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Jstor
Profile Blog Joined January 2011
United States107 Posts
Last Edited: 2011-01-09 13:47:38
January 09 2011 05:54 GMT
#1
NOTE: I don't know why everyone is giving me so much crap about how my standards are too high. You haven't even seen the girls I'm approaching. Pretty much the only ones I avoid are fat ones.

I’m 17 and I’ve never had a girlfriend, never gotten laid even. I just can’t for the life of me figure out what the problem is. Before you tell me to approach more, I approach like 10 chicks a day. I pretty much exhausted my high school supply so nowadays I go to the mall for my practice. It just boggles my mind how statistically unlucky I am. I mean, doesn’t statistics state that even with a 1% success rate you’ll eventually succeed if you try enough times?

At first, I figured the problem must be my appearance. So I swapped my glasses for contacts. Voila, no more nerdy looking Asian (yeah, I’m Asian). I honestly don’t think I look that bad anymore – average at least.

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It’s really weird when all the girls give me an “as if” look when I approach.

So then I read David Deangelo’s double your dating and thought that I had the answer. Wrong. I’ve tried pretty much every approach in the book and get turned down every single time. I tried being super nice and telling them how beautiful they are (in unique ways like pointing out an article of clothing), telling them they have good taste, etc, but that usually ends with them acting awkward and finding an excuse to leave. Then I switched to some opinion openers, asking them opinions about a certain brand of clothes, even throwing in a few negs like “lol you only like Abercrombie just because of all the male models on the cover you shallow girl”. It just doesn’t work. I figure I must be communicating too much interest, right? Wrong. Even when I actively try to communicate disinterest by saying, hey I gotta go now, my friend’s calling, they just never come towards me, always away.

I used to get turned down in the worst possible ways, like the girl walking (sometimes running) away from me after a few minutes of conversation, saying sorry I don’t want to talk anymore, to flat out “LEAVE ME ALONE”. Nowadays I usually get the “I have a boyfriend” line, which is an improvement I guess. I tried everything possible to try to counter it. I tried the “oh, yeah, does he treat you well?” *wait for response, usually ‘yes’* “Oh, *grin*, I wouldn’t…” But out of 20 tries, that line never worked, even though it produced a smile in 11 girls. Then I tried the goldfish line that I read about. “Oh, you have a boyfriend? Well I have a goldfish.” *girl usually acts confused and asks what I mean* “Oh, I thought we were talking about shit that doesn’t matter”. It never goes over too well. They usually say, “uhhh yeah, I gotta go.”

Then I tried changing my voice, since I’m unlucky enough to have a pretty high pitched voice. I try talking slowly and deeply, but I haven’t noticed any changes so far. And now, I’m at the last straw. I figure it must be cuz I don’t have a muscular body, so I work out at the gym 3 days a week.
I just don’t see how I should be so unlucky when it comes to females. Can someone more experienced please tell me what I’m doing wrong?

Just don’t tell me shit like, “you’re trying too hard, man.” I don’t believe in bullshit reasons like that.
Comeh
Profile Blog Joined July 2008
United States18918 Posts
Last Edited: 2011-01-09 06:00:04
January 09 2011 05:57 GMT
#2
Some of it is confidence.
Some of it is style.
Some of it is shaving the mustache.

Though confidence and style varies on the girl, you should always shave the mustache. Every day if it comes to it.

Edit: okay i wanted to keep my post nice and cute, but man, don't use pick up lines, especially if they feel forced. Though (supposedly) they do work on some girls at some times, I think actually engaging in conversation and throwing questions where they can talk about themselves is usually better.

But you know, we might as well just wait for Rekrul to come in here with a single "LOL".
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k20a
Profile Blog Joined December 2009
Canada412 Posts
January 09 2011 05:58 GMT
#3
lose the 'stash
"It's like that one time Luke Skywalker threw the ring in to Mordor to kill Hitler, or something" - Tasteless
Kalingingsong
Profile Joined September 2009
Canada633 Posts
Last Edited: 2011-01-09 05:59:41
January 09 2011 05:59 GMT
#4
I used to get turned down in the worst possible ways, like the girl walking (sometimes running) away from me after a few minutes of conversation, saying sorry I don’t want to talk anymore, to flat out “LEAVE ME ALONE”. Nowadays I usually get the “I have a boyfriend” line, which is an improvement I guess. I tried everything possible to try to counter it. I tried the “oh, yeah, does he treat you well?” *wait for response, usually ‘yes’* “Oh, *grin*, I wouldn’t…” But out of 20 tries, that line never worked, even though it produced a smile in 11 girls. Then I tried the goldfish line that I read about. “Oh, you have a boyfriend? Well I have a goldfish.” *girl usually acts confused and asks what I mean* “Oh, I thought we were talking about shit that doesn’t matter”. It never goes over too well. They usually say, “uhhh yeah, I gotta go.”

Then I tried changing my voice, since I’m unlucky enough to have a pretty high pitched voice. I try talking slowly and deeply, but I haven’t noticed any changes so far. And now, I’m at the last straw. I figure it must be cuz I don’t have a muscular body, so I work out at the gym 3 days a week.
I just don’t see how I should be so unlucky when it comes to females. Can someone more experienced please tell me what I’m doing wrong?

Just don’t tell me shit like, “you’re trying too hard, man.” I don’t believe in bullshit reasons like that.


when all else fails, just do something to make a lot of $$, that'll do the trick.

