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I want to forget something.
This something happened a few days ago, and has been constantly nagging and bothering me, when I'm eating/sleeping/silent in thought I suddenly remember it and become slightly depressed/upset. This is a personal, but really minor thing (not like my mom died, of course i won't forget that), that I don't think should really bother me. It's really annoying, it disturbs me so much. I tried a few things, like mentally dealing with it and telling myself IT'S REALLY NOT THAT BIG OF A DEAL (and it really isn't), but the cruel paradox is, whenever I try to forget it, I have to first recall it. I tried distracting myself, like thinking of other things, doing other things, but it's fucking relentless.
I feel like I'm going slowly insane. It's so annoying, like the single vulture killing probes when you have two control groups of goons outside your base and you don't want to move all of it just to kill the damn thing. It's also like some insinious bug, in the form of a memory. God, someone post some suggestions. My hope now is that it'll slowly go away and fade from me.
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just hang on, soon ull be free, time is the key
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So you beat off to some gay porn..every guy does it once
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hasuwar you can do it twice to cover for me -_-;;
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well i pretty much go insane too when bad things happen to me but really i don't think there is anything i could say to get you to put it to rest, i mean you'll always remember it but the key is to just endulge yourself in the things you love most. stay close with your friends and family, it always worked for me. GL Man hope this helps
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This works for me when I need to forget something...
You must first find the memory that troubles you (unneeded guilt, shame from saying the wrong thing at the wrong time, or a traumatic memory that only you remember and is keeping you from enjoying life) and focus on it.
The memory is there and only an effect of your own brain. Realize that it, like a gum wrapper, is given power only so long as you chose to give it power. See it clearly, focus on every detail so that you understand it, do not let yourself be emotionally drawn into it. Do not let yourself feel the memory. Now we begin.
Take that memory and slowly drain the color from the scene. Let it fade into shades of black, white, and grey. Continue until all the color is gone. Focus on the color draining away from the scene. Now concentrate on the grey scene and let that become your memory. Let the dim grey scene go slowly out of focus. Concentrate on the sounds and spoken words. What have you said? Let a steady radio static fill those sounds. The static is building and overwhelming the sounds. Concentrate on the dim out-of-focus scene again. If there is anything you can see clearly, let that fade out-of-focus into the dark areas of the memory. Shape that memory, take the pain you feel and think of being content. Let that feeling of comfort wash over you from your head to your toes.
Try to listen again to the sounds of the scene. Can you hear anything above the drone of radio static? All the voices should be muffled. You shouldn't hear anything distinct in the memory now. If you can, add someone speaking a steady stream of random gibberish. A voice in many volumes babbling about nothing in disconnected syllables. Let the radio noise and burbling babbles drown out any words you can still understand. The scene should be dim and out-of-focus like the world when seen in a deep fog or as if seeing the surface world from underwater. Focus on the noise and blurry mess. Like a paintbrush, cover the old memory in broad strokes. Keep the memory out of focus. Let this replace what you felt before. When your mind calls for this memory, let it find this blurry vision instead.
Now take the new vision and let it all pool like water running down a drain. Let the whites in the scene fade to grey. Let the blacks in the scene fade to grey. Let the grey spread slowly over this memory until there is nothing left but a flat shade of uniform grey.
Those sounds you still hear in the scene. Let the static dim slowly. Let the gibberish fade slowly into silence. Let a blissful calm wash those noises away. You should hear it all fade to silence on this now grey memory. There should be nothing left but a calm feeling of peace. Everytime you wish to seek the memory that was there before, you will find only this grey blank page. When you try to remember what was said then on this memory, you will hear only a blissful silence. If you strain to see images or force your mind to reveal the sounds, you will see only shapeless blobs of grey and hear a stream of babbling gibberish until your mind seeks the calm again. You should feel better. You will feel as if many chains which weighted you down are now broken. You will have a feeling of freedom. You should breathe deeply and slowly and wake up refreshed.
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Yeah guys, it's a really minor thing that happened; it SHOULDN'T bother me. I thought about drowning myself in BW for the rest of the day.
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1. Conquer your fears, phobias, Face it.
2. Accepting it
3. Move On
4. New Journey
5. -_-;;
666. gg no re.
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someone needs to translate sux2bme's advice and send to reach
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You know what..I want to hear what is bugging you. Spit it out
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yes i want to hear this as well
maybe you saw your mom naked? that would bug the hell out of me
or maybe you kitty died?
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um.. just get into denial and shit. if u cant do that u must have a region of your brain msising or something cuz its like the #1 talent of humans
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You saw ur dick went purple?
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recent studies have shown that memories are not stored as "memory units" in your brain, rather memories are reconstructed. an implication of this is that our brains have an infinite capacity for memories, within a finite amount of neuron connections. an anology is that in the english language there are a finite amount of words at any given time, yet an english speaker can make an infinite amount of sentences. if you wanna get technical, you either have to psychologically repress that memory (through hypnosis if you have high suggestibility) or you can nip the exact neuron(s) that will make the reconstruction of the memory impossible, yet will not hinder your ability to do everyday functions (this is impossible, for now). good luck!
