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Been going out with my girlfriend for 3 years now, all is great with her.
Before that I had a few odd ones:
-I was halfway through a comedy movie with one girl at the cinema, and I laughed at something, and she said something to the effect of "That's really inappropriate", and upon asking why I found out she was a devout christian, but I'd thought she was joking and may have offended her a little.
Turns out it all went back to where a few weeks before my friend as a joke had signed my name on the christian club list (which had about 4 people in, in a school of thousands) and she'd come after me.
We sat the rest out in silence and just said "Nice to meet you, bye" at the end.
-When I was a lot younger, I went on a date with a girl and she asked if I liked skiing, and I said "Yah... yah, yah, yah, I really like it yah..." and I just got stuck in a loop of saying "yah", and she just sat there looking at me, and I just kept saying "yah". Honestly it was like one of those things you see on terrible sitcoms. I got really embarrassed and stopped talking and we just sat there awkwardly.
-I've been on a few where I've turned up expecting to find a bunch of people, then it turns out it's just me and a girl, and it's a girl I've looked at as a friend, and it turns out I was completely oblivious to having been going on a date.
-Went to a party with one girl and she took the next door neighbours cancer pain killers (pretty sure it was morphine), and her friend passed out from them, and this girl thought her friend was going to die. She didn't call an ambulance in case she got in trouble, just sat there crying thinking her friend was dying. Everyone else was just drinking, then someone finds them in a bedroom and slaps her friend awake, but I hear about the whole thing. Never see her again.
Probably a lot more.
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Not much luck. Whenever I get in contact with a girl and we have sex I usually dont want her anymore and theres nothing I can really do about it. I just loose the interest and doesnt have to be because of bad sex
If I was to get seriously involved with a girl again(many years since last time) she would have to be really greedy the first months so I would have time to get to know her in a "real" way.
I dont need love, I just need sex and im ready for months by myself again ... kinda weird!
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In a relationship as of 3 months  . Before that I've been relaxing, nothing serious, just fooling around.
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On October 11 2011 05:32 Capped wrote:Show nested quote +On October 11 2011 05:22 Jayjay54 wrote:I sincerely, SINCERELY hope u r trollin While im in a fully committed relationship engaged to be married sex is overrated, i'd rather give myself a hand job to be perfectly honest, its faster and gets the job done ^_^
Holy shit I could agree with the "sex is overrated" part in the extent that unlike some men out there I wouldn't waste half of my waking time trying to get laid or managing a shitty gf that I just keep around for sex - I'd rather focus on improving my life, then get a great gf and proceed to have sex all the time - but God, I would NEVER take a self hand job over "real" sex.
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On October 11 2011 05:50 Matoo- wrote:Show nested quote +On October 11 2011 05:32 Capped wrote:On October 11 2011 05:22 Jayjay54 wrote:I sincerely, SINCERELY hope u r trollin While im in a fully committed relationship engaged to be married sex is overrated, i'd rather give myself a hand job to be perfectly honest, its faster and gets the job done ^_^ Holy shit I could agree with the "sex is overrated" part in the extent that unlike some men out there I wouldn't waste half of my waking time trying to get laid or managing a shitty gf that I just keep around for sex - I'd rather focus on improving my life, get a great gf, and then proceed to have sex all the time - but God, I would NEVER take a self hand job over "real" sex.
thaaaank you. this. i was about to lose faith in procreating.
handjob <<<<< sex. and no matter how often it's not the same satisfaction.
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Got out of a 5 year relationship this past May... before that I had been in another 5 year relationship. So in the past 12 years I've been single for maybe 2.
Been focusing on myself a TON, getting back to the gym, eating right, focusing on a lot of my hobbies that I had thrown to the side while dating this last girl. As others have said, you have to be happy with yourself before jumping into a relationship. I would have to say I'm well on my way.
Oh and one question... why is it when you first start dating someone, it seems like a million girls pop up out of the woodwork wanting to hang out then as soon as your single they disappear? I've had this happen more times than I can count.
