Focusing on studies of how people will see you based on whether you do this or that, or looking at polls to find out what women find most attractive, and then practicing those things with the sole intent of coming across as more desirable will only, in my opinion, make you come across as more fake and, at least to me, less attractive. I've met my share of those guys, and though I might chat with them at a bar or something, maybe even flirt, they're not the kind I'll ever call back. Just telling you form my own personal, womanly experience. I guess I'm just trying to talk about the general, bigger picture...but definitely not saying your advice was at all bad! | ||
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uNcontroLable
United States1180 Posts
On February 01 2010 05:53 DoctorHelvetica wrote: How do you feel about the results of the Miss America contest? I thought Miss Virginia was pretty awesome. Her talent was probably the best in the finals (I love that song and her version of it gave me chills), but her evening gown was super fugly and didn't fit her right imo. SInce I didn't see her judges interview, I can't tell you much of what I think about her personality or commitment to community service, but I actually thought her onstage answer was pretty weak. As an interview coach and coming from a communication background, I was cringing as she told all the celebrity judges (many of whom have made their living on TV) that we should "get rid of TV" in order to combat childhood obesity. Hello! Consider your audience! I didn't think she really supported it enough to be that bold, but it was a fairly well-stated and convicted answer, and since the judges aren't supposed ot judge her on her opinion, but on how she presents her opinion, I suppose it's kudos to them. Obviously, I think Miss Oregon was the best choice, but one thing I have learned from experience is that, at that level, the women are all so frickin' amazing that they would all do an amazing job, and the results really come down to somewhat of a crapshoot. Different judges, different night, different result, I guarantee it. A good example of this is that I actually beat both the last two Miss Oregons in local competition, but they beat me at the state level. Such is the way of subjective sports, which is why you really have to do it because you believe in a cause and you want the experience, not because you need the crown. | ||
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