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go watch a really emotional movie or have some sex...
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supressing memories really isnt a good thing. They never go away, you just stop thinking about them. They lay dormant in your subconcious and manifest themselves in ways you never realised. Next thing youre doing gay porn, cheating on your wife, abusing your kids, and cant understand why.
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On August 01 2004 13:38 NoobSaibot wrote:
supressing memories really isnt a good thing. They never go away, you just stop thinking about them. They lay dormant in your subconcious and manifest themselves in ways you never realised. Next thing youre doing gay porn, cheating on your wife, abusing your kids, and cant understand why.
psychoanalysis hasnt been proven scientifically =( sorry.
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but the psychoanalytic paradigm is useful in therapy though.
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I had problems sleeping... have some still... fill your everyday with something to do, talk to people... and that sort of stuff... get a hobby -_-, think of what you have learnt because of the memory... or what you could learn... or whatever I'm just 18 yo --
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HnR)hT
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Unpleasant memories strengthen character 
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I feel like I'm going slowly insane. It's so annoying, like the single vulture killing probes when you have two control groups of goons outside your base and you don't want to move all of it just to kill the damn thing. It's also like some insinious bug, in the form of a memory. God, someone post some suggestions. My hope now is that it'll slowly go away and fade from me.
nice analogy ^_^
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Thanks all advice I will try them ^^
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Eat 24 carrots then do 3 jumping jacks. Then sign your soul over to me, and all will be merry.
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I have the opposite problem.. I have really bad memory... Like I have no clue what I did last wednesday. When I talk to people on icq or msn I sometimes (quite often) repeat what I said the last time I saw them... I could be hours or a day but it's really annoying..
Well good luck and do something that keeps ypur mind occupied for a long while and you wil lslowly stop thinking of it..
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Keep yourself busy. Just start doing things consistantly. By keeping yourself occupied with other things, a trivial matter will start to seem less and less important to you, and eventually you'll forget.
It's worked for me... Actually, it helped me get this girl I really liked out of my head.
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Bill307
Canada9103 Posts
Every time you think about a memory you strengthen how well you remember it.
The solution is to occupy yourself with other things in life. Don't consciously try to forget it, because you're only thinking about it when you do that. Over time you'll think about it less and less until it's virtually forgotten.
The only way to "purge" a memory is to suffer some kind of brain damage. Over time it will naturally "fade away" unless you keep thinking about it, and this is the only way that you can forget something once it has been encoded into your long term memory. Hypnosis MIGHT work, but I don't know and would rather not waste my money on it.
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if you get really drunk you won't be able to remember it for a while, maybe help u forget.
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Stimey's advice:
1. Denial
2. Alcohol
rooooooofl.
What happened anyway, Refrain?
My advice is to tell us all what happened so that we can tell you how ridiculous you are. Then you will have a team of people behind you that all agree that it was no big deal and you don't have to feel all alone and desperate and sad.
Here's a recent experience of mine that might make you feel better:
I'm holding my cat G, and I want to leave so I go to put G into my sister's arms, but G doesn't want to so he starts clawing onto me, and my arm starts pressing into my sister's tits and I don't realize that it's pressing into her tits until it's been pressing against her for like 5 whole seconds.
You think that'd be awkward enough, but she finally gets G away from me and goes to put G on a sofa, so she's turned around... I shake my arm to like let her know "I didn't want my arm against your tits" then I let my arm fall as I'm stepping toward her, my hand ricochets off my stepping thigh and hits her right in the butt.
I go "geez, sorry" and she kinda laughs and walks toward her room and I go "I didn't actually mean to do that, my hand fell and hit my... .. never-miiind" (because my explanation wouldn't make any sense anyway) and she closes her door and I go to bed
So now my sister thinks I'm some kind of creepy incestuous pervert, and I have to live with that for like a week before she realizes it was just a series of really strange accidents that fell together to make me look like I was hot for my sister (which couldn't be further from the truth, the thought of that raises the bile to the back of my throat)
Deal and move on. (And tell us what happened because we are dying to know.) :\
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You seem to have forgotten one key detail..how big are your sister's tits?
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maybe u should just make a move on ur sis. like chris did. itll at least let u know where u lie ^^
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this is like starting a story then saying nevermind, or a girl that starts undressing, then stops, and leavers her clothes on..... tell us the story.... did your mom catch you jakeing or what?!?!?!??!?!??!?!??!! did your dad stick his wee wee in your boom boom? did you kiss your friends pee pee??????? TELL US!
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Oh yeah, it was probably his mom catching him in mid-masturbation. That's a really common eat-away-at-mind thing.