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On October 11 2011 05:50 Matoo- wrote:Show nested quote +On October 11 2011 05:32 Capped wrote:On October 11 2011 05:22 Jayjay54 wrote:I sincerely, SINCERELY hope u r trollin While im in a fully committed relationship engaged to be married sex is overrated, i'd rather give myself a hand job to be perfectly honest, its faster and gets the job done ^_^ Holy shit I could agree with the "sex is overrated" part in the extent that unlike some men out there I wouldn't waste half of my waking time trying to get laid or managing a shitty gf that I just keep around for sex - I'd rather focus on improving my life, then get a great gf and proceed to have sex all the time - but God, I would NEVER take a self hand job over "real" sex.
To be fair, there are a number of women out there who don't really know what they're doing in bed -- even women who aren't new to sex. In comparison, no one knows a guy's penis better than the guy that it's attached to. One time a girl even tried to explain that she knew how to work my penis better than I did, which was definitely one of the most absurd conversations that I have ever had.
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On October 11 2011 05:54 Googity wrote:
Oh and one question... why is it when you first start dating someone, it seems like a million girls pop up out of the woodwork wanting to hang out then as soon as your single they disappear? I've had this happen more times than I can count.
Because girls are jealous creatures.
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On October 11 2011 05:51 Jayjay54 wrote:Show nested quote +On October 11 2011 05:50 Matoo- wrote:On October 11 2011 05:32 Capped wrote:On October 11 2011 05:22 Jayjay54 wrote:I sincerely, SINCERELY hope u r trollin While im in a fully committed relationship engaged to be married sex is overrated, i'd rather give myself a hand job to be perfectly honest, its faster and gets the job done ^_^ Holy shit I could agree with the "sex is overrated" part in the extent that unlike some men out there I wouldn't waste half of my waking time trying to get laid or managing a shitty gf that I just keep around for sex - I'd rather focus on improving my life, get a great gf, and then proceed to have sex all the time - but God, I would NEVER take a self hand job over "real" sex. thaaaank you. this. i was about to lose faith in procreating. handjob <<<<< sex. and no matter how often it's not the same satisfaction.
It's all personal preference... Like, you'd think with how aware everyone is about weird fetishes due to the internet that they'd understand that everyone gets varying degrees of sexual satisfaction from different kinds of sexual activity, but you guys still seem to think that there's some sort of objective Sex > Masterbation thing?
I mean, don't get me wrong, I'm pretty boring, I like sex more that blowjobs more than handjobs more than jerking off. But I just find it ridiculous that everyone can know what a furry is and accept that there are people with foot fetishes out there and not understand that sexual satisfaction is anything but objective.
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On October 11 2011 05:51 Jayjay54 wrote:Show nested quote +On October 11 2011 05:50 Matoo- wrote:On October 11 2011 05:32 Capped wrote:On October 11 2011 05:22 Jayjay54 wrote:I sincerely, SINCERELY hope u r trollin While im in a fully committed relationship engaged to be married sex is overrated, i'd rather give myself a hand job to be perfectly honest, its faster and gets the job done ^_^ Holy shit I could agree with the "sex is overrated" part in the extent that unlike some men out there I wouldn't waste half of my waking time trying to get laid or managing a shitty gf that I just keep around for sex - I'd rather focus on improving my life, get a great gf, and then proceed to have sex all the time - but God, I would NEVER take a self hand job over "real" sex. thaaaank you. this. i was about to lose faith in procreating. handjob <<<<< sex. and no matter how often it's not the same satisfaction.
Dunno if you used the word procreating just for fun but I'm sure that if I was gay I would enjoy way more having sex with another guy compared to doing it by myself as well. :D
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On October 11 2011 05:10 Mogwai wrote:Show nested quote +On October 11 2011 05:04 chenchen wrote:
I'm not going to pay too much attention to this thread until ILOVEKITTENS writes something. ILOVEKITTENS is nuked sadly. And yea, fuck, this is depressing, I'm not sticking around this thread, lol.