"you are HOW RICH? O BABY!" ;D
Dess.JadeFalcon
Archaic
Profile Blog Joined March 2008
United States4024 Posts
January 09 2011 06:01 GMT
#5
I think it has been covered time and time again, that pick up lines simply don't work. They may once in a while, but it's probably due to the guy more than the line itself.
zenMaster
Profile Blog Joined May 2010
Canada761 Posts
January 09 2011 06:01 GMT
#6
The best pick up artists goes in to have fun, they don't have the intent of picking up girls on their mind when talking to strangers.

Lose that 'stash ya
Kalingingsong
Profile Joined September 2009
Canada633 Posts
January 09 2011 06:01 GMT
#7
wait, ratethisasian.com? did I just fall for a satire blog?
Dess.JadeFalcon
Comeh
Profile Blog Joined July 2008
United States18918 Posts
January 09 2011 06:04 GMT
#8
On January 09 2011 15:01 Kalingingsong wrote:
wait, ratethisasian.com? did I just fall for a satire blog?

...
pretty much.
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FiWiFaKi
Profile Blog Joined February 2009
Canada9858 Posts
January 09 2011 06:04 GMT
#9
What I recommend is find a place where you can see the same girls over and over. Always act yourself, girls act can easily tell if you act different and it's a big turn off. Keep working out, and just be in public a lot so you don't ever feel kinda akward and unsure of what to say.

Shave the mustache, and make sure you aren't just being too nice since lots of girls just find that creepy. Have a good sense of humor! That doesn't mean burst out laughing at anything she says, but you know, be able to tell a joke... Or laugh at hers (not a fake one)
In life, the journey is more satisfying than the destination. || .::Entrepreneurship::. Living a few years of your life like most people won't, so that you can spend the rest of your life like most people can't || Mechanical Engineering & Economics Major
elixir_gum
Profile Blog Joined May 2010
United States82 Posts
January 09 2011 06:05 GMT
#10
this guy is so trolling lol
i only hotkey up to 3 NA server: Elixir#940
Kalingingsong
Profile Joined September 2009
Canada633 Posts
January 09 2011 06:05 GMT
#11
...
pretty much.


*shoots self.

k thanx
Dess.JadeFalcon
Chairman Ray
Profile Blog Joined December 2009
United States11903 Posts
January 09 2011 06:05 GMT
#12
The key to picking up women is to have big muscles. I doesn't just apply to women though, you can pick up any sorts of heavy objects if you have big muscles.
Rev0lution
Profile Blog Joined August 2007
United States1805 Posts
January 09 2011 06:07 GMT
#13
1) shave
2) find a personality
3) don't concentrate on finding one
4) learn from male friends
5) MONEY
My dealer is my best friend, and we don't even chill.
Megaliskuu
Profile Blog Joined October 2010
United States5123 Posts
January 09 2011 06:08 GMT
#14
Lose that stache and get a real one. Boes may come in here and give some advice.
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SilverSkyLark
Profile Blog Joined April 2008
Philippines8437 Posts
January 09 2011 06:08 GMT
#15
You have the gangsta look that might not work to your advantage all the time.

lose the stach.
"If i lost an arm, I would play w3." -IntoTheWow || "Member of Hyuk Hyuk Hyuk cafe. He's the next Jaedong, baby!"
Kiante
Profile Blog Joined December 2009
Australia7069 Posts
January 09 2011 06:09 GMT
#16
Assuming this isn't just a troll(which it probably is)
apart from shaving off that bum fluff from your top lip, being that guy who goes around asking literally every girl out gives you a bad reputation. Sounds like you need to chill out. Go to parties, and talk to girls there, dont open with "oh you're so beautiful we make babies yes?" or anything like that. just talk to them like...people. If you go to a party, have a few drinks (not to many) and talk to people, some of them girls, those girls will go away with a good impression of you. You can use that impression to get their msn/phone number, send them a text or msg them on facebook or msn, but dont be inssistant. just polite, and fun. Aim to make good friends with them instead of announcing your intentions before you even know their name.

However, seeing the ratethisasian, it probably is a troll, in which case, well played
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Tony Campolo
Profile Blog Joined December 2010
New Zealand364 Posts
January 09 2011 06:09 GMT
#17
Date in your league. Go for the ugly girls. Lower your standards. That's what you're expecting from the chicks you're going for (presumably they're all hot).
While you were sleeping last night, 30,000 kids died of starvation or diseases related to malnutrition.
bjornkavist
Profile Blog Joined June 2009
Canada1235 Posts
January 09 2011 06:11 GMT
#18
1) lose the stache
2) don't come across desperate
3) be cool about it, pretend like its not a big deal
4) have a cool talent, hobby. (which can be a great icebreaker or a way to gain attention
5) be funny
6) confidently be yourself, an extent of yourself that girls would find attractive
7) Have good hygene

tip, if you can't seem to break the ice or introduce yourself without being awkward, bring along a wingman.
gl hf
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Kalingingsong
Profile Joined September 2009
Canada633 Posts
January 09 2011 06:13 GMT
#19
Date in your league. Go for the ugly girls. Lower your standards. That's what you're expecting from the chicks you're going for (presumably they're all hot).


go for girls that have a similar 'stash, that'll do the trick.
Dess.JadeFalcon
Gescom
Profile Joined February 2010
Canada3358 Posts
January 09 2011 06:15 GMT
#20
What's your rank on iccup?
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