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On November 18 2013 09:30 corumjhaelen wrote:sam  I understand you, girls can be like that... So apparently I'm in a relationship. I think she's hot, she thinks I'm hot (that's worrying for her mental health but hey...), she makes me laugh and I make her laugh too. She's quick at the repartee. She can be patient and kind, but not passive. I think she has a great outlook on life. To chime in a bit with sam, she just has "bad" lectures and not-always-perfect-taste in movies, but she doesn't think I'm being pretentious when I disagree with her and even opened my Hegel to read the first sentence and make sense of it. I do not want to "convert her" or anything like that, but I think there is potential for growing our intellectual common ground, which is a good thing. Plus she showed me Dark City, not bad ! And as the rest is great, I'm not complaining. Only two and a half weeks in, but I hope this will last a bit.
screw you
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Northern Ireland27234 Posts
Dark City as in the film? Marry her, marry her naowww.
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Netherlands6192 Posts
On November 18 2013 09:30 corumjhaelen wrote:sam I understand you, girls can be like that... So apparently I'm in a relationship. I think she's hot, she thinks I'm hot (that's worrying for her mental health but hey...), she makes me laugh and I make her laugh too. She's quick at the repartee. She can be patient and kind, but not passive. I think she has a great outlook on life. To chime in a bit with sam, she just has "bad" lectures and not-always-perfect-taste in movies, but she doesn't think I'm being pretentious when I disagree with her and even opened my Hegel to read the first sentence and make sense of it. I do not want to "convert her" or anything like that, but I think there is potential for growing our intellectual common ground, which is a good thing. Plus she showed me Dark City, not bad ! And as the rest is great, I'm not complaining. Only two and a half weeks in, but I hope this will last a bit.
That's cute. And it pleases me that you have such a posirive outlook on it and are being realistic and looking for places to grow yourselves together. Good luck in the future. 
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Is it possible to stay just friends with a girl after having sex with her? I have been friends with this girl for 2 years. Shes fun to hang out with but i have no desire to be in a relationship with her. I know she likes me but im trying to figure out if their is a feasible way for us to just be friends from now on. How would I go about saying I like you but only as a friend?
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if you already had sex with her then it's better to just damage control then actually flat out say it since you come off as pretty scrubby. just best to not lead her on from this point instead of blatantly say that imo. Also depends on the girl, some might have no problem with you just saying that
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wait hes talking about friend zoning someone i thought that was an inexcusable crime against men everywhere.
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how about.... having sex AND staying as friends? sometimes they are cool wit dat d too
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On November 20 2013 04:59 ComaDose wrote:
wait hes talking about friend zoning someone i thought that was an inexcusable crime against men everywhere.
The crime is stringing them along and never defining the relationship but subtly denying any advances.
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On November 20 2013 06:52 Najda wrote:Show nested quote +On November 20 2013 04:59 ComaDose wrote:
wait hes talking about friend zoning someone i thought that was an inexcusable crime against men everywhere. The crime is stringing them along and never defining the relationship but subtly denying any advances.
Oh well that doesn't sound as bad as fucking someone then telling them you just want to be friends 
But seriously are you putting the onus of defining the relationship on the woman for any particular reason?
And can you define "stringing them along" in a way that would make it somehow different than being friends with someone?
is denying someones advances a bad thing now lol the crime sounds like overestimating men's ability to take a hint.
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hey-ai.com pretty good if you're an asian guy into non-asian women lol
Would only recommend if you live in the EU or US though.
I met my partner off there, and we are now recently married :D
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On November 20 2013 06:57 ComaDose wrote:Show nested quote +On November 20 2013 06:52 Najda wrote:On November 20 2013 04:59 ComaDose wrote:
wait hes talking about friend zoning someone i thought that was an inexcusable crime against men everywhere. The crime is stringing them along and never defining the relationship but subtly denying any advances. Oh well that doesn't sound as bad as fucking someone then telling them you just want to be friends But seriously are you putting the onus of defining the relationship on the woman for any particular reason? And can you define "stringing them along" in a way that would make it somehow different than being friends with someone? is denying someones advances a bad thing now lol the crime sounds like overestimating men's ability to take a hint.
