EPTI hate living I hate every last part of my life so much
The Letting Off Steam Thread - Page 256
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Zambrah
United States6992 Posts
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Ciaus_Dronu
South Africa1848 Posts
Dunno if anyone here plays Stellaris. Scene: Am winning a war - about to completely delete a neighbouring empire lategame. Main rival (literally other side of the galaxy) declares war and fucking teleports their entire fleet in one big ball near my homeworld. My forces are split across 3 fronts - defending chokepoints they wouldn't have been able to fight through. I can't even reach said enemy because they're landlocked by other empires with closed borders. Whoever decided to include long range teleporter catapults in the game is an asshole. There's literally no counterplay until you have your own up. It's just... game over. Because there's a fucking global offensive teleport building. | ||
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StasisField
United States1086 Posts
I hate my family. I hate my family and our shitty fucking dynamic. Being emotionally manipulated to bend over backwards for them for years. I can't fucking stand it anymore. The way they disrespect me and my partner and what we have built for nearly 7 years now is unacceptable. Tonight is the latest example: last year, my partner and I decided to skip the 2 separate Christmases my grandparents host. Why? Because we're an interracial couple and my grandparents on both sides are fucking racists who openly use racial slurs at the dinner table. My parents understood our decision then. Why would we want to go and spend time with people who don't welcome her and don't respect our relationship? Well, tonight was one of those Christmases and we, once again, skipped, but apparently my parents aren't so understanding anymore. I have been getting texts and phone calls telling me what an awful, selfish person I am and how nobody is perfect and I need to get over it. Fuck that and fuck you for giving their bigotry a pass!! They call people who look like my partner vile, disgusting names and attribute awful stereotypes and lies about them and we're supposed to just show up like we feel welcome? FUCK OFF!!! | ||
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Simberto
Germany11249 Posts
On December 19 2022 09:54 StasisField wrote: + Show Spoiler + I hate my family. I hate my family and our shitty fucking dynamic. Being emotionally manipulated to bend over backwards for them for years. I can't fucking stand it anymore. The way they disrespect me and my partner and what we have built for nearly 7 years now is unacceptable. Tonight is the latest example: last year, my partner and I decided to skip the 2 separate Christmases my grandparents host. Why? Because we're an interracial couple and my grandparents on both sides are fucking racists who openly use racial slurs at the dinner table. My parents understood our decision then. Why would we want to go and spend time with people who don't welcome her and don't respect our relationship? Well, tonight was one of those Christmases and we, once again, skipped, but apparently my parents aren't so understanding anymore. I have been getting texts and phone calls telling me what an awful, selfish person I am and how nobody is perfect and I need to get over it. Fuck that and fuck you for giving their bigotry a pass!! They call people who look like my partner vile, disgusting names and attribute awful stereotypes and lies about them and we're supposed to just show up like we feel welcome? FUCK OFF!!! Damn, that's rough. + Show Spoiler + Family is always the worst, because you cannot choose them, yet they always have massive expectations of you. You just get rolled some dice, and then have to deal with it. Just be aware that no-contact is an option. Even though it feels scary, it may be the only way that you can actually get some peace with that situation. My wife has similarly problematic relatives, and basically the only thing that made her stop going insane from it was going no contact. It still hasn't solved everything. I agree that you should not go out of your way to make people who passionately hate your partner (who is the only one out of that bunch you actively chose!) feel good. If they can't get over their bigotry for their grandchild, they will sadly be bigoted assholes till they die. Which makes me very sad for you, because instead of awesome and nice grandparents, like everyone deserves, you got bigotted assholes. | ||
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StasisField
United States1086 Posts
On December 19 2022 19:04 Simberto wrote: Damn, that's rough. + Show Spoiler + Family is always the worst, because you cannot choose them, yet they always have massive expectations of you. You just get rolled some dice, and then have to deal with it. Just be aware that no-contact is an option. Even though it feels scary, it may be the only way that you can actually get some peace with that situation. My wife has similarly problematic relatives, and basically the only thing that made her stop going insane from it was going no contact. It still hasn't solved everything. I agree that you should not go out of your way to make people who passionately hate your partner (who is the only one out of that bunch you actively chose!) feel good. If they can't get over their bigotry for their grandchild, they will sadly be bigoted assholes till they die. Which makes me very sad for you, because instead of awesome and nice grandparents, like everyone deserves, you got bigotted assholes. Thank you for the kind words. + Show Spoiler + Update: My mother and I got into a shouting match about Christmas today where a lot of things were said and we were once again labeled as selfish, awful people who never considers how our actions make other feel and how we should be willing to put up with my grandparents since "nobody is perfect". The phone call ended with her hanging up as she screamed at me at the top of her lungs. I thought that was the end of it. Then, my crazy mother showed up to our fucking apartment uninvited and when my partner answered the door, she shoved her way past and tried to force me to speak with her. I had already locked myself away to calm down after the phone call so she wasn't able to force a confrontation with me and my partner was able to get her to leave but holy shit this was so awful. I never thought my mother was do something this insane and my partner and I are both very shaken up. I fucking hate my family | ||
