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I'm madly in love in a way I never previously allowed myself to be. You know, not just teenage-style hormones or whatever, but actual I-want-to-spend-the-rest-of-my-life-with-you type of love. I've always had this idea that my... uhm, I guess weirdness would be the proper word here (no need to go into a deep explanation, let's just say I'm a bit of an odd-ball XD) would prevent me from sustaining a happy and successful relationship, but this woman not only accepts me for who I am, she appreciates me for it. We've known each other for about four years (I've had a crush on her since the first day I met her, and while we fornicated at several points in time and enjoyed many a wonderful moment during those three and a half years before we got serious, things never took off for various reasons until this year), so we know each other quite well at this point, and I can safely say that I could see myself spending the rest of my life with her. Dating: How's your luck? - Page 324
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Holgerius
Sweden16951 Posts
I'm madly in love in a way I never previously allowed myself to be. You know, not just teenage-style hormones or whatever, but actual I-want-to-spend-the-rest-of-my-life-with-you type of love. I've always had this idea that my... uhm, I guess weirdness would be the proper word here (no need to go into a deep explanation, let's just say I'm a bit of an odd-ball XD) would prevent me from sustaining a happy and successful relationship, but this woman not only accepts me for who I am, she appreciates me for it. We've known each other for about four years (I've had a crush on her since the first day I met her, and while we fornicated at several points in time and enjoyed many a wonderful moment during those three and a half years before we got serious, things never took off for various reasons until this year), so we know each other quite well at this point, and I can safely say that I could see myself spending the rest of my life with her. | ||
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freelander
Hungary4707 Posts
Then a bit later I saw her next to the cloakroom, she and her friend were leaving. I approached, I totally locked out her friend, we talked for a few minutes, I got her number, they left. I called her next day, we agreed to meet on Monday. A few hours before the meeting she sent me a text that something came up and she cant meet me that day, but she'd gladly meet me some other time. I replied with some lame joke and that I would call her some time. And this was a week ago. I guess I will call her today. I was kinda busy, and a bit disappointed that she flaked me so I ignored her for a week. One can't just NOT contribute to this thread! | ||
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freelander
Hungary4707 Posts
On November 26 2013 00:32 Holgerius wrote: Been in a relationship for the past six months, which is ridiculously uncharacteristic for me. I've had several of long term partners in a strictly physical sense, but this is completely different and new to me. I'm madly in love in a way I never previously allowed myself to be. You know, not just teenage-style hormones or whatever, but actual I-want-to-spend-the-rest-of-my-life-with-you type of love. I've always had this idea that my... uhm, I guess weirdness would be the proper word here (no need to go into a deep explanation, let's just say I'm a bit of an odd-ball XD) would prevent me from sustaining a happy and successful relationship, but this woman not only accepts me for who I am, she appreciates me for it. We've known each other for about four years (I've had a crush on her since the first day I met her, and while we fornicated at several points in time and enjoyed many a wonderful moment during those three and a half years before we got serious, things never took off for various reasons until this year), so we know each other quite well at this point, and I can safely say that I could see myself spending the rest of my life with her. nice, man. Keep up. | ||
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MysteryMeat1
United States3292 Posts
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IgnE
United States7681 Posts
On November 26 2013 00:51 freelander wrote: Like 10 days ago at Friday, there was this suit-up party for freshmen at my university, I saw this cute girl across the dancefloor, she gave me a long look and a halfsmile. There was quite a mass at the floor, I lost sight of her. Then a bit later I saw her next to the cloakroom, she and her friend were leaving. I approached, I totally locked out her friend, we talked for a few minutes, I got her number, they left. I called her next day, we agreed to meet on Monday. A few hours before the meeting she sent me a text that something came up and she cant meet me that day, but she'd gladly meet me some other time. I replied with some lame joke and that I would call her some time. And this was a week ago. I guess I will call her today. I was kinda busy, and a bit disappointed that she flaked me so I ignored her for a week. One can't just NOT contribute to this thread! That was dumb of you. | ||