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On August 01 2004 23:32 Chris307 wrote:
Stimey's advice:
1. Denial
2. Alcohol
rooooooofl.
What happened anyway, Refrain?
My advice is to tell us all what happened so that we can tell you how ridiculous you are. Then you will have a team of people behind you that all agree that it was no big deal and you don't have to feel all alone and desperate and sad.
Here's a recent experience of mine that might make you feel better:
I'm holding my cat G, and I want to leave so I go to put G into my sister's arms, but G doesn't want to so he starts clawing onto me, and my arm starts pressing into my sister's tits and I don't realize that it's pressing into her tits until it's been pressing against her for like 5 whole seconds.
You think that'd be awkward enough, but she finally gets G away from me and goes to put G on a sofa, so she's turned around... I shake my arm to like let her know "I didn't want my arm against your tits" then I let my arm fall as I'm stepping toward her, my hand ricochets off my stepping thigh and hits her right in the butt.
I go "geez, sorry" and she kinda laughs and walks toward her room and I go "I didn't actually mean to do that, my hand fell and hit my... .. never-miiind" (because my explanation wouldn't make any sense anyway) and she closes her door and I go to bed
So now my sister thinks I'm some kind of creepy incestuous pervert, and I have to live with that for like a week before she realizes it was just a series of really strange accidents that fell together to make me look like I was hot for my sister (which couldn't be further from the truth, the thought of that raises the bile to the back of my throat)
Deal and move on. (And tell us what happened because we are dying to know.) :\
is it wrong if i had an erection with this story? 
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BTW this particular page of the post is full of the posters i love..
<3
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On August 01 2004 11:49 Refrain[FriZ] wrote:
I want to forget something.
This something happened a few days ago, and has been constantly nagging and bothering me, when I'm eating/sleeping/silent in thought I suddenly remember it and become slightly depressed/upset. This is a personal, but really minor thing (not like my mom died, of course i won't forget that), that I don't think should really bother me. It's really annoying, it disturbs me so much. I tried a few things, like mentally dealing with it and telling myself IT'S REALLY NOT THAT BIG OF A DEAL (and it really isn't), but the cruel paradox is, whenever I try to forget it, I have to first recall it. I tried distracting myself, like thinking of other things, doing other things, but it's fucking relentless.
I feel like I'm going slowly insane. It's so annoying, like the single vulture killing probes when you have two control groups of goons outside your base and you don't want to move all of it just to kill the damn thing. It's also like some insinious bug, in the form of a memory. God, someone post some suggestions. My hope now is that it'll slowly go away and fade from me.
i think its a bigger issue than you think it is, unless you sit down, analyze and attempt to defuse your problem it will continue to nag you.
if its something that has happened, an event that you dissaprove of, then just settle your emotions with it.
if this doesnt work time will eventually set you free of it. the best thing to know for you right now is that you wont be like that forever
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On August 01 2004 13:49 relapse wrote: Show nested quote +On August 01 2004 13:38 NoobSaibot wrote:
supressing memories really isnt a good thing. They never go away, you just stop thinking about them. They lay dormant in your subconcious and manifest themselves in ways you never realised. Next thing youre doing gay porn, cheating on your wife, abusing your kids, and cant understand why. psychoanalysis hasnt been proven scientifically =( sorry.
wtf is this suppose to mean? are u stupid? or showing off what you've read in a ghetto psychology book that some lunatic wrote?
i've got a question for you, has it been proven to not work? its called scientific theory, alot of what einsteins discoveries are.
it makes logical sense that suppressed memory will manifest itself eventually.
most everyday adult problems are manifestations of childhood trauma. the connections are too clear and too blatantly obvious for you to discard it with some stupid 'fact' you've read.
lets say your sick father sucks ur penis when ur 2 up until your 5. now even a kid is aroused by this, and to basically be taught that getting ur dick sucked by a man is normal, and at that point you find it enjoyable, there is a very high possibilitie that you just may turn out to be a fag. if not that a bi. if not that atleast enjoy watching gay porn where a man is sucking off another man. why? cause it made ur little wee wee feel good as a kid when ur pops did it to you.
i think its best if you confront your problem, never suppress it. if you fall accustomed to suppressing your memory you will eventually have no idea your doing it, and instead of conciously understanding that your suppressing a memory instead you will just get a boner when u see fags.
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probably the best thing you could do now that its hit me is try and transform your emotions for the thought. thought priority is all about emotion. if you associate positive emotions with your memory you may be able to balance it to the extent where it really is nothing more than remembering where ur bathroom is. try being optimistic and i guess it would be alot easier if all of us knew ur problem mang.
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well he said he wanted to forget it.. so i didnt try to talk him out of that. its like if someone asks u how to attack the united states for max casualties and success rate are u gonna say "nah man thats gay u should just go play counterstrike" or are you gonna hook a brother up?
q.e.d. it says "how to purge a memory" not "should i purge my memory"?
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