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Simberto
Germany11249 Posts
On December 20 2022 07:38 StasisField wrote: Thank you for the kind words. + Show Spoiler + Update: My mother and I got into a shouting match about Christmas today where a lot of things were said and we were once again labeled as selfish, awful people who never considers how our actions make other feel and how we should be willing to put up with my grandparents since "nobody is perfect". The phone call ended with her hanging up as she screamed at me at the top of her lungs. I thought that was the end of it. Then, my crazy mother showed up to our fucking apartment uninvited and when my partner answered the door, she shoved her way past and tried to force me to speak with her. I had already locked myself away to calm down after the phone call so she wasn't able to force a confrontation with me and my partner was able to get her to leave but holy shit this was so awful. I never thought my mother was do something this insane and my partner and I are both very shaken up. I fucking hate my family + Show Spoiler + Dude. The fuck. My (totally uneducated and uninformed about your situation beyond what you told here) advice would be to go no contact and see how it feels to you. At least for a few weeks. Tell them (via text) that you are no longer interested in communicating with them. Ban their numbers from calling you, blacklist email adresses. You sadly cannot do anything against people literally coming to your apartment, but you can consider actually calling the police if they scream in front of your door and don't leave. Harsh actions, sure. But WTF you should not have to deal with that shit, and by constantly allowing them to push you into these situations you seriously hurt your mental health. Have a nice christmas with your partner and possibly friends. Without shouting, without racism. It will be so relaxed. | ||
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StasisField
United States1086 Posts
On December 20 2022 18:32 Simberto wrote: + Show Spoiler + Dude. The fuck. My (totally uneducated and uninformed about your situation beyond what you told here) advice would be to go no contact and see how it feels to you. At least for a few weeks. Tell them (via text) that you are no longer interested in communicating with them. Ban their numbers from calling you, blacklist email adresses. You sadly cannot do anything against people literally coming to your apartment, but you can consider actually calling the police if they scream in front of your door and don't leave. Harsh actions, sure. But WTF you should not have to deal with that shit, and by constantly allowing them to push you into these situations you seriously hurt your mental health. Have a nice christmas with your partner and possibly friends. Without shouting, without racism. It will be so relaxed. + Show Spoiler + Yeah we are seriously considering going no contact right now. I have already messaged my dad explaining that we will not be at any family events in the immediate future and to give us space for a while. If they can't respect that, then we'll most likely go non-contact for good and cut my family out. Even if they do respect our wishes, we're still not sure things can be repaired and might permanently go no contact anyways. We've also considered reporting the incident with my mom to the police so they have something on file in case she does anything else in the future. I hate that it's come to this. | ||
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{CC}StealthBlue
United States41117 Posts
+ Show Spoiler + i fucking hate motherfucking toothaches! Just 4 more hours till i will be at the dentist. Have barely slept in the past two god damn days... aspirin no longer helps. | ||
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Nebuchad
Switzerland11786 Posts
I didn't feel it was relevant enough to put in the Palestine or european threads, but french media is absolutely wild at the moment. Just saw an older popular singer say that the french left should be physically shot for condemning all violence instead of only Hamas violence. French Fox News didn't exist when I was growing up, I can only imagine what a whole life of listening to this shit does to turn conservatives into fascists. Sooo, well, another doomed country. | ||
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{CC}StealthBlue
United States41117 Posts
+ Show Spoiler + I haven't played WoW in well over 15 years... but jesus christ you are basically ripping off FFXIV storylines now. Just make a successor WoW game already. | ||
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Nebuchad
Switzerland11786 Posts
deleting this one, I feel better now | ||
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FriedrichNietzsche
92 Posts
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Simberto
Germany11249 Posts
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Harris1st
Germany6655 Posts
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r00ty
Germany1022 Posts
One of my best friends was busted for some weed and his life is getting destroyed. Fuck this. We're in our early 40's and have lives, jobs and pay our taxes as productive members of society. This madness must end. | ||
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