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wei2coolman
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zer0das
United States8519 Posts
Feels really weird, I thought it wouldn't bother me when his time came (my father isn't exactly the most upstanding person- long story there), but I'm really shaken up. I expected him to live to be 80 like his mother- she was the only grandparent that lived to an old age, and he was closest to her. Stupid to make inferences like that, but if you knew them you might understand my thinking. Strange that I feel closest to this subforum more than anyone. Though all my friends on the east coast are probably asleep and I don't want to bother them. | ||
UniversalSnip
9871 Posts
On September 21 2013 15:31 zer0das wrote: My father had a brain aneurysm, and he is in very bad condition. My mother died 7.5 years ago. I have to fly out to where he is in about 5 hours. I haven't exactly been on the best terms with my father for quite a while, but I was talking to him and on relatively good terms with him recently. Feels really weird, I thought it wouldn't bother me when his time came (my father isn't exactly the most upstanding person- long story there), but I'm really shaken up. I expected him to live to be 80 like his mother- she was the only grandparent that lived to an old age, and he was closest to her. Stupid to make inferences like that, but if you knew them you might understand my thinking. Strange that I feel closest to this subforum more than anyone. Though all my friends on the east coast are probably asleep and I don't want to bother them. Hey man. In a sense, I know what you mean. My father is not the most upstanding guy (EDIT: let me be clear - he is a criminal), and while in some areas he's a very capable person, being a father is not among them. He tries hard, but he has many health issues, including epilepsy, and I don't know if he'll ever be able to 'make up' for his years of absence and neglect even if he lives for a long time. Like you, I've only been on good terms with him recently, and like you, I don't know when exactly he'll go. The only advice I have to give to you is that it's not important that you forgive him. It's just important that you understand that people act in their own peculiar way according to their own peculiar natures, and you know, ultimately, who you are isn't really up to the way he acted. Just be the best you can be, and appreciate what's good about him. The rest, well, you're just gonna have to let it pass by, because it's less a part of you and the way you are than you think. To the best of your ability, appreciate the good in him, and let the rest go. | ||
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Osmoses
Sweden5302 Posts
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sung_moon
United States10110 Posts
On September 21 2013 15:31 zer0das wrote: My father had a brain aneurysm, and he is in very bad condition. My mother died 7.5 years ago. I have to fly out to where he is in about 5 hours. I haven't exactly been on the best terms with my father for quite a while, but I was talking to him and on relatively good terms with him recently. Feels really weird, I thought it wouldn't bother me when his time came (my father isn't exactly the most upstanding person- long story there), but I'm really shaken up. I expected him to live to be 80 like his mother- she was the only grandparent that lived to an old age, and he was closest to her. Stupid to make inferences like that, but if you knew them you might understand my thinking. Strange that I feel closest to this subforum more than anyone. Though all my friends on the east coast are probably asleep and I don't want to bother them. Hope everything works out man. | ||
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Requizen
United States33802 Posts
On September 21 2013 15:31 zer0das wrote: My father had a brain aneurysm, and he is in very bad condition. My mother died 7.5 years ago. I have to fly out to where he is in about 5 hours. I haven't exactly been on the best terms with my father for quite a while, but I was talking to him and on relatively good terms with him recently. Feels really weird, I thought it wouldn't bother me when his time came (my father isn't exactly the most upstanding person- long story there), but I'm really shaken up. I expected him to live to be 80 like his mother- she was the only grandparent that lived to an old age, and he was closest to her. Stupid to make inferences like that, but if you knew them you might understand my thinking. Strange that I feel closest to this subforum more than anyone. Though all my friends on the east coast are probably asleep and I don't want to bother them. Even if you weren't close, your dad is still your dad, so it's understandable. I know what it's like to lose someone, and it sucks, even when you think you're untouchable, so to speak. If you need to talk, PM me. | ||
AsmodeusXI
United States15536 Posts
On September 21 2013 15:31 zer0das wrote: My father had a brain aneurysm, and he is in very bad condition. My mother died 7.5 years ago. I have to fly out to where he is in about 5 hours. I haven't exactly been on the best terms with my father for quite a while, but I was talking to him and on relatively good terms with him recently. Feels really weird, I thought it wouldn't bother me when his time came (my father isn't exactly the most upstanding person- long story there), but I'm really shaken up. I expected him to live to be 80 like his mother- she was the only grandparent that lived to an old age, and he was closest to her. Stupid to make inferences like that, but if you knew them you might understand my thinking. Strange that I feel closest to this subforum more than anyone. Though all my friends on the east coast are probably asleep and I don't want to bother them. Need someone to chat with? We can help there. Need to play games to clear your head? We can do that too. Keep us posted. | ||
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jcarlsoniv
United States27922 Posts
If you need us to help you with shit, we're here for you zer0. Hope things go the best they can. | ||
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upperbound
United States2300 Posts
On September 21 2013 15:31 zer0das wrote: My father had a brain aneurysm, and he is in very bad condition. My mother died 7.5 years ago. I have to fly out to where he is in about 5 hours. I haven't exactly been on the best terms with my father for quite a while, but I was talking to him and on relatively good terms with him recently. Feels really weird, I thought it wouldn't bother me when his time came (my father isn't exactly the most upstanding person- long story there), but I'm really shaken up. I expected him to live to be 80 like his mother- she was the only grandparent that lived to an old age, and he was closest to her. Stupid to make inferences like that, but if you knew them you might understand my thinking. Strange that I feel closest to this subforum more than anyone. Though all my friends on the east coast are probably asleep and I don't want to bother them. Sorry to read this, z0r. If you want to play some games, chat, anything really to talk about it or take your mind off it, people are definitely here for you. | ||
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SHr3DD3r
Pakistan2137 Posts
Even though you may not be on the best of terms with your dad. If, God forbid, he doesn't make it, you will never get another chance. And its not unusual that you may want to type out your story here. I felt that way too when I lost my grandfather (my grandparents pretty much raised me). I was non-functional for a week. Just letting your thoughts out in the open is therapeutic. GL | ||
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Nos-
Canada12016 Posts
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BlackPaladin
United States9316 Posts
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Osmoses
Sweden5302 Posts
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BlackPaladin
United States9316 Posts
On September 22 2013 08:42 Osmoses wrote: Budget rollcage. Guy is clearly too fast and furious. No, like, he just bought a new mattress, so decided to drive it home.....by taping it onto his car. Not even duct tape. Like, regular clear packing tape. | ||
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UniversalSnip
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JonGalt
Pootie too good!4331 Posts
On September 22 2013 12:43 UniversalSnip wrote: Man windows 8 really is steaming garbage. Every time I have to use it I'm startled at how badly they mangled the interface. SO BAD. Google classic shell. makes life so much easier. good luck zer0. we're all here for Ya! | ||
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Duvon
Sweden2360 Posts
On September 22 2013 12:43 UniversalSnip wrote: Man windows 8 really is steaming garbage. Every time I have to use it I'm startled at how badly they mangled the interface. I'm just about to install W8 on my machine... WML. | ||
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JonGalt
Pootie too good!4331 Posts
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wei2coolman
United States60033 Posts
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JonGalt
Pootie too good!4331 Posts
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