What>? Why was he nucked, he was a TL legend?
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6 months thus far with my GF. My advice for those looking: it's better to be alone unless you're with someone you're not actually interested in. If you only want sex, or if you're doing it for status(etc) it's probably not going to be worth it.
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On October 11 2011 05:59 MCDayC wrote:Show nested quote +On October 11 2011 05:10 Mogwai wrote:On October 11 2011 05:04 chenchen wrote:
I'm not going to pay too much attention to this thread until ILOVEKITTENS writes something. ILOVEKITTENS is nuked sadly. And yea, fuck, this is depressing, I'm not sticking around this thread, lol. What>? Why was he nucked, he was a TL legend?
I have no idea =\. Came back from a weekend a few months ago and he was banned =(.
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6.5 months in.
SC2 and gaming time suffering from it. Oh noes!
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On October 11 2011 05:50 Matoo- wrote:Show nested quote +On October 11 2011 05:32 Capped wrote:On October 11 2011 05:22 Jayjay54 wrote:I sincerely, SINCERELY hope u r trollin While im in a fully committed relationship engaged to be married sex is overrated, i'd rather give myself a hand job to be perfectly honest, its faster and gets the job done ^_^ Holy shit I could agree with the "sex is overrated" part in the extent that unlike some men out there I wouldn't waste half of my waking time trying to get laid or managing a shitty gf that I just keep around for sex - I'd rather focus on improving my life, then get a great gf and proceed to have sex all the time - but God, I would NEVER take a self hand job over "real" sex.
What he's saying is that when your with the same girl for months and you have sex quite often it just eventually gets less exciting to the point where you are like fuck it I'd rather just jerk it haha. I remember thinking that with my last girlfriend after about 3 months. This especially happens if the girl doesn't like switching it up trying something new every once in a while 
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WTF is up with the "sex is overrated" shit talk around here?
Sex is fucking awesome! Not overrated at all 
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On October 11 2011 04:52 Brees wrote:
girls are pretty useless so never felt the need to date one, perfectly fine living life on my own terms
sex is decent but not worth what you have to put up with
Well, there is sex.. and then there IS sex... it's all about perspective
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"Dating, how's your luck?"
Nonexistant lol. But I learned to live with being single - well, had to, since every girl I ever asked out rejected me, and not in the "No" kind of way, more like "Wtf, I thought you were asexual?". ^^
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On October 11 2011 06:11 RobbybabyDTF wrote:Show nested quote +On October 11 2011 05:50 Matoo- wrote:On October 11 2011 05:32 Capped wrote:On October 11 2011 05:22 Jayjay54 wrote:I sincerely, SINCERELY hope u r trollin While im in a fully committed relationship engaged to be married sex is overrated, i'd rather give myself a hand job to be perfectly honest, its faster and gets the job done ^_^ Holy shit I could agree with the "sex is overrated" part in the extent that unlike some men out there I wouldn't waste half of my waking time trying to get laid or managing a shitty gf that I just keep around for sex - I'd rather focus on improving my life, then get a great gf and proceed to have sex all the time - but God, I would NEVER take a self hand job over "real" sex. What he's saying is that when your with the same girl for months and you have sex quite often it just eventually gets less exciting to the point where you are like fuck it I'd rather just jerk it haha. I remember thinking that with my last girlfriend after about 3 months. This especially happens if the girl doesn't like switching it up trying something new every once in a while
I can totally see that (happened to me as well) and I guess thats why there is affairs and stuff. but then again sex is essentual and so should it be.
procreating was meant in a way that it's humanity's number one objective. Ok maybe number three after eating and drinking. we were programmed to have sex. and I like it that way.
and yes I am away of weird stuff. but this usually still involves another person. and than technically it is sex (no matter what gender and how many feet are involved) and better than being by yourself. I'd say that as soon as you enjoy stuff by yourself more than with a stranger or just somebody else, something is wrong with your libido. maybe eat more fruit...
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