Stringing along I mean when person A knows person B wants a relationship, but instead of saying no, s/he will keep using person B for occasional sex or for the attention s/he is receiving.
Having sex with someone and then realizing you don't want a relationship and being straight about it is forgivable but if you instead keep stringing them along then you're a douche.
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Northern Ireland27234 Posts
Yeah I'm with Nadja on that important distinction
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oh yeah leading people on is a bad thing. didnt know that was what you were talking about when you quoted my post about friendzone
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If a girl writes you an e-mail, having taken the address from a mass-e-mail your professor sent, by having learned your first name in a tutorial and your last name by comparing the initials from your signature to the name on your mailbox, would you think that's a little strange?
And would her explaining the process within the first e-mail make it weirder, less weird or equally weird?
I would have appreciated the mystery.
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I'd throw in a stalker joke and mention that he could have just... you know... talked to me instead but besides those 1-2 sentences I'd give a proper answer. If she flips out about it, run.
Sure it's strange/creepy but at least for me that wouldn't be a complete no-go. I'd just have my antennae out and be a bit careful at first. Fully explaining it and not taking it light-hearted is the way to go if you want nothing to do with her tho. =P
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On November 22 2013 07:07 SixStrings wrote:
If a girl writes you an e-mail, having taken the address from a mass-e-mail your professor sent, by having learned your first name in a tutorial and your last name by comparing the initials from your signature to the name on your mailbox, would you think that's a little strange?
And would her explaining the process within the first e-mail make it weirder, less weird or equally weird?
I would have appreciated the mystery.
it isnt weird, maybe she is shy or something like that, all depends what does the email was for. talk or homework?
Question:
if you try to get a girls number and she says: I take yours instead.
is that a good or bad sign ?
bad right ?
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On November 22 2013 07:14 rivurivurivurivu wrote:Show nested quote +On November 22 2013 07:07 SixStrings wrote:
If a girl writes you an e-mail, having taken the address from a mass-e-mail your professor sent, by having learned your first name in a tutorial and your last name by comparing the initials from your signature to the name on your mailbox, would you think that's a little strange?
And would her explaining the process within the first e-mail make it weirder, less weird or equally weird?
I would have appreciated the mystery. it isnt weird, maybe she is shy or something like that, all depends what does the email was for. talk or homework? Question: if you try to get a girls number and she says: I take yours instead. is that a good or bad sign ? bad right ?
Very bad. Not even sure how to recover from that besides joking about whether that means she wants to get rid of you when you thought you two would be together for the rest of your lives.
Just make her type it into your phone next time. =P
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On November 22 2013 07:12 r.Evo wrote:
I'd throw in a stalker joke and mention that he could have just... you know... talked to me instead but besides those 1-2 sentences I'd give a proper answer. If she flips out about it, run.
Sure it's strange/creepy but at least for me that wouldn't be a complete no-go. I'd just have my antennae out and be a bit careful at first. Fully explaining it and not taking it light-hearted is the way to go if you want nothing to do with her tho. =P
She explained it, not me. She also neglected to mention how she knows where I live, but one step at a time.
Definitely interesting.
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On November 22 2013 07:17 r.Evo wrote:Show nested quote +On November 22 2013 07:14 rivurivurivurivu wrote:On November 22 2013 07:07 SixStrings wrote:
If a girl writes you an e-mail, having taken the address from a mass-e-mail your professor sent, by having learned your first name in a tutorial and your last name by comparing the initials from your signature to the name on your mailbox, would you think that's a little strange?
And would her explaining the process within the first e-mail make it weirder, less weird or equally weird?
I would have appreciated the mystery. it isnt weird, maybe she is shy or something like that, all depends what does the email was for. talk or homework? Question: if you try to get a girls number and she says: I take yours instead. is that a good or bad sign ? bad right ? Very bad. Not even sure how to recover from that besides joking about whether that means she wants to get rid of you when you thought you two would be together for the rest of your lives. Just make her type it into your phone next time. =P
fck im sad now.
i will cheese a bit in ladder now... ty
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