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LongShot27
United States2084 Posts
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Zooper31
United States5711 Posts
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LongShot27
United States2084 Posts
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Zooper31
United States5711 Posts
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r.Evo
Germany14080 Posts
On November 27 2013 08:59 LongShot27 wrote: I asked this girl I have class with if she wanted to go out and she said "like a date?" I said "yeah." I got a "Put me down for a maybe, I'm dealing with a lot of stuff, we'll talk about it next week". All things considered I think that it went pretty well, but I've also never asked a chick out before (I'm nearly 23, Yeah I know) You jumped out of your comfort zone. Now all that's needed is to keep doing it. =) Well played, Sir! | ||
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WombaT
Northern Ireland26473 Posts
I was something of a late bloomer in that extent and used my early adolescent years to pursue such standard and fun pursuits as gaming and music. Make use of your youth and the relative lack of external responsibilities. You're not necessarily going to get that chance again. Having a fulfilling relationship isn't a matter of practice makes perfect either. You can fall into something with someone that just works with no prior relationships and of course vice versa | ||
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DarkPlasmaBall
United States45393 Posts
On November 26 2013 00:51 freelander wrote: Like 10 days ago at Friday, there was this suit-up party for freshmen at my university, I saw this cute girl across the dancefloor, she gave me a long look and a halfsmile. There was quite a mass at the floor, I lost sight of her. Then a bit later I saw her next to the cloakroom, she and her friend were leaving. I approached, I totally locked out her friend, we talked for a few minutes, I got her number, they left. I called her next day, we agreed to meet on Monday. A few hours before the meeting she sent me a text that something came up and she cant meet me that day, but she'd gladly meet me some other time. I replied with some lame joke and that I would call her some time. And this was a week ago. I guess I will call her today. I was kinda busy, and a bit disappointed that she flaked me so I ignored her for a week. One can't just NOT contribute to this thread! You blew her off on purpose to get revenge on a girl who honestly had to deal with something else in her life? She said she'd be happy to reschedule with you. That's pretty douchey of you. | ||
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DarkPlasmaBall
United States45393 Posts
On November 27 2013 08:59 LongShot27 wrote: I asked this girl I have class with if she wanted to go out and she said "like a date?" I said "yeah." I got a "Put me down for a maybe, I'm dealing with a lot of stuff, we'll talk about it next week". All things considered I think that it went pretty well, but I've also never asked a chick out before (I'm nearly 23, Yeah I know) Well done  It's really hard to take that first step! Hopefully it goes well when you talk about it further with her! If it doesn't though, it's important to note that sometimes people really are just overwhelmed with their other stuff at the moment... getting turned down doesn't always mean you're an unattractive person lol. I know many a person who felt bad turning down a really great guy or girl just because they currently have too much on their plate. It's their loss. | ||
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Shotcoder
United States2316 Posts
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IgnE
United States7681 Posts
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WarSame
Canada1950 Posts
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LongShot27
United States2084 Posts
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Shotcoder
United States2316 Posts
On November 27 2013 13:11 IgnE wrote: Who goes from willing to date to completely monogamous in one week? Idk if it's completely monogamous, but I know if I start talking to a girl I tend to not talk to other girls as if I'm interested like I would normally. So it didn't really catch me too off guard. | ||
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LongShot27
United States2084 Posts
On November 27 2013 12:33 Shotcoder wrote: Last week I asked a girl from another department if she was single last friday, got a smile and politely shot down...Talked to her again today she told me I should have asked her a week before that , her answer would have been different then. I fucking hate my life sometimes. Always this fucking close. Someone who thinks like that probably isn't a great choice, just sayin' | ||
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TOCHMY
Sweden1692 Posts
On November 27 2013 13:30 LongShot27 wrote: Yeah I suppose so, I'm just not a fan of the waiting game x.x Nobody's a fan of the waiting game... I hate that shit. On that note: Been playing the waiting game for 5 days now with a lovely young woman and it's KILLING ME. | ||
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