I actually broke up with my gf today, but it was a much better split.

We basically decided that we didn't want to go through a long distance relationship although we still liked each other (we're going to colleges 1500 miles apart in about 2 weeks), and because of an insane schedule, today was the last day I could see her.

We went out to dinner, talked for a while in a park, kissed and "officially" broke up.

While it was sucky, at least we were both happy with how it happened. I really think that was the least painful way to do it

Anyway, good luck in the future.

Avidkeystamper

United States8556 Posts

July 26 2009 03:57 GMT

#82

Post pics of yourself making frownie faces?
You seem a lot happier now, though I don't think your stance on Anime has changed so much.

konadora

Singapore66366 Posts

July 26 2009 07:06 GMT

#83

On July 26 2009 12:55 triangle wrote:
I actually broke up with my gf today, but it was a much better split.

We basically decided that we didn't want to go through a long distance relationship although we still liked each other (we're going to colleges 1500 miles apart in about 2 weeks), and because of an insane schedule, today was the last day I could see her.

We went out to dinner, talked for a while in a park, kissed and "officially" broke up.

While it was sucky, at least we were both happy with how it happened. I really think that was the least painful way to do it

Anyway, good luck in the future.

That is definitely much better than me T___T

Siefu

Australia205 Posts

July 26 2009 07:18 GMT

#84

Thanks for sharing such a personal and sad story Kona. I wish you good luck in your romantic endeavors!

On July 26 2009 12:52 RaiZ wrote:
Haruhi Suzumiya, in case you still don't know. Watch it, it isn't long at all, and god know how annoying endless animes are.

Was that an unintended shot at Endless Eight? lol

Sadistx

Zimbabwe5568 Posts

July 26 2009 07:42 GMT

#85

I wanted to point and laugh for kiddie 9th grade drama, but then I remembered my own unsuccessful teenage love story (pretty embarrassing to think about it now tbh) and it made me shut up

The Storyteller

Singapore2486 Posts

July 26 2009 08:20 GMT

#86

Trust me, love only gets better as you grow older, and I say this from personal experience. For one thing, you have the money to get your own place and go on proper dates, and that makes a ton of difference.

konadora

Singapore66366 Posts

July 26 2009 08:27 GMT

#87

On July 26 2009 17:20 The Storyteller wrote:
Trust me, love only gets better as you grow older, and I say this from personal experience. For one thing, you have the money to get your own place and go on proper dates, and that makes a ton of difference.

Haha yeah I guess that's a really big difference.

JMave

Singapore1806 Posts

July 26 2009 08:59 GMT

#88

We spend over 70% of our time regretting about the things in the past.

My greatest regret for you is that you weren't ripe for the time when both your paths crossed. She seemed like a really nice girl.

When love is true, it will find a way.

Zidane

United States1692 Posts

July 26 2009 09:04 GMT

#89

Good blog, I will remember to keep my girlfriend close to me because of it. Thanks

Trumpet

United States1936 Posts

July 26 2009 09:08 GMT

#90

I had a somewhat similar experience with a girl in 9th grade that liked me but I was too immature and didn't get much of a relationship out of it, but stayed on decent friendly terms afterwards. Halfway through my first year of college (I hadn't talked to her in years) I'd gotten tired of having literally nothing in common with the girls I'd met and decided to log on aim and see where life had taken her. To make a long story short, we've been living together for a year now.

You know your situation and yourself better than we do, but I don't think I'm alone in wondering "Why not try it?"

Great blog, hard to transmit something deeply personal like that.

konadora

Singapore66366 Posts

July 26 2009 09:14 GMT

#91

On July 26 2009 18:04 Zidane wrote:
Good blog, I will remember to keep my girlfriend close to me because of it. Thanks

Glad it helped you. Please don't repeat the same mistake I made ^^;

MuShu

United States3223 Posts

July 26 2009 12:40 GMT

#92

That was a touching read kona. Even though it had a sad ending, it's all a part off growing up I guess, and I wish I had experiences like these in high school. There's always college, though.

JMave

Singapore1806 Posts

July 26 2009 13:05 GMT

#93

iono but i think its better to focus on studies in JC than find a gf. jc life is just so damn busy. BUSY BUSY BUSY!!!

I remember having a crush every year in secondary school but only had one in JC.

konadora

Singapore66366 Posts

July 26 2009 13:12 GMT

#94

@JMave:
Haha indeed it is, JC life sucks man.

Snet

United States3573 Posts

July 26 2009 13:17 GMT

#95

Sounds like the typical first school girlfriend. Being OK around each other when other people are around, but awkward as hell when you're alone. Kind of cute ending. You will move on for sure, but I can still understand your regret. It sucks when you look back and it was simple, correctable, things that could of changed everything.

konadora

Singapore66366 Posts

July 26 2009 13:23 GMT

#96

@Snet:
Exactly. A small gesture or action and a bit more mature mindset could have prevented all that, but I was just too young back then. Looking back, I regret it so much now.

Comeh

United States18919 Posts

July 29 2009 06:07 GMT

#97

On July 26 2009 17:59 JMave wrote:
When love is true, it will find a way.

Wonderful quote sir.

A very heart-felt (and somewhat upsetting) story Konadora. I know what its like to be so down about things (love is a bitch when you are on the wrong end of things). Hell, i was single with no signs of changing until I was about 19, and then my girlfriend broke up with me 3 months into that relationship (while I was falling in love with her). So yes, we do make mistakes in relationships Konadora, but relationships are a very difficult thing. It's something that takes a lot of practice, and requires a lot of lessons. No matter what, there will be hardships in every stage of the relationship (from that really wanting to start talking to this girl phase, to the asking out, to the working out problems in the relationship [hopefully in a respectful, calm manner], and beyond). But don't give up on love Konadora. Though it easy to dwell on mistakes of the past (trust me, I do it far too much, though I'm trying to work on it), its best to take them as lessons, and to move on as a stronger person. You'll be fine

(plus you are so adorable ^^)
(the anime thing made me giggle)
(oh, for the record, me and my girlfriend did get back together, and we've been together for over a year now with many more [barring extreme stupidity of me] to come [even though she will study abroad next summer T.T, but i'll